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  • 15-05-2020 6:49pm
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    mr_fegelien
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    Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

    But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...


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    nullzero
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    ****


    It's acceptable if you're hot.

    Glazers Out!



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    Cobalt17
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    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

    But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

    No it’s not taboo, it’s just becoming super rare. Approaching women in bars is becoming rarer also. Due to online dating, 18-25 year old men are limp-wristed and cowardly in terms of the “traditional” model of courtship.


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    corks finest
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    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

    But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

    Joinea dating club/ forum , hiking club, drama etc, or just let it happen


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    Badly Drunk Boy
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    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...
    Have you considered doing it in the US/South America/Australia etc..?


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    B.A._Baracus
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    People are right on here... He does post some shi*e.


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    Signore Fancy Pants
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    This is all lies.

    The OP's mammy is not in her 20's.


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    NSAman
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    Pick the most stunning feature of the lady, face, eyes, legs, dress sense, humour (only if you know it), and then say something smart funny and insulting (but ONLY with a sense of humour) see the reaction...;)


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    [Deleted User]
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    Neighbour of mine,has a solution for the OP,he's plastered drunk all the time*







    *this approach may end in chronic alcoholism and liver failure


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    Marlay
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    Maybe she appeared to take the compliment well because she didn't know how you would react otherwise. Particularly if you had noticeably been drinking. If she was alone and/or the bus stop was quiet probably best to leave people alone really.


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    TuringBot47
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    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

    And you're bragging online about talking to a woman?
    Or more likely talking at a woman ?


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    Giraffe Box
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    NSAman wrote: »
    Pick the most stunning feature of the lady, face, eyes, legs, dress sense, humour (only if you know it), and then say something smart funny and insulting (but ONLY with a sense of humour) see the reaction...;)

    Just a few modifications to render it authentically Irish:

    1. Drink too much alcohol.

    2. Pick the most stunning feature of the lady and stare silently, but psychotically,
    whilst swaying gently in the breeze.

    3. After she hops on the bus screaming 'help', mutter a few expletives and go home to mammy.


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    Andrew00
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    If ur ugly and compliment a girl you'll get done for harassment or they'll call you a creep


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    JuneMoon7
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    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

    But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

    Dont approach women waiting on a bus. That is bordering on confrontational and frankly, most women would find that threatening and creepy.


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    Andrew00
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    Approaching woman standing alone at the bus stop at 11pm at night telling them they look nice..... Lol


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    moonlighting_1
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    SIMP


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    suicide_circus
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    women have excellent peripheral vision but if you approach them from the front they can't see you


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    Giraffe Box
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    suicide_circus wrote: »
    women have excellent peripheral vision but if you approach them from the front they can't see you

    ....or so they keep telling you!


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    pgj2015
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    There is something really lame about telling a woman who you just met that she is pretty. To me that isn't how you chat someone up, because it seems really shallow and you are making it obvious that you fancy them. You should talk to them like you would any person male or female, have a laugh etc id say telling a stranger you just met at a bus stop that they are pretty would freak them out if they weren't into you.

    I would be cringing big time if i saw what you say you did at the bus stop.


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    Central Services
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    pgj2015 wrote: »
    There is something really lame about telling a woman who you just met that she is pretty. To me that isn't how you chat someone up, because it seems really shallow and you are making it obvious that you fancy them. You should talk to them like you would any person male or female, have a laugh etc id say telling a stranger you just met at a bus stop that they are pretty would freak them out if they weren't into you.

    I would be cringing big time if i saw what you say you did at the bus stop.

    Yes. Women prefer if your admiration is conveyed obliquely or indirectly.
    A small trail of spittle flowing from your mouth down your chin as you chat about the bus timetable and weather should do the trick.


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    Hrududu
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    NSAman wrote: »
    Pick the most stunning feature of the lady, face, eyes, legs, dress sense, humour (only if you know it), and then say something smart funny and insulting (but ONLY with a sense of humour) see the reaction...;)

    Ah someone’s read about negging.

    The title of the thread sounds like you’re creeping up on them with a net.


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    cj maxx
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    Hrududu wrote: »
    Ah someone’s read about negging.

    The title of the thread sounds like you’re creeping up on them with a net.

    That's what I thought.!


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    Esel
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    Zero poster thanks the OP!

    Not your ornery onager



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    NSAman
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    Hrududu wrote: »
    Ah someone’s read about negging.

    The title of the thread sounds like you’re creeping up on them with a net.

    I find a baseball bat works better! Hey it worked in the stone age!


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    pgj2015
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    Central Services wrote: »
    Yes. Women prefer if your admiration is conveyed obliquely or indirectly.
    A small trail of spittle flowing from your mouth down your chin as you chat about the bus timetable and weather should do the trick.


    I honestly can say I don't think iv ever told a woman I just met that she was pretty even in a pub/club, if you are talking to them, drinking with them, having a laugh etc it is obvious the two of you fancy each other, no need to be all "I thing your very pretty"


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    NSAman
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    pgj2015 wrote: »
    I honestly can say I don't think iv ever told a woman I just met that she was pretty even in a pub/club, if you are talking to them, drinking with them, having a laugh etc it is obvious the two of you fancy each other, no need to be all "I thing your very pretty"

    That only works if you are Chinese.

    If you are Irish it could be seen as very culturally inappropriate!


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    cj maxx
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    Hrududu wrote: »
    Ah someone’s read about negging.

    The title of the thread sounds like you’re creeping up on them with a net.

    I just googled negging. That's how I always got the shift! It's wasn't meant in an undermining way though, just craic .
    I'm a bad man 😂


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    One eyed Jack
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    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

    But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...


    No it’s not taboo, it’s pretty much a normal everyday thing.

    You’ll hear all sorts btw, but anyone using the term “cold approach” is best ignored. Over-analysing everything isn’t good for you either.


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    LeYouth
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    Maybe we should help this guy get a girlfriend. Then he'll stop posting inane threads.


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    ebbsy
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    Signore Fancy Pants wrote: »
    This is all lies.

    The OP's mammy is not in her 20's.

    Yore Ma


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    Gradius
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    1) Wait until the female is in a situation from which she cannot easily escape. Bus stop, accident and emergency department, unconscious etc

    2) In order to create an attractive and overpowering musk, steep your vest in onion juice overnight in preparation

    3) The female responds well to exaggerated accents/peculiar vocal ticks. Rasping and gasped breathing are solid approaches, however wheezing whispers also work a treat.

    4) Profuse sweating demonstrates virility to the females

    5) The more you keep looking over your shoulder the better. Sudden, rapid hand and eye movements are a bonus

    6) Thank me later


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