* ALL THINGS DEBS / GRADS!! *

mercury127 · 18-09-2010 5:53pm

Right I've got a tux, a suitable corsage and transport is currently being arranged. What's the general consensus on chocolates?

Grace16 · 18-09-2010 7:58pm

mercury127 wrote: »

Right I've got a tux, a suitable corsage and transport is currently being arranged. What's the general consensus on chocolates?

Well it was my debs a few weeks ago and the fella I was going with got me chocolates but I honestly wasn't expecting any haha

randylonghorn · 18-09-2010 8:12pm

mercury127 wrote: »

What's the general consensus on chocolates?

They're quite nice tbh. :cool:

(Buy a few choccies for da mammy if you're calling round to pick her daughter up, it'll put you in good! You don't have to go mad money-wise.)

Big Pussy Bonpensiero · 18-09-2010 9:11pm

JayEnnis wrote: »

What is the point in having a grad in november?

It should go like this.

Last day of school=Graduation mass+Night.

Anytime between July and September=Debs.

Why wouldn't we have grads??:-S As it turned out they were better than the debs and a good bit cheaper. Grads mass night was good but defo the worst of the three.

mercury127 · 18-09-2010 11:46pm

Wait, are the chocolates to score brownie points with my date or her mother?

muffinz · 19-09-2010 2:18pm

crayolastereo wrote: »

Just out of interest, does anyone have any experience/know someone who does of going to the debs with someone the same sex as you? What happened to you/them?

dont worry they dont care at all, the queu of students waiting to get in is always so big they dont care whos with who, loads of people from my school brought people of the same sex, sure the venue doesnt know who actually goes to your school, they could just think they were another student at the school or whatever!

extreme56 · 20-09-2010 6:12pm

Hi people!

Well anyway, I have the grads next year and already Im freaking out! You see nearly everyone has a gf or know someone they will bring but I only know a few girls who I only talk to on fb really. Well thing is that I dont know whether to go at all. Its all this pressure. Is it worth going? Anyone been in this situation before? When should I ask someone on fb before they are snapped up. Is it really worth going, any help please.

Cheers :rolleyes:

rainbowtrout · 20-09-2010 6:19pm

Stop worrying, you are not the first person in this situation and you won't be the last. I assume your grad won't be on until next summer, that's almost a year away so if you want to ask someone there's no rush. Plenty of people go to the grad on their own, it's become common enough in the school I work in, particularly among the lads. A group of them go together and they feel that they don't have to mind a girl that they don't particularly know that well, but asked because they felt pressured to have a date. They don't have to make sure that the girl is having fun because she doesn't know anyone from their school etc. It's not them being selfish, I think they are right, it's meant to be a fun night out, not a night of stress.

So you can choose to go on your own or bring someone. If you go to a mixed school you could ask a girl from your class if there's anyone you get on with or what a lot of people in your situation is ask one of your friends who is bringing a girl and see does she have a friend who would like to go. It also means the girls know each other and it's not as hard for them either.

Couldn't tell you about asking someone on facebook, it didn't exist way back when i was in LC.

Depends on how well you 'know' these girls. It might be easier to go with someone you've met in person beforehand.

Of course you don't have to go. At the time it sounds like everyone in the world is going. I know that's what it sounded like when I was in LC, there were about 90 students in my year and it sounded like everyone was going and I was the only one who didn't go (my mother was supervising it!!!!) and in the end only 60 of them went, so that was a lot who didn't go.

Big Pussy Bonpensiero · 20-09-2010 8:26pm

Just get some one you know who's friends with a load of girls to take yeh. There was 150 in my year, a lot of whom were in your situation. Don't worry about it, girls are q-ing up to go these things.. I'm sure some one some where will take yeh! And worst comes to worst yeh can always hire someone from escort ireland!:D:D:D
(This is the problem with having the grads next year. We had ours in Nov and everybody was so excited. Also helped from the financial point of view.)

XxMCRxBabyxX · 20-09-2010 8:36pm

My friend had this prob for her debs this year and she just ended up asking a guy that all her friends knew and wanted to go but he had no date!

karaokeman · 25-09-2010 9:34am

I am worried about my Debs myself.

I have only had one proper date and the girl I was with turned out not being very nice, so we haven't seen one another since the breakup.

There is also only about 3 girls I have as good friends that I get to have over to my house for get togethers etc.

I want to bring a girl I am really close to, but I don't know when to ask her. Hopefully sometime around January of after. If someone else asks, I will ask the girl if I can bring 1 of her friends.

Anyone else been in this situation?

Coeurdepirate · 25-09-2010 2:22pm

I've been invited to the present 6th years' debs of my school, which are on Thursday... I booked my suit about a week and a half ago, and the person said he'd call me in a week so that I'd know that it was ready. What if they didn't make it? God, I'm so paranoid, but I'm so stressed.

dillo2k10 · 27-09-2010 4:31pm

Has anyone been to the Headfort Arms Hotel, In Kells.
That where ours is gona be. €70 a ticket (Cheap) ]
What are they like o ID. Did you have a good time? Were you allowed to stay in the hotel?

Grace16 · 27-09-2010 6:20pm

dillo2k10 wrote: »

Has anyone been to the Headfort Arms Hotel, In Kells.
That where ours is gona be. €70 a ticket (Cheap) ]
What are they like o ID. Did you have a good time? Were you allowed to stay in the hotel?

Hey, yeah i went there at the beginning of September. When we were going in they asked for ID and if you had it and you were over 18 they stamped your hand and if you didn't they just didn't stamp ye. I'm not even sure if they checked if you were stamped for getting drinks. When we went in there was a chocolate fountain and was later replaced with champagne but i don't know if it depends on how much you paid for the tickets. Dinner was meant to start at 8.30 but i think it was about 9.30 or 9.45 by the time it was served. They gave us choices on the menu but when they came around didn't give any choice. We had veg soup for starter which was ok, turkey and ham for dinner which i didn't eat because i'm vegetarian and choc cake for dessert which was the one thing i ate. I think it depends on what food you like because some people ate nothing where as others ate everything. A band came on in the same place where we were eating (there was a dance floor) and they were really good. They played till about 12.30 ish and then they brought us into the nightclub where we stayed till about 3.30/4.00. Then later in the club they had a table full with breakfast things such as sausages, beans, rolls, rashers and orange juice. I was one of the people on the first bus home and it left at about 4.20 ish and i was home and in bed by 5.40.
It was a nice enough place and most people had a good time. I'm not sure about staying in the hotel because nobody in my group did. They also have an area before you get dinner where they take a professional pic of the couple. I think it was €30 but i honestly couldn't be sure about that.
Hope ye have a good time!

karaokeman · 13-11-2010 9:45am

Has anyone here ever got rejected over asking a girl to the debs because you asked too early?

I want to ask in December after my christmas exams are over (I have them end of November) so I will have all the stress off my head.

I'm bringing a friend rather than a gf because it seems a lot easier, especially since I am new to dating.

scotty91 · 13-11-2010 1:31pm

Hey I know how you feel! I asked my date (also one of my friends) in december last year aswel and she was delighted to go!

I think if she is your friend you shouldn't have any problem with her rejecting you! Only problem is if , like me, you started dating someone else in the 8 or so months between asking your friend and the debs! ( I still brought my friend to the debs though, you can't uninvite someone to the debs it's just bad form! Keep that in mind when you're asking!)

jumpguy · 13-11-2010 4:23pm

Yeah I don't really see how they'd have a problem. If you do have a GF though, erm, it wouldn't go down too well with her if you asked someone else.

Anyway, I was asked to debs around 9 months in advance, it's no biggy!

brownlad · 13-11-2010 7:09pm

well it depends on d person .... but... i asked a girl to mine on tuesday said yes

.... so ts always no till you try (we were already friends) gud luck brah

karaokeman · 14-11-2010 6:49pm

Thanks but I really don't want to have a love life for 6th year.
I need to focus on my exams, so I feel much more relaxed asking a friend.
I think before christmas would be a good time to ask. That way she will have 9 months to prepare, get the money for a dress and stuff.
I will do my best to start working towards being able to afford it. In my school, tickets are like 150 euro each and you have to buy them in pairs. Also I will have to pay for the two, its only fair because I'm the asker.

seanmansfield · 15-11-2010 11:47am

Our school has Debs for fifth and sixth years together so I already have one under my belt. We booked our Debs last year with Debs Ireland way back in September. Once they took the deposit, we didn't hear a word from them and then three weeks before the Debs when most of us were on sixth year holiday, we got a text saying they had double booked, accept their apologies. blah blah
It was too late to organise anything else so we ended up just going to a crappy hotel.

Don't want to make the same mistake again this year with that crowd. Anybody know of an alternative or good venue?

Tanx!

Damo 2k9 · 26-11-2010 12:20am

seanmansfield wrote: »

Our school has Debs for fifth and sixth years together so I already have one under my belt. We booked our Debs last year with Debs Ireland way back in September. Once they took the deposit, we didn't hear a word from them and then three weeks before the Debs when most of us were on sixth year holiday, we got a text saying they had double booked, accept their apologies. blah blah
It was too late to organise anything else so we ended up just going to a crappy hotel.

Don't want to make the same mistake again this year with that crowd. Anybody know of an alternative or good venue?

Tanx!

Try the old darney lodge, seems to be a great venue with good deals also. Think its like 85 a ticket and that includes food, dj/band, admission to the nightclub and breakfast etc etc,
My mates 18th is on the night of the debs and there getting him a birthday cake and all!

kdaly100 · 14-01-2011 12:19pm

Sean - which Debs Ireland company was this - there are two http://www.debsireland.com is the one that I know!

DebsIreland · 14-01-2011 1:17pm

Hi

Can you let me know if it was us t hat you had the bad experience with. Please let us know and we will try and make it up to you in some way.

Sarah

ironclaw · 14-01-2011 1:38pm

DebsIreland wrote: »

Hi

Can you let me know if it was us t hat you had the bad experience with. Please let us know and we will try and make it up to you in some way.

Sarah

I'm not related to the school in question but I'd love to know how you plan on making it up to maybe 50+ students? If the story is as they say, it looks like you ruined what is a once in a lifetime night.

Speaking as some who organised a debs and is now alot older, the committee in question should seek legal advice on this and let someone older deal with it. I didn't deal with DebsIreland (To be fair heard nothing but good reports til now

) but some companies take students for a ride as they are often inexperienced in how business works and prey on their age.

randylonghorn · 14-01-2011 5:23pm

DebsIreland wrote: »

Hi

Can you let me know if it was us t hat you had the bad experience with. Please let us know and we will try and make it up to you in some way.

Sarah

Sarah,

please contact Dav or Darragh at hello@boards.ie re: a commercial user account.

Thanks.

DebsIreland · 14-01-2011 8:07pm

Hi All

We went back through our records and this incident wasnt related to us as we never double book (just had to confirm)

There are several companies in this space and we are very sensitive to these type of incidents.

Sorry to hear what happened but as they say "it wasnt us guv"

Sir123 · 15-01-2011 5:33pm

!!!!!

muffinz · 16-01-2011 5:16pm

Everyone excited for the debs this year? In uni now but going to my friends in august, Im as poor as hell so I think ill be wearing the same dress as last year... What do people think about borrowing friends Debs dresses?

aingel · 09-02-2011 10:09pm

Hey

Just basically wondering what people are doing for their debs. where theyre goin etc

Also anyone on debs committees how are ye paying the hotal. ours is asking for the full amount by april and the debs is in July. Is that a bit dodgy? Anyone else had to pay like that?

Finally any feedback from last years debutants :P about their venues etc. any advice or that ?

Thanks :rolleyes:

Patriciamc93 · 09-02-2011 10:32pm

Hey, on debs commitee in my school and that sounds right. In our school we the money for the debs is due by friday (we had two installments, one before christmas and the other after. Our debs is at the end of september. So dont worry.

Alibear · 09-02-2011 10:43pm

Our Debs is the end of August, we have to pay before April. It's the norm for most Debs

NotExactly · 10-02-2011 12:28am

It's great to see a Debs thread reminding me of August after the Leavin' instead of a mocks thread

karaokeman · 01-03-2011 8:34pm

Has anyone started to think about their Debs yet?
I just booked my ticket for grad night in school this morning, which is 15 euro ticket.
We got into a conversation about it this morning. It feels weird sometimes because so many schools are much better organised than us.
I go to an all-boys school, very few lads have asked girls yet. I didn't want to ask too early in case I met anyone I wanted to bring more leading up to the Debs but now I intend to ask someone either this month or next. April is the latest I hope to have a date organised.
Also we don't have to pay anything until May, this feels awkward too as some other schools in our area payed before christmas.
There's also no word on a Debs committee for my school, all we know is it will be in september.

gardengate · 06-03-2011 11:22am

hello my debs are on in august and i have no chance of getting a date and we have to pay for it in the next few weeks what will i do

old hippy · 11-03-2011 11:28pm

Sir123 wrote: »

Our Debs are on in August and I decided to ask a friend who's a girl to go which was in January. She said she she "didn't know who she wanted to go with yet maybe one of her girl friends " I said ok. Was kinda pissed. Then I found out one of her friends set her up with someone else.
I don't know who else to ask. All the girls are somewhat going with each other. I thought it was weird at first but seeminly it's kinda common.

I asked one of my friends to ask to set me up with someone. A lot of my friends aren't even going.

I don't know what to do.
I know I won't get a date even as much as I try. I probably shouldn't even bother going. We have to buy tickets by April. What should I do ?

Is it worth it. I'll have to by 2 tickets maybe. then I know I probably won't find a date.

Anyone in the same boat?
What happened?
Thanks.

Many centuries ago, I also believed I wouldn't get a date. First girl said yes but her bf said "no", which was fair enough

Then I asked another girl because all her mates were going. We ended up having a grad enough time. Several months later, I went to another debs and a mate was there with the girl I had brought to the first debs and he ended up snogging my date :rolleyes:

A year later I went to another debs - the girl this time was convinced nobody would want to go & I thought, yay, another night out.

Don't give up hope & if all else fails, just bring another female mate along.

pbffan · 13-03-2011 5:06pm

So far we've just done the usual stuff - Band night, Christmas Party etc. There's going to be a "Take Me Out" and an interschool football match too

What are the rest of you doing? Time's running out for fundraising, ideas much needed!

GoldFour4 · 13-03-2011 5:31pm

pbffan wrote: »

So far we've just done the usual stuff - Band night, Christmas Party etc. There's going to be a "Take Me Out" and an interschool football match too

What are the rest of you doing? Time's running out for fundraising, ideas much needed!

Thats a lot of fundraising , how much are tickets like ?

Aoifey! · 13-03-2011 6:34pm

We didn't do any fundraising for ours

not that I know of anyway

gbee · 13-03-2011 6:37pm

I've not heard of fundraising for a debs/grands.

grrrrrrrrrr · 13-03-2011 7:25pm

We never did any for ours. Only heard of some lenister schools doing it really. Tbh you should be able to get Lady Gaga at this stage. Youd be better off doing one big fundraiser! Dont really see what ye need the money dont tho? Could you explain out of curiosity what you need the money for? The hotel usually pays for the DJ and stuff.

RMD · 13-03-2011 7:48pm

This might sound outrageous but if you charge people to go to the Debs it might cover some of the cost? I know, a pretty unusual method :pac:

LilMissCiara · 13-03-2011 7:58pm

Our committee was planning to fund raise to cover DJ, table settings, ticket printing etc.

The price of our tickets will cover the meal and other direct hotel costs (we only pay the hotel's cost per person).

The committee doesn't need to raise money now because the hotel is allowing us keep all the after party ticket sales..!

randylonghorn · 13-03-2011 9:04pm

Maybe they're trying to keep the cost per ticket as low as possible, and ensure that no-one is left out because tickets are just too expensive? Lord knows, there are enough posts on this thread complaining about the cost of Debs tickets.

Does anyone have any actual ideas for fundraising, which is what was actually asked?

Patriciamc93 · 14-03-2011 1:05am

pbffan wrote: »

So far we've just done the usual stuff - Band night, Christmas Party etc. There's going to be a "Take Me Out" and an interschool football match too

What are the rest of you doing? Time's running out for fundraising, ideas much needed!

My school isn't doing fundraising....... Kinda wish we were though! But am if ye don't already ye could have a 6th year funday. We have one every year just like tradition and all that but it could make some money if you were to charge like a 10 per person cause you would have to hire a bouncing castle or something!! Sounds kinda childish but our 6th years go mad every year....... It's always on the very last day of school! Also if you have any really nice teachers you could try a pie in the face competition I was going to do it last year in my school for charity but decided there werent enough teachers!!! But like you could hold it on the fun day at lunch or something but invite the whole school and get an entry fee and sell raffle tickets for each teacher (the raffle would be for who gets to throw it at the teacher) just some ideas!
Entry fee €2 by 200 people equals 400 then another 200 for selling 1€ raffle tickets. But you could probably do them for 2€ ...... I am sure students will jump at the chance to throw pies at teachers!!!! And I don't mean hard pies just like cream ones...... You still have to be nice to them!

I can't think of anymore right no but will let you know if I do!!!

pbffan · 14-03-2011 1:41am

randylonghorn wrote: »

Maybe they're trying to keep the cost per ticket as low as possible, and ensure that no-one is left out because tickets are just too expensive? Lord knows, there are enough posts on this thread complaining about the cost of Debs tickets

Aha, give this man a banana

randylonghorn · 14-03-2011 5:03am

0_o

Are you calling me a monkey?!!! :mad:

(I jest! :-p)

kildareman09 · 21-03-2011 12:22pm

is it to early to be asking a girl to your debs
and would people be able to tell me from past expierences what happens over the course of the night

karaokeman · 22-03-2011 8:23am

kildareman09 wrote: »

is it to early to be asking a girl to your debs
and would people be able to tell me from past expierences what happens over the course of the night

Nope anytime between March and August is fine.

At latest you could ask a month before the Debs. Any later than that would be too late because some people wait until the week before to ask and things go a bit haywire at that time too.

Unfortunately I have not been to a Debs yet (not until my own in sept this year) so I can't give you any firts-hand information from experience but generally you go to the girl's house, give her a bouquette of flowers and the mother a box of chocolates. After that the girl comes to your house where all your family throw you a big party. Then you leave with your classmates and their dates.

On the night as far as I know, its pretty much the same as any other night out but its really your decision. You can spend the whole time with the girl or you can mingle with the rest of your friends, or she can do the same if all her friends are coming.

Good luck.

kildareman09 · 22-03-2011 6:07pm

thanks very much karaokeman by the way how much are your tickets

karaokeman · 22-03-2011 11:07pm

kildareman09 wrote: »

thanks very much karaokeman by the way how much are your tickets

Bouts 150 last year.

Curently there is no word about how much it wil cost this year but hopefully we will know soon.

Good luck with the ask, I'm still struggling to find that kind of courage myself:o.

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