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Lesbians

  • 14-01-2013 1:17am
    #1
    plaiboi
    Registered Users Posts: 33 ✭


    I'm afraid of them (us).

    After having had a few relationships over the years. They've lasted between 1 and 4 years. I'm 32 now.

    Broke up with my last girlfriend around 1 year ago, she ended it, I was heart broken blah blah blah. I got over it after a few months and am on good terms with the girl now. I'm scared of getting into another relationship though. Not that I've had any offers or anything but the idea of it just doesn't appeal to me at all anymore simply because I am certain ti will all end in heart ache and upset.

    Has anyone else felt like this?? I don't think I'm bitter or anything like that, it's just seeing friends in relationships I look at them and think oh no, I can't do that- the stress it causes etc.

    Am I ever going to change my mind? It makes me panic at times lol


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  • #2
    jaffacakesyum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,207 ✭✭✭jaffacakesyum


    I don't think that's really a lesbian-specific issue. I'm sure a lot of people get out of relationships heartbroken, regardless of their sexuality, and then find it hard to get back on the wagon, be it fear of getting hurt again or whatever. Don't worry though, it will happen :) Well, I need to tell myself that more I guess - haven't even been in a serious relationship yet!!!


  • #3
    carly_86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 523 ✭✭✭carly_86


    plaiboi wrote: »
    I'm afraid of them (us).

    After having had a few relationships over the years. They've lasted between 1 and 4 years. I'm 32 now.

    Broke up with my last girlfriend around 1 year ago, she ended it, I was heart broken blah blah blah. I got over it after a few months and am on good terms with the girl now. I'm scared of getting into another relationship though. Not that I've had any offers or anything but the idea of it just doesn't appeal to me at all anymore simply because I am certain ti will all end in heart ache and upset.

    Has anyone else felt like this?? I don't think I'm bitter or anything like that, it's just seeing friends in relationships I look at them and think oh no, I can't do that- the stress it causes etc.

    Am I ever going to change my mind? It makes me panic at times lol

    i get what your saying. i am with my partner for the last 2 years. its so stressful. sometimes i wish i was single


  • #4
    jaffacakesyum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,207 ✭✭✭jaffacakesyum


    carly_86 wrote: »
    i get what your saying. i am with my partner for the last 2 years. its so stressful. sometimes i wish i was single

    I don't mean to intrude, or be patronising. At the end of the day, what do I know about relationships! But seriously if the majority of the time with your girlfriend is stressful than why are you with her? Both you and her deserve better than that! Sure relationships sometimes need work; it's not all rainbows and butterflies. But if you wish you were single...that's a bad sign, no?


  • #5
    carly_86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 523 ✭✭✭carly_86


    jaffacakesyum wrote: »

    I don't mean to intrude, or be patronising. At the end of the day, what do I know about relationships! But seriously if the majority of the time with your girlfriend is stressful than why are you with her? Both you and her deserve better than that! Sure relationships sometimes need work; it's not all rainbows and butterflies. But if you wish you were single...that's a bad sign, no?

    its phase i will get over it


  • #6
    plaiboi
    Registered Users Posts: 33 ✭plaiboi


    Carly_86 you've just done what all of my friends (straight and gay) who are in relationships do.... Scared me more haha..


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  • #7
    carly_86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 523 ✭✭✭carly_86


    plaiboi wrote: »
    Carly_86 you've just done what all of my friends (straight and gay) who are in relationships do.... Scared me more haha..

    and what's that


  • #8
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,104 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    carly_86 wrote: »
    and what's that

    What is what?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #9
    carly_86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 523 ✭✭✭carly_86


    mango salsa wrote: »

    What is what?

    i am confused


  • #10
    plaiboi
    Registered Users Posts: 33 ✭plaiboi


    carly_86 wrote: »
    and what's that

    Haha, I wrote it right there in the thing..... "scared me more" ;) ... about the whole relationship thing :D


  • #11
    shoegirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,021 ✭✭✭shoegirl


    It's a fair point. Sounds like you're meeting the wrong women. Maybe think about double thinking over relationships before you get into another awful one.

    I used to lower my standards so I wouldn't be line, but the price paid is too high. Sometimes you have to bypass a few frogs rather than kiss them!


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