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Lost my Stepdad Today

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  • 25-08-2020 12:47am
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    Easterly Beasterly
    Registered Users Posts: 209 ✭✭


    Hey, my stepdad lost his battle to cancer today and I'm heartbroken. He came into my life almost 20 years ago after my Dad died and my mother remarried, he was a gent and I loved him greatly.

    Due to Covid, we only got a short time to say goodbye, he was unconscious but at least I got to tell him how much I loved him and how I'd take care of my Mam. I had to put my dog to sleep last week so everything is very raw.

    I just hope the guilt subsides, I know we did everything we could but I'm self employed and now regret not taking more time to spend with him.

    Thanks for reading, I find it easier to talk to people I don't know.


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    Thou
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭Thou


    Easterly Beasterly wrote: »
    Hey, my stepdad lost his battle to cancer today and I'm heartbroken. He came into my life almost 20 years ago after my Dad died and my mother remarried, he was a gent and I loved him greatly.

    Due to Covid, we only got a short time to say goodbye, he was unconscious but at least I got to tell him how much I loved him and how I'd take care of my Mam. I had to put my dog to sleep last week so everything is very raw.

    I just hope the guilt subsides, I know we did everything we could but I'm self employed and now regret not taking more time to spend with him.

    Thanks for reading, I find it easier to talk to people I don't know.

    I can relate to what you're going through my own stepfather took his own life 10yrs ago was remarried with my mother, I had plenty of regrets I can assure you. Having to grieve a second father in many ways also very difficult, you're going to go through a range of different emotions, the cliché of time is a healer is so true. You'll find a way to sift through the different feelings, I'm sure from what you describe he knew you loved him and with time you'll be able to see and appreciate things in a different light, helping your mother now will give you focus.


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    Purgative
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    Sorry for your loss Easterly.


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    December2012
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    I am so sorry for your loss. You really have had a lot of grief in your life, as has your mam.

    I am sure you have lots of lovely memories that will, in time, give you comfort as you go through your grief this time.

    You're in my thoughts,


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    HildaOgdenx
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    I'm very sorry for your loss. You will have a myriad of emotions. Mind yourself.


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