approaching women

mr_fegelien · 15-05-2020 6:49pm #1

Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

nullzero · 15-05-2020 6:50pm

It's acceptable if you're hot.

Cobalt17 · 15-05-2020 6:52pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

No it’s not taboo, it’s just becoming super rare. Approaching women in bars is becoming rarer also. Due to online dating, 18-25 year old men are limp-wristed and cowardly in terms of the “traditional” model of courtship.

corks finest · 15-05-2020 6:53pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

Joinea dating club/ forum , hiking club, drama etc, or just let it happen

Badly Drunk Boy · 15-05-2020 6:54pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

Have you considered doing it in the US/South America/Australia etc..?

B.A._Baracus · 15-05-2020 6:55pm

People are right on here... He does post some shi*e.

Signore Fancy Pants · 15-05-2020 6:56pm

This is all lies.

The OP's mammy is not in her 20's.

NSAman · 15-05-2020 6:56pm

Pick the most stunning feature of the lady, face, eyes, legs, dress sense, humour (only if you know it), and then say something smart funny and insulting (but ONLY with a sense of humour) see the reaction...;)

15-05-2020 6:58pm

Neighbour of mine,has a solution for the OP,he's plastered drunk all the time*

*this approach may end in chronic alcoholism and liver failure

Marlay · 15-05-2020 7:11pm

Maybe she appeared to take the compliment well because she didn't know how you would react otherwise. Particularly if you had noticeably been drinking. If she was alone and/or the bus stop was quiet probably best to leave people alone really.

TuringBot47 · 15-05-2020 7:18pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

And you're bragging online about talking to a woman?
Or more likely talking at a woman ?

Giraffe Box · 15-05-2020 7:29pm

NSAman wrote: »

Pick the most stunning feature of the lady, face, eyes, legs, dress sense, humour (only if you know it), and then say something smart funny and insulting (but ONLY with a sense of humour) see the reaction...;)

Just a few modifications to render it authentically Irish:

1. Drink too much alcohol.

2. Pick the most stunning feature of the lady and stare silently, but psychotically,
whilst swaying gently in the breeze.

3. After she hops on the bus screaming 'help', mutter a few expletives and go home to mammy.

Andrew00 · 15-05-2020 7:33pm

If ur ugly and compliment a girl you'll get done for harassment or they'll call you a creep

JuneMoon7 · 15-05-2020 7:33pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

Dont approach women waiting on a bus. That is bordering on confrontational and frankly, most women would find that threatening and creepy.

Andrew00 · 15-05-2020 7:35pm

Approaching woman standing alone at the bus stop at 11pm at night telling them they look nice..... Lol

moonlighting_1 · 15-05-2020 7:36pm

SIMP

suicide_circus · 15-05-2020 7:44pm

women have excellent peripheral vision but if you approach them from the front they can't see you

Giraffe Box · 15-05-2020 7:53pm

suicide_circus wrote: »

women have excellent peripheral vision but if you approach them from the front they can't see you

....or so they keep telling you!

pgj2015 · 15-05-2020 7:59pm

There is something really lame about telling a woman who you just met that she is pretty. To me that isn't how you chat someone up, because it seems really shallow and you are making it obvious that you fancy them. You should talk to them like you would any person male or female, have a laugh etc id say telling a stranger you just met at a bus stop that they are pretty would freak them out if they weren't into you.

I would be cringing big time if i saw what you say you did at the bus stop.

Central Services · 15-05-2020 8:05pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

There is something really lame about telling a woman who you just met that she is pretty. To me that isn't how you chat someone up, because it seems really shallow and you are making it obvious that you fancy them. You should talk to them like you would any person male or female, have a laugh etc id say telling a stranger you just met at a bus stop that they are pretty would freak them out if they weren't into you.

I would be cringing big time if i saw what you say you did at the bus stop.

Yes. Women prefer if your admiration is conveyed obliquely or indirectly.
A small trail of spittle flowing from your mouth down your chin as you chat about the bus timetable and weather should do the trick.

Hrududu · 15-05-2020 8:07pm

NSAman wrote: »

Pick the most stunning feature of the lady, face, eyes, legs, dress sense, humour (only if you know it), and then say something smart funny and insulting (but ONLY with a sense of humour) see the reaction...;)

Ah someone’s read about negging.

The title of the thread sounds like you’re creeping up on them with a net.

cj maxx · 15-05-2020 8:11pm

Hrududu wrote: »

Ah someone’s read about negging.

The title of the thread sounds like you’re creeping up on them with a net.

That's what I thought.!

Esel · 15-05-2020 8:11pm

Zero poster thanks the OP!

NSAman · 15-05-2020 8:12pm

Hrududu wrote: »

Ah someone’s read about negging.

The title of the thread sounds like you’re creeping up on them with a net.

I find a baseball bat works better! Hey it worked in the stone age!

pgj2015 · 15-05-2020 8:13pm

Central Services wrote: »

Yes. Women prefer if your admiration is conveyed obliquely or indirectly.
A small trail of spittle flowing from your mouth down your chin as you chat about the bus timetable and weather should do the trick.

I honestly can say I don't think iv ever told a woman I just met that she was pretty even in a pub/club, if you are talking to them, drinking with them, having a laugh etc it is obvious the two of you fancy each other, no need to be all "I thing your very pretty"

NSAman · 15-05-2020 8:15pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

I honestly can say I don't think iv ever told a woman I just met that she was pretty even in a pub/club, if you are talking to them, drinking with them, having a laugh etc it is obvious the two of you fancy each other, no need to be all "I thing your very pretty"

That only works if you are Chinese.

If you are Irish it could be seen as very culturally inappropriate!

cj maxx · 15-05-2020 8:20pm

Hrududu wrote: »

Ah someone’s read about negging.

The title of the thread sounds like you’re creeping up on them with a net.

I just googled negging. That's how I always got the shift! It's wasn't meant in an undermining way though, just craic .
I'm a bad man ðŸ˜‚

One eyed Jack · 15-05-2020 8:27pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

No it’s not taboo, it’s pretty much a normal everyday thing.

You’ll hear all sorts btw, but anyone using the term “cold approach” is best ignored. Over-analysing everything isn’t good for you either.

LeYouth · 15-05-2020 9:33pm

Maybe we should help this guy get a girlfriend. Then he'll stop posting inane threads.

ebbsy · 15-05-2020 9:36pm

Signore Fancy Pants wrote: »

This is all lies.

The OP's mammy is not in her 20's.

Yore Ma

Gradius · 15-05-2020 9:54pm

1) Wait until the female is in a situation from which she cannot easily escape. Bus stop, accident and emergency department, unconscious etc

2) In order to create an attractive and overpowering musk, steep your vest in onion juice overnight in preparation

3) The female responds well to exaggerated accents/peculiar vocal ticks. Rasping and gasped breathing are solid approaches, however wheezing whispers also work a treat.

4) Profuse sweating demonstrates virility to the females

5) The more you keep looking over your shoulder the better. Sudden, rapid hand and eye movements are a bonus

6) Thank me later

15-05-2020 9:55pm

Gradius wrote: »

1) Wait until the female is in a situation from which she cannot easily escape. Bus stop, accident and emergency department, unconscious etc

2) In order to create an attractive and overpowering musk, steep your vest in onion juice overnight in preparation

3) The female responds well to exaggerated accents/peculiar vocal ticks. Rasping and gasped breathing are solid approaches, however wheezing whispers also work a treat.

4) Profuse sweating demonstrates virility to the females

5) The more you keep looking over your shoulder the better. Sudden, rapid hand and eye movements are a bonus

6) Thank me later

I'll thank you now. Subscribed.

DisneyLover · 15-05-2020 10:02pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

2 lads did this to me recently neither of them where Irish lads if they where Irish u would have been shocked and 100% would go out with nothing beats confidence

ChikiChiki · 15-05-2020 10:06pm

Worked in Vila Olympia CBD in Sao Paolo for December and it was an eye opener. Very flirty culture and the lads from our office and the surrounding offices very happy to flirt openly and chat up female office workers on the lunch breaks. And in Brazilian culture the women are very open to being casually chatted to on the street.

As a mate said, it's very different in Brazil. The women like to be noticed and admired and catch your eye. A female colleague asked me to go for a one to one drink which caught me off guard.(I didn't go being a socially awkward twat at times).

We are much more reserved certainly here in Ireland and I could not imagine striking up casual conversation on the street here at lunchtime being received well.

Church on Tuesday · 15-05-2020 10:08pm

If a woman is pretty she will already know that, she doesn't need to be told.

Also, there are better places to strike up a conversation with a woman than the bus stop, but it can happen, say, if a bus is late you could pass some comment about it and sure see where the convo goes I guess.

Leg End Reject · 15-05-2020 10:09pm

Gradius wrote: »

1) Wait until the female is in a situation from which she cannot easily escape. Bus stop, accident and emergency department, unconscious etc

2) In order to create an attractive and overpowering musk, steep your vest in onion juice overnight in preparation

3) The female responds well to exaggerated accents/peculiar vocal ticks. Rasping and gasped breathing are solid approaches, however wheezing whispers also work a treat.

4) Profuse sweating demonstrates virility to the females

5) The more you keep looking over your shoulder the better. Sudden, rapid hand and eye movements are a bonus

6) Thank me later

*swoons*

pgj2015 · 15-05-2020 10:31pm

Moonrise70 wrote: »

It's often easier to approach groups of women rather than a woman on her own, when you approach a group nobody feels under pressure really. You can spread your attention around the group and ask them how they know eachother, or make it fun and guess.

That doesn't sound like it would be much fun.

Gradius · 15-05-2020 10:32pm

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

If a woman is pretty she will already know that, she doesn't need to be told.

Also, there are better places to strike up a conversation with a woman than the bus stop, but it can happen, say, if a bus is late you could pass some comment about it and sure see where the convo goes I guess.

Exactly. But while commenting on "oh this bus is awfully late, isn't it?", that's when you add in, really rushed, "areyouwearingpanties".

This subconsciously stimulates the female brains borotid complex. You can tell it's working if you look them dead in the eye immediately afterward, there should be a blue glow coming from behind the dilated eyes.

Andrew00 · 15-05-2020 10:33pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

That doesn't sound like it would be much fun.

Only if they all came back to ur gaff

Gradius · 15-05-2020 10:36pm

Moonrise70 wrote: »

It's often easier to approach groups of women rather than a woman on her own, when you approach a group nobody feels under pressure really. You can spread your attention around the group and ask them how they know eachother, or make it fun and guess.

Yes, the herding effect is most pleasing. Don't let any stragglers break away from the group as you circle, bringing them to bay in the nearest corner. One or two may attempt to climb over the others heads but a sharp whistle will put them at ease.

pgj2015 · 15-05-2020 10:38pm

so how do you all know each other? let me guess, ah are you her sister? "no im her college friend". are you her co worker? "no school friend". are you ...... ah forget it im boring myself here. night ladies. "yeah whatever".

Leg End Reject · 15-05-2020 10:39pm

Gradius wrote: »

Exactly. But while commenting on "oh this bus is awfully late, isn't it?", that's when you add in, really rushed, "areyouwearingpanties".

This subconsciously stimulates the female brains borotid complex. You can tell it's working if you look them dead in the eye immediately afterward, there should be a blue glow coming from behind the dilated eyes.

Panties.

Ugh

*vomits* No blue glow from behind my constricted pupils.

bo0li5eumx12kp · 15-05-2020 10:41pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

First you were like, "you're pretty".

.....

But later on you were like, "IT PUTS THE LOTION ON THE SKIN!!"

pgj2015 · 15-05-2020 10:46pm

Moonrise70 wrote: »

Go easy on the questions. Make statements.

"You two look like best friends, "I'm not sure about her though, she just gave you a dirty look". Then switch into something completely different. Don't be linear, instead multithread the conversation.

reading the game at the moment?

Kylta · 15-05-2020 10:47pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

Did you take your blow-up-doll to a bus stop. And were you indulging in narcotics, that you thought your blow-up-doll was tempting you into conversation. Oh by the way why Did you name your doll Nigel

pgj2015 · 15-05-2020 10:48pm

Moonrise70 wrote: »

Read that 15 years ago.

You never forgot it though.

Gradius · 15-05-2020 10:51pm

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Panties.

Ugh

*vomits* No blue glow from behind my constricted pupils.

"areyouwearingskimpyknickers"

Pupils flicker.

"areyouwearingskintightleglesstrousersbeneathyourdungarees"

Pupils disappear...

bo0li5eumx12kp · 15-05-2020 11:09pm

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4sTgUgM_Pq4

Basic cliff notes for the OP.

Loafing Oaf · 15-05-2020 11:13pm

Mr Fegelien, Ireland's answer to Neil Strauss

Church on Tuesday · 15-05-2020 11:16pm

Gradius wrote: »

"areyouwearingskimpyknickers"

Pupils flicker.

"areyouwearingskintightleglesstrousersbeneathyourdungarees"

Pupils disappear...

Calm down Feg.

Castlekeeper · 15-05-2020 11:18pm

Isaiah Square Tutor wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4sTgUgM_Pq4

Basic cliff notes for the OP.

Well wherever he is, there's a pretty high standard of women, and bizarrely, the one that didn't interact was the least attractive one.

approaching women

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