New to this, I will try not to use this forum as a ranting tool!
I am separated 2.5 years. We had a verbal arrangement with regards assets/debts, maintenance, and custody etc.
All of which has broken down from my ex( well more or less) side.
The agreement was :-
I would stay and keep paying from the family home.
Value €200,000, Mortgage left until 2042 of €127,000 ( €800 p/m)
I work full time and earn €600 p/w before tax etc.
My husband would earn ( not disclosed as he is self-employed) €1,000-€1,500.
We have a house that we bought off his family in Cork and have been doing it up. It would be valued at €135,000 as is, more if finished. This house is Mortgage free. It was a dream that one day we would retire there and live happy ever after. The house is lying idle as we separated and funds stopped, in order to finish it out.
So €100 per week per child until 18, which I know is above and beyond.
Three boys ages are 16,12,10. So this wasn’t going to be for life.
This was the reason I felt it was only fair to leave him keep the second house. It was also somewhere for him to go in time. As he is renting locally at the moment.
I would still have a €800 mortgage until 2042. But after that it would be mine.
And thought the €100 per week per child was fair in order to pay childcare for two, afterschool study ( now stopped), activities. All Xmas presents, back to school expense and all the other things...
Every second weekend and one day during the week.
We agreed to go to mediation as we both felt okay with these arrangements .
Now, its broken down.
He opened a new business with his new girlfriend and ever since I think greed or other influences just got in the way. Responsibilities and commitments went out the window.
We has reduced maintenance by half. Saying he sought legal advice. Perhaps he was advised that, but did he tell them where this figure came from. He wants to keep the second house. And I was told EFF me, I can have the family home and all the debt with it. That they are both moving into the second house that isn’t in my name. They have borrowed €10,000 to finish the house.
So he is now living in the second home, mortgage free, and not paying what we agreed and not seeing the kids as we agreed..
I am here struggling after paying back to school costs and another mortgage payment in the door that I cant pay now..
What would be a fair outcome?
What should he pay, is it 50:50?