Simple wedding 2019

Fina82 · 23-08-2018 8:55pm #1

Hi everyone, my fiancé and I will like to get married in August next year but we will be 40 people all together. We have two young children so our budget is never going to be too big. Any idea of how much a very simple wedding could cost? And maybe places to have it. TIA

miezekatze · 23-08-2018 9:11pm

The cheapest way of doing it would probably be to have your ceremony in the registry office (you only pay the 200€ registration fee that you have to pay anyway) and then go to a restaurant for dinner. Plenty of places have private dining rooms. Buy dress, suit etc on asos or somewhere like that if you don't want to spend a fortune on these things.

Fina82 · 23-08-2018 10:23pm

miezekatze wrote: »

The cheapest way of doing it would probably be to have your ceremony in the registry office (you only pay the 200€ registration fee that you have to pay anyway) and then go to a restaurant for dinner. Plenty of places have private dining rooms. Buy dress, suit etc on asos or somewhere like that if you don't want to spend a fortune on these things.

Thank for that, that is what I was thinking except the actual marriage as I will like to have a church wedding but not too bothered with bridesmaids and center pieces, etc

splinter65 · 23-08-2018 10:48pm

Fina82 wrote: »

Thank for that, that is what I was thinking except the actual marriage as I will like to have a church wedding but not too bothered with bridesmaids and center pieces, etc

The civil part is still only €200 and you can discuss with your religious celebrant how much of a donation he/she will expect. Everything after that is really up to you. I had 17 at my church wedding 22 years ago and we didn’t send any invitations for example but you can buy 2 or 3 packs of blank cards in the pound shop and write them yourself if you want. You need neither bridesmaid or best man so you only need to dress both of you and kids and you needn’t spend very much. If you want a singer at the church then the priest usually has names of people they know. This person will have to be paid. You probably will want a posy if flowers for yourself,€40-€60 depending. Wedding rings, plain gold bands less than €100 each.
If you have a suitable home or you have close family with a suitable home I would shop around for home caterers (they are plentiful now) to come and do food at home. Plenty of wine/prosecco from Aldi, iPhone for a bit of background music and you’ll have the perfect day.

Fina82 · 23-08-2018 11:21pm

splinter65 wrote: »

The civil part is still only €200 and you can discuss with your religious celebrant how much of a donation he/she will expect. Everything after that is really up to you. I had 17 at my church wedding 22 years ago and we didn’t send any invitations for example but you can buy 2 or 3 packs of blank cards in the pound shop and write them yourself if you want. You need neither bridesmaid or best man so you only need to dress both of you and kids and you needn’t spend very much. If you want a singer at the church then the priest usually has names of people they know. This person will have to be paid. You probably will want a posy if flowers for yourself,€40-€60 depending. Wedding rings, plain gold bands less than €100 each.
If you have a suitable home or you have close family with a suitable home I would shop around for home caterers (they are plentiful now) to come and do food at home. Plenty of wine/prosecco from Aldi, iPhone for a bit of background music and you’ll have the perfect day.

Thank you very much for your useful tips and advice. I know were and what budget to start now

Happy4all · 23-08-2018 11:24pm

In terms of venue, what part of the country are you from?

AVFC.Stephen · 23-08-2018 11:31pm

Got married last year. 40 ppl at the wedding. 3 course meal and got married in a church. All drink food for free 7k it cost.

That was in spain and it was hard to get the right priest in Ireland to send the forms over but all in all I have been to larger weddings that cost a lot more and i couldn't tell the difference.

Just an example of price. Our photographer in Spain cost 300, we got 450 photos for this. In Ireland the first quote was over 1k

Mrsm2be19 · 24-08-2018 9:47am

Im getting married next july we are having 50, we are doing everything in the hotel, its costing us 5k for everything, we are having ceremony a 4 course dinner and dancing with a 2 piece band, not having a bar extension as its 400€ for it!

Wheety · 24-08-2018 9:54am

The registry office in Dublin have a lovely room for the ceremony. You have a 30 minute slot so it's very quick.

Sorry just seen you want a church wedding. Still easy to have a simple wedding. Just book a restaurant rather than a hotel and then a few drinks somewhere. If everyone is local there's no accommodation cost for them and if someone is travelling they can just book somewhere. It'll be cheaper than a hotel's 'wedding rate'.

Fina82 · 24-08-2018 11:16am

Happy4all wrote: »

In terms of venue, what part of the country are you from?

We live in Meath

Fina82 · 24-08-2018 12:30pm

AVFC.Stephen wrote: »

Got married last year. 40 ppl at the wedding. 3 course meal and got married in a church. All drink food for free 7k it cost.

That was in spain and it was hard to get the right priest in Ireland to send the forms over but all in all I have been to larger weddings that cost a lot more and i couldn't tell the difference.

Just an example of price. Our photographer in Spain cost 300, we got 450 photos for this. In Ireland the first quote was over 1k

Thanks for the info

Fina82 · 24-08-2018 1:17pm

Mrsm2be19 wrote: »

Im getting married next july we are having 50, we are doing everything in the hotel, its costing us 5k for everything, we are having ceremony a 4 course dinner and dancing with a 2 piece band, not having a bar extension as its 400€ for it!

Thank you very much

Fina82 · 24-08-2018 1:21pm

Wheety wrote: »

The registry office in Dublin have a lovely room for the ceremony. You have a 30 minute slot so it's very quick.

Sorry just seen you want a church wedding. Still easy to have a simple wedding. Just book a restaurant rather than a hotel and then a few drinks somewhere. If everyone is local there's no accommodation cost for them and if someone is travelling they can just book somewhere. It'll be cheaper than a hotel's 'wedding rate'.

Thank you very much lovely people for taking the time to advise me, you are really helpful

Fina82 · 24-08-2018 1:26pm

Mrsm2be19 wrote: »

Im getting married next july we are having 50, we are doing everything in the hotel, its costing us 5k for everything, we are having ceremony a 4 course dinner and dancing with a 2 piece band, not having a bar extension as its 400€ for it!

Did the hotel supply the band or you hire them? Thanks

lollie25 · 21-01-2019 10:28pm

Fina82 wrote: »

Hi everyone, my fiancé and I will like to get married in August next year but we will be 40 people all together. We have two young children so our budget is never going to be too big. Any idea of how much a very simple wedding could cost? And maybe places to have it. TIA

Did you manage to book anything?

Fina82 · 21-01-2019 10:35pm

lollie25 wrote: »

Did you manage to book anything?

Nothing yet, the places we have being are too wedding oriented, we will have to book the room the whole day and all we want is dinner and use the garden for the kids to play while we wait for the food but they all talk about the "red carpet" and the "dance floor". We still hopping we would find the right place ðŸ˜–

lollie25 · 21-01-2019 10:49pm

Fina82 wrote: »

Nothing yet, the places we have being are too wedding oriented, we will have to book the room the whole day and all we want is dinner and use the garden for the kids to play while we wait for the food but they all talk about the "red carpet" and the "dance floor". We still hopping we would find the right place ðŸ˜–

Did you try Glebe house in Dowth? We are looking at it at the moment as we want a small wedding.
Yea we are getting annoyed with all the “wedding venues” they have no interest in small weddings

splinter65 · 21-01-2019 10:57pm

Fina82 wrote: »

Nothing yet, the places we have being are too wedding oriented, we will have to book the room the whole day and all we want is dinner and use the garden for the kids to play while we wait for the food but they all talk about the "red carpet" and the "dance floor". We still hopping we would find the right place ðŸ˜–

For them, economically, your proposed arrangement don’t make good business. At the end of the day, for the venue, they’re running a business. That’s the bottom line.

Fina82 · 21-01-2019 11:27pm

splinter65 wrote: »

For them, economically, your proposed arrangement don’t make good business. At the end of the day, for the venue, they’re running a business. That’s the bottom line.

I understand that, I would have thought that 40 people for dinner on a week day without the hassle of flowers and chair covers would make a good business but anyway. We will find something

love_love · 22-01-2019 1:01pm

Fina82 wrote: »

I understand that, I would have thought that 40 people for dinner on a week day without the hassle of flowers and chair covers would make a good business but anyway. We will find something

I'm sorry you're having difficulty - dinner for 40 people seems pretty straightforward. Are you advising each venue you contact that it is for a wedding? If you are, it may be their wedding co-ordinator you are speaking to and they may only deal with weddings specifically. When we were originally going to go for something more casual and non-traditional, we contacted venues and asked about hosting a family gathering. This might yield better results?

LirW · 22-01-2019 3:25pm

When we looked I specifically lined out in the request that we're getting married but aren't looking for a wedding package - just a private dining option. Almost all places were very accommodating and would charge set meal group prices instead of the wedding package per head.

lollie25 · 24-01-2019 2:37pm

LirW wrote: »

When we looked I specifically lined out in the request that we're getting married but aren't looking for a wedding package - just a private dining option. Almost all places were very accommodating and would charge set meal group prices instead of the wedding package per head.

Where did you look and where did you get in the end?

LirW · 24-01-2019 9:22pm

lollie25 wrote: »

Where did you look and where did you get in the end?

Dublin and in the Southeast.
Was looking last year in Summer, decided on the Cliff Townhouse to rent their private upstairs room.
We cancelled though because we're eloping now since my legal paperwork is massively delayed.

El_Duderino 09 · 01-02-2019 4:44pm

Hi. We did something very similar with 40 guests total. Had it in a Manor house hotel in our home town so people could stay the night or travel home of they wanted.

We had scones and tea to greet people at 1. Got photos taken on hotel grounds diwn by the river, civil ceremony followed by a meal and half bottle wine per person. Then had a small function room for the night.

Got a friend to make a music play list so no band. Bought flowers in the market the day before for 80 quid. Hotel 2000 (50 per person) including finger food at night.

She wore an altered version of her mothers wedding dress and I bought clothes which I've worn loads of times since. Our mothers did some decorations which were simple but great.

Everything including the civil stuff, photographer, hotel and the entire day for 5,000.

Could have been cheaper if we'd wanted but we splashed out where we wanted.

Fina82 · 03-02-2019 9:00pm

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Hi. We did something very similar with 40 guests total. Had it in a Manor house hotel in our home town so people could stay the night or travel home of they wanted.

We had scones and tea to greet people at 1. Got photos taken on hotel grounds diwn by the river, civil ceremony followed by a meal and half bottle wine per person. Then had a small function room for the night.

Got a friend to make a music play list so no band. Bought flowers in the market the day before for 80 quid. Hotel 2000 (50 per person) including finger food at night.

She wore an altered version of her mothers wedding dress and I bought clothes which I've worn loads of times since. Our mothers did some decorations which were simple but great.

Everything including the civil stuff, photographer, hotel and the entire day for 5,000.

Could have been cheaper if we'd wanted but we splashed out where we wanted.

That sounds lovely, thanks for sharing. The last place was much the same, my fiancé thought that was better for them to know what was a about because I was going to turn up with a white dress so they brought a wedding planer who suggested that per their policy of one wedding per day we would have to pay 1000 extra because was a small number people. As I said we continue our search and it's taking so long that we decided we weren't going to have a church wedding. We have being together for 11 years, that day we wanted to be more for them than for us

El_Duderino 09 · 03-02-2019 9:35pm

Fina82 wrote: »

That sounds lovely, thanks for sharing. The last place was much the same, my fiancé thought that was better for them to know what was a about because I was going to turn up with a white dress so they brought a wedding planer who suggested that per their policy of one wedding per day we would have to pay 1000 extra because was a small number people. As I said we continue our search and it's taking so long that we decided we weren't going to have a church wedding. We have being together for 11 years, that day we wanted to be more for them than for us

Thanks it was a really lovely day.

Feel free to PM if you want any details. Happy to help. I'm sure you'll find your place.

Fina82 · 28-02-2019 8:15pm

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Thanks it was a really lovely day.

Feel free to PM if you want any details. Happy to help. I'm sure you'll find your place.

Thanks for that, I would appreciate that. About the civil service. Did someone got married in the tegistry office? How did that go, you got only certain days and times you can get married, I mean, can you get martied a Tuesday at 11am fir instance? Thanks

El_Duderino 09 · 28-02-2019 8:54pm

Fina82 wrote: »

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Thanks it was a really lovely day.

Feel free to PM if you want any details. Happy to help. I'm sure you'll find your place.

Thanks for that, I would appreciate that. About the civil service. Did someone got married in the tegistry office? How did that go, you got only certain days and times you can get married, I mean, can you get martied a Tuesday at 11am fir instance? Thanks

We had a civil ceremony which is a registry office marriage I think. I think you can have it Monday - Friday because the registrar is a civil servant. There might be more restrictions on time buy you can't get a civil marriage at the weekend.

We had ours in the hotel. It was only 15 km travel so they came to us. It was very straightforward

Fina82 · 28-02-2019 9:25pm

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

We had a civil ceremony which is a registry office marriage I think. I think you can have it Monday - Friday because the registrar is a civil servant. There might be more restrictions on time buy you can't get a civil marriage at the weekend.

We had ours in the hotel. It was only 15 km travel so they came to us. It was very straightforward

That is great! Thanks for the info

Benny122 · 01-03-2019 1:32pm

Ok need advise

My boyfriend and I are dating with over 7 years. We live and work I Ireland.

I wasn’t pushed to get married all along but as time is going on I think it would be nice.

However we never go to mass and if we do it’s for anniversary weddings for funerals.

Can anyone tell me what is a civil wedding what does it mean and what does it mean legally.

I would like to elope but I want to elope in Canada

Can anyone shed some light on eloping and civil ceronmies my mother says if we elope we are not really married and it’s not legal and wouldn’t be recognized in Ireland

El_Duderino 09 · 01-03-2019 2:03pm

Benny122 wrote: »

Ok need advise

My boyfriend and I are dating with over 7 years. We live and work I Ireland.

I wasn’t pushed to get married all along but as time is going on I think it would be nice.

However we never go to mass and if we do it’s for anniversary weddings for funerals.

Can anyone tell me what is a civil wedding what does it mean and what does it mean legally.

I would like to elope but I want to elope in Canada

Can anyone shed some light on eloping and civil ceronmies my mother says if we elope we are not really married and it’s not legal and wouldn’t be recognized in Ireland

The civil ceremony is the legal part. It's where you tell the government you want to be considered married and they do the admim to make sure the government considers you married. So that's all you need to be married. You can have it done by a registrar. Priests are also registrars that's why you can get married in a church. The religious part of the ceremony is just religion.

If you're going to Canada you'll probably have to get married in a civil ceremony in a registry office in Ireland first and then have a symbolic ceremony in Canada

Benny122 · 01-03-2019 2:26pm

But if we have to get married here first then what’s the point in eloping to Canada?

I have heard recently even people getting married in a church have to go through some service first before the church

I’m just wondering if we marry in Canada is it recognized in Ireland

We wouldn’t have an Irish marriage cert then

Faith · 01-03-2019 4:04pm

Of course you can get married in Canada and have it legally recognised. Your mother is probably just trying to discourage you from eloping. You just need to follow the local procedures, which will probably vary province-by-province.

There are three types of ceremony: A religious one (in a church or with some religious elements), a civil one (performed by the HSE) or a secular one (such as a Humanist ceremony). You have to register your intent to marry with the HSE no matter what type of ceremony you want, assuming you're getting married in Ireland.

If you get married in Canada, you'll just need to let the Irish government know (presumably by registering your marriage once you get back, but someone else can speak more to that than I can).

jlm29 · 01-03-2019 4:53pm

Some countries are hard to organise to get married in, if you don’t live there. Some places are very easy- I don’t know about Canada, but google will tell you!
If you go and get married in Vegas, it’s legal and recognisable, because you’re following their local procedure.
I know people who have had weddings overseas (as in, with family present, not eloping), but because the legal side of things was hard to arrange, they just did a quick legal ceremony here before or after, and had a symbolic ceremony abroad.

Fina82 · 11-07-2019 12:05pm

Hi, it's me back again. We finally desided to get married in the registry office and then go for lunch at a hotel. After we are taking a plane to warmer climates to see my family that wouldn't be able to came.

My question is about photographers and videographers. Is there anywere I can check for them? I will only need them for 2 hours and I don't want the videos edited. I don't have a 1000 euros to spend on that, I only wante the video because my mam is going to miss it ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜.

Any advise is much much appreciated ðŸ˜Š

miezekatze · 11-07-2019 12:30pm

I think just have a look at some wedding forums/websites for links to photographers websites, then contact the ones you like and ask them for availability and a quote for what you're looking for. My wedding was similar to yours, we had a photographer for 3 hours if I remember correctly.. during the ceremony, then some family pics after, and then pics of us and some of the family in a nice park. It was more than enough, but I'm glad we didn't just rely on guests taking photos, the photographer was great. Not all photographers were interested in doing this as it wasn't a full day's work for them, you'll probably have to contact a few before you find someone. We didn't have videos, but it's probably the same for that.

jlm29 · 11-07-2019 12:51pm

Fina82, do you mind me asking if there was much of a wait for a date to get married? I.e. was the registrar busy/very booked up?

Fina82 · 11-07-2019 1:12pm

miezekatze wrote: »

I think just have a look at some wedding forums/websites for links to photographers websites, then contact the ones you like and ask them for availability and a quote for what you're looking for. My wedding was similar to yours, we had a photographer for 3 hours if I remember correctly.. during the ceremony, then some family pics after, and then pics of us and some of the family in a nice park. It was more than enough, but I'm glad we didn't just rely on guests taking photos, the photographer was great. Not all photographers were interested in doing this as it wasn't a full day's work for them, you'll probably have to contact a few before you find someone. We didn't have videos, but it's probably the same for that.

Thanks for the info, I will have a look ðŸ˜Š

Fina82 · 11-07-2019 1:23pm

jlm29 wrote: »

Fina82, do you mind me asking if there was much of a wait for a date to get married? I.e. was the registrar busy/very booked up?

Hi, when we decide what we wanted to do we called the Registry Office and ask if the date we wanted was possible, we book our anniversary date and time and then went to do the paperwork, you have to start the paperwork minimum 3 months before your wedding day, I don't know if this answer your question?

baby and crumble · 11-07-2019 1:35pm

OP, have a look at 'elopement' packages, usually they are packages that include less hours of coverage for the photographer (usually just the ceremony and a some official shots afterwards). Be aware though that the cost savings of less time shooting doesn't necessarily translate to a hugely different price. the photographer still has to block off your day from other weddings, pay for travel, insurance, gear, all that stuff.

Fina82 · 11-07-2019 2:00pm

baby and crumble wrote: »

OP, have a look at 'elopement' packages, usually they are packages that include less hours of coverage for the photographer (usually just the ceremony and a some official shots afterwards). Be aware though that the cost savings of less time shooting doesn't necessarily translate to a hugely different price. the photographer still has to block off your day from other weddings, pay for travel, insurance, gear, all that stuff.

Thanks

jlm29 · 11-07-2019 2:06pm

Fina82 wrote: »

Hi, when we decide what we wanted to do we called the Registry Office and ask if the date we wanted was possible, we book our anniversary date and time and then went to do the paperwork, you have to start the paperwork minimum 3 months before your wedding day, I don't know if this answer your question?

It’s more that I’m wondering if I decided I wanted to get married ASAP, how booked up the registry office gets. I know about the three months notice bit, but I’ve heard that I’m some offices you can wait way longer than 3 months for a slot to marry. Obviously I know that it varies from place to place, and the only way to actually find out is to ring around them, but I was just curious to know what your experience was

miezekatze · 11-07-2019 2:55pm

jlm29 wrote: »

It’s more that I’m wondering if I decided I wanted to get married ASAP, how booked up the registry office gets. I know about the three months notice bit, but I’ve heard that I’m some offices you can wait way longer than 3 months for a slot to marry. Obviously I know that it varies from place to place, and the only way to actually find out is to ring around them, but I was just curious to know what your experience was

I think unless you're set on a specific date or you want a Friday wedding, this is not really an issue. I got married in the Dublin office last year and called 4 or 5 months earlier to be safe, was no issue at all, I was able to get the time and date I wanted. Fridays are booked up a long time in advance though, and Thursdays seem busier too.

jlm29 · 11-07-2019 3:15pm

miezekatze wrote: »

I think unless you're set on a specific date or you want a Friday wedding, this is not really an issue. I got married in the Dublin office last year and called 4 or 5 months earlier to be safe, was no issue at all, I was able to get the time and date I wanted. Fridays are booked up a long time in advance though, and Thursdays seem busier too.

Thanks. That’s what I thought. I spoke to someone in one of the offices that you can make an appointment to give your intent to marry in earlier, but there’s no solomniser based there, so she was very vague on the timescales, but told me that she thinks they’re “very busy”. I don’t think she grasped that I’ll get married at 10am on a Tuesday or whenever though, so I just wondered what other peoples experience was.

Fina82 · 13-07-2019 10:16am

jlm29 wrote: »

It’s more that I’m wondering if I decided I wanted to get married ASAP, how booked up the registry office gets. I know about the three months notice bit, but I’ve heard that I’m some offices you can wait way longer than 3 months for a slot to marry. Obviously I know that it varies from place to place, and the only way to actually find out is to ring around them, but I was just curious to know what your experience was

Sorry, I though I had answered ðŸ˜Š. I adk in a registry in other town but they only did ceremonies on Thursday, Friday and Saturday. The dat we wanted to get Married is on a Tuesday so we contacted an other one that did. I think that if you want to get married on a Friday or Saturday will be harder to get a date

PinkLady2016 · 15-07-2019 10:17am

Fina82 wrote: »

We live in Meath

Try the Conyngham Arms in Slane. I'm having a small wedding 45 people and that is for us the perfect venue for a small wedding. Its €51 per head for the meal.

Simple wedding 2019

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