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Are you any good at eye contact?

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  • #52
    xzanti
    Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 10,439 Mod ✭✭✭✭xzanti


    This is something that gives me terrible anxiety.

    It's one thing that I really overthink and therefore am bad at.

    It's part of the curriculum in school now, in their social development studies; "make eye contact when speaking to people". :mad:

    Why would you draw a child's attention to something that comes naturally to them. Most children make eye contact instinctively. Once you draw attention to it it's now a chore, or something they're aware of having to do.

    I'm pretty sure that once upon a time, I was great at making eye contact, til some halfwit adult made a song and dance about eye contact.

    Please, please just let your kids do what comes naturally to them :(

    /Rant


  • #53
    KilOit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,001 ✭✭✭KilOit


    If more than 5 feet away from me I can hold eye contact when directly talking to me. In a group meeting I never look at the person speaking, generally wander eyes


  • #54
    Redneck Reject71
    Closed Accounts Posts: 586 ✭✭✭Redneck Reject71


    ILoveYourVibes wrote: »
    Yes I think its sad too. But it's the real world.

    Its what my life has taught me. :) If its different for you where you grew up that is happy no :) ?

    Its a wisdom i was gifted.

    Good people will understand and not hold it against you later.

    So if I acknowledge everyone on the street as a human being, that makes me not a good person? Please correct me if I am wrong, it's just sometimes your posts are vague.


  • #55
    Woofin_the_Cat
    Registered Users Posts: 1 ✭Woofin_the_Cat


    I stare at them only from a safe distance. Through the microscopic lense of a Samsung S20.


  • #56
    branie2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,305 ✭✭✭✭branie2


    Yes I am


  • #57
    Rufeo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 503 ✭✭✭Rufeo


    ILoveYourVibes wrote: »
    OP you are one of my fav characters from Hook :)

    I look at different parts of the person ...the hands the body the face the eyes etc...I smile i look at their smile etc ...i think of that as eye contact. I read them and react bounce my eyes slowly around ..i don't eyeball em.

    :)
    Interesting.


  • #58
    Deja Boo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,681 ✭✭✭✭Deja Boo


    ReginaldSmythV wrote: »
    It’s just an experiment.
    :D


  • #59
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I am good at it and I consider it very important. It can be a difficult thing for a lot of people. There is a vulnerability to it. I used to practice a type of mediation which involved softly gazing in to another person's eyes. As we did it we would think kind and compassionate thoughts for that person. It was about really seeing someone and acknowledging their humanity. Yes it was difficult but it helped me be comfortable with eye contact.

    When I encounter a person who struggles to make eye contact I do wonder about them. It's not in a negative way because again I do understand how hard it can be. I just wonder how they feel, are they very shy, struggling with low self esteem, is it my presence that is causing the difficulty etc.

    When I cross paths with a stranger I sometimes make eye contact. Its just a simple human to human interaction that says "I see you".


  • #60
    Rufeo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 503 ✭✭✭Rufeo


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    I am good at it and I consider it very important. It can be a difficult thing for a lot of people. There is a vulnerability to it. I used to practice a type of mediation which involved softly gazing in to another person's eyes. As we did it we would think kind and compassionate thoughts for that person. It was about really seeing someone and acknowledging their humanity. Yes it was difficult but it helped me be comfortable with eye contact.

    When I encounter a person who struggles to make eye contact I do wonder about them. It's not in a negative way because again I do understand how hard it can be. I just wonder how they feel, are they very shy, struggling with low self esteem, is it my presence that is causing the difficulty etc.

    When I cross paths with a stranger I sometimes make eye contact. Its just a simple human to human interaction that says "I see you".

    Sometimes I think it can be more than I see you!


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  • #61
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Rufeo wrote: »
    Sometimes I think it can be more than I see you!

    What do you think it can be?


  • #62
    Rufeo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 503 ✭✭✭Rufeo


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    What do you think it can be?

    I fancy you?


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