Is it weird that I rather be at work than home?

Asmooh · 17-12-2015 11:56am #1

I was wondering, is that weird? I ment.. if I wake up in the weekends it's like: gosh again another useless day! and I'm happy when I wake up during the week or when I can work in the weekends.

Is this weird or are there more people like me?

Cee-Jay-Cee · 17-12-2015 11:57am

You are weird.

sashafierce · 17-12-2015 11:59am

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NothingMan · 17-12-2015 12:00pm

If I'm off sick for a few days I get a bit stir crazy and would happily go back to the office, but if I'm off for legit reasons or weekends etc then I don't acknowledge that such a thing as work exists and fill my time with more worthwhile activities, like running and eating and visiting family and friends etc...

LDN_Irish · 17-12-2015 12:00pm

No offence intended here, but I feel a kind of pity for people like you*. For me, life is too short to be wasting it working. I work to have enough money to do things and be comfortable when I spend time with my family and friends and that's that. I already have to give away 40 hours of my week when I'm working FT and that's far too much as far as I'm concerned.

*I'm aware that you can flip this post around and have the "workaholic" types feeling sorry for the "workshy" so I'm only saying how I feel rather than proclaiming a universal truth.

jrby · 17-12-2015 12:01pm

married with three kids....sometimes id rather be at work

SEPT 23 1989 · 17-12-2015 12:02pm

gosh?

Hammer89 · 17-12-2015 12:02pm

Did you grow up in the Fritzl house?

Paddy@CIRL · 17-12-2015 12:03pm

It just means that you've probably chose the right job for you.

c_man · 17-12-2015 12:04pm

While I think it's nice that you obviously like your job, there's got to be something else you enjoy doing which you could do on weekends? A useless day?! C'mon lad.

Asmooh · 17-12-2015 12:13pm

Currently in the weekends, or after work.. lets start after work

When I come home I sometimes make some food, watch serie and go to sleep around 9
In the weekends I don't do much more than the same, watch series and just be bored and waiting till its monday.

A month or two ago I could do overtime, so I work 8-7 and sat/sun 8-5 and I was fine with it.
This week I could do 8-7 and sat 8-5 but not sunday, mostly sunday I am bored.

The house is clean 90% of the time because I make sure it stays clean, the rest I do after work or Sunday.
I do go and walk trough the city so now and then but I have seen everything I want to see by now and its just killing time.
Same with going to the pier or sandymount, just to kill time.

Ciaran_B · 17-12-2015 12:14pm

I have 13 days of holidays to take before the end of the year, that I'm not going to be able to take and so will lose. I'm not that pushed.

I've already been on holiday this year so i'd just be taking days off and mooching about. I can't stand being aimless and just pissing about. I find myself feeling really low at the end of a day doing nothing, especially when it's dark at 16.30.

So like the OP sometimes I'd rather be in work.

dinneenp · 17-12-2015 12:16pm

Do you have any hobbies, things you like doing? People you like to meet?

c_man · 17-12-2015 12:17pm

Ciaran_B wrote: »

I have 13 days of holidays to take before the end of the year, that I'm not going to be able to take and so will lose. I'm not that pushed.

:eek: I know people like you, and I just don't get it. Are you going to lose them all? Or how many can you carry over?

Asmooh · 17-12-2015 12:19pm

dinneenp wrote: »

Do you have any hobbies, things you like doing? People you like to meet?

- I do have hobby's, which are cars and I won't have my car back until Januari (which is soon anyway, but even then I wont be working on it because I dont have my own garage)

- Things I like to do: Working, and working on cars

- No I dont like to meet people

nikpmup · 17-12-2015 12:24pm

Ciaran_B wrote: »

I have 13 days of holidays to take before the end of the year, that I'm not going to be able to take and so will lose. I'm not that pushed.

I've already been on holiday this year so i'd just be taking days off and mooching about. I can't stand being aimless and just pissing about. I find myself feeling really low at the end of a day doing nothing, especially when it's dark at 16.30.

So like the OP sometimes I'd rather be in work.

I'm not allowed take A/L in December. I have 2 days off at Christmas, and I'm grateful for it. 2 days to see my family, spend with my son & partner, have some good food & wine, before heading back in for 13 hr shifts back-to-back. I'd kill for 13 days off!

kylith · 17-12-2015 12:29pm

No, there is always something I'd rather do than work: go out and meet people, read a book, do a puzzle, surf the net, catch up with TV shows I've been meaning to watch, shop, cook, eat, garden, clean. There's so much to do it's hard to fit it all in.

mfceiling · 17-12-2015 12:29pm

Same OP. Work is slowing down at the moment as everyone gets ready for Xmas. Cracking up with a few days off.

intheclouds · 17-12-2015 12:30pm

Theres loads of people like you OP. My father in law developed depression after he retired because he literally only lived to work.

I dont understand it myself. There are not enough hours in the day for me to do all the things I am interested in doing, and even when I was redundant there werent enough hours for me. Work is a massive waste of my time in terms of all the interesting things I could be doing that I enjoy doing!

My only explanation for it (after seeing my father in law struggle) is that people who prefer work are not engaged with the world around them. No interests, no hobbies, no interest in learning anything new, nothing sets them alight.

For me - I am immensely interested in so many different subjects that even if I lived 10 lifetimes there wouldnt be time for me to explore them all. I suppose fundamentally I am thirsty for knowledge and experiences.

AND - I love relaxing and just goofing off on the couch for a few hours - although I know the appeal of this wears off if you do it too much.

I just dont get bored.

timthumbni · 17-12-2015 12:35pm

Asmooh wrote: »

Currently in the weekends, or after work.. lets start after work

When I come home I sometimes make some food, watch serie and go to sleep around 9
In the weekends I don't do much more than the same, watch series and just be bored and waiting till its monday.

A month or two ago I could do overtime, so I work 8-7 and sat/sun 8-5 and I was fine with it.
This week I could do 8-7 and sat 8-5 but not sunday, mostly sunday I am bored.

The house is clean 90% of the time because I make sure it stays clean, the rest I do after work or Sunday.
I do go and walk trough the city so now and then but I have seen everything I want to see by now and its just killing time.
Same with going to the pier or sandymount, just to kill time.

Working 8-7 during the week, going to bed at 9 and working weekends sounds like my idea of hell. I do know plenty of people like you but I just don't understand it. It seems your life now is your work. Living to work as opposed to working to live.

If it works for you or anyone else then it's up to you but Imo we are only given a short number of good years in our lives if we are lucky. I hope you don't look back when it's too late and say wtf was I doing.

asherbassad · 17-12-2015 12:36pm

Asmooh wrote: »

I was wondering, is that weird? I ment.. if I wake up in the weekends it's like: gosh again another useless day! and I'm happy when I wake up during the week or when I can work in the weekends.

Is this weird or are there more people like me?

Unless you're a porn-star then you're a friggin' weirdo.

Ciaran_B · 17-12-2015 12:42pm

c_man wrote: »

:eek: I know people like you, and I just don't get it. Are you going to lose them all? Or how many can you carry over?

Can probably carry over 1 or 2 days.

I have hobbies and interests - I go cycling, see movies, read books, play video games, play guitar all that good stuff. I've just not been able to plan anything to fill my excess leave days this year. I've no family of my own and I quite like my job so I don't mind losing the days too much.

If my leave period ended in July or something I'd take the days but when it's dark so early in the day I'd rather be in work. Hmm, I'm really not as sad as that sentence suggests. Just not a big fan of winter.

asherbassad · 17-12-2015 12:44pm

Ciaran_B wrote: »

Can probably carry over 1 or 2 days.

I have hobbies and interests - I go cycling, see movies, read books, play video games, play guitar all that good stuff. I've just not been able to plan anything to fill my excess leave days this year. I've no family of my own and I quite like my job so I don't mind losing the days too much.

If my leave period ended in July or something I'd take the days but when it's dark so early in the day I'd rather be in work. Hmm, I'm really not as sad as that sentence suggests. Just not a big fan of winter.

Everyone hates winter, mate

Sunny Dayz · 17-12-2015 12:50pm

I can see where the OP is coming from. Depending on where you work, in a lot of workplaces there is a set routine, set schedule so you know what you have to do and where you stand. You have a sense of purpose. If you're at home you have to motivate yourself to do things, you may not have a set routine and it's easy to wile away the day and have nothing to show for it.

Maximus Alexander · 17-12-2015 12:55pm

Can't imagine this. I don't have enough hours in a week to do even 10% of the things I'd like to. As it is I only sleep about 6 hours a night to try and claw back some time for the things I enjoy. The idea of a 'useless day' is incomprehensible. Perhaps you ought to consider trying some new hobbies?

Shenshen · 17-12-2015 1:00pm

While I do love my work, I wouldn't regard days off as a waste at all. Tons of stuff to do, I usually can't get it all done in the time off I have.

I think your problem, OP, is that you don't seem to have any hobbies or interests outside of working. It can actually be very hard to figure out what might be interesting, I know my mother went through a phase like that. She had no interests or hobbies, and couldn't see herself doing any of the activities suggested to her by her family.
So we suggested she finds a leisure-time activity that's not too far removed from what she was working at. It made her feel like what she was doing was actually useful (it was), she got out a bit on her time off, made friends and in small steps discovered a world of new activities she would never have previously considered.

So, depending on what you work as, OP, I would suggest maybe volunteering of some sort? Or starting a private little project that might be useful to yourself as well as others?

Asmooh · 17-12-2015 1:17pm

Shenshen wrote: »

While I do love my work, I wouldn't regard days off as a waste at all. Tons of stuff to do, I usually can't get it all done in the time off I have.

I think your problem, OP, is that you don't seem to have any hobbies or interests outside of working. It can actually be very hard to figure out what might be interesting, I know my mother went through a phase like that. She had no interests or hobbies, and couldn't see herself doing any of the activities suggested to her by her family.
So we suggested she finds a leisure-time activity that's not too far removed from what she was working at. It made her feel like what she was doing was actually useful (it was), she got out a bit on her time off, made friends and in small steps discovered a world of new activities she would never have previously considered.

So, depending on what you work as, OP, I would suggest maybe volunteering of some sort? Or starting a private little project that might be useful to yourself as well as others?

But I do.. I hope to be at mondellopark every weekend from next year on

Shenshen · 17-12-2015 1:19pm

Asmooh wrote: »

But I do.. I hope to be at mondellopark every weekend from next year on

Oh, my mistake, sorry.
But if you do, if you don't mind me asking, why did you say you feel time off is just "killing time"?

Asmooh · 17-12-2015 1:31pm

Shenshen wrote: »

Oh, my mistake, sorry.
But if you do, if you don't mind me asking, why did you say you feel time off is just "killing time"?

Because that is what I did for the last few years, currently im not doing anything and I didnt for the last year and I reather be at work.

If i have nothing to do, why not be at work then doing nothing? at least im doing something useful

timthumbni · 17-12-2015 1:39pm

Asmooh wrote: »

Because that is what I did for the last few years, currently im not doing anything and I didnt for the last year and I reather be at work.

If i have nothing to do, why not be at work then doing nothing? at least im doing something useful

You wouldn't have caught the old money bug by any chance. I knew someone who worked overtime every weekend for years. He had a family and he was told by me and other workmates that he should cut back a bit but he liked the extra dollars in his bank balance at the end of the month. He was always tired and had absolutely no spare time. His marriage eventually fell apart. Years later and he admits that he wished he had did things differently.

Asmooh · 17-12-2015 1:44pm

timthumbni wrote: »

You wouldn't have caught the old money bug by any chance. I knew someone who worked overtime every weekend for years. He had a family and he was told by me and other workmates that he should cut back a bit but he liked the extra dollars in his bank balance at the end of the month. He was always tired and had absolutely no spare time. His marriage eventually fell apart. Years later and he admits that he wished he had did things differently.

im not married, and I totally agree with the extra money

Pac1Man · 17-12-2015 1:54pm

Asmooh wrote: »

If i have nothing to do, why not be at work then doing nothing? at least im doing something useful

Why do you need to be doing something useful? That question is not as mad as it sounds.

Why do you feel you need to have something to show at the end of the day? Sitting in front of the TV for a day is not time wasted if it's something you want to do. Do you feel guilty about switching off?

Asmooh · 17-12-2015 1:59pm

Pac1Man wrote: »

Why do you need to be doing something useful? That question is not as mad as it sounds.

Why do you feel you need to have something to show at the end of the day? Sitting in front of the TV for a day is not time wasted if it's something you want to do. Do you feel guilty about switching off?

because I think that the time you have you should do useful things, can be work, or well if you think watching tv is useful then that is a useful thing for you.

but for me, watching tv of series isnt really useful and i only do it because i have nothing else to do.

When i lived in holland when I was bored I took the car for a spin (mostly in germany because of the autobahn) but also sometimes just driving to nowhere.

I hope next year is a better year and find people that do car meetings and stuff, because thats the only thing except work that I really like

Pac1Man · 17-12-2015 2:03pm

Well if what you are doing makes you genuinely happy and are not masking over some other issues, I would suggest keep doing it. It might not be a popular choice but I wouldn't feel guilty or question it.

NachoBusiness · 17-12-2015 2:15pm

I've heard people say this and similar before and I've never understood it.

There isn't enough hours in a day for me to watch stuff I wanna watch, read stuff I wanna read, fap to the things I wanna fap to, walk, wander, eat, trick at and that's before I consider things that need doing like housework and the like. There is tooo much to do. Remember Billy Connolly saying once that his ideal setting was unemployment as then he do what the fcuk he wanted. Are people just no good at filling their time or something? Fcuk me I'd fill two years right of the bat just watching foreign movies and box sets I've earmarked. As a great American philosopher once said:

Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

syklops · 17-12-2015 2:24pm

NachoBusiness wrote: »

I've heard people say this and similar before and I've never understood it.

There isn't enough hours in a day for me to watch stuff I wanna watch, read stuff I wanna read, fap to the things I wanna fap to, walk, wander, eat, trick at and that's before I consider things that need doing like housework and the like. There is tooo much to do. Remember Billy Connolly saying once that his ideal setting was unemployment as then he do what the fcuk he wanted. Are people just no good at filling their time or something? Fcuk me I'd fill two years right of the bat just watching foreign movies and box sets I've earmarked. As a great American philosopher once said:

I dont get it either.

I love my job, but the stress and hassle of going to and coming from the job is a pain in the arse. If I was allowed work from home all the time, I could do 20% more work for free and still have more time for myself.

I'm also with you on the ability to ocupy myself. TV and movies to watch, games to play, books to read, research to do, code to write. Theres a ton of things I could be doing. Only thing Id miss would be finincial freedom.

kylith · 17-12-2015 2:44pm

Asmooh wrote: »

because I think that the time you have you should do useful things, can be work, or well if you think watching tv is useful then that is a useful thing for you.

But why do you feel that you have to be useful all the time? That's the kind of thing that'll have you working yourself into an early grave, and do you think your employer will care?

If you like cars why not look into model car racing? I was at a model rally a few years ago and not only are the models serious pieces of kit but it's very popular with guys who race what they called 'big' cars too.

Maximus Alexander · 17-12-2015 2:59pm

Asmooh wrote: »

because I think that the time you have you should do useful things, can be work, or well if you think watching tv is useful then that is a useful thing for you.

but for me, watching tv of series isnt really useful and i only do it because i have nothing else to do.

When i lived in holland when I was bored I took the car for a spin (mostly in germany because of the autobahn) but also sometimes just driving to nowhere.

I hope next year is a better year and find people that do car meetings and stuff, because thats the only thing except work that I really like

If you're into motors you could rent a garage somewhere and buy a car you like that needs some work done, then spend your free time tinkering up in the garage. A friend of mine does this - he can't wait to get up to the place after work.

But genuinely, it sounds like you just don't have enough interests / hobbies to me. There are so many things to do that I'm not going to start throwing random darts at things, but there must be little things at the back of your mind that you've sometimes thought you'd like to do / try / learn more about / create etc.

beauf · 17-12-2015 3:06pm

intheclouds wrote: »

....My only explanation for it (after seeing my father in law struggle) is that people who prefer work are not engaged with the world around them. No interests, no hobbies, no interest in learning anything new, nothing sets them alight....

What might be true for some people, I don't think its true for all people who like working. Some people just love their work, or work in general. It almost always interests and impassion them. However I think most people don't end up working at something that does that for them. They might like it, even a lot, but its not an all consuming passion.

beauf · 17-12-2015 3:09pm

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

...But genuinely, it sounds like you just don't have enough interests / hobbies to me. ...

For some people work is their interest, hobby.

Asmooh · 17-12-2015 3:13pm

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

If you're into motors you could rent a garage somewhere and buy a car you like that needs some work done, then spend your free time tinkering up in the garage. A friend of mine does this - he can't wait to get up to the place after work.

But genuinely, it sounds like you just don't have enough interests / hobbies to me. There are so many things to do that I'm not going to start throwing random darts at things, but there must be little things at the back of your mind that you've sometimes thought you'd like to do / try / learn more about / create etc.

If i do that all my money goes to that rent and there is nothing left to spent on the car

Asmooh · 17-12-2015 3:14pm

beauf wrote: »

For some people work is their interest, hobby.

In holland I had my own store, webshop, build website for people, phone repair, I was busy all day with work

Ash.J.Williams · 17-12-2015 3:18pm

Asmooh wrote: »

Currently in the weekends, or after work.. lets start after work

When I come home I sometimes make some food, watch serie and go to sleep around 9
In the weekends I don't do much more than the same, watch series and just be bored and waiting till its monday.

A month or two ago I could do overtime, so I work 8-7 and sat/sun 8-5 and I was fine with it.
This week I could do 8-7 and sat 8-5 but not sunday, mostly sunday I am bored.

The house is clean 90% of the time because I make sure it stays clean, the rest I do after work or Sunday.
I do go and walk trough the city so now and then but I have seen everything I want to see by now and its just killing time.
Same with going to the pier or sandymount, just to kill time.

Jesus Christ man I'm so happy it was "time" you were killing

mariaalice · 17-12-2015 3:30pm

I work part time and my children are grown up, my parents are dead, before I went back to study part time I had a lot of time on my hands and on an occasional dull winter afternoon the thought did enter my head that it might be nicer to be in work. I have lots of interests and friend but its not really about that I don't think.

intheclouds · 17-12-2015 3:39pm

beauf wrote: »

What might be true for some people, I don't think its true for all people who like working. Some people just love their work, or work in general. It almost always interests and impassion them. However I think most people don't end up working at something that does that for them. They might like it, even a lot, but its not an all consuming passion.

Even if work was your passion its healthy to be able to unwind from it as well.

Although I do know some people who love work, I think that they are in the minority (not that that matters), but the danger is that if something happens like redundancy, company restructure, retirement etc can have a terrible effect on such a person.

beauf · 17-12-2015 3:42pm

Asmooh wrote: »

In holland I had my own store, webshop, build website for people, phone repair, I was busy all day with work

Its not about being busy.

That a different thing.

beauf · 17-12-2015 3:44pm

intheclouds wrote: »

Even if work was your passion its healthy to be able to unwind from it as well.

Although I do know some people who love work, I think that they are in the minority (not that that matters), but the danger is that if something happens like redundancy, company restructure, retirement etc can have a terrible effect on such a person.

That's just means those people shouldn't retire in the traditional sense. Many people retire and start a 2nd career.

That's not to say some people don't have an unhealthy attitude to work/life balance. But that's a different issue.

intheclouds · 17-12-2015 3:52pm

beauf wrote: »

That's just means those people shouldn't retire in the traditional sense. Many people retire and start a 2nd career.

Theres also the aspect of being a "busy fool". Just doing it to be busy as opposed to deriving any real pleasure from it.

beauf · 17-12-2015 4:09pm

intheclouds wrote: »

Theres also the aspect of being a "busy fool". Just doing it to be busy as opposed to deriving any real pleasure from it.

But if someone can get pleasure from doing nothing, or not work all the time. Its highly probable some people are wired the opposite.

Some people like music. Some people don't.

intheclouds · 17-12-2015 4:11pm

beauf wrote: »

But if someone can get pleasure from doing nothing, or not work all the time. Its highly probable some people are wired the opposite.

Some people like music. Some people don't.

Yes I agree, but what I am referring to is people who just stay busy to be busy, as opposed to enjoying being busy. People who have no interests and who feel upset or bored when they are doing nothing. But they dont love whatever is keeping them busy, they just do things so they wont be doing nothing. The busy isnt a passion, its just a way of avoiding doing nothing.

TitianGerm · 17-12-2015 4:12pm

Asmooh wrote: »

I was wondering, is that weird? I ment.. if I wake up in the weekends it's like: gosh again another useless day! and I'm happy when I wake up during the week or when I can work in the weekends.

Is this weird or are there more people like me?

I've a bad cold/flu since Tuesday night. Went to work yesterday and today anyway because I'd be bored out of my mind at home all day.

Is it weird that I rather be at work than home?

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