The ''Joy'' of being alone...

Corvo · 13-11-2015 3:12pm

I moved out and lived alone for the first time in May. It was the best thing I've ever done.

I cook a nice meal, pop open a bottle of wine, flick on the Xbox and get totally engrossed in game.

No one telling me to turn on XFactor, no one messing up my OCD clean house. Even if someone does stay over, its out the door the next day and it begins all again.

Bliss.

Magico Gonzalez · 13-11-2015 3:20pm

Wynter Plain Rodent wrote: »

Definitely not true. It's the vapid type who have no inner resources, can't sit quietly and read a book or watch a film, can't hack a 20 min bus journey without gabbing on their phone etc, who are more likely to behave like this.

Not in my experience. Drama queens are generally those who "need" to be alone.

Gasp, the world, people...it's all terribly tiring.

macnug · 13-11-2015 3:29pm

Ive a wife and three kids, I crave alone time so much I pretend I need to go for a crap so I can just sit there in peace.

When the wife goes to her family for the weekends away a couple of times a year she brings the kids, its great, I sit around in my underwear drinking beer.

Love my family but me time is in short supply these days.

Pac1Man · 13-11-2015 3:36pm

Magico Gonzalez wrote: »

Gasp, the world, people...it's all terribly tiring.

It can be for some people. It's hard to comprehend for social butterflies.

Hammer89 · 13-11-2015 3:55pm

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Order a load of food and sprawl out and just so as the delivery driver doesn't think you're a weirdo hunger head who's gonna eat all that food alone, shout out just before opening the door, "It's okay honey, I'll get it..".

I used to do this when I was fat. I'd take the 16 inch pizza, and wedges, and a couple of cans - the meal deal for six or something - from the delivery man, place it on the stairs. Then I'd make out there was somebody at the top of the stairs, usually my cat, by saying 'take me down that watch when you're coming down' and then I'd pay him.

It's quite sad when you think about it.

13-11-2015 4:21pm

Wynter Plain Rodent wrote: »

Definitely not true. It's the vapid type who have no inner resources, can't sit quietly and read a book or watch a film, can't hack a 20 min bus journey without gabbing on their phone etc, who are more likely to behave like this.

Very true. There are people who consider silence a challenge, and those are the ones who need an audience, not the people who can be content in their own company.

waraf · 13-11-2015 4:27pm

efb wrote: »

I lives alone. It's fcuking great

Me too!! Well apart from my cat - but she's an asshole so we're not really talking at the moment

Setipiprant91 · 13-11-2015 4:29pm

mynameis905 wrote: »

Love it. Being around people all the time completely drains me.

That probably because you are trying to manage people's perception of you. You don't have to do that.

13-11-2015 4:33pm

Setipiprant91 wrote: »

That probably because you are trying to manage people's perception of you. You don't have to do that.

Or it could be because they're introverted, which is a perfectly normal way to be.

Setipiprant91 · 13-11-2015 4:49pm

Candie wrote: »

Or it could be because they're introverted, which is a perfectly normal way to be.

Can you explain why an introverted person would be drained by socialising?

13-11-2015 4:53pm

Extroverts are energised by being around others, introverts are energised by being alone. An introvert can enjoy the company of others, but can be drained by too much of it and needs alone time to re-energise. Introversion is not shyness.

Setipiprant91 · 13-11-2015 4:56pm

Candie wrote: »

Extroverts are energised by being around others, introverts are energised by being alone. An introvert can enjoy the company of others, but can be drained by too much of it and needs alone time to re-energise. Introversion is not shyness.

OK that doesn't explain why an introvert is drained by being around others.

jimgoose · 13-11-2015 4:58pm

Setipiprant91 wrote: »

OK that doesn't explain why an introvert is drained by being around others.

I'm not an introvert, but sometimes I feel drained by listening to people's bullshít. At times like these, I like a quiet pint and a read of the paper. Does that help?

13-11-2015 5:07pm

Setipiprant91 wrote: »

OK that doesn't explain why an introvert is drained by being around others.

Because that is how they work, that is what their personality is like, that is how they simply are.

There doesn't have to be a big reason for everything, it's simply because we're all different, and some people like a quiet life more than others.

Mister Vain · 13-11-2015 9:19pm

You don't have to hold in your farts.

futonic · 13-11-2015 9:44pm

Reading your O.P. and some of the replies, made me think of this

http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts

I know exactly what you mean. Be proud, if everyone was the same, it would be a terribly boring world. Life is good, live it the way that suits you.

lanos · 13-11-2015 9:48pm

Candie wrote: »

Extroverts are energised by being around others, introverts are energised by being alone. An introvert can enjoy the company of others, but can be drained by too much of it and needs alone time to re-energise. Introversion is not shyness.

bloody introverts.

i'll be avoiding them at the office party this year

boring gits

RobertKK · 13-11-2015 10:05pm

I have been living alone for a year now. I love it.
No more creeping around at night so you don't wake up anyone who is asleep, you can turn up the volume when listening to something and not have to care.
Once you have friends or relations to talk to, it is a great way to live once you are somewhat introverted.
I am a talkative sort of person, but I love locking the door and feeling the peace of knowing I don't have to care about anyone.

Pac1Man · 13-11-2015 10:10pm

lanos wrote: »

bloody introverts.

i'll be avoiding them at the office party this year

boring gits

You won't have to. They'll be curled up at home with a boxset. Then everyone's happy.

13-11-2015 10:36pm

lanos wrote: »

bloody introverts.

i'll be avoiding them at the office party this year

boring gits

Introverted doesn't mean unsociable, shy or socially awkward, though many people seem to think so. You can be a very sociable introvert. You just like a little quiet time afterwards.

Personally I find the sort of person who has to be surrounded by noise, activity and attention to be generally less interesting in the conversational stakes.

futonic · 13-11-2015 10:38pm

Candie wrote: »

Introverted doesn't mean unsociable, shy or socially awkward, though many people seem to think so. You can be a very sociable introvert. You just like a little quiet time afterwards.

Personally I find the sort of person who has to be surrounded by noise, activity and attention to be generally less interesting in the conversational stakes.

Don't feed the trolls

Hitchens · 14-11-2015 7:42pm

for the OP

DEFTLEFTHAND · 15-11-2015 8:44am

It's funny to compare 'Joy' to the Dochas Centre next door, In one facility you're given a key to your own room. In the Joy you **** into a pot with 3 cellies looking at you and slop out in the morning

The ''Joy'' of being alone...

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