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Cohabitation case

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  • 02-06-2020 12:16am
    #1
    Jimjams99
    Registered Users Posts: 4 ✭


    I need advice if anyone has been in similar...
    My ex of 6 years who lived in my house for 5 years, never paid a penny to the house but paid rent for her business. She is claiming cohabitation 2 years after she left and wants half my house. I'm now recently married with a child on the way.
    Facts - we had a turbulent relationship over the 6 years, constant breakups and affairs, lies etc. I found out after about her medical and criminal convictions. A reason we split was she decided she didnt want children and wanted her womb removed for mental health reason and I refused to meet her doctor as her partner.
    She claimed a medical card, social welfare, council housing etc all without my knowledge at times during our seemingly nor cohabitanting relationship. She always declared herself single to the government.
    She left me for another guy which I cant prove.
    When she she left she asked me to provide reference letters as her landlord to the council and letting agent to receive council housing with her new fella and he is undeclared.
    She claims she gave me 200 a week and money for buildings, yet she declared to revenue she earned 285 per week. 85 to run a business, car, Bill's, living costs etc.
    I'm been told it will cost me money no.matter what. How is this fair?
    I believe she doesn't meet cohabitation as she hadn't the mentality for a relationship, she has no credits for court, she is completely discredited from her criminal, medical and fraud records.
    I was told a lie for 6 years but now I'm been fleeced.
    The house doesn't even have positive equity, plus my now wife has paid money towards finishing the build. Has she not got rights?
    Any advice would be appreciated. PM if you prefer


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    #2
    lazygal
    Registered Users Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    You need a family law solicitor.


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    #3
    bcklschaps
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭bcklschaps


    OP, Lazygal has given you the correct advice. Get good independent legal advice quickly.

    If you don't know a family law specialist, usually a regular Solicitor will be refer you to one. There's also Free Legal Aid.

    Don't be tempted to just go and chat with your buddy's friend who is studying 1st year law in the UNI, either.... thats a waste of time.... you need smebody who has been in the trenches.

    Seems like your ex might already have been taking legal advice and has made a few clever "plays" already to further her causes.


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    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,655 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    Mod note: Originally posted in the Weddings forum, moved to Legal Discussion.


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    cobhguy28
    Registered Users Posts: 301 ✭✭cobhguy28


    Jimjams99 wrote: »
    I need advice if anyone has been in similar...
    My ex of 6 years who lived in my house for 5 years, never paid a penny to the house but paid rent for her business. She is claiming cohabitation 2 years after she left and wants half my house. I'm now recently married with a child on the way.
    Facts - we had a turbulent relationship over the 6 years, constant breakups and affairs, lies etc. I found out after about her medical and criminal convictions. A reason we split was she decided she didnt want children and wanted her womb removed for mental health reason and I refused to meet her doctor as her partner.
    She claimed a medical card, social welfare, council housing etc all without my knowledge at times during our seemingly nor cohabitanting relationship. She always declared herself single to the government.
    She left me for another guy which I cant prove.
    When she she left she asked me to provide reference letters as her landlord to the council and letting agent to receive council housing with her new fella and he is undeclared.
    She claims she gave me 200 a week and money for buildings, yet she declared to revenue she earned 285 per week. 85 to run a business, car, Bill's, living costs etc.
    I'm been told it will cost me money no.matter what. How is this fair?
    I believe she doesn't meet cohabitation as she hadn't the mentality for a relationship, she has no credits for court, she is completely discredited from her criminal, medical and fraud records.
    I was told a lie for 6 years but now I'm been fleeced.
    The house doesn't even have positive equity, plus my now wife has paid money towards finishing the build. Has she not got rights?
    Any advice would be appreciated. PM if you prefer

    From what you write, it doesn't sound even close but do see a solicitor where 100% of all the facts can be reviewed.

    Even if someone is recognized as a cohabiting under the act, that doesn't give them a claim.

    The aim is to provide protection for a financially dependent member of the couple if a long-term cohabiting relationship ends either through death or separation.

    So if someone is claiming to have been paying their share then, how can they be financially dependent on you.

    https://www.citizensinformation.ie/en/birth_family_relationships/problems_in_marriages_and_other_relationships/property_rights_and_the_breakdown_of_a_cohabiting_relationship.html

    "It has been held by the courts that working in the home looking after children and money spent or work done on home improvements are not contributions that give you any right of ownership in relation to the house."


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    listermint
    Registered Users Posts: 33,696 ✭✭✭✭listermint


    I'd say someone needs to jump into their jimjams and get back into bed.


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    Rodney Bathgate
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,445 ✭✭✭Rodney Bathgate


    Good luck OP, but prepared to be screwed over. Thankfully no kids involved so at least she can’t play that card.


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