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Kissing help

  • 22-05-2016 5:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,
    So going anon since this is kinda embarrassing. Im 24, and up till recently had never kissed/held hands let alone anything else with a girl - and yes im straight. So recently met a girl, we get along, shes super cute and have started to kissing at the end of the date.

    I left her at her door, was nervous the first time, but it happened and was cool, kissed a few more times since then. but honestly it just feels like tongues mashing around, its not a sexual pleasure really - like its cool, I want more but I dunno... is that normal? She has short hair, so nothing to run my hand thru.

    Like I am half hard sitting next to her holding her, but the kissing just seems so hum - sorry to be blunt, but nothing happened down there when we kiss -, like you hear girls go on about "he's an amazing kisser etc". Is kissing when alone in a bedroom for example any hotter?

    Like I assume there is meant to be sexual pleasure from it ? I'm not trying to be rude/crude but I general would measure that by weather I get some twinge of an erection or not.

    Dunno, just wanted to ask.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Ah nothing to worry about, the first times it feels quite mechanical and not that pleasant to be honest.
    Try and start slower next time. Build it up. Kiss her on the cheek, the neck, on the lips, take it really slowly. It will come 😀


  • #3
    Calypso Realm
    Registered Users Posts: 416 ✭✭Calypso Realm


    Unsure82 wrote: »
    Ah nothing to worry about, the first times it feels quite mechanical and not that pleasant to be honest€

    Not always. Often it can be down to a case of the individuals involved.

    How attracted to this girl are you? Of course even with high attraction some people aren't naturally good kissers!


  • #4
    suicide_circus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,802 ✭✭✭✭suicide_circus


    Less is more. Less tongue, less pressure. And I mean hardly any tongue. Kiss her neck softly, little kisses along the jawline. Relax and slow down. Pull away from her slightly, lingering eye contact and then go in for more.

    Also, no harm in holding her waist, gentle bum squeeze, subtle crotch-on-crotch contact.


  • #5
    Xterminator
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,757 ✭✭✭Xterminator


    suicide_circus wrote: »
    , subtle crotch-on-crotch contact.

    well there is not much subtle about dry humping!!

    but apart from that observation suicide_circus is correct about less being more.

    Also try observing cues form your partner about what she likes/reacts to; to gauge what is working for her.

    X


  • #6
    suicide_circus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,802 ✭✭✭✭suicide_circus


    Big difference between dry humping and a some casual glancing contact of the fun zones :P


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  • #7
    KikiDee
    Registered Users Posts: 1,052 ✭✭✭KikiDee


    Yep...agree to the little soft kisses on the cheek, neck, jawline etc. Less pressure, I don't particularly like the 'mashing' type of kissing you describe. You say she has short hair so nothing to run your hands through? Stroke her neck, shoulders, arms. There's loads of other places you can put your hands. Also, I think someone said this earlier, take your cue from her. Do you notice any reactions from her when you kiss and touch her somewhere? Are they positive reactions? If so, do more of that.

    I think you may be putting a little pressure on yourself here. Just relax into it and enjoy it.


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