What moment taught you life wasn't fair?

mr_fegelien · 24-01-2020 9:09pm #1

I've probably covered this question but here we go again, when did you learn that life wasn't just at all?

KaneToad · 24-01-2020 9:16pm

The time I opened a thread to see it was started by you.

Yamanoto · 24-01-2020 9:28pm

When the credits rolled on The Neverending Story

Ipso · 24-01-2020 9:29pm

Yamanoto wrote: »

When the credits rolled on The Neverending Story

Hows that Lionel Hutz case doing?

corner of hells · 24-01-2020 9:30pm

When I realised "Titanic " wasn't a true story.

jaxxx · 24-01-2020 9:35pm

When did you?

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 24-01-2020 9:47pm

When I was about three and learned I couldn't have everything just because I wanted it.

What about yourself OP? Another thread with no actual input from yourself.

Life isn't fair. It's not meant to be fair. But that's not something necessarily negative.

Pauliedragon · 24-01-2020 9:57pm

When I was about 15 and waking up to realise Pamela Anderson wasnt going down on me. It. was just a dream. Oh the joys of teenage years.

24-01-2020 9:58pm

Decker Elegant Pedestal wrote: »

When I was about three and learned I couldn't have everything just because I wanted it.

What about yourself OP? Another thread with no actual input from yourself.

Life isn't fair. It's not meant to be fair. But that's not something necessarily negative.

You need to let that one go. Sometimes a question is grand.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 24-01-2020 10:02pm

ReginaldSmythV wrote: »

You need to let that one go. Sometimes a question is grand.

More often an opinion is better. This one doesn't even require an opinion, such an example. Hardly rocket science even for the OP.

Loopylineking · 24-01-2020 10:03pm

Myself

When I finished college and reliazed ****, now I have to work for the next 44 years and provide for myself which I’m currently doing.

Council house tenant

Well I popped out a baby at 19 intentionally and I wanted a brand new two story house but I only got one that was 5 years old. That’s when I knew life was unfair. Also only able to take two holidays to Spain every year on my welfare, thought it would be more but oh well.

Plumbthedepths · 24-01-2020 10:04pm

I was five and my friend was 6 when he was killed in a car crash. I guess that was the moment for me.

decky1 · 24-01-2020 10:06pm

when i crashed my car [write off] this morning due to the low sun, came around a corner and hit a van did'nt even see it till i hit it.

WesternZulu · 24-01-2020 10:13pm

Mayo getting to loads of All-Ireland finals and losing them all.

24-01-2020 10:32pm

I got pulled out of this warm lovely place where I just had to float around.

Then someone kept smacking me on the back until I started screaming.

And since then every time I start screaming people slap me until I stop.

Make up your mind people!

EDIT: Oh yeah - and then Optimus Prime went and died.

Guava Juice · 24-01-2020 10:33pm

I'd be more interested in what made people think life was fair. It's quite obviously not fair, we are the 1%, the lucky minority born in one of the wealthiest and safest countries in the world and in the history of civilisation.

touts · 24-01-2020 10:36pm

When chancers who were younger than me and had less intelligence somehow ended up running the government.

touts · 24-01-2020 10:39pm

touts wrote: »

When chancers who were younger than me and had less intelligence somehow ended up running the government.

Actually screw that. When I opened RTE news and read about 3 children being found dead. What ****ing fairness is there in life when things like that happen.

Asitis2019 · 24-01-2020 10:41pm

Decker Elegant Pedestal wrote: »

When I was about three and learned I couldn't have everything just because I wanted it.

What about yourself OP? Another thread with no actual input from yourself.

Life isn't fair. It's not meant to be fair. But that's not something necessarily negative.

That's not true

Some of us have great stories, pretty stories that take place at lakes, with boats, and friends, and noodle salad. Just no one on this site. But, a lot of people, that's their story; good times, noodle salad.

What makes it so hard is not that you had it bad, but that you're that pissed that so many others had it good.

(Source: As Good As it Gets)

cannotlogin · 24-01-2020 10:43pm

I was 10 when those two boys the same age as me then, kidnapped, tortured and killed James Bulger in Liverpool.

Not sure if it was when I learnt life was unfair, but definitely when I realised that everything in life was not just good. First time I remember feeling scared or worried bad things could happen. I had nightmares for weeks even though my parents were the type to switch channels when stuff like that came on tv and would shield us from things like that.

Duke of Url · 24-01-2020 10:46pm

When I watched Watership down as a child. I cried

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 24-01-2020 10:49pm

Asitis2019 wrote: »

That's not true

Some of us have great stories, pretty stories that take place at lakes, with boats, and friends, and noodle salad. Just no one on this site. But, a lot of people, that's their story; good times, noodle salad.

What makes it so hard is not that you had it bad, but that you're that pissed that so many others had it good.

(Source: As Good As it Gets)

Not sure what your point is. Some can have a great life (I had a great life) and other don't - is that fair? Three children died in Dublin tonight - is that fair?

Brooks isn't necessarily the oracle on life. A fictional character's pseudo philosophical lines aren't always thought provoking.

jon1981 · 24-01-2020 10:49pm

When my mother died suddenly and unexpectedly at 63. Most of us are accustomed to death due to an illness or old age. Certainly that's all I ever knew.

An unexpected death is hard to stomach, especially to someone who wanted nothing more than grand children to look forward to spoiling and had more good things ahead of her than behind, she had a pretty ****ty life due to things i won't go into. She died before her grandchildren reached the age of 2.

The unfairness of it all crosses my mind daily.

And then finally when you do get the coroners report after a 6month wait. You're greeted with a sparsely written 2 page document with the same word littered throughout, "unremarkable", in reference to every interior organ they analysed.
With a conclusion of "something to do with the heart but inconclusive".

Life is pretty unfair for most.

Potential-Monke · 25-01-2020 2:08am

I didn't realise it at the time, but the first time I remember that life wasn't fair, was in secondary school. In 3rd year, my favourite subjects were Maths and Technical Graphics. Got an A in honors maths and honors TG in the junior cert. Then did Transition Year, because I was young as fook and wanted a foreign holiday. Best school year of my life. Anyway, into 5th year and, obviously, I wanted to continue with TG and wanted to do the higher level maths.

Wasn't allowed do the higher level maths as I was 'too disruptive', even though maths was the 1 class I paid attention to from start to finish. Wasn't allowed to do TG becasue it was clashing with French, and I HAD to do French. Personally think that decision ruined my future career prospects. Ended up taking up fecking business in the end, hated it and barely passed. Could have been an architect, or quantity surveyor, but no.

Plenty more examples since. My biggest one at the moment is how unfair it is that I legally have to have pregnancy/maternity and child cover on my PERSONAL Health Insurance, even though I'm male and never want kids, all so it's more affordable for people who do. Fcuk that. And it'll never change, becasue there's too many bleeding hearts out there that automatically give passes to people just because they proved they can fcuk. Up there with it is the Childrens Allowance. I personally think it should be scrapped, end of. Can't afford to have kids? Then don't fcuking have them!!!

Plumbthedepths · 25-01-2020 2:10am

jon1981 wrote: »

When my mother died suddenly and unexpectedly at 63. Most of us are accustomed to death due to an illness or old age. Certainly that's all I ever knew.

An unexpected death is hard to stomach, especially to someone who wanted nothing more than grand children to look forward to spoiling and had more good things ahead of her than behind, she had a pretty ****ty life due to things i won't go into. She died before her grandchildren reached the age of 2.

The unfairness of it all crosses my mind daily.

And then finally when you do get the coroners report after a 6month wait. You're greeted with a sparsely written 2 page document with the same word littered throughout, "unremarkable", in reference to every interior organ they analysed.
With a conclusion of "something to do with the heart but inconclusive".

Life is pretty unfair for most.

Hi Jon sorry for your loss, an unexpected death is very tough for those left behind to deal with. I can only guess but from your post I"m assuming your Mum knew the love you had for her. She can never know what she missed but I 'm sure she cherished what she had with her grandchildren. Life is unfair but knowing you are loved makes it easier. As long as you remember her, she is not truly dead. Tell your children about her., her personality. Through you they will know her.
Sorry for intruding.

25-01-2020 2:16am

When I was 13 and I saw my brother die and then 2 months after finding out my dad died.

Life had pretty much shown how cruel it could be at that stage.

It still manages to throw a couple of curve balls to remind me it can still **** you up more.

But on balance, the birth of my daughter, my beautiful wife and the life I have with them prove how amazing life can be so it's swings and roundabouts really.

Green Peter · 25-01-2020 2:16am

WesternZulu wrote:

Mayo getting to loads of All-Ireland finals and losing them all.

To a Galway man that is life being fair!

harry Bailey esq · 25-01-2020 2:18am

jon1981 wrote: »

An unexpected death is hard to stomach

The unfairness of it all crosses my mind daily

Life is pretty unfair for most.

Not much I can add to that. Fair dues.

tdf7187 · 25-01-2020 4:06am

Loopylineking wrote: »

Myself

When I finished college and reliazed ****, now I have to work for the next 44 years and provide for myself which I’m currently doing.

Council house tenant

Well I popped out a baby at 19 intentionally and I wanted a brand new two story house but I only got one that was 5 years old. That’s when I knew life was unfair. Also only able to take two holidays to Spain every year on my welfare, thought it would be more but oh well.

Most convoluted rationale for welfare bashing post I've ever seen, even by After Hours standards.

vriesmays · 25-01-2020 11:40am

When a neighbour with the same surname as me gave birth to a disabled baby and people phoned my mother to laugh at her thinking it was her grandchild.

25-01-2020 1:00pm

tdf7187 wrote: »

Most convoluted rationale for welfare bashing post I've ever seen, even by After Hours standards.

True though.

What moment taught you life wasn't fair?

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