Veggie Love.

16-11-2007 6:06pm #1

What is your status?

Are you in a realtionship with a veggie/vegan?
If so how did come about, did you fancy each other straight away or did you work at it because you shared ideals?
Or are you in a relationship with a meat eater? Do you find you the difference has any effect on the realtionship? If you have children how do you agree to raise them?

If your single does your choice to be a veg*n affect your choice of partner.

sweet-rasmus · 16-11-2007 8:12pm

ah, i love this kind of chat! i am a vegan, in a relationship with a veggie. works out very well

hmmm, how did it begin? we were friends, and i had learnt he was veggie, and then we hung out one day (before i'd always hung out with him while i was in a relationship)... magic! it was a definite plus knowing he was veggie

i suppose it's part of who you are.

shall we be hearing your comments on this moonbaby?

16-11-2007 8:59pm

You lucky thing!
I think it is a lovely ideal to be in a relationship with a fellow veggie or vegan.
When I was much younger, it was a criteria.
That didn't work out so well for me, pickings were slim, and while it was a nice to share that common bond, I found the process a bit artifical.
I think realtionships work better for me if they are based on an initial attraction.

I'm lucky in that it has never been a bone of contention with a meateater boyfriend. I have never had someone try to convert me, nor have I have.
I'm wondering if someone is trying to convert chessplayer at the minute.

But I do think that wanting to raise veggie children would cause rows.
Thats a non-negotiable for me.

Although I know veg*n couples who chose to raise their children as meateaters, until such time as they can chose for themselves.

Nature Boy · 16-11-2007 11:15pm

In a relationship with a fellow veggie. she inadvertantly converted me by the way. works very handily

no worrying about meal contents!

Slaphead07 · 16-11-2007 11:49pm

Moonbaby wrote: »

Although I know veg*n couples who chose to raise their children as meateaters, until such time as they can chose for themselves.

How do you cook and buy meat products? I never could.

I was a veggie before I met the current Mrs Slap but after a while she started eating whatever I ate... and liked it. Shortly after she gave up the meat and is still a veggie.

Kids came along and we fed them on a vegetarian diet with the caveat that if there were any issues we would deal with that. There wasn't. They were the healthiest kids around and still are. My daughter, now 18, went over to "the dark side" in her teens (her phrase!) but my son who's 14 has not intention of ever eating meat.

17-11-2007 12:39am

I actually do buy and cook meat for someone that I care for, who isn't physically able to do so for themselves.
I felt just like you before,Necessity meant I just had to get over it.
I would never cook meat for an other half though.

great unwashed · 17-11-2007 12:51am

Have several friends who are committed vegetarians (women) and they insist on feeding their children with whatever the children eat be it meat or not and let them decide themselves later. Whatcha think of that?

rockbeer · 17-11-2007 1:28am

Interesting question...

My partner follows a mostly vegetarian diet, like me. She did, on and off, before we met, but more off than on since from what I can gather, her diet consisted mainly of chips during the meat-free phases. mShe had to get some nutrition from somewhere occasionally.

I do almost all the cooking, she likes what I serve up, and we're both deliriously happy

But diet was nothing to do with the initial attraction, it was just a bonus to find out we both felt pretty much the same about eating dead things.

I wouldn't cook meat for anyone no matter how much I loved them. Nor let them use my pans to cook it for themselves. Kids not an issue either (fortunately!), but I'd be like you Slaphead - I wouldn't cook meat for them, they'd have to sort it out for themselves if they wanted it once they were old enough.

Slaphead07 · 17-11-2007 11:49am

great unwashed wrote: »

they insist on feeding their children with whatever the children eat be it meat or not and let them decide themselves later. Whatcha think of that?

So they're teaching their kids a different set of values than they live by themselves? I don't get it. As a vegetarian I can't pretend that I believe eating meat is "normal" - should I show my kids how to be a hypocrite? (a useful skill in Ireland I'll admit!)

Diet is just one part of rearing children, as parents you influence them in many many ways. I may be agnostic but I'm not not going to teach my kids catholicism until they make up their own minds.

Tar.Aldarion · 17-11-2007 4:49pm

i am a vegetarian, in a relationship with a vegan. works out very well hmmm, how did it begin? We were friends, and I had learnt she was veggie, and then we hung out one day (before i'd always hung out with her while she was in a relationship and I ws in love with somebody else)... magic! It was a definite plus knowing she was vegan. I suppose it's part of who you are.
:P

Red Hand · 17-11-2007 5:07pm

Be very gentle with your vegan partner the first time. You don't want them to remember it as a bad experienc...whoops! Thought this was PI.

bigslick · 17-11-2007 5:13pm

In relationship at the moment with a vegan. I am neither vegan or vegatarian. havent had any problems thou, is nice to be with someone different, if ya get me. When i tell people i meet shes vegan they all go, "What?!! But why?!!" lol!

I respect her lifestyle and choices and she respects mine. works out great

lolli · 19-11-2007 4:38pm

Hi,

I have been vegetarian 13 years. My boyfriend eats meat but will also eat veggie food. I will cook meat for him and my family I have no problems with that.

projectmayhem · 19-11-2007 4:48pm

my girlfriend's a veggie. we were friends before we started going out so i knew this going into the relationship. i don't mind eating veggie stuff, it makes me feel healthier

the only trouble is cooking with different pots/pans and cleaning the george forman VERY thoroughly after cooking meat on it.

though i don't mind the substitute meats. the beef generally sucks, but the chicken isn't so bad. hard to describe though. it's chicken, but not...

Tar.Aldarion · 19-11-2007 4:55pm

Try the meatballs, oh yeah, better than real ones.

maniac101 · 21-11-2007 12:29pm

I gave up eating animals years ago. I've since married a meat eater and have two meat-eating children. They're subjected to a lot of vegetarian dishes though, as I don't and won't cook meat for them. No problems up to recently. Lately however, my oldest little girl has started to ask why daddy's dinner is different to hers!

23-11-2007 2:33pm

projectmayhem wrote: »

my girlfriend's a veggie. we were friends before we started going out so i knew this going into the relationship. i don't mind eating veggie stuff, it makes me feel healthier

the only trouble is cooking with different pots/pans and cleaning the george forman VERY thoroughly after cooking meat on it.

though i don't mind the substitute meats. the beef generally sucks, but the chicken isn't so bad. hard to describe though. it's chicken, but not...

What does your Gf cook on the George Foreman?

23-11-2007 2:35pm

Slaphead07 wrote: »

So they're teaching their kids a different set of values than they live by themselves? I don't get it. As a vegetarian I can't pretend that I believe eating meat is "normal" - should I show my kids how to be a hypocrite? (a useful skill in Ireland I'll admit!)

Diet is just one part of rearing children, as parents you influence them in many many ways. I may be agnostic but I'm not not going to teach my kids catholicism until they make up their own minds.

I pretty much agree with this. I don't understand your friends logic, but each to their own.

projectmayhem · 29-11-2007 3:49pm

Moonbaby wrote: »

What does your Gf cook on the George Foreman?

uses it to heat up wraps, sandwiches and the like. handier then using the grill

then there's veggie burgers and so on

Veggie Love.

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