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Recent Break Up

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  • 27-02-2016 2:08pm
    #1
    serendipity i am
    Registered Users Posts: 25 ✭


    My girlfriend and I recently broke up after being together for almost 3 years. Our 3 year anniversary is coming up and I'm wondering how to deal with it. Should I say anything to her or ignore it?
    The break up was kind of messy and we're not on great talking terms with one another.
    Thanks in advance!


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    #2
    Rekop dog
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,584 ✭✭✭Rekop dog


    Your 3 year anniversary isn't coming up, you broke up! So a big no to saying anything.


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    ibarelycare
    Registered Users Posts: 58,456 ✭✭✭✭ibarelycare


    Absolutely not. Ignore it.


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    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    Don't do anything. When you're over this break-up, you'll thank us for telling you that it was an insane idea. Probably you shouldn't even be trying to stay in contact at all if it was a bad break-up.


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    TallGlass
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,935 ✭✭✭TallGlass


    Firstly don't mention anything , I don't see the point in doing so.

    Secondly, how to deal with it. Well firstly you've got to accept its over and maybe get out there with friends, go for a run etc..


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    #6
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    TallGlass wrote: »
    Secondly, how to deal with it. Well firstly you've got to accept its over and maybe get out there with friends, go for a run etc..

    True. I'm assuming that you're not the one who called time on the relationship? If you're not, then it makes contacting your ex an even worse idea. You'll just annoy her and possibly provoke her into saying something that'll make you feel worse.


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    racso1975
    Registered Users Posts: 5,273 ✭✭✭racso1975


    Had the same situation except it was 10yr wedding anniversary after breaking up a few months earlier. Like you came here looking for advice. Like you I got the same advice. Hopefully like you I took it and did nothing and am so glad I did. Its over. You may or my not like that. Dont let sentiment or trying to be a nice guy mess with your head. Best of luck with whatever you decide


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    #8
    dixiefly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,947 ✭✭✭dixiefly


    serendipity i am wrote: »
    My girlfriend and I recently broke up after being together for almost 3 years. Our 3 year anniversary is coming up and I'm wondering how to deal with it. Should I say anything to her or ignore it?
    The break up was kind of messy and we're not on great talking terms with one another.
    Thanks in advance!

    Ex-girlfriend I think.


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    #9
    PressRun
    Registered Users Posts: 3,129 ✭✭✭PressRun


    I have no idea why you would say something.


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    #10
    Sunflower 27
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,955 ✭✭✭Sunflower 27


    After three years, it can be hard to detach. Instead of focusing on what to say, I'd say use this as your first step to moving on with your life and say nothing.

    That chapter is closed. The rest of your life awaits. :)


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    Wompa1
    Registered Users Posts: 8,168 ✭✭✭Wompa1


    Agree with others. Right now you just have to go through the agonizing and doubts over should I contact her or not...the answer should always be no. Do not contact her. It's over and you have to move on. It's not easy and it won't be easy for quite some time but you'll get over it eventually.


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    JustShon
    Registered Users Posts: 1,404 ✭✭✭JustShon


    Another vote for not saying anything to her.

    If you think it's going to be a tough day for you, make plans with your closest friends; the ones who won't mind if you have a bit of a breakdown. That said, plan on having a bit of fun on that day, try to ignore that it would have been the 3 year anniversary and spend time with those who really matter in your life.


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