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Work crush and Christmas party.

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    #62
    Panthro
    Registered Users Posts: 14,694 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    mr_edge_to_you wrote: »
    Make sure you get cons-ent!

    The Conservative Entertainment package?
    May and Co are giving us a laugh but I'm not sure binge watching it would make an ideal date for our young boy wonder OP!


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    #63
    emo72
    Registered Users Posts: 6,194 ✭✭✭emo72


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    he may be consumed by this.

    Aren't we all though. Especially in your mid 20s!


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    #64
    mikemac2
    Registered Users Posts: 2,926 ✭✭✭mikemac2


    Better clear this with Louise O’Neill before you do anything


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    #65
    Zorya
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,194 ✭✭✭Zorya


    Yeah, like others have said, don't overthink it. That would come across in your vibe and is off-putting. Nothing wrong with being straight up and asking a girl out, just be ordinary - ''Would you like to meet up for a coffee in town before the Christmas holidays?'' . Say it without plotting it out beforehand, just say it.

    And then be prepared to cheerfully, casually, accept her declining your invitation, without nursing that as a dreadful happening. She may like you as a friend, but just not feel that particular buzz. So what? That's life. Just shrug, smile and say ''It was worth a try.''

    Pistol fingers are optional at that point. :)tenor.gif


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    #66
    Cockford Ollie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 217 ✭✭Cockford Ollie


    This is an easy one. You will be sober and she will be drunk. Buy her lots of drinks over the course of the night. When the party comes to an end, make sure you keep in close proximity. When she is separated from the group, put her in a taxi, to your address. You get a second taxi and follow. The main thing to remember is that when she says no, she really means yes.

    That's how I get all my women.


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    #67
    worded
    Registered Users Posts: 4,536 ✭✭✭worded


    Do love these xmas work crush threads

    I never let a career get in the way of a whirl wind encounter

    When you look back, your CV may look a bit like a mine field but the explosions were beyond fun and once you don’t loose your boll0x it’s all amazing


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    #68
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,608 ✭✭✭Feisar


    Just ask her out in the cold light of day for fricks sake!

    Example:

    Hey, do you fancy a bite to eat next Saturday night?

    She'll either say yes or no.

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #69
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,608 ✭✭✭Feisar


    Hoboo wrote: »
    You don't drink. All your stories end with "and then I got home". Let it go.

    To be honest, no good story starts with salad!

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #70
    beertons
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 23,062 ✭✭✭✭beertons


    Leave her be. Don't mix business with pleasure.


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    #71
    suicide_circus
    Registered Users Posts: 19,802 ✭✭✭✭suicide_circus


    honestly if she has drink taken I wouldn't take the risk OP, it could go very wrong.


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    #72
    Sky King
    Registered Users Posts: 4,431 ✭✭✭Sky King


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Constantly searching for "what to do" on an internet forum really isn't healthy. )

    Jesus I hope I am never at a stage in life where I am relying on the people in after hours for dating advice.


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    #73
    razorblunt
    Registered Users Posts: 17,300 ✭✭✭✭razorblunt


    Don't shít on your own doorstep!


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    #74
    Raheem Euro
    Closed Accounts Posts: 327 ✭✭Raheem Euro


    No expert in these matters, but for what its worth, throwing my tupence in, that whatever way you go about it, and I will say this, in absolutely no circumstances, and on the other hand, you mark my words, is likely to be the only possible outcome.


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    #75
    jamesbere
    Registered Users Posts: 5,022 ✭✭✭jamesbere


    razorblunt wrote: »
    Don't shít on your own doorstep!

    Unless your locked out of the house and have the runs


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    #76
    weldoninhio
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,311 ✭✭✭✭weldoninhio


    Red Lightning wrote: »
    Thanks for the advice everyone.

    I didn't mean that i was looking for anything too forward tomorrow evening.
    ATM we're just chatting and having a laugh but can't say anything has been overly flirty.

    This will be the first social situation that we are out together. Do I try and act a little more flirty etc or ask her to dance etc etc.

    Write her a poem. Make sure you bring her flowers and chocolates and inform her father of your intentions. :rolleyes:

    It's like a reverse Back To The Future and George McFly has come to the 2010s. FFS. :D:D:D


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    #77
    Boom_Bap
    Moderators, Music Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,730 Mod ✭✭✭✭Boom_Bap


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Just to clarify my post, I'm not implying the OP is only interested in chasing a bunch of different women. I do believe he is looking for love. My point is that he may be consumed by this.

    I've experience with this, I've become a stalker due to my obsessions.

    By the way, that is a lovely blouse you are wearing today Perse :pac::pac::pac:


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    #78
    Kimbot
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,449 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot


    Boom_Bap wrote: »
    I've experience with this, I've become a stalker due to my obsessions.

    By the way, that is a lovely blouse you are wearing today Perse :pac::pac::pac:

    Never mind the blouse, the skirt is tops ;)

    And Boom your trousers are looking a bit tight :P


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    #79
    Boom_Bap
    Moderators, Music Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,730 Mod ✭✭✭✭Boom_Bap


    Kimbot wrote: »
    Never mind the blouse, the skirt it tops ;)

    And Boom your trousers are looking a bit tight :P

    I'm not wearing trousers today, I'm doing a Donald Duck

    some-fun-facts-about-disneys-most-popular-character-donald-duck.jpg


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    #80
    Kimbot
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,449 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot


    Boom_Bap wrote: »
    I'm not wearing trousers today, I'm doing a Donald Duck

    Liar...... I checked :pac:


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    #81
    sbsquarepants
    Registered Users Posts: 11,812 ✭✭✭✭sbsquarepants


    Red Lightning wrote: »

    Any suggestions on how to approach this? Thanks

    I'd say down wind and from behind - they're awfull skittish these youngwans, if you startle her you'll never catch her.


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    #82
    tom1ie
    Registered Users Posts: 10,102 ✭✭✭✭tom1ie


    Jaysus! I read the title of this post and thought there’d been people injured at a large office Christmas party somewhere!


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    #83
    mariaalice
    Registered Users Posts: 12,375 ✭✭✭✭mariaalice


    tom1ie wrote: »
    Jaysus! I read the title of this post and thought there’d been people injured at a large office Christmas party somewhere!

    Yeah, it happened in the stampede for the bar.


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    #84
    Bigbagofcans
    Registered Users Posts: 1,164 ✭✭✭Bigbagofcans


    Do not make moves on a colleague at the Christmas party. You'll embarrass yourself and her even more.

    Ask her discreetly either by text or during work one of the days before you leave.


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    #85
    Agent Smith
    Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 21,502 Mod ✭✭✭✭Agent Smith


    Write her a letter... Ala Not another Teen movie....


    Cause this is what this sounds like


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    #86
    cml387
    Registered Users Posts: 8,376 ✭✭✭cml387


    Just forget about it.

    Then for the next few days keep playing "Only A Winter's Tale" by David Essex while thinking sadly about what might have been.

    I'm alright, it's just something in my eye.


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    #87
    Raheem Euro
    Closed Accounts Posts: 327 ✭✭Raheem Euro


    cml387 wrote: »
    Then for the next few days keep playing "Only A Winter's Tale" by David Essex while thinking sadly about what might have been.

    I'm alright, it's just something in my eye.

    Curled up against the window. Rain pouring down the glass outside.


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    #88
    Hammer89
    Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭Hammer89


    You have a genuine opportunity here OP.

    If you're teetotal by choice and not an alcoholic, I would abandon your 'no drinking' policy for one night only. 1) You'll be more confident to make a move and 2) You'll be less inhibative if she makes the move, which is entirely possible.

    I say it's entirely possible because regardless of your physical features or what you look like, you may look pretty appealing to her at one point during the night. Not only are you a lad of similar age at a social gathering where the mean age is probably 40-something, but you're leaving next week.

    This will be important for her because if she thinks you'll be a recurring or long-term colleague at some point in the future, nothing will happen, but she won't have to worry about a one-night stand affecting her socially or professionally down the line. And she'll be pissed.

    As I said, I do think there's a genuine chance something could happen.


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    #89
    mirrorwall14
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,751 ✭✭✭mirrorwall14


    If the staffroom is anything like mine don’t do it OP. You will forever be ‘that substitute who kissed/made a move on x at the Christmas party’. Ask her for coffee or something but definitely not at the Christmas party


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    #90
    razorblunt
    Registered Users Posts: 17,300 ✭✭✭✭razorblunt


    jamesbere wrote: »
    Unless your locked out of the house and have the runs

    Yes! There are no rules then.
    Also this was aptly liked by the poster named Fart.


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    #91
    Red Lightning
    Closed Accounts Posts: 378 ✭✭Red Lightning


    Just want to clarify a few things. I don't plan on making a move on her this evening. No trying time shift her or get in her pants cos it's not my style.
    I meant more along the lines of, do I try and sit beside her at the meal, ask her to dance, maybe make it a little obvious that I may be interested in her.


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