General Observations.

Hi, I was recently reading a thread where a poster was being talked about in great detail, even tho no one had said if they had or hadn't seen the poster in question. Neither was the op asked to post it.
I posted such a thread last year and it was closed and I was reprimanded for not being able to link the poster at the time even tho it was available location wide within a few days.

There seems to be such a variation in admin/mod approaches to things like this, its confusing.

I was recently taken to task for making a comment in a pm(one of my first) referencing the attitude (an opinion this poster had mentioned constantly in a long and contentious thread, which I feel was deliberately provocative) in the message.

I was taken to task for this by the male mod for this, while I accept that this may not have been the place for such comments, I was not told this ahead of the reprimand and the mod when I spoke to him didn't understand where my attitude was coming from, even tho it was clear to any woman(I cant speak for the men reading) this was an unacceptable attitude in these times.

I mention this as its also confusing for posters and would seem there needs to be clearer guidelines to admin/mods as to what is and is not acceptable in either or both of these situations. those of us who are not involved in such matters cant know these things ahead of posting and so seems unfair to be dealt with harshly and sometimes in public because of this. I mention these as it seems more clarity is needed.