Is your life easy or hard?

Hollister11 · 12-12-2017 1:13pm #1

Is your life easy or hard?

For me, it seems (or is) very easy 90% of the time.

I'm sitting here on Tuesday afternoon at my desk at home doing assignments. The only stress I have is getting assignments done on time, but life as always been easy (thanks to my parents), and even more so since I left school.

How about you?

Knex* · 12-12-2017 1:22pm

In the context of the wider world, knowing that I am in the top 1% (as is everyone in this country) in terms of privileges afforded to me and opportunities available, I would have to say incredibly easy.

I have the added advantage of never really having to face any extreme hardship, be that physical, financial, or mental. Something I am immensely thankful for.

Born in this country to working parents in 1990, afforded free education right he way through to finishing college. Never had fear of going hungry, or not being able to get a job.

Never known any real financial hardship, and have lived a fairly sheltered life outside of a debilitating injury to one of my parents.

Have a safety net that affords me far too much comfort, both in my parents and in the state itself. I work hard, but have never had to face do or die graft to scrape together enough to just survive for one more day.

The graft my parents put in before me, and their parents before them, coupled with the fortuitous nature of simply being born on this island, has given me a platform far greater than the billions of people who have lived and died on this planet.

That's the reality of being working class in Ireland. Its an instant win in the lotto of life.

Wombatman · 12-12-2017 1:23pm

It can be easy to make hard and then hard to make easy.

Pac1Man · 12-12-2017 1:24pm

Everything gets harder after secondary school. People need genuine obstacles in their life. You simply do not grow otherwise.

12-12-2017 1:28pm

It isn't easy or hard.

Does that mean my life is flaccid? There's no real in-between term :pac:

major bill · 12-12-2017 1:29pm

Compared to most I think I have an easy enough life with regards I don't have much worries in life bar the lil silly ones I over think. Any hardships I've had have been a result of my own stupidity. I was lucky and am still lucky to have a good family around me. I know plenty of people around me that have genuine life battles so always aware as to how comfortable mine is at the moment.

wakka12 · 12-12-2017 1:32pm

Its all relative. My life is better than a lot of peoples but it could always be better. I have a loving family, great relationship, Im healthy, financially stable, have warm house with lots of food, they're things Im very greatful for ..

I struggle with bad bouts of anxiety though, I don't like how I look and the college profession I study is extremely difficult and demanding

So yeh good and bad..like most people Id imagine

Hector Bellend · 12-12-2017 1:41pm

I was hard on your ma last night.

Lorelli! · 12-12-2017 1:41pm

Compared to most its really good. Like others have said, im always aware of that. Everybody can go through times where things are tough on them.

I look back fondly on my childhood but it was a bit harder. Im lucky I had the parents I have especially from what I saw of some friends growing up around me although in many ways i was exposed to that too.

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me_irl · 12-12-2017 1:45pm

Deleted User wrote: »

It isn't easy or hard.

Does that mean my life is flaccid? There's no real in-between term :pac:

Half chub.

Dravokivich · 12-12-2017 1:49pm

It's not easy, has more than it's fair share of difficulties, but I'd not consider it hard. Kinda meddling, like them kids from Scooby Doo.

lazybones32 · 12-12-2017 2:02pm

A doddle compared to many others.
A charmed existence, befuddled occasionally by retards sending me pm's.

McMurphy · 12-12-2017 2:11pm

Hector Bellend wrote: »

I was hard on your ma last night.

I read this and knew who the author was before scrolling left to see the username.

I thought that was easy.

:pac:

Mutant z · 12-12-2017 2:14pm

What good is it if everything is too easy you need challenges in life it makes you a mentally stronger person.

12-12-2017 2:15pm

I was a layabout useless introvert loner with chronic paralysing shyness in my youth and college years. Did almost no work of any type - and I felt my life was hard.

Woke up to needing change and turned that around and now I just do the normal 9 to 5 work and I have to work hard. And then I work hard in the home and the rest of my life. And I feel my life is actually incredibly easy despite how hard I always seem to be working.

Weird how that works.

But in terms of emotional turmoil and tragedy I have been mostly good so far. But the day can not be so far away that the phone just starts ringing with bad news following bad news as friends and or relatives die and so forth. Unless I die first of course - but I am terminally healthy at the moment.

wakka12 · 12-12-2017 2:16pm

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Well I think there is. Its important to acknowledge that the country you were born in , social class, or whatever allowed you access to a lot of supports and nice things that many people never got in their life. We live in a country that has good social care if in a bad place for instance, lots of countries don't . And try and help people, in knowing this

_Dara_ · 12-12-2017 2:18pm

I’m terminally-ill in my 30s, so existentially hard. But I currently have no real symptoms and quite excellent painkillers, so at the moment, life is physically easy enough. (as long as I rest often)

KERSPLAT! · 12-12-2017 2:18pm

Cab be difficult at times but for the most part it's handy.

biko · 12-12-2017 2:19pm

I'm complaining a bit sometimes, but tbh I am so much better off than 99% of people on this planet so in general I have an easy life.

Foxhound38 · 12-12-2017 2:22pm

It's not easy or hard.

It's grand

sbsquarepants · 12-12-2017 2:24pm

I think most peoples lives are neither hard nor easy, they are just lives! There are some very lucky / unlucky people out there but for the bulk of us it's the same as the next guy give or take.
It's how we deal with things that determines if it's easy or hard - I'm the eternal optimist so shít comes relatively easy to me. I don't worry. I'm healthy, I'm far from rich but i'm also not materialistic so it doesn't bother me, I won't go hungry or end up homeless either, my kids will be well fed and clothed and cared for.
If we can't go to a villa in the Bahamas and lie in the sun for a month, maybe we'll go to a mobile in wexford and look at the rain for a week - it's all good!
We're all healthy, we all love each other - life is sweet:D

KERSPLAT! · 12-12-2017 2:26pm

_Dara_ wrote: »

I’m terminally-ill in my 30s, so existentially hard. But I currently have no real symptoms and quite excellent painkillers, so at the moment, life is physically easy enough. (as long as I rest often)

Sorry to hear

Plopsu · 12-12-2017 2:32pm

Mutant z wrote: »

What good is it if everything is too easy you need challenges in life it makes you a mentally stronger person.

Flip side is things being so difficult that they slowly crush you.

PandaPoo · 12-12-2017 2:37pm

Easy peasy lemon squeezy. Apart from crippling depression I have a really easy life.
A perfect family, lovely house, my parents and my in laws are alive and well and help with childcare. I work because I want to not because I have to.

Obviously had a few really bad times over the years, but for now everything is rosy and I'm really making the most of it!

MilesMorales1 · 12-12-2017 3:01pm

From being a very young child, to teenage years, around 16/17, it was very hard. Mainly due to one parent being a violent abusive alcoholic who made sure to dump all his **** and take out all his anger about himself and his own childhood on one person, that is to say me, for years and years.

But now he's not here, and things have got much easier and better I suppose. Still a ways to go though.

_Roz_ · 12-12-2017 3:11pm

It has been more on the hard side of things for a long time, but it's getting better. I think I've done all the growing I need to do as a person, a little relaxation would be nice now!

Permabear · 12-12-2017 3:24pm

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Lux23 · 12-12-2017 3:24pm

Pretty easy now. Wasn't always but my recent hard work has really paid off.

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whoopsadoodles · 12-12-2017 3:42pm

Someone recently told me they wanted my life, because I was lucky enough to be hopping on a few planes. I told them they'd be quick enough handing it back to me if they got it

I don't have a hard life by any means. I'm comfortable, have an amazing family and the most wonderful friends and I'm loved very very much.

But life is certainly not always easy and I've faced some serious struggles which I wouldn't wish anyone to have to endure. They still affect me hugely and so I have very hard days.

Overall though, I'm doing pretty ok for myself and I wouldn't be too quick to jump into anyone else's shoes.

wakka12 · 12-12-2017 3:47pm

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You're right , but for instance its bad to be suicidal no matter where you are but isn't it better to suicidal in a country where you'll have food and social care, and dying of a terminal illness is bad no matter where you are as well but surely its worse to be dying of it in ethopia than ireland? is what I'm saying

Romantic Rose · 12-12-2017 3:51pm

I have a wonderful life. I have a wonderful husband and wonderful children.

I would love to have better job security and be permanent in my job in a nice school.

I do get sad at times when I think this could all end. I don't know what I would do without my husband. It took long enough to find him, I want to spend as much of my life with him as I can.

I also wish my mother was here to experience life with her grandchildren.

I also wish I didn't fall into dark holes at times that are hard to get out of but overall I'm delighted with my life.

LadyMacBeth_ · 12-12-2017 4:01pm

Hmm, it's a tough question to answer really. I suppose it's all relative. I think I have been lucky in lots of ways, my parents are comfortably off so there weren't any financial hardships when I was a child and I had a loving upbringing, but I had some very bad experiences as a teen, and have difficulties with depression and anxiety ever since. I also have a progressive degenerative disease which has left me unable to work in my late 20s and I have a life expectancy of late 30s. It has also been a struggle financially as an adult due to only being able to work part time and for now not at all. I do have my family, parents, grandparents and my sister, no one has any major health problems or issues and I have a couple of very good friends and my partner is my absolute rock, I feel so lucky to have her and them. I think overall my life is good, not sure if it's easy but I wouldn't say it's really hard, my health issues can make it a struggle at times, combined with the depression, but everything else is pretty good and I'm thankful for that. It could certainly be a lot worse.

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Pac1Man · 12-12-2017 4:09pm

This has taken a bizarre turn.

Dr Crayfish · 12-12-2017 4:11pm

Easy. Got lucky with property and job etc. My only hardships are trying to decide what to have for dinner etc. Sometimes I get caught up in existentialist anxieties, but I think I'm coming to terms with the whole pointlessness of existence thing. Ridiculously cushy lives many of us have nowadays. I can't see consumer based capitalism lasting much longer, it's too destructive.

beans · 12-12-2017 4:27pm

Existence is pain.

omb0wyn5ehpij9 · 12-12-2017 4:33pm

_Dara_ wrote: »

I’m terminally-ill in my 30s, so existentially hard. But I currently have no real symptoms and quite excellent painkillers, so at the moment, life is physically easy enough. (as long as I rest often)

This puts a lot of things into perspective

whiskeyman · 12-12-2017 4:42pm

Knex. wrote: »

In the context of the wider world, knowing that I am in the top 1% (as is everyone in this country) in terms of privileges afforded to me and opportunities available, I would have to say incredibly easy.

I have the added advantage of never really having to face any extreme hardship, be that physical, financial, or mental. Something I am immensely thankful for.

Born in this country to working parents in 1990, afforded free education right he way through to finishing college. Never had fear of going hungry, or not being able to get a job.

Never known any real financial hardship, and have lived a fairly sheltered life outside of a debilitating injury to one of my parents.

Have a safety net that affords me far too much comfort, both in my parents and in the state itself. I work hard, but have never had to face do or die graft to scrape together enough to just survive for one more day.

The graft my parents put in before me, and their parents before them, coupled with the fortuitous nature of simply being born on this island, has given me a platform far greater than the billions of people who have lived and died on this planet.

That's the reality of being working class in Ireland. Its an instant win in the lotto of life.

Probably the best post ever on boards.ie

_Dara_ · 12-12-2017 5:03pm

_Dara_ wrote: »

I’m terminally-ill in my 30s, so existentially hard. But I currently have no real symptoms and quite excellent painkillers, so at the moment, life is physically easy enough. (as long as I rest often)

To add to this. I'm in a support group with others in a similar situation and we all sheepishly agreed at one meeting that we feel slightly liberated in not having to worry about career any more. It just doesn't matter to us now. No more striving to get ahead. One faint plus point.

sbsquarepants · 12-12-2017 5:15pm

_Dara_ wrote: »

To add to this. I'm in a support group with others in a similar situation and we all sheepishly agreed at one meeting that we feel slightly liberated in not having to worry about career any more. It just doesn't matter to us now. No more striving to get ahead. One faint plus point.

Every cloud, eh:D

Rubberlegs · 12-12-2017 5:34pm

Harder than others and not as hard as some. I had an anxious childhood, a lot of tension at home on an almost permanent basis. The serious illness of one parent, which went into remission and is back now. The uncertainty of this weighing on my mind everyday. The death of my other parent within a few months of diagnosis. I am the mother of a teenager with a disability and severe anxiety. I think all would be right in my world if everyone else was OK. The only way to get through is to put the head down and plough along, I am an expert at this stage

suicide_circus · 12-12-2017 5:56pm

Very easy all things considered.

Could easily go tits up tomorrow if the landlord decides he wants to do "renovations" and we'd be in real trouble in terms of a place to live.

so like many people me and the wife are kind of living on a knife-edge which creates a kind of constant background stress.

Agricola · 12-12-2017 7:03pm

Not sure how to answer this.

I'm a bit of a big deal. Working 175 hours a week, but making lots & lots & lots of money and living in a mansion, might be seen from the outside as having an "easy life" -- but it might be anything but easy if you consider how much stress and responsibility he or she has to deal with on a daily basis.

A scrounger on welfare, with no responsibilities bar betting on the gee-gees, might actually be living the easier life. Scratch that.They ARE living the easier life. The wasters!

In my view, everybody has something they struggle with. Humility in my case. It's difficult to tell from external indicators how easy or difficult someone's life is. But I'm just glad my external indicators tell everyone I'm significantly richer than them!

Couchpotato82 · 12-12-2017 7:12pm

Agricola wrote: »

Not sure how to answer this.

I'm a bit of a big deal. Working 175 hours a week, but making lots & lots & lots of money and living in a mansion, might be seen from the outside as having an "easy life" -- but it might be anything but easy if you consider how much stress and responsibility he or she has to deal with on a daily basis.

A scrounger on welfare, with no responsibilities bar betting on the gee-gees, might actually be living the easier life. Scratch that.They ARE living the easier life. The wasters!

In my view, everybody has something they struggle with. Humility in my case. It's difficult to tell from external indicators how easy or difficult someone's life is. But I'm just glad my external indicators tell everyone I'm significantly richer than them!

24 hours a day 7 days a week = 168 hrs a week.

C’mon, if your going to try and wind people up, you can do better than fall(fail) at the first hurdle.

RobbingBandit · 12-12-2017 7:35pm

I'm in my mid 30s, spent the past two years dealing with diabetic complications(lost my sight infinity and beyond) stemming from being homeless for 8 months over the course of 2013/14, had to leave university in this period too, have a diagnosis of aspergers a high functioning form of autism only discovered when I was 25 which along with severe anxiety really limits my relationship options friends or otherwise, have zero qualifications or certs despite doing numerous courses, life is tough but I'm still here trying to find a way out of this ****. Not really sure why but who knows 42 will probably be when I figure it all out, thumbs up if you get that.

Is your life easy or hard?

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