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Anxious parent: how to protect the child?

  • 12-11-2018 3:27am
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm married to a great, loving mother to our children. She is, however, very anxious (clinically diagnosed for many years). Our 3-year-old daughter is now showing signs of being anxious in daily life and it's disturbing to witness it in one so young. My wife clearly got it from her own mother and the environment in her home, and I would really like to break this circle and protect my daughter.

    While my wife is naturally bossy and that's no problem as I can just address the issue quietly, when she is worried about something that is urgent (and there's much last minute drama in this world) she can be loud and tempestuous and this creates tension that is clearly being soaked up by the little one. Fear is the default in so many responses and all sorts of implausible scenarios are invoked to justify various responses (she seems to read an inordinate number of Daily Mail shock stories as some sort of feed for anxiety)

    How can I as husband and father help to make our home a calmer place, and how can she as mother curtail her anxiety so that our little one avoids it?


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,756 ✭✭✭Xterminator


    Hi Op

    I recommend you read these books - recommended to me by a counsellor.

    The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You
    Elaine N. Aron

    The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them
    by Elaine N. Aron (Author)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 281 ✭✭Feets


    Well done for spotting it. I have seen a friend do that. You will need counselling to support yourself to save your child and it really is a case of saving. Stand up to your wife. Bossy people dont respect those they boss whether they know they are doing it or not. But please do save your child.


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