The Pregnancy Chat Thread!

Neyite · 08-10-2014 3:16pm

TMI, we cant give you any advice here as medical advice is not permitted. Please call your GP or midwife.

firestarter51 · 08-10-2014 3:25pm

TMI maybe wrote: »

Hi all, I'm 30 weeks pregnant and this morning I lost a part of my mucus plug. It wasn't blood-tinged or anything but should I be worried? I've heard mixed things. Seeing the GP later anyway but just curious if it's happened to anyone else

Same happened to me at 32 weeks
Gp told me I was about to go into labour, up to maternity emergency room and the doctor there told me they don't worry about the mucus plug
That's just my own experience but do get it checked out, they will probably advise a scan to check baby
Good luck

Ms2011 · 08-10-2014 5:36pm

Went back to Slimming World today after being away for 10 weeks as I was too sick to go, I was up 9.5lbs, apparently I wasn't too sick to eat for the last 10 weeks :P

spottybananas · 10-10-2014 12:18pm

I searched this topic on this thread but all the answers it's bringing up are nearly 2 years old. The flu vaccine, does getting it make you a bit sick for a few days, or is it just luck if it does or doesn't? How do you arrange to get it, do you book it with your gp? Sorry if these are stupid questions, I wouldn't have really considered getting it but after being hit with a vomiting bug a couple of weeks ago which I assume was down to my lowered immune system there is no way in hell I'm risking getting very sick again in the near future!

Dolbert · 10-10-2014 12:27pm

I just got a text from my hospital today saying to book with the GP. My baby will be born in winter so definitely getting it.

spottybananas · 10-10-2014 12:30pm

I assume I can ask things like this at my 12 week scan next week? Not sure what happens at it other than the scan but they go through info too yes? There is too much to know! Never mind the fact that we will have to sneak into the hospital hoping we don't see anyone we know even though we have no idea where we're going in there, gotta love small towns :rolleyes:

angeldelight · 10-10-2014 12:58pm

When you get the flu vaccine you could get some mild flu symptoms for a day or two but nausea/sickness would be unusual. Some pharmacies can do the flu vaccine now as well, it can be cheaper than GP. I'm hoping my cold goes soon, really want to get the vaccine before holidays

spottybananas · 10-10-2014 1:00pm

angeldelight wrote: »

When you get the flu vaccine you could get some mild flu symptoms for a day or two but nausea/sickness would be unusual. Some pharmacies can do the flu vaccine now as well, it can be cheaper than GP. I'm hoping my cold goes soon, really want to get the vaccine before holidays

Oh yeah I know I wouldn't get nausea/sickness, I just don't want to get sick again in any way shape or form any time soon. If I'm travelling abroad should I get it before then?

angeldelight · 10-10-2014 1:21pm

spottybananas wrote: »

Oh yeah I know I wouldn't get nausea/sickness, I just don't want to get sick again in any way shape or form any time soon. If I'm travelling abroad should I get it before then?

The earlier the better, just so you're covered

bobskii · 10-10-2014 2:07pm

I just got my flu jab there today . The midwife in my go said it to me ages back so I had a bit of time to research it.

Ms2011 · 20-10-2014 8:09pm

Can I pick the brains of those ladies who are going or have recently gone to the Coombe. I have my first Consultants appointment on Friday & I was just wondering what the procedure is when queuing. SIL said you get a numbered ticket when you queue up for your file but as I already have my file would I still need to queue anyway for a ticket?? SIL had her baby 2 years ago so dunno if things have changed.
I did the Domino scheme last time so never went to the hospital for any of my appointments, I'm a bit in the dark as to what I should be doing:o

January · 21-10-2014 3:25pm

Yes you still need to check in and they give you a number then, was there last year

Ms2011 · 21-10-2014 3:39pm

January wrote: »

Yes you still need to check in and they give you a number then, was there last year

Great January, thanks for that!

January · 21-10-2014 5:05pm

Although the number is just for your BP and urine sample at the midwives, they'll take your chart then and put it in with the consultants others and you'll be called to the consultant by name.

Ms2011 · 21-10-2014 5:17pm

Grand, I just didn't want to be sitting there thinking I was queuing for bp etc. only to realise after awhile that you needed a number & then have to go & queue for that.
I feel like I'm on my first, all this hospital stuff is new to me!

Tigeress · 28-10-2014 1:29pm

Hi ladies

I'm delighted to be back after a long time away! 10w 2d now and my 1st antenatal is on Friday

I haven't fully caught up yet. It's hard with 2 little boys taking up all my time hehe x

Merkin · 28-10-2014 1:36pm

Congratulations Tigeress!

Ms2011 · 28-10-2014 9:58pm

Welcome back Tigeress, congrats on the new baba, hope you & your boys are well.

Had my first pregnancy yoga session tonight, was really good.Instructor has some good info on VBAC & how to prepare for it so looking forward to going again :)

Six of One · 31-10-2014 10:38pm

Hi ladies, I'm in for anti d on Monday in the rotunda. Does anyone know is it just straightforward, like getting a flu jab? I'll be heading in alone and then straight to work, assume that's okay?

angeldelight · 31-10-2014 10:45pm

Six of One wrote: »

Hi ladies, I'm in for anti d on Monday in the rotunda. Does anyone know is it just straightforward, like getting a flu jab? I'll be heading in alone and then straight to work, assume that's okay?

I haven't had it but a friend did - they had to stay for 30-40 mins afterwards being monitored just in case there was a reaction to it but then could leave no problem

mirrorwall14 · 31-10-2014 11:15pm

Six of One wrote: »

Hi ladies, I'm in for anti d on Monday in the rotunda. Does anyone know is it just straightforward, like getting a flu jab? I'll be heading in alone and then straight to work, assume that's okay?

Had to get one last week coz I took a knock. Very straightforward just lots of checks in the nurses part because its a blood product. Actually flu shot is way more sore than it. I only had to hang on 10 mins but I have no fear of needles and was grand

Merkin · 31-10-2014 11:37pm

Six of One wrote: »

Hi ladies, I'm in for anti d on Monday in the rotunda. Does anyone know is it just straightforward, like getting a flu jab? I'll be heading in alone and then straight to work, assume that's okay?

Because it's a human antibody you'll have to sign a disclaimer etc. Needle is straightforward, given in the thigh and doesn't hurt at all. Then requested to wait for half an hour to ensure there's no adverse reaction. Nothing to worry about so nothing to be nervous about. It's interesting then when your bubba comes to see what blood group they are!

I'm A- and Baby Merkin turns out to be A+.

Six of One · 31-10-2014 11:55pm

Thanks for the replies, that sounds grand!

Whispered · 03-11-2014 7:24pm

I'm looking at car seats at the moment. If you buy a newborn one that suits up to 9kg about how long would you get out of the seat? I know it depends on the child but I wouldn't even know where to start guessing!

Woshy · 03-11-2014 7:26pm

Whispered wrote: »

I'm looking at car seats at the moment. If you buy a newborn one that suits up to 9kg about how long would you get out of the seat? I know it depends on the child but I wouldn't even know where to start guessing!

We got about 9/10 months out of ours if I remember correctly. The group 0 ones usually say suitable for up to 12/13 months I think

angeldelight · 03-11-2014 10:32pm

I got to see my baba in 4D today for a few minutes when consultant switched to that mode to look at something and omg I'm in love

spottybananas · 05-11-2014 2:49pm

Ladies I am absolutely awful at this telling people/wanting to tell people thing, would like some advice, opinions, or just general chat about it

We had our 12 (actually 11.5) week scan, all was fine, heartbeat, growing, not a very clear pic and I couldn't see the screen properly as it was behind me but my husband assures me it had arms, legs and eyes :P I'm back early next week for a follow up scan at about 15 weeks because that scan was so poor in terms of what they could see (felt like telling them to get a new scanner because a private one at 7 weeks was better clarity). So, really, I'm getting another scan I wasn't going to be getting at all. We are seeing quite a few close family and friends this weekend in the days just before the next scan, our plan was to tell them but now I want to "hold out" in case the 15 week scan shows bad news, and we'll only just have told them all. But originally I wasn't going to be having this other scan, so would've had to tell people after 12 week scan but without another for reassurance until 20+ weeks, so I think I shouldn't be stalling for this reason.

So, basically, what would you do? Would you miss this chance at telling people we love but don't see often in person and possibly end up telling them over the phone later on (these are all very close people who would like to be told and celebrate in person), or tell them now on the basis that the 12 week scan was fine and stuff? I'm not someone who relaxes now after the 12 week one because I am keenly aware things can go wrong at any time, which I think is colouring my opinion on this, others rush happily to tell once they have that done.

Dolbert · 05-11-2014 3:05pm

Honestly, just tell them. As you know things can go wrong at any stage, so will you really be in a better place to tell them after the 15 week scan? I say this as it seems to really be hanging over you and, while there are no guarantees, if things look good at 12 weeks your chances of things going wrong are really reduced. Best of luck whatever you decide.

spottybananas · 05-11-2014 3:13pm

Dolbert wrote: »

Honestly, just tell them. As you know things can go wrong at any stage, so will you really be in a better place to tell them after the 15 week scan? I say this as it seems to really be hanging over you and, while there are no guarantees, if things look good at 12 weeks your chances of things going wrong are really reduced. Best of luck whatever you decide.

It's not that I'll be in a better place to tell them, it's that I just want to save the hassle of telling people and then having to tell them nope afterwards, I don't like fuss and the last thing I would want is sad fuss and people checking up on me (which I am already sick of with my mother in law but that's a whole other thing). I'd prefer not to tell people until it's born if I could get away with it because I just don't like the fuss and am quite private. Just a few days ago a friend who had everyone told at 9 weeks had to send out a group text telling them that she lost the baby (missed miscarriage spotted at first scan) and that has made for quite a few friends feeling very awkward around her now, with some of them afraid to tell me in case it would worry me, I hate all this pussy footing nonsense that goes with going back on good news and would just like avoid it if it happens.

And it's not "hanging over me" at all, not sure where you got that from. I'm a realist, not a pessimist, and in an ideal world would like to give birth to a live healthy child before having everyone chime in, and tbh good 12 weeks scans have preceded all the major problems/stillborns I've encountered in my family/friends circles, so I don't think it's overreacting or being overly cautious at all to not get my hopes up at this stage.

mirrorwall14 · 05-11-2014 4:42pm

spottybananas wrote: »

It's not that I'll be in a better place to tell them, it's that I just want to save the hassle of telling people and then having to tell them nope afterwards, I don't like fuss and the last thing I would want is sad fuss and people checking up on me (which I am already sick of with my mother in law but that's a whole other thing). I'd prefer not to tell people until it's born if I could get away with it because I just don't like the fuss and am quite private. Just a few days ago a friend who had everyone told at 9 weeks had to send out a group text telling them that she lost the baby (missed miscarriage spotted at first scan) and that has made for quite a few friends feeling very awkward around her now, with some of them afraid to tell me in case it would worry me, I hate all this pussy footing nonsense that goes with going back on good news and would just like avoid it if it happens.

And it's not "hanging over me" at all, not sure where you got that from. I'm a realist, not a pessimist, and in an ideal world would like to give birth to a live healthy child before having everyone chime in, and tbh good 12 weeks scans have preceded all the major problems/stillborns I've encountered in my family/friends circles, so I don't think it's overreacting or being overly cautious at all to not get my hopes up at this stage.

Once you have a strong heartbeat the miscarriage rate drops dramatically. I told a lot at 9.5 weeks because of this

spottybananas · 05-11-2014 4:44pm

mirrorwall14 wrote: »

Once you have a strong heartbeat the miscarriage rate drops dramatically. I told a lot at 9.5 weeks because of this

Yeah I know that, still happens though. Maybe I just know a higher than average amount of people who have lost their babies at 18-30 weeks and soon after birth.

I'm not really sitting here wringing my hands constantly worrying about miscarriage/telling people in case that's the impression people are getting, I'm just trying to pass lonely time isolated at work looking for opinions or experiences. It's more really to do with me being private and not wanting to involve people until I absolutely have to, the less people babying me (pardon the pun) and treating me differently the better, which is why I want to wait as long as possible.

Thanks anyway.

mirrorwall14 · 05-11-2014 4:48pm

spottybananas wrote: »

Yeah I know that.

Personally I wouldn't worry too much about the visuals themselves. You had the strong heartbeat, Id go for it. However based on your posts I think perhaps you lean the other way and Id say go with whatever you are happiest with!

Whispered · 05-11-2014 5:31pm

If you don't want to tell people, don't. It is your pregnancy so do whatever you feel most comfortable with. I was 14 weeks telling people (granted I only found out at 10 weeks) and it didn't matter to anybody how late it was.

I also found it a nice time to sit back and prepare for the opinions, offers of help, inquiries etc etc. You will get them, it's hard to avoid. Like you I'm very private and would rather go through pregnancy without all the worry from other people (not even my own worry but things like people telling me I shouldn't walk too far or carry things etc). I found it difficult when I started to show because you'd catch the flicker of the eyes to the belly and it'd make me feel very self conscious. Got over it once the belly was proper there and not just a small "is she isn't she" bump.

Dolbert · 05-11-2014 6:20pm

If you feel better waiting then wait, there's no harm. Only thing is if your immediate family and close friends already know, there's a greater chance of someone letting it slip the longer time goes on.

angeldelight · 05-11-2014 6:20pm

I'd say it's up to you - only yourself and your husband can make that decision. I suppose you have to weigh up whether it's more important to tell those people in person or wait another little while.

My godmother was over from the UK last week and I really wanted to tell her in person as we're very close so we did - even though due to being away we hadn't actually had a scan after 12 weeks. It was playing on my mind when we went in on Monday for our scan that I'd have more people to tell if anything went wrong, but for me telling her in person was more important as I knew the risk of anything going wrong was so much lower after our scan at 11 weeks

spottybananas · 05-11-2014 6:45pm

My husband wants to tell everyone, I want to tell nobody. It's immediate family that we are planning to tell this weekend, his still don't know just due to geography and wanting to tell them in person. There isn't much fear of it getting out from the 10 or so people who do know, they are scattered and most have no links to other social circles we have. The ones who know have known for a month or more and it hasn't leaked to anyone yet, such a good secret keeping bunch, they know how much trouble they'd be in if they didn't :P

I think I'm just going to have to grin and bear it, this weekend are all his people so he'll be annoyed with me if I make him wait longer. My own friends and family know me well enough to know I'm not a baby talk "omg so excited lol" kind of person, but I fear for my sanity when his side know based on his mother's (over)enthusiasm so far. She attempted to touch my "belly" a few days ago...I look no different than I have for the last 5 years, she nearly lost the hand :mad:

bobskii · 05-11-2014 7:46pm

let him tell his people if that's what he wants,then just refuse to engage in the baby talk if and when it comes!I don't do the whole baby talk thing it's just not me either . myself and a friend had a good laugh at how many people I met the other day who tried to engage me in it.

misspumpqueen · 06-11-2014 1:11am

Can a woman's 2nd pregnancy differ from her first? I had extremely sore boobs on my first at around 3-4 weeks, n I'm ttc n think I may be pregnant but haven't any sore boobs yet. I'm waiting a week to see if my period comes before taking a test.

spottybananas · 06-11-2014 10:53am

misspumpqueen wrote: »

Can a woman's 2nd pregnancy differ from her first? I had extremely sore boobs on my first at around 3-4 weeks, n I'm ttc n think I may be pregnant but haven't any sore boobs yet. I'm waiting a week to see if my period comes before taking a test.

Yes, each pregnancy can differ.

Blingy · 06-11-2014 11:20am

spottybananas wrote: »

My husband wants to tell everyone, I want to tell nobody. It's immediate family that we are planning to tell this weekend, his still don't know just due to geography and wanting to tell them in person. There isn't much fear of it getting out from the 10 or so people who do know, they are scattered and most have no links to other social circles we have. The ones who know have known for a month or more and it hasn't leaked to anyone yet, such a good secret keeping bunch, they know how much trouble they'd be in if they didn't :P

I think I'm just going to have to grin and bear it, this weekend are all his people so he'll be annoyed with me if I make him wait longer. My own friends and family know me well enough to know I'm not a baby talk "omg so excited lol" kind of person, but I fear for my sanity when his side know based on his mother's (over)enthusiasm so far. She attempted to touch my "belly" a few days ago...I look no different than I have for the last 5 years, she nearly lost the hand :mad:

Spottybananas you have me in a fit of giggles here at your last comment!!!
Must admit I have no interest telling people. Only told some of my immediate family because they had pretty much guessed. Haven't told hubby's side yet waiting for first hospital appointment and then will tell them. Don't have any interest in the baby talk unless it's people offering to help out ( babysit, offering Moses basket etc) and I know that's probably not right either. It's a long way till the end of May next year!!!
Hubby's parents will be over the moon. Not sure I have much interest in the fawning over me at the time. I know it's awful but everyone is different and I'm not a centre of attention person.
Spottybananas do what feels right for you. There is no right and wrong here!!!

spottybananas · 06-11-2014 12:02pm

Blingy wrote: »

Hubby's parents will be over the moon. Not sure I have much interest in the fawning over me at the time. I know it's awful but everyone is different and I'm not a centre of attention person.
Spottybananas do what feels right for you. There is no right and wrong here!!!

See this is it though, why is it awful? None of my family fawn over people about anything, we're a very close family but when people have good news we're delighted, congratulate them, then take the p!ss out of them! I love that my husband's family are different (variety is the spice of life and all that) and are quite huggy and emotional, but dear God don't try and touch me without warning me. I've had handholding, crying, the touching incident, over the course of only two days, I just sit there and shut down and want to leave! And then I get asked by everyone "Oh are your family delighted? They must be so excited!"...my family don't really do excitement

So I just have to nod and smile!

spottybananas · 07-11-2014 1:03pm

Oh wise ones, any tips of surviving through the night (and the day to a lesser extent) with really bad nasal congestion? I am prone to it anyway but it has just gone to a whole new level now. It wakes me up, with a banging headache, that I can't lift with just panadol. I had a nasal spray thing but it says it's only suitable in pregnancy if the need outweighs any risks which isn't too comforting.

So anyone have any successful home remedies or advice?

angeldelight · 07-11-2014 1:18pm

You can get isotonic saline sprays which are quite good, basically like when you get sea water up your nose and it clears everything out - I can't remember the name which is odd as I sell them in work but they'll know in the pharmacy what you're talking about. Also there's a Neilmed sinus rinse which you basically pour up your nose and it clears things out very efficiently as well!

Whispered · 10-11-2014 5:18pm

I have a quick question. I'm getting the last few bits ready and want to put my going home clothes somewhere easy for my husband to find or go knows what I'll end up wearing home

So I was getting clothes ready and realised that on the day I'll probably want nothing more than to just slob straight home. Do you all recommend getting dressed properly, get back into the world and be presentable or am I better off bringing trakkies and other lazy afternoon clothes. I'm torn.

Dolbert · 10-11-2014 5:21pm

I'm going to wear home one of my nice stretchy maternity dresses with leggings, nice and comfy! They do recommend you wear comfortable, loose-fitting clothing for the way home.

Ocean Blue · 10-11-2014 5:22pm

Whispered wrote: »

I have a quick question. I'm getting the last few bits ready and want to put my going home clothes somewhere easy for my husband to find or go knows what I'll end up wearing home

So I was getting clothes ready and realised that on the day I'll probably want nothing more than to just slob straight home. Do you all recommend getting dressed properly, get back into the world and be presentable or am I better off bringing trakkies and other lazy afternoon clothes. I'm torn.

Comfort clothes all the way!! I wore maternity leggings and a loose maternity blouse home. You don't know how much of a bump you'll still have after so don't bring normal clothes with you. My clothes were so comfy and the blouse covered my bum so I wasn't conscious of wearing the big pads that might have been visible under leggings.

Ms2011 · 10-11-2014 5:28pm

I wote loose trakkie bottoms & a hoodie home, didn't want anything too tight on after the section as I was still quite sore.
I didn't get out until 4:30pm so just went straight home & plonked on the couch was in bed not long after that

fro9etb8j5qsl2 · 10-11-2014 6:38pm

I wore maternity leggings and a cosy jumper. Bring loose comfy shoes aswell. I was too sore to bend over and pull my boots on and for some reason, no amount of fooling around from my OH could coax them on (even though my feet hadn't swelled) so I had to wear my slippers going home

spottybananas · 12-11-2014 10:54pm

Felt a very odd little vibration earlier, I actually checked if my phone was in my hoody pocket...it was on the table. It was in from my hip bone, where the scan would suggest some feet are residing, could it be movement, or just yet another odd muscle I didn't know I had?? I'm just over 16 weeks, and am intrigued

angeldelight · 12-11-2014 11:15pm

spottybananas wrote: »

Felt a very odd little vibration earlier, I actually checked if my phone was in my hoody pocket...it was on the table. It was in from my hip bone, where the scan would suggest some feet are residing, could it be movement, or just yet another odd muscle I didn't know I had?? I'm just over 16 weeks, and am intrigued

I've no idea but I hope so cause I'm only a few days behind you

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