2019 Brides/Grooms

Faith · 13-01-2019 11:42am

What are confetti cups?

Scarinae · 13-01-2019 2:29pm

Are confetti cups those bra cups you can sew into a dress? Could you try somewhere like Hickeys maybe?

Amprodude · 13-01-2019 2:41pm

Anyone have advice for grooms speech? Getting married in a few months and don't know where to start. I don't know what to say and Im not used to talking in a group of over 200 people. Is it OK to read it out on the day. In the ideal world you would talk from the heart but I wouldn't be that confident. What have grooms here done for their wedding day. Thanks.

love_love · 14-01-2019 9:54am

Scarinae wrote: »

Are confetti cups those bra cups you can sew into a dress? Could you try somewhere like Hickeys maybe?

Thanks, tried Hickeys and couldn't find the specific brand I've been asked to grt, have just had to reschedule the fitting

It's a minor thing but there's lots going on at the moment and I was looking forward to it.

Re: grooms speech, Google is a great resource to give guidance of the different speeches and who should cover what. It's fine to read it out. Traditionally the groom does the thank yous (venue, staff, help along the way from friends etc) and say that the bridesmaids are only gorgeous, and isn't it so weird to call your wife your wife now. The groom's speech is the most functional one I'd say

Bacchus · 14-01-2019 2:41pm

Amprodude wrote: »

Anyone have advice for grooms speech? Getting married in a few months and don't know where to start. I don't know what to say and Im not used to talking in a group of over 200 people. Is it OK to read it out on the day. In the ideal world you would talk from the heart but I wouldn't be that confident. What have grooms here done for their wedding day. Thanks.

A question that's been asked a few times over the years in here. Worth doing a search of the forum for "groom speech" and see what good advice turns up.

My go to advice if you're not feeling confident about public speaking is to keep it simple. Weather you write it all down, write down just the bullet points or memorize it, keep the speech simple. Thank the right people, compliment the bridesmaids, say something nice about your best man, your parents, your wife's parents, and finally (and most importantly) say something nice about your new wife and how lucky you are to have married her.

All the above can be kept as generic as you like and it will still be a good speech. If you can make it a bit more personal, e.g. a comment on the first time you met her parents, when you proposed, how your parents supported you, etc. it'll raise it a bit more but that's totally up to you how comfortable you are sharing personal stuff. BTW, if you feel you're not confident about speaking from the heart... just write it out as if you are just speaking to your wife. Trust then that what you wrote is perfect and read it on the day.

Amprodude · 14-01-2019 10:36pm

Bacchus wrote: »

A question that's been asked a few times over the years in here. Worth doing a search of the forum for "groom speech" and see what good advice turns up.

My go to advice if you're not feeling confident about public speaking is to keep it simple. Weather you write it all down, write down just the bullet points or memorize it, keep the speech simple. Thank the right people, compliment the bridesmaids, say something nice about your best man, your parents, your wife's parents, and finally (and most importantly) say something nice about your new wife and how lucky you are to have married her.

All the above can be kept as generic as you like and it will still be a good speech. If you can make it a bit more personal, e.g. a comment on the first time you met her parents, when you proposed, how your parents supported you, etc. it'll raise it a bit more but that's totally up to you how comfortable you are sharing personal stuff. BTW, if you feel you're not confident about speaking from the heart... just write it out as if you are just speaking to your wife. Trust then that what you wrote is perfect and read it on the day.

I was hoping to read and talk from my notes. Im hoping by having it in front of me it will jog me to talk and help me memorise what I'm saying etc. But il have it in front of me in case I mess up.

What can you say about the bridesmaids I mean is it OK to thank them for all their help and assisting my wife at the church etc. Do you propose a toast to the bridesmaids etc?

hanaimai · 15-01-2019 10:02am

Well after much consideration (and stressing!), I'm moving from a 2020 bride to a 2019 bride! Our original plan was to do the traditional style wedding, but for many reasons we've decided to change to a more low key affair with just our closest family and friends. It was a difficult decision to make as we had put a few deposits down already and I really did love our chosen venue, but since we started making arrangements for the 'new plan' I feel beyond relieved! I know this is the right decision for us. We've been lucky with the deposits too - only the band didn't refund - and we were able to change some suppliers to our new date, so very little out of pocket luckily.

And now I get to go on honeymoon earlier than originally planned, delighted haha!

gizmo23 · 15-01-2019 10:07am

Amprodude wrote: »

Anyone have advice for grooms speech? Getting married in a few months and don't know where to start. I don't know what to say and Im not used to talking in a group of over 200 people. Is it OK to read it out on the day. In the ideal world you would talk from the heart but I wouldn't be that confident. What have grooms here done for their wedding day. Thanks.

In the same situation.. what I plan to do is use bullet points on cards such as bridesmaids: beautiful etc.etc.
Brides family: thank them etc.

Short and sweet is the route I am taking. I am leaving the toast to the best man.

Easy to say but try relax and enjoy it.

Bacchus · 15-01-2019 11:08am

Amprodude wrote: »

I was hoping to read and talk from my notes. Im hoping by having it in front of me it will jog me to talk and help me memorise what I'm saying etc. But il have it in front of me in case I mess up.

What can you say about the bridesmaids I mean is it OK to thank them for all their help and assisting my wife at the church etc. Do you propose a toast to the bridesmaids etc?

Sounds like a good plan if that's what works for you.

Regarding the bridesmaid, yes it's perfectly fine (and a nice thing) to say exactly what you suggest there. As for the toasts, you should probably just coordinate with the best man on who is doing toasts. It's really down to personal opinion but you could do toasts for parents (collectively), bridesmaids, and bride. Best man can give one to the bride and groom.

ixoy · 15-01-2019 11:29am

Amprodude wrote: »

Anyone have advice for grooms speech? Getting married in a few months and don't know where to start. I don't know what to say and Im not used to talking in a group of over 200 people. Is it OK to read it out on the day. In the ideal world you would talk from the heart but I wouldn't be that confident. What have grooms here done for their wedding day. Thanks.

Have you considered when you are doing it on the day? I'll be in a similar position in a few months too and we're planning on (short!) speeches before the meal or even during the reception so that it's not hanging over us and we can enjoy the day.

Amprodude · 16-01-2019 1:09am

ixoy wrote: »

Have you considered when you are doing it on the day? I'll be in a similar position in a few months too and we're planning on (short!) speeches before the meal or even during the reception so that it's not hanging over us and we can enjoy the day.

Before the main meals. Just after the starters I was hoping and not go on for more than 4 mins. That won't happen with me anyway.

love_love · 24-01-2019 6:02pm

Don't quite have to worry about it yet, but does anyone have any experience of a linear top table where one side is a single parent and one has both parents? I can find suggestions online of how to seat divorced parents and parents who have remarried, but none where there is only one parent on one side. I know I can just decide on a layout but I find it weird that there are no "guides" that cover single parents.

patricia88 · 25-01-2019 2:38pm

I've been to a few weddings where there was a parent that had passed away.
The parent picked someone else to sit with them on the day - another child, a brother or sister, or just a friend.

dinnyhw · 25-01-2019 3:04pm

love_love wrote: »

Don't quite have to worry about it yet, but does anyone have any experience of a linear top table where one side is a single parent and one has both parents? I can find suggestions online of how to seat divorced parents and parents who have remarried, but none where there is only one parent on one side. I know I can just decide on a layout but I find it weird that there are no "guides" that cover single parents.

We got married 3 weeks ago and had something similar in that my Husband's father has passed away but both my parents are still with us. We chose to have our parents sitting beside us and the bridal party on the outside. It meant my mother in law was sitting in between her two sons ( groom and best man) instead of sitting on her own at the end of the table. It worked well for us and I'm sure could work fine for a single parent also.

love_love · 25-01-2019 3:44pm

Thanks patricia88 and dinnyhw, that's really helpful

dinnyhw · 25-01-2019 10:17pm

Yes, we had an odd number. We had 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen too. The table was placed so that our chairs were still centre as you look up so the odd number wasn’t noticeable. My mother in law made a speech so it actually meant that all of the speakers were centre of the table. The main thing for us though was so she wouldn’t feel conspicuous on her own.
I’m sure your suggestion would work too. For us though some of the bridesmaids didn’t actually know the groomsmen so it wouldn’t have been fair to mix them up!
Hope that helps!

Moody_mona · 02-02-2019 9:58am

https://shop.anpost.com/love-marriage-10-stamp-booklet-hearts-2

20% of stamps, they have an N value so can be used within Ireland. Buy extra for thank you cards if you plan on posting them.

Meauldsegosha · 11-02-2019 7:50pm

I’m so annoyed. :mad: Our hotel, for our wedding in September, has changed its name and I already have my invitations printed. We were out there before Christmas and they showed me their refurbishment plans. They could have mentioned to us then. :mad:

BelovedAunt · 11-02-2019 9:12pm

Hey lads our hotel got in touch recently to say that since VAT has gone up that this will be added on to the price we agreed last year. Has anyone else encountered this?

Meauldsegosha · 12-02-2019 9:12am

BelovedAunt wrote: »

Hey lads our hotel got in touch recently to say that since VAT has gone up that this will be added on to the price we agreed last year. Has anyone else encountered this?

Some hotels have absorbed the increase, others have passed it on the customers. Check what it says in your contract

hanaimai · 12-02-2019 9:55am

BelovedAunt wrote: »

Hey lads our hotel got in touch recently to say that since VAT has gone up that this will be added on to the price we agreed last year. Has anyone else encountered this?

Yes, our venue also did this. When I checked our contract it stated that any changes in tax etc. could affect the price, or something to that effect, so not really anything we could do about it. Just the way the cookie crumbles!

tiredblondie · 12-02-2019 11:26am

BelovedAunt wrote: »

Hey lads our hotel got in touch recently to say that since VAT has gone up that this will be added on to the price we agreed last year. Has anyone else encountered this?

Ours passed it on too....we're not having huge numbers, 70 at most so the overall increase wasn't too bad, around 150euro increase.

love_love · 07-03-2019 1:30pm

How is everyone doing? We're getting close to the wire now, just a few weeks to go!

LirW · 07-03-2019 1:46pm

Tomorrow in a week!
Flying out to Vegas on Tuesday

Meauldsegosha · 07-03-2019 2:47pm

6 months to go for us. We had our intent to marry appointments yesterday. Just a few small bits to get done. Hen's party is the beginning of April so looking forward to that.

tiredblondie · 11-03-2019 1:02pm

Anybody not having a hen party??
Its really not my thing - i just keep ignoring any comments on a hens!!

Scarinae · 11-03-2019 8:14pm

tiredblondie you don't have to have a 'typical' hen party with L plates and willy straws if you don't want to - it would be your hen party so you can do whatever you want to do. But if you don't want one I think that's fine too, my sister-in-law didn't have one.

love_love · 13-03-2019 1:51pm

tiredblondie, defo don't do anything you don't want to, but seconding Scarinae, your hen party can look like whatever you want

I had mine last month with 7 of my friends who didn't know each other and it was so lovely. I've been under a lot of pressure in the past while so it was amazing to have all my decisions made for me and I just had to show up and relax - we stayed in a beautiful old rented farm house and relaxed and chatted and ate. Bliss!

22-03-2019 12:47am

Anyone getting the wedding dreams yet? Always with something forgotten! Three more months of those I assume....

boardz · 22-03-2019 1:53am

BelovedAunt wrote: »

Hey lads our hotel got in touch recently to say that since VAT has gone up that this will be added on to the price we agreed last year. Has anyone else encountered this?

Just on this my understanding is that it depends on when you pay the hotel. For instance if you paid fully in 2018 then the hotel is not liable for the VAT increase and shouldn't pass it on. Pro rata for any amount outstanding in 2019.

Huzzah! · 22-03-2019 9:25am

Deleted User wrote: »

Anyone getting the wedding dreams yet? Always with something forgotten! Three more months of those I assume....

A recurring one where I either forget to pack the dress altogether or put it on to discover I'd forgotten to have it altered.

love_love · 25-03-2019 5:13pm

We're done! It couldn't have been more magical and perfect, wouldn't change a single second of it. For anyone who has it yet to come, I hope it is as stress-free as our day

Meauldsegosha · 11-06-2019 4:22pm

Hi, how is everyone's preparation coming along? We have our invites finished and ready to be sent out tomorrow. 12 weeks to go and it's all starting to feel very real. :eek:

Sir_Name · 12-06-2019 5:47am

Just over 3.5 weeks to go! I don't know where this year has gone... after a panic the last two weeks we are mostly organised just finalising ceremony/menus etc and the last few bits and pieces. I am so excited to see everyone :happy:

Prospector1989 · 12-06-2019 9:18am

We had our big day a couple of weeks ago.
It was brilliant.
The day felt very long but before you know it, you're waking up the morning after.
Enjoy every moment of it.
Remember, something won't go perfectly (we had a couple of minor hiccups on the day), but it doesn't matter, just go with it.

Make sure to enjoy it!

tiredblondie · 12-06-2019 3:30pm

I'm 16 weeks on Saturday - people are asking me for their invites as they want to stay over in the hotel and i'm feeling the pressure with that but surely 16 weeks is waaaaaaaay too early??!!

elle.en · 12-06-2019 3:41pm

tiredblondie wrote: »

I'm 16 weeks on Saturday - people are asking me for their invites as they want to stay over in the hotel and i'm feeling the pressure with that but surely 16 weeks is waaaaaaaay too early??!!

We’re 16 weeks away also and I’m nowhere near sending out invites - I was aiming for last week in July/first week in August, which I think is plenty of time. They can still book into the hotel without the invite I’m sure?

ontheditch2 · 12-06-2019 5:20pm

tiredblondie wrote: »

I'm 16 weeks on Saturday - people are asking me for their invites as they want to stay over in the hotel and i'm feeling the pressure with that but surely 16 weeks is waaaaaaaay too early??!!

What's stopping them booking into the hotel without the invitation? Most people eroded have a very strong inclination on whether to expect an invite or not.
Most hotels do free cancellation on rooms up to a point close to the day.

woodchuck · 12-06-2019 6:33pm

tiredblondie wrote: »

I'm 16 weeks on Saturday - people are asking me for their invites as they want to stay over in the hotel and i'm feeling the pressure with that but surely 16 weeks is waaaaaaaay too early??!!

I've a friend who's getting married March 2020. I'm the overly organised type and asked her about accommodation even though it's aaaaaages away. Good thing I did though, because loads in the area is already booked out!! They're getting married in a very small venue and the big hotel nearby must be booked for another wedding the same weekend.

We went ahead and booked accommodation without the actual invitations though... I'm assuming my OH is invited, but I guess you never know for sure (particularly with kids) until the invites arrive.

You can always tell them to go ahead and book though. They just need to know the location, date and ideally who will be on the invite :P

Meauldsegosha · 12-06-2019 7:27pm

tiredblondie wrote: »

I'm 16 weeks on Saturday - people are asking me for their invites as they want to stay over in the hotel and i'm feeling the pressure with that but surely 16 weeks is waaaaaaaay too early??!!

If you have the invitations and guest list is finalised why not send them out. It’s another job done and ticked off the list.

tiredblondie · 13-06-2019 2:14pm

I'm thinking its too early as i'm afraid people will forget about it haha!!

I think i'll just send the invites to those who i think may want to stay over, everyone else can wait a few more weeks!

aquinn · 13-06-2019 3:52pm

tiredblondie wrote: »

I'm thinking its too early as i'm afraid people will forget about it haha!!

I think i'll just send the invites to those who i think may want to stay over, everyone else can wait a few more weeks!

I would advise against this and send them all at once.

For those you think will stay over contact them by message and advise that rooms are in a block booking, under Code xxxx, and to reserve if they want to.

We had a block booking and got the hotel to monitor who was booking in. They gave us until about a month before the Wedding to confirm the list and then they released the rooms we didn't need.

laoch na mona · 23-06-2019 10:21am

anyone have any pointers for designing the wedding booklet, what definitely needs to be included and what can be left out. Its a church wedding so I assume we can get away with this layout for the booklets

priests name, parents best man maid of honour etc
opening prayer
readings
prayers of the faithful

hanaimai · 08-08-2019 10:16pm

Anyone got any tips for dealing with self-esteem issues on your wedding day? I've got a beautiful dress and shoes and accessories but all I can focus on is the flaws and I feel hyper conscious at the thought of being the center of attention! All I can think about is how fat my arms look or how round my face is or how awful I'm going to look in the photos etc. I'm two months out so realistically my body isn't going to change much before then, but I'm terrified of my self-consciousness ruining both the build-up and the day itself. I have a long history of poor body image/low self-esteem but the wedding seems to be seriously amplifying it. Any ideas for how to cope??

CheerLouth · 09-08-2019 9:16am

hanaimai wrote: »

Anyone got any tips for dealing with self-esteem issues on your wedding day? I've got a beautiful dress and shoes and accessories but all I can focus on is the flaws and I feel hyper conscious at the thought of being the center of attention! All I can think about is how fat my arms look or how round my face is or how awful I'm going to look in the photos etc. I'm two months out so realistically my body isn't going to change much before then, but I'm terrified of my self-consciousness ruining both the build-up and the day itself. I have a long history of poor body image/low self-esteem but the wedding seems to be seriously amplifying it. Any ideas for how to cope??

You poor thing, that is so tough. I also have a tendency to focus on the flaws. Someone told me that when you look in the mirror or at a photo of yourself, before you pick out what you perceive as a flaw, to first make sure you pick something nice about yourself. Even if you just look in and go "my smile was nice", "my hair wasn't as mad as a brush". I was skeptical but it helped me to realise how often I criticised myself and how we quite often say things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to another person.

elle.en · 09-08-2019 9:26am

hanaimai wrote: »

Anyone got any tips for dealing with self-esteem issues on your wedding day? I've got a beautiful dress and shoes and accessories but all I can focus on is the flaws and I feel hyper conscious at the thought of being the center of attention! All I can think about is how fat my arms look or how round my face is or how awful I'm going to look in the photos etc. I'm two months out so realistically my body isn't going to change much before then, but I'm terrified of my self-consciousness ruining both the build-up and the day itself. I have a long history of poor body image/low self-esteem but the wedding seems to be seriously amplifying it. Any ideas for how to cope??

I honestly could have wrote this. I’m getting married in 2 months also and have the same issues/concerns. What I’m trying to focus on is that I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life otherwise and my Fiancé is a huge part of that. I want to make our wedding day less about what I look like and more about the happiness of that day. It’s easier said than done, but as you said not much is going to change in 2 months, so I’m trying to focus on all the other good aspects of the day.

When you look back on photos of the day, try not to look at individual parts of your body, but the expression on your face, and remember how you felt on the day.

love_love · 09-08-2019 1:23pm

I don't know if this is helpful because I'm lucky not to have struggled as much as some with self-esteem, but I have honestly never felt more beautiful than I did on my wedding day a few months ago. I had the same face and body as I always do, and yeah my dress was amazing but it's not transformative. I just felt it. The feelings of the day and being surrounded by those who love you and wish you the best really helps give you to feel positive about everything. The one thing that I am consistently self conscious about is my tummy, since I'm slim it more noticeably sticks out, and get this - I ended up getting my period on the day meaning I had some whopper bloat around the precise area that I dislike most. You can see this in pictures and everything. It didn't matter. I still felt so pretty, and I look it in photos and videos as well, because it's something that radiates.

On "being the centre of attention", it's actually far less intense than you think it is. People are having the chats with each other most of the time, and once they've got their glimpse of you at the start of the day, no-one is staring or watching your every move

I hope this goes some way to helping xx

Tazium · 10-08-2019 12:53am

Yes it's all about the bride and how she appears on the day, self confidence, no matter the thoughts you harbour will overcome the fear you have. Step forward, love yourself as much as your groom does and don't worry too much about others on your wedding day. It's about you and your future husband, the 'we' rather the 'me' and you should absolutely sink into this idilic opportunity to think about others less than normal. Be your beautiful self and worry less, people attend because they care for/love you or your husband-to-be, they won't see anything other than the love you have for each other and the happiness you express. Let that be your focus. Do it! Enjoy it, and make memories that will last forever.

At the same time, let me tell you, as a groom-to-be with 3 weeks to go, I'm doing my best to appear my best on the day. My own gut could do with some scalpel treatment but I know my bride-to-me loves me and the confidence I get from that overcomes all my own insecurities.

11-08-2019 2:27am

Oh hanaimai I feel for you! I guess I am lucky because I work outside and normally look like I have been dragged backwards through a ditch so I knew that any improvement would make me feel good.

I have a lot of self conscious issues too because I have alopecia and I have terrible teeth. I was delighted with my dress though and felt amazing in it - that was a first step. Then my sister in law did my make up - I don't wear make up and was gonna just do my normal half assed job but she did my face up lovely! Honestly when I got there I forgot how awful my teeth are and how my hair might be rubbish and how I was bet into my dress cause I'm not as slim as I used to be. I forgot all if those things when I saw my groom, my love, and we were just so happy. I HATE being the center of attention so bad that I wouldn't even walk down the aisle, but when the day arrived I just winged it. I loved every second. I smiled like I never have before, awful teeth and all.

I guess my advice is to get a dress you love, get your hair and make up done to your wants, then just go forth and love your big day!! I know I never thought I would feel the way I did. I hope you have the same amazing day we did.

hanaimai · 11-08-2019 5:23pm

Thanks all, I really appreciate the kind words. I do hope I will feel differently on the day itself but in the meantime I'm going to try to focus as much as possible on all the good stuff!

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