Why are men older in relationships?

In Vietnam, if the man is younger, it translates to young pilot old airplane.

It's just a global thing. I would date an older woman, but it would usually be the woman who'd put more weight on it, especially in their twenties. It makes sense socially, in terms of security, and in terms of having children I suppose.

Men calm down later I guess and then want something stable.

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Maybe THAT is why they seek maturity.

Honestly i feel sometimes i need maturity to guide from my foolishness!:o

To be fair, his point has some merit. In the vast majority of jobs I've worked in, mos of the department would have been female (Finance and then education). When women work together a lot of the 'maturity' disappears, and you can see them behave quite similar to how men would behave in a mostly male environment. Dirty/sexist jokes, pranks on each other, etc.

TBH, I don't see much different between men and women in terms of maturity or emotional control. I find that people repeat tired stereotypes claiming that women are more emotional than men, when society & cultural conditioning has moved long past such stereotyping. It's definitely true there being major differences when the two genders are in their teens, but both are equally emotional... it's just the cause of those emotions, and how they're expressed that different. Becoming an adult tends to remove many of those differences though.

Personally, I'd be of the opinion, that society tolerates more outbursts from women than from men, which has allowed women to be more "emotional" in relationships. There's a lot of social/cultural pressure on men not to cry or express anger in public, whereas allowances are generally made for women. That's not to say that most women behave in such a manner, but many do. It's just that the stereotype is allowed to continue.

ILoveYourVibes wrote:

Its that maturity women seek. I think you can sense a level of maturity from people.

True enough, and that's simply part of what attracts you. Just as some people prefer a lack of maturity in someone. Or they might want a "bad boy" when they're in their 20s, but want "a good man" in their 30's.

I tend to date women younger than me, simply because women my own age generally don't have similar interests. For example, I enjoy dressing up and heading to an expensive cocktail bar for a few drinks while listening to some decent Jazz... I find that few women my age are interested in the same once they get into a relationship. Instead, it's about socialising with groups of friends at a restaurant, or doing something at home. Whereas younger women tend to enjoy dressing up, going to the bar, and watching those around them.

I find with most of my male friends (in their late 30s/40s) that there is a difference in what they want from life, as opposed to their partners. In most cases, the woman is focusing on setting up her home and nearby environment. Friends in "this place", acquaintances "in that place", excursions to visit friends being acceptable, but no longer being interested in the same activities from their 30s. Whereas the males want a more active lifestyle, with a continuance of their 30s. Some elements of what their partner wants, but mostly they buckle to her will on most matters.

I date younger women because they're not interested in "arranging" their life so completely. They're more flexible in their lifestyles and are willing to try new activities.