Gender Reveal Parties?

MrAbyss · 15-10-2019 1:25pm #1

I did not know this was even a thing.

https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2019/10/14/munroe-bergdorf-gender-reveal-parties-trans-children-harm/?fbclid=IwAR2143FO0yqw5VBfVez-VIdeGWZvJTRjtxrzszqDgdHvsor_-wG-SXINujw

“And ultimately, all it is, is revealing your child’s genitals. You have no idea how that child is going to identify and it really is just placing all of your hopes and dreams on this child based on their gender.”
The parties often celebrate outdated heteronormative tropes of masculinity and femininity, which can be restrictive to children as they grow up. Examples include cakes with the phrases ‘Ruffles or rifles’, ‘Touchdowns or tutus’ and ‘Tractors or tiaras’.
Bergdorf explained that this can foster a culture in which parents place more value on one particular gender than another.

15-10-2019 1:44pm

I think it's harmless enough as a celebration if you take all the stereotypes and sexist stuff out of it. Not for me though, mainly because keeping the gender a secret long enough to plan a party would be torture.

Trigger Happy · 15-10-2019 1:50pm

The only gender reveal party I was hosted by the wonderful Mrs Happy in the birthing room.
Bloody hell, never again.

Immortal Starlight · 15-10-2019 1:50pm

Anyone organising a gender reveal party is a guaranteed tosser.

Fattybojangles · 15-10-2019 1:51pm

Generally done by complete narcissists and morons.

Uncharted · 15-10-2019 1:53pm

There's a movie about it.

It's called " The crying game ".

15-10-2019 1:54pm

Some american lark. Heard of a couple over here but hopefully not catching on

15-10-2019 1:55pm

I think you'd have to be very closely acquainted with all the people who have them to diagnose them all as narcissists, guaranteed. Difficult, since they don't seem to be the norm in Ireland.

If people want to celebrate anything, like say winning a football match, or some other triviality, it's entirely up to them but it's not a diagnosis of anything other than they like a party.

Clutterluck · 15-10-2019 1:57pm

I'm thinking about organising my own gender reveal party this weekend. It'll be some craic.

15-10-2019 1:57pm

I think its bullshìt but if other people like to do it then the best of luck to them.

is_that_so · 15-10-2019 2:00pm

Candie wrote: »

I think it's harmless enough as a celebration if you take all the stereotypes and sexist stuff out of it. Not for me though, mainly because keeping the gender a secret long enough to plan a party would be torture.

What exactly is it celebrating, bearing in mind the average age of participants?

Jonybgud · 15-10-2019 2:00pm

takes note,

A handy excuse it I get caught flashing in the park again....

Dante7 · 15-10-2019 2:01pm

Gender reveal parties are a load of bollox, but Pinknews are even worse. They were originally a gay publication but have been completely taken over by the trans cult. Beardy woke bros.

15-10-2019 2:05pm

is_that_so wrote: »

What exactly is it celebrating, bearing in mind the average age of participants?

A happy event? The birth of a son, daughter, brother, sister, whatever? I think it's a bit of a nothing to get upset about, since if I was asked to one and I didn't want to go, I can say no. Or if someone wanted me to have one, I'd say no. No one is forced to have or attend one.

If it makes people happy and they fancy a BBQ or whatever to celebrate, let them. If people are happy about how their team do in a league and celebrate, nobody calls them narcissists. It's just a party, ffs.

It just seems bizarre to be so judgemental about something that doesn't affect you and you will never be forced to participate in.

optogirl · 15-10-2019 2:05pm

I really hope it doesn't catch on. Baby 'showers' were never heard of in years gone by and are now regularly done. Load of shi*e if you ask me, which, I'm aware, you didn't.

ldy4mxonucwsq6 · 15-10-2019 2:11pm

Baby showers/gender reveal parties what a load of rubbish. Why do we need to adopt what seems to be mainly American customs?

In my experience its people who think the world revolves around them that buy into this crap.

rob316 · 15-10-2019 2:13pm

Lindsey Loose Kid wrote: »

Baby showers/gender reveal parties what a load of rubbish. Why do we need to adopt what seems to be mainly American customs?

In my experience its people who think the world revolves around them that buy into this crap.

Any excuse to plaster it all over social media.

freshpopcorn · 15-10-2019 2:14pm

Lindsey Loose Kid wrote: »

Baby showers/gender reveal parties what a load of rubbish. Why do we need to adopt what seems to be mainly American customs?

In my experience its people who think the world revolves around them that buy into this crap.

In my experience most people who throw these parties for various events are mainly out for money and gifts!

Boom_Bap · 15-10-2019 2:15pm

I would show up hammered at one of these things and ruin the reveal.

ldy4mxonucwsq6 · 15-10-2019 2:21pm

freshpopcorn wrote: »

In my experience most people who throw these parties for various events are mainly out for money and gifts!

Yeah and they've nothing better to do/too much time on their hands.

Why does every little thing have to be turned into a party/occasion/fiasco by some people?

rob316 · 15-10-2019 2:29pm

Lindsey Loose Kid wrote: »

Yeah and they've nothing better to do/too much time on their hands.

Why does every little thing have to be turned into a party/occasion/fiasco by some people?

The latest thing I saw on FB was a party for their child's graduation from primary school. From ****ing primary school :rolleyes:

punisher5112 · 15-10-2019 2:30pm

Can I throw a straight party or would that not be allowed?

beejee · 15-10-2019 2:31pm

I was just reading about a newborn girl buried alive in an urn in India. Other people attending the cemetery heard the crying.

Now that's a gender reveal! Partaaaayyy!

optogirl · 15-10-2019 2:36pm

punisher5112 wrote: »

Can I throw a straight party or would that not be allowed?

That's not what a gender reveal party is but sure, have at it.

Your Face · 15-10-2019 2:38pm

I was very upset when my child was revealed to be none other than 1970s Welsh rugby legend Sir Gareth Edwards.

Ms2011 · 15-10-2019 2:43pm

freshpopcorn wrote: »

In my experience most people who throw these parties for various events are mainly out for money and gifts!

Whatever about a gender reveal party but a baby shower is thrown for the mother as opposed to by the mother.

punisher5112 · 15-10-2019 2:48pm

optogirl wrote: »

That's not what a gender reveal party is but sure, have at it.

But I could even it out and have a gender fluid one too....

jam_mac_jam · 15-10-2019 2:50pm

Do we have to do everything the US does? Blindly? Like showers that never happened a few years ago. So stupid

jmayo · 15-10-2019 2:50pm

rob316 wrote: »

The latest thing I saw on FB was a party for their child's graduation from primary school. From ****ing primary school :rolleyes:

I have a friend his GF just had a kid, she puts up a picture of him dressed in a cute outfit with a card next to him saying how many months old he is, bang on time every month. Balloons and all in the picture, it's not just her I've seen others too do it. I thought it was over as the he turned one last month, but no 13 month old FB posted the other day. And everyone comments "cant cope xx", "i'm weak", "so cute", and she just replies "Aww thanks xxx". Pure attention seeking

Mankind/womankind, and to keep all the don't know what the fook they are "in between kinds" happy, seems to be going full on up it's own holes with all this shyteology.

This is what you get when you have too much time on your hands and don't have to worry about normal things like staying alive.

RobertKK · 15-10-2019 2:52pm

bluewolf wrote: »

Some american lark. Heard of a couple over here but hopefully not catching on

It probably will, given the people who do this are most likely Democratic party voters in the US, and some in Ireland have a hard on for the Democrats, even if both parties have severe issues...

razorblunt · 15-10-2019 2:53pm

Finkel is Einhorn.
Einhorn is Finkel.

Bring out the cake.

Strumms · 15-10-2019 2:57pm

rob316 wrote: »

Pure attention seeking

Thing is when I was growing up ‘attention seekers’ and ‘attention seeking’ was frowned upon...you’d be discouraged by your teachers, parents and friends from being one... now it seems to be encouraged at every turn, it drives me batshît crazy.... the start of it seemed to be with social media / big brother and all reality tv... why do you need to post on Facebook to tell people you are watching True Lies on Netflix with ‘bae’ ??? Why do you feel like telling people that the heating is fixed so you are having a snuggle with ‘bae’ ??? Why do you want to post a picture of you with ‘bae’ sharing a bowl of ice cream making a pouty face ? .... can you not just enjoy life without sharing every single element of life ?

ldy4mxonucwsq6 · 15-10-2019 3:34pm

rob316 wrote: »

I have a friend his GF just had a kid, she puts up a picture of him dressed in a cute outfit with a card next to him saying how many months old he is, bang on time every month. Balloons and all in the picture, it's not just her I've seen others too do it. I thought it was over as the he turned one last month, but no 13 month old FB posted the other day. And everyone comments "cant cope xx", "i'm weak", "so cute", and she just replies "Aww thanks xxx". Pure attention seeking

Wait until they have 3 or 4 kids that will be knocked on the head soon enough.

endacl · 15-10-2019 3:50pm

Lindsey Loose Kid wrote: »

Wait until they have 3 or 4 kids that will be knocked on the head soon enough.

Blessed with the first. Diagnosed with the third.

Bigbagofcans · 15-10-2019 3:57pm

Strumms wrote: »

why do you need to post on Facebook to tell people you are watching True Lies on Netflix with ‘bae’ ??? Why do you feel like telling people that the heating is fixed so you are having a snuggle with ‘bae’ ??? Why do you want to post a picture of you with ‘bae’ sharing a bowl of ice cream making a pouty face ? .... can you not just enjoy life without sharing every single element of life ?

Caring more about looking happy on social media than being happy in real life seems to be a lot of people's main goal in life. Sad.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 15-10-2019 4:11pm

“You have no idea how the child is going to identify...” - THAT’S the reason they’re not a good idea? You have a fair idea that they will most likely identify as the sex they are born with. Even if they don’t, the party happens when they are in utero. They’re present at the party but not present. So that’s hardly a reason not to have one. There are other, better reasons.

Martina1991 · 15-10-2019 4:12pm

A girl i went to school with now lives in the states and had a gender reveal party.

All her friends gathered around her with black balloons that were to be burst at the same time and shower her with pink/blue confetti.

Except one balloon burst prematurely and ruined the surprise. This was all captured on Facebook.

15-10-2019 4:12pm

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

“You have no idea how the child is going to identify...” - THAT’S the reason they’re not a good idea? You have a fair idea that they will most likely identify as the sex they are born with. Even if they don’t, the party happens when they are in utero. They’re present at the party but not present. So that’s hardly a reason not to have one. There are other, better reasons.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 15-10-2019 4:14pm

Ms2011 wrote: »

Whatever about a gender reveal party but a baby shower is thrown for the mother as opposed to by the mother.

Yeah but in a hen party kind of way. The expectant mother would often probably be disappointed if it didn’t happen. In the US anyway.

ArrBee · 15-10-2019 4:19pm

I thought this was going to be about some new Channel 4 reality/game show.

TuringBot47 · 15-10-2019 4:21pm

You have no idea how that child is going to identify and it really is just placing all of your hopes and dreams on this child based on their gender.

In fairness most parents hope their child turns out heterosexual, more chance of a conventional life like they had, more chance of grandkids etc.
So you can't blame them.

w/s/p/c/ · 15-10-2019 4:23pm

A couple I know did one.

All for show, they already knew they were having a boy.

Filmed the thing with their family there, popping a balloon to reveal blue confetti.

Video promptly put up on Instagram as the mother is a wannabe "influencer" (her followers are mainly her family and friends).

Absolutely pathetic stuff if you ask me.

tonycascarino · 15-10-2019 4:30pm

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

Caring more about looking happy on social media than being happy in real life seems to be a lot of people's main goal in life. Sad.

Absolutely. I call them the bimbo brigade. Up to their necks in debt but still trying to pretend they have an amazing lifestyle to the public eye. Must be tough trying to keep that artificial lifestyle going. No wonder so many of them crack from the pressure of it all.

ldy4mxonucwsq6 · 15-10-2019 5:09pm

TuringBot47 wrote: »

In fairness most parents hope their child turns out heterosexual, more chance of a conventional life like they had, more chance of grandkids etc.
So you can't blame them.

Nope, have to disagree. If they are happy and healthy that's what most parents hope for.

rob316 · 15-10-2019 5:17pm

Lindsey Loose Kid wrote: »

Nope, have to disagree. If they are happy and healthy that's what most parents hope for.

Ya but no matter what way you look at it your child been straight is an easier life. It's ok to say that.

beejee · 15-10-2019 5:44pm

Lindsey Loose Kid wrote: »

Nope, have to disagree. If they are happy and healthy that's what most parents hope for.

Yep, most parents are absolutely 100% a-okay, totally absolutely grand no matter if the child "identifies" as a rhino or what have you

ldy4mxonucwsq6 · 15-10-2019 5:50pm

beejee wrote: »

Yep, most parents are absolutely 100% a-okay, totally absolutely grand no matter if the child "identifies" as a rhino or what have you

Not saying that, just I disagree with the statement that "most parents hope for their child to be heterosexual".

I'd imagine it's not a major priority or concern for 'most' parents.

beejee · 15-10-2019 5:53pm

It's not exactly something you can prioritise, but I think people would be playing games to pretend that isn't something of concern. 20 years ago? Nah. These days? You bet.

m5ex9oqjawdg2i · 15-10-2019 5:57pm

What's really truly sad is the fact there's a thread about it and people in here seem to be really upset about baby showers and gender reveal parties. How pathetic. Oh the irony...

Why not live and let live? You would have to be some serious moany hole to complain about a baby shower.

:rolleyes:

ldy4mxonucwsq6 · 15-10-2019 6:26pm

Ronnie Tiny Barometer wrote: »

What's really truly sad is the fact there's a thread about it and people in here seem to be really upset about baby showers and gender reveal parties. How pathetic. Oh the irony...

Why not live and let live? You would have to be some serious moany hole to complain about a baby shower.

:rolleyes:

It's just it usually seems to be a certain type that does these things, as has been mentioned attention seekers or for something to put on social media.

Unfortunately, its people who are way too busy for this rubbish who end up having to attend, gift in hand.

Pregnancy announcement, baby shower, gender reveal, followed by birth and christening etc......thats a lot of time and a lot of gifts.

I love a celebration but some just seem to milk it for everything and it's all me, me, me.

Maybe I'm just getting old and tired haha, or maybe Im just not one of those whos interested in 'going to the opening of an envelope'.

padd b1975 · 15-10-2019 6:29pm

A shakedown of the stupid.

Gender Reveal Parties?

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