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Can you remake a first impression

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  • 04-09-2019 2:43pm
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    cj maxx
    Registered Users Posts: 13,514 ✭✭✭✭


    I know you can't remake it but can to put aside an unfavourable first impression or is it always in your mind.
    I'm terrible at first impressions. I cant relax and be me , rather I either withdraw or am too forward.
    A good way of putting it is I can't see the grass from the trees when I meet some one.
    After a while it's fine and I'm generally good company and funny( I think :) )
    But these first impressions have cost me opportunities and more importantly women.
    Any ideas ?


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    #2
    Gregor Samsa
    Registered Users Posts: 8,939 ✭✭✭Gregor Samsa


    Wear a disguise next time you meet them.


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    Sir Osis of Liver.
    Registered Users Posts: 2,793 ✭✭✭Sir Osis of Liver.


    Wear a Sombreo next time.
    Proper icebreaker they are and creates an excellent first impression,they'll see how much of a funny bastard you are.


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    cj maxx
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    Sir Osis of Liver. wrote: »
    Wear a Sombreo next time.
    Proper icebreaker they are and creates an excellent first impression,they'll see how much of a funny bastard you are.
    Good idea, next interview/ 1st date I have I'll wear a sombrero, poncho and maybe even cowboy boots.
    Cheers for the tip


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    Deebles McBeebles
    Registered Users Posts: 5,754 ✭✭✭Deebles McBeebles


    cjmc wrote: »
    Good idea, next interview/ 1st date I have I'll wear a sombrero, poncho and maybe even cowboy boots.
    Cheers for the tip

    I'd want to f*ck you in that outfit so I can't see why women wouldn't too.


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    Edgware
    Registered Users Posts: 5,875 ✭✭✭Edgware


    And check that your zip is closed as well.


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    sbsquarepants
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    cjmc wrote: »
    A good way of putting it is I can't see the grass from the trees when I meet some one.

    That's a good way of putting it?

    What does it mean?

    Seriously cj, this has not been a good start!


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    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,610 ✭✭✭Feisar


    The clue is in the expression...

    First they came for the socialists...



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    Andreas77
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    They asked me to use JVC video camera to film them having sex. The first time I sat on side of berth and held camera perpendicular to cabin wall with little merit. This woman was stunningly beautiful. Originally blonde but hair dyed black, German, over 6ft tall, and about 140lb. She was interpreter and event organiser for wealthy Chinese businessman who would sometimes send her to casinos on travels to place a bet in excess of €10,000. Actually, she told me that she had been turned away from several bookies because they would not accept so much hard cash. Apart from English and German, she could speak Mandarin. She was also senior management member in cosmetics firm and expert on horse trading. On that day in their cabin they had two bottles of water and two glasses, a couple of bags, a satchel full of sex toys and lubricant, a blue designer jacket made to imitate the clothing style of Mao Tse Tung which was thrown on ground below porthole, and a couple of dirty magazines. Maybe some other stuff I can’t remember. I was virgin at the time. They treated me as student, voyeur, also cabin boy. They insisted with supervisor that meals were delivered by me, all cleaning in cabin was to be done by myself, but really I spent fortnight filming them in cabin having sex, doggy-style, rimming, sixty-nine, assplay, scooping, twin dildos, fellatio, cunnilingus, swapping, swallowing, stretching etc. This was my second tour of the glaciers.


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    Strumms
    Registered Users Posts: 24,873 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    I was pretty similar to the OP in my younger years, I was a shy dude who probably worried too much about making a good first impression with people and I really didn’t have the best social skills. Definitely now I think of it worried too much about making a good first impression and at times overdid it or was otherwise too painfully shy... both probably weird... I’m into my 40s now and through some weird life events in my life in my 30s I just stopped being so uptight.... stopped trying to make an impression, be liked etc and I guess with this outlook I’m more relaxed and find people tend to gravitate more towards me...rather than me doing the opposite or trying. I’m still pretty reserved maybe but more relaxed reserved...


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    EmmetSpiceland
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    Andreas77 wrote: »
    They asked me to use JVC video camera to film them having sex. The first time I sat on side of berth and held camera perpendicular to cabin wall with little merit. This woman was stunningly beautiful. Originally blonde but hair dyed black, German, over 6ft tall, and about 140lb. She was interpreter and event organiser for wealthy Chinese businessman who would sometimes send her to casinos on travels to place a bet in excess of €10,000. Actually, she told me that she had been turned away from several bookies because they would not accept so much hard cash. Apart from English and German, she could speak Mandarin. She was also senior management member in cosmetics firm and expert on horse trading. On that day in their cabin they had two bottles of water and two glasses, a couple of bags, a satchel full of sex toys and lubricant, a blue designer jacket made to imitate the clothing style of Mao Tse Tung which was thrown on ground below porthole, and a couple of dirty magazines. Maybe some other stuff I can’t remember. I was virgin at the time. They treated me as student, voyeur, also cabin boy. They insisted with supervisor that meals were delivered by me, all cleaning in cabin was to be done by myself, but really I spent fortnight filming them in cabin having sex, doggy-style, rimming, sixty-nine, assplay, scooping, twin dildos, fellatio, cunnilingus, swapping, swallowing, stretching etc. This was my second tour of the glaciers.

    What is “scooping”, A?

    “It is not blood that makes you Irish but a willingness to be part of the Irish nation” - Thomas Davis



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    DaeryssaOne
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    Feisar wrote: »
    The clue is in the expression...

    Except the expression is not being able to see the wood for the trees not the grass :pac:

    OP maybe try not to overthink it and try too hard when you meet somebody for the first time. Just pretend you know them already and try to be yourself as much as possible.
    Even if you do make a less than favourable first impression it's nothing to get anxious about, majority of the time people don't notice half the things you'd be stressing about afterwards.


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    Deebles McBeebles
    Registered Users Posts: 5,754 ✭✭✭Deebles McBeebles


    I find a bit of shadow boxing followed by a good thump on the arm helps when first meeting. Potential employers cant get enough of it and women fall at my feet.


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    Black Swan
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    cjmc wrote: »
    I know you can't remake it but can to put aside an unfavourable first impression or is it always in your mind.
    There are primacy (first impression) and recency effects (most recent impression). Cliche: "If at first you don't succeed, try again."


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    freshpopcorn
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    I believe you can.
    You can also show yourself up over time that your first impression was false!


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    topper75
    Registered Users Posts: 5,942 ✭✭✭topper75


    EmmetSpiceland wrote: »
    What is “scooping”, A?

    How can a single post be so baseless and at the same time so educational?


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    chrissb8
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    Just stop caring if they like you or not. Then you'll be more at peace with yourself. Don't doubt yourself, if you're a nice person then that will just come out naturally. If it doesn't work meh, I'm sure you have plenty of friends already so who cares.


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    Your Face
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    ntoLoPY.jpg


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    cj maxx
    Registered Users Posts: 13,514 ✭✭✭✭cj maxx


    DaeryssaOne wrote: »
    Except the expression is not being able to see the wood for the trees not the grass :pac:

    OP maybe try not to overthink it and try too hard when you meet somebody for the first time. Just pretend you know them already and try to be yourself as much as possible.
    Even if you do make a less than favourable first impression it's nothing to get anxious about, majority of the time people don't notice half the things you'd be stressing about afterwards.
    Oh I know
    Wood from the trees
    Grass from the weeds
    That's what I do but, mix things up . And invariably choose the wrong option.


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    Andreas77
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    In 1970s and 1980s Eastern Europe it was difficult to procure dildos, vibrators, polly pockets, moulds with realistic skin etc. due to lack of available sex shops and online stores catering to special interests. In addition, people tended to be poorer, and exposure to western cultural norms were minimal. Actually, they were simpler times and male and female would usually spend entire lifetimes together with penetrative intercourse continuing into mid seventies and fellatio continuing into early eighties between married couples. Interesting fact is that in rural areas with fertile plains and arable land, rutting was most common during these years in doggy-style position. One theory is that these farmers observed animals rutting in the fields on four legs and were inclined to copy, but I think this issue did not occur in Ireland where missionary was most common. Lack of specially manufactured insertibles or motored devices for vagina and anus, led many to use household items such as cheap, semi transparent scoops which were used for transferring flour, oats, animal food etc., or plastic trowels, spoons, tongs, measuring cups, plastic spatulas, shallow soup ladles, dry measuring cups etc. Typically these items were made of cheap, semi-transparent plastic, and male would use items to examine female orifices. For example, cylindrical semi-transparent handle of scoop or whisk could be inserted into female cavities to reveal character of chute or lining, and other gynaecological features. Two plastic flour scoops could be positioned to leverage female anus to remain open for longer which will reveal new details. Elasticity was examined. Soon these items were used in male ass play, for dilation, or most famously in "gearbox" roleplay with plastic spatula, amateur fecal transplant, amateur enema etc. Because “scoop” was most popular household item, it entered parlance as analog for entire activity.


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    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    It is with me. I am constantly making sure my opinion about things or people is valid. I am constantly taking in new information and learning about the environment and people around me.


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    EmmetSpiceland
    Registered Users Posts: 10,563 ✭✭✭✭EmmetSpiceland


    topper75 wrote: »
    How can a single post be so baseless and at the same time so educational?

    But wait, there’s more!

    “It is not blood that makes you Irish but a willingness to be part of the Irish nation” - Thomas Davis



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    Leg End Reject
    Registered Users Posts: 16,486 ✭✭✭✭Leg End Reject


    Andreas77 wrote: »
    They asked me to use JVC video camera to film them having sex. The first time I sat on side of berth and held camera perpendicular to cabin wall with little merit. This woman was stunningly beautiful. Originally blonde but hair dyed black, German, over 6ft tall, and about 140lb. She was interpreter and event organiser for wealthy Chinese businessman who would sometimes send her to casinos on travels to place a bet in excess of €10,000. Actually, she told me that she had been turned away from several bookies because they would not accept so much hard cash. Apart from English and German, she could speak Mandarin. She was also senior management member in cosmetics firm and expert on horse trading. On that day in their cabin they had two bottles of water and two glasses, a couple of bags, a satchel full of sex toys and lubricant, a blue designer jacket made to imitate the clothing style of Mao Tse Tung which was thrown on ground below porthole, and a couple of dirty magazines. Maybe some other stuff I can’t remember. I was virgin at the time. They treated me as student, voyeur, also cabin boy. They insisted with supervisor that meals were delivered by me, all cleaning in cabin was to be done by myself, but really I spent fortnight filming them in cabin having sex, doggy-style, rimming, sixty-nine, assplay, scooping, twin dildos, fellatio, cunnilingus, swapping, swallowing, stretching etc. This was my second tour of the glaciers.
    Did you not post this before?
    https://forumofgames.com/index.php




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    EmmetSpiceland
    Registered Users Posts: 10,563 ✭✭✭✭EmmetSpiceland


    Leg End Reject wrote: »
    Did you not post this before?

    It was new to me, L. Maybe you’re thinking of his first “tour of the glaciers”.

    And “scooping”, who knew??

    “It is not blood that makes you Irish but a willingness to be part of the Irish nation” - Thomas Davis



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    Leg End Reject
    Registered Users Posts: 16,486 ✭✭✭✭Leg End Reject


    EmmetSpiceland wrote: »
    It was new to me, L. Maybe you’re thinking of his first “tour of the glaciers”.

    And “scooping”, who knew??

    It was this one Emmet:

    https://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=111097453&postcount=148

    Scooping indeed!
    https://forumofgames.com/index.php




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    ILoveYourVibes
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    freshpopcorn wrote: »
    I believe you can.
    You can also show yourself up over time that your first impression was false!
    Very true.


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    cj maxx
    Registered Users Posts: 13,514 ✭✭✭✭cj maxx


    Deebles McBeebles wrote: »
    I'd want to f*ck you in that outfit so I can't see why women wouldn't too.

    Its getting to the stage Deebles where I might pm you


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    Quantum Erasure
    Registered Users Posts: 8,247 ✭✭✭Quantum Erasure


    I'd love to be able to turn back time, make that first impression again... I'm not asking for much, twenty years should do it. for most cases at least....


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    M.T. Cranium
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    I know you think I'm a bad person, but if you got to know me better, you'd realize there was a good reason why I chained you to the wall of my dungeon.


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    Strumms
    Registered Users Posts: 24,873 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    M.T. Cranium wrote: »
    I know you think I'm a bad person, but if you got to know me better, you'd realize there was a good reason why I chained you to the wall of my dungeon.

    Was it because I paid you 70 euros ?


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    sbsquarepants
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    EmmetSpiceland wrote: »
    It was new to me, L. Maybe you’re thinking of his first “tour of the glaciers”.

    And “scooping”, who knew??

    I've no idea what scooping is, but still i want to scoop the bejaysus out of some one on a tour of the glaciers - sounds like deadly craic!


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