Boards.ie uses cookies. By continuing to browse this site you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Click here to find out more x
Post Reply  
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
20-06-2019, 16:28   #1
raher1
Registered User
 
raher1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Posts: 754
telling lies about you

Hi
I am wondering, why would a person hang around you and then tell lies about behind your back.
Is there a word to describe this behavior? Or a description? I am lost. I am a victim of this kind of person.
raher1 is offline  
Advertisement
20-06-2019, 23:07   #2
Fathom
Moderator
 
Fathom's Avatar
Quote:
Originally Posted by raher1 View Post
Hi
I am wondering, why would a person hang around you and then tell lies about behind your back.
Is there a word to describe this behavior? Or a description? I am lost. I am a victim of this kind of person.
Caution. Not a scientific source. See How to Survive a Character Assassination by Ryan Pannell in Huffpost.
Fathom is offline  
Thanks from:
23-06-2019, 14:42   #3
raher1
Registered User
 
raher1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Posts: 754
That's great advice. It took off some of the pressure.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Fathom View Post
Caution. Not a scientific source. See How to Survive a Character Assassination by Ryan Pannell in Huffpost.
raher1 is offline  
Thanks from:
23-06-2019, 14:45   #4
Stop moaning ffs
Banned
 
Stop moaning ffs's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 3,629
Quote:
Originally Posted by raher1 View Post
Hi
I am wondering, why would a person hang around you and then tell lies about behind your back.
Is there a word to describe this behavior? Or a description? I am lost. I am a victim of this kind of person.
Have to ask. If you know that’s what they’re doing to you, why you don’t just cut them off completely and explain to anyone they’ve told those lies to how they lied and why you’re cutting them off. (Also warm them that if they’re lying about you they’re probably lying and backstabbing about them too)
Stop moaning ffs is offline  
23-06-2019, 14:52   #5
looksee
Moderator
Quote:
Originally Posted by Stop moaning ffs View Post
Have to ask. If you know that’s what they’re doing to you, why you don’t just cut them off completely and explain to anyone they’ve told those lies to how they lied and why you’re cutting them off. (Also warm them that if they’re lying about you they’re probably lying and backstabbing about them too)
Life isn't always as linear and organised as that. And depending on the lies and who is being told, it can create more issues trying to explain than just ignoring it all.
looksee is offline  
Thanks from:
Advertisement
23-06-2019, 14:56   #6
Stop moaning ffs
Banned
 
Stop moaning ffs's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 3,629
Quote:
Originally Posted by looksee View Post
Life isn't always as linear and organised as that. And depending on the lies and who is being told, it can create more issues trying to explain than just ignoring it all.
I understand. I had a huge falling out with a great friend recently and he sees our gang and social group far more iften and did exactly the same to me and I have no recourse. In fact i won’t even bring it up cos it’ll look like me backbiting when I really just want a fair say.

The devious always win sadly.

I would make your pals aware and just cut that person off if I were you. Too late for me to take the advice but hope you can.
Stop moaning ffs is offline  
Thanks from:
24-06-2019, 22:11   #7
The Black Oil
Moderator
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Posts: 13,802
What's the modern term, something similar to gaslighting...or something in that ballpark?
The Black Oil is offline  
26-06-2019, 14:08   #8
raher1
Registered User
 
raher1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Posts: 754
Quote:
Originally Posted by Stop moaning ffs View Post
Have to ask. If you know that’s what they’re doing to you, why you don’t just cut them off completely and explain to anyone they’ve told those lies to how they lied and why you’re cutting them off. (Also warm them that if they’re lying about you they’re probably lying and backstabbing about them too)
I was the last to leave and what I can gather it's going on a while. This individual was reported to the Garda twice.
raher1 is offline  
26-06-2019, 14:09   #9
raher1
Registered User
 
raher1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Posts: 754
Quote:
Originally Posted by The Black Oil View Post
What's the modern term, something similar to gaslighting...or something in that ballpark?
Your close, it was that in the beginning but I broke free. It's now telling lies
raher1 is offline  
Advertisement
01-07-2019, 23:16   #10
raher1
Registered User
 
raher1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Posts: 754
I am thinking two face wanker to describe this person
raher1 is offline  
Post Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Remove Text Formatting
Bold
Italic
Underline

Insert Image
Wrap [QUOTE] tags around selected text
 
Decrease Size
Increase Size
Please sign up or log in to join the discussion

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



Share Tweet