Things you just "don't get"?

lawred2 · 14-02-2020 9:51am

I wouldn't be up for a scatter of pints.. I'll have a few and head home. Wouldn't want the next day ruined with a hangover. Not fair to the kids.

lapua20grain · 14-02-2020 11:06am

lawred2 wrote: »

I wouldn't be up for a scatter of pints.. I'll have a few and head home. Wouldn't want the next day ruined with a hangover. Not fair to the kids.

That's exactly what I do, plenty of time for pints when they grow up

14-02-2020 12:23pm

lawred2 wrote: »

I wouldn't be up for a scatter of pints.. I'll have a few and head home. Wouldn't want the next day ruined with a hangover. Not fair to the kids.

Or just man up and get on with the day.

It’s also a reason Thursday pints is still a popular one though among friends and work colleagues, you are going to work on Friday anyway so aren’t having to be hungover around kids.

whisky_galore · 14-02-2020 12:24pm

Millicently wrote: »

Whenever I hear that expression it's usually from grown men who haven't grown up and who resent the fact that the rest of their male friends have grown up settled down and don't want to be down the pub with them anymore because they'd rather be at home living a grown up life. There's a ridiculous number of men children out there who even at 50 will have the mentality of a 15 year old. The fact is most people grow up and don't want to do the same old same old with the same people they used to hang out with before they settled down. It's sad really that so many are going to pubs perving on girls who are young enough to be their daughters.

I disagree.

It's a bit sad when your movements are monitored and restricted. Fück that. I'd rather be in a prison camp.

Also define "grown up", does all fun evaporate when you "grow up", going for a relaxed pint is somehow childish?

lapua20grain · 14-02-2020 12:26pm

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

Or just man up and get on with the day.

It’s also a reason Thursday pints is still a popular one though among friends and work colleagues, you are going to work on Friday anyway so aren’t having to be hungover around kids.

How about this crazy scenario, he has a clatter of pints and does what you say and man's up and drives his kids while still under the influence, what is your issue with him having a different outlook to drinking than you have?

lawred2 · 14-02-2020 12:29pm

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

Or just man up and get on with the day.

It’s also a reason Thursday pints is still a popular one though among friends and work colleagues, you are going to work on Friday anyway so aren’t having to be hungover around kids.

you are so cool

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 14-02-2020 5:01pm

I don’t think Nox has children yet. Talk is cheap. :pac:

Millicently · 14-02-2020 5:43pm

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

Most men don't want to give up on life after having kids and most that do disappear are put under pressure just as that poster has said. I've yet to meet a man who won't go for a scatter of pints because he wants to "live a grown up life" whatever that is.

I can say that kids has not had a major impact on any of my peer group. Nights our are still regular, still at least once a week for many. Obvioulsy not the same freedom but far far from the disappearing of the face if the earth some describe and I refuse to accept people actually enjoy this not ever getting out and meeting friends etc.

How do you know that they don't get out and meet people? Often people get bored with the same old same old with the same old faces and they just move on. Instead of being blunt and just saying that they aren't interested in hanging out with you or going for pints they just make excuses and blame the wife just as the wife makes excuses with her friends and blames the husband.

Millicently · 14-02-2020 5:45pm

whisky_galore wrote: »

I disagree.

It's a bit sad when your movements are monitored and restricted. Fück that. I'd rather be in a prison camp.

Also define "grown up", does all fun evaporate when you "grow up", going for a relaxed pint is somehow childish?

Maybe one day you'll be in a serious relationship with someone and you'll discover for yourself that you'd rather be with them than in the pub with some guys.

Electric Sheep · 14-02-2020 5:58pm

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

Most men don't want to give up on life after having kids and most that do disappear are put under pressure just as that poster has said. I've yet to meet a man who won't go for a scatter of pints because he wants to "live a grown up life" whatever that is.

I can say that kids has not had a major impact on any of my peer group. Nights our are still regular, still at least once a week for many. Obvioulsy not the same freedom but far far from the disappearing of the face if the earth some describe and I refuse to accept people actually enjoy this not ever getting out and meeting friends etc.

I suspect that life changed a great deal more for their wives after kids. Expect a spate of divorce amongst your friends. Most women wise up after a few years of putting up with a man whose "life does not change" after having children, as they realise that getting rid of the big child improves their life vastly. Beware, maybe she will get half of "the land" that you brag about so often.

vriesmays · 14-02-2020 6:32pm

The local Costcutter displaying a sign that no alcohol to be consumed in the shop or within 100 yards when there's a pub directly across the road.

Millicently · 14-02-2020 6:32pm

Electric Sheep wrote: »

I suspect that life changed a great deal more for their wives after kids. Expect a spate of divorce amongst your friends. Most women wise up after a few years of putting up with a man whose "life does not change" after having children, as they realise that getting rid of the big child improves their life vastly. Beware, maybe she will get half of "the land" that you brag about so often.

That's always been a problem in a lot of relationships with kids, the woman thinks the man will grow up once they have a child but some men seem to think that having kids shouldn't impact on the social life that they are used to. Those are usually the bitter men that end up posting nasty crap online about women and moaning that they only get access visits to their kids a few times a month.

14-02-2020 6:54pm

Electric Sheep wrote: »

I suspect that life changed a great deal more for their wives after kids. Expect a spate of divorce amongst your friends. Most women wise up after a few years of putting up with a man whose "life does not change" after having children, as they realise that getting rid of the big child improves their life vastly. Beware, maybe she will get half of "the land" that you brag about so often.

The wife’s are out with their own friends regularly on alternate nights and many nights we are all meeting up in couples and kids are minded. Also as mentioned mid week nights out (Thursday in particular) are popular among those with kids where I work anyway. Many of us are away with work a lot too so that makes midweek nights out make zero difference as you are away anyway.

No doubt there is a reduction in social life but it doesn’t have to be this no out or “I get out a few times a year” stuff you hear from some. If it’s what they want that’s just fine but for others who want to maintain a fairly active social life that’s very possible too.

vriesmays · 14-02-2020 7:34pm

Citizens Assembly next meeting about gender roles instead of something practical like improving our fishing industry.

Purgative · 14-02-2020 7:55pm

I don't get why the thread about the bloke, who creatively wrote, about boning his cousin, just disappeared.

Redneck Reject71 · 14-02-2020 7:57pm

Purgative wrote: »

I don't get why the thread about the bloke, who creatively wrote, about boning his cousin, just disappeared.

It's a blessing in disguise,heh.

Redneck Reject71 · 14-02-2020 8:00pm

Why it is near impossible to source collard greens.

14-02-2020 8:19pm

vriesmays wrote: »

Citizens Assembly next meeting about gender roles instead of something practical like improving our fishing industry.

Definitely want a load of randomly selected people to work on that fishing industry, yep.

EmmetSpiceland · 14-02-2020 8:26pm

Purgative wrote: »

I don't get why the thread about the bloke, who creatively wrote, about boning his cousin, just disappeared.

Was there references made to “former” members?

Or perhaps someone’s old posts were “linked” to and may have caught them out with a bit of spoofing?

riclad · 14-02-2020 10:40pm

people who walk around in the winter in ripped jeans,
do they not feel cold?
Political reporters in the uk, we have proportional representation voting ,try and understand how it works,
before you write articles about SF winning the election .

14-02-2020 10:45pm

lawred2 wrote: »

I wouldn't be up for a scatter of pints.. I'll have a few and head home. Wouldn't want the next day ruined with a hangover. Not fair to the kids.

If you haven’t the fear for at least 4 days afterwards then it wasn’t a real night out.

14-02-2020 10:46pm

Redneck Reject71 wrote: »

Why it is near impossible to source collard greens.

Saving you from yourself.

Higgins5473 · 14-02-2020 11:05pm

lawred2 wrote: »

I wouldn't be up for a scatter of pints.. I'll have a few and head home. Wouldn't want the next day ruined with a hangover. Not fair to the kids.

Super Dad/Mum/Other, if its ok with you I might add I've kids and as much as I love them, they've changed my life immeasurably in so many positive and not so positive ways I couldn't give a flying f*ck if the odd blow out doesn't mean me involving their activities the following day in any way.

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! · 14-02-2020 11:15pm

Millicently wrote: »

That's always been a problem in a lot of relationships with kids, the woman thinks the man will grow up once they have a child but some men seem to think that having kids shouldn't impact on the social life that they are used to. Those are usually the bitter men that end up posting nasty crap online about women and moaning that they only get access visits to their kids a few times a month.

So don't have kids then... simples!

Problem solved, danger averted.

Or do have kids... do what you want... but accept that your life (that you probably spent years painstakingly building and perfecting) no longer belongs to you! Once you have kids, your kids own you. You are their slave!

riclad · 14-02-2020 11:50pm

Tik toks can be amusing and some of the songs are quiet good,
better than the songs played on the radio.
And some of those people can dance very well.

Leg End Reject · 15-02-2020 12:00am

I don't get what tik toks are.

Tell me how · 15-02-2020 12:11am

riclad wrote: »

Tik toks can be amusing and some of the songs are quiet good,
better than the songs played on the radio.
And some of those people can dance very well.

Leg End Reject wrote: »

I don't get what tik toks are.

They're short videos similar to vine videos which Twitter had 5 years ago.

In reality, there's about 14 or 15 different videos done over and over by the thousands of different 'content creators' with about 10 songs used to provide background music.

To be a good dancer as outlined above, you need a pair of yoga pants and a tube top. That's it.

CtevenSrowder · 15-02-2020 12:16am

Tiktok is so ****e. All that stuff died when they got rid of vine.

Things I don't get. People that care about peoples politics when it comes to dating.

AllForIt · 15-02-2020 12:23am

Dating

I've never gone on a date. I just don't get it - First Dates just does't make any sense to me.

The chances of going on a blind date and that that person would coincidentally be the one you were always looking for to me is extremely unlikely.

They strike me as people who are desperate to be in a relationship so they get together in the knowledge they'd never find anyone otherwise.

lawred2 · 15-02-2020 12:26am

Higgins5473 wrote: »

Super Dad/Mum/Other, if its ok with you I might add I've kids and as much as I love them, they've changed my life immeasurably in so many positive and not so positive ways I couldn't give a flying f*ck if the odd blow out doesn't mean me involving their activities the following day in any way.

Ok. Good for you.

dubstarr · 15-02-2020 12:32am

Millicently wrote: »

How do you know that they don't get out and meet people? Often people get bored with the same old same old with the same old faces and they just move on. Instead of being blunt and just saying that they aren't interested in hanging out with you or going for pints they just make excuses and blame the wife just as the wife makes excuses with her friends and blames the husband.

I know thats true.Hes blamed me and i have blamed him when not wantingto go out.

Plus we can always blame the kids,win win situation.

Tell me how · 15-02-2020 1:06am

CtevenSrowder wrote: »

Tiktok is so ****e. All that stuff died when they got rid of vine.

Things I don't get. People that care about peoples politics when it comes to dating.

Can you not see how this would be an indicator of compatibility. It is be no means a guarantee that if you support the same party that you will be a perfect match for match other but if you are strongly opposed in terms of ideology in this area, it's a highly likely that you will not be suited to each other. With respect to a long term relationship that is.

15-02-2020 7:32pm

dubstarr wrote: »

I know thats true.Hes blamed me and i have blamed him when not wantingto go out.

Plus we can always blame the kids,win win situation.

I don’t know many people, if any that are not chomping at the bit to get out on the beer at any opportunity so making excuses like the above is not familiar.

vriesmays · 16-02-2020 3:23pm

The same chart songs from the 1980s on the radio and compilation CDs. There are loads of other good songs and bands from that decade that didn't make the top 40 that no-one hears anymore.

Pawwed Rig · 16-02-2020 4:59pm

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

I don’t know many people, if any that are not chomping at the bit to get out on the beer at any opportunity so making excuses like the above is not familiar.

Honestly, and this is not a criticism, but from reading your posts over a long period of time it seems to me that your life and that of the people you know are vastly different to my personal experience. So taking your life experience as a norm would not be wholly accurate.

EmmetSpiceland · 16-02-2020 5:48pm

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

Honestly, and this is not a criticism, but from reading your posts over a long period of time it seems to me that your life and that of the people you know are vastly different to my personal experience. So taking your life experience as a norm would not be wholly accurate.

I dunno, I’ve got kids and while I still get “out” it’s definitely not as much as I used to. I look forward to nights out far more these days.

I used to be going on “stags” a lot back in the day. It actually got to the point where I’d see them as an inconvenience. I’ll tell you this, I would murder a weekend away like that now. Starting on the Friday night and only stopping on the Sunday evening. Nothing beats it.

I’d skip the wedding.

the purple tin · 16-02-2020 8:29pm

vriesmays wrote: »

The same chart songs from the 1980s on the radio and compilation CDs. There are loads of other good songs and bands from that decade that didn't make the top 40 that no-one hears anymore.

And albums that only radio dj's seem to like. Do they teach this in dj college or something. Pet Sounds by the Beach Boys for instance, every dj ever gushes about what a masterpiece it is, pure genius etc.
Everyone in the real world just thinks it's a pile of meh.

Gamer Bhoy 89 · 16-02-2020 9:11pm

Politics.

Also, people who vote who tell non voters never to be complaining.

I don't vote, and people often tell me I've no right to complain because of it.

To this day I have no idea what it is they think I complain about that would warrant me to vote for some sort of change.

For example: I hate the sound of kids screaming in a housing estate for hours on end. I hate excessive sunlight and I hate the heat during summer. I also can't stand certain kinds of music............. should I shut up about all of that because I don't vote???

What am I whining about? They seem to know something I don't.....

The ironic thing is, though, is that voters do more complaining than me from what I've seen. I have never heard anyone ever say "sure our government is great!" in the 16 years I've lived here.... Same with the UK, too.....

I'm quite a pleasant person to talk to altogether, as well. So I don't know where this opinion comes from that I "have no right to moan" when they haven't a clue who I am. Even worse when it's people who know me....

I don't vote because I genuinely don't give a shıte. I do me and focus on my own day to day. I get up, I go to work, I come home, I eat dinner, I play video games, I watch a movie, go to sleep, rinse and repeat.

If you want to vote, good for you. I hope that whatever it is you want in life goes well for you. But me, I'm happy with what's in front of me.

Casey78 · 16-02-2020 11:33pm

The outpouring of grief when a celebrity dies.

Rothko · 17-02-2020 1:40am

the purple tin wrote: »

And albums that only radio dj's seem to like. Do they teach this in dj college or something. Pet Sounds by the Beach Boys for instance, every dj ever gushes about what a masterpiece it is, pure genius etc.
Everyone in the real world just thinks it's a pile of meh.

Speak for yourself

ILoveYourVibes · 17-02-2020 1:56am

snobbery

whisky_galore · 17-02-2020 9:28am

Millicently wrote: »

Maybe one day you'll be in a serious relationship with someone and you'll discover for yourself that you'd rather be with them than in the pub with some guys.

Jaysus it's like it's impossible to do both.
You sound like great craic.

Widdershins · 17-02-2020 10:38am

Would it be fair to say rather than life going out the window you make some adjustments to keep the old aspects while enjoying the new aspects that come with a new baby?
And buy a baby wrap.

17-02-2020 10:58am

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

. Starting on the Friday night and only stopping on the Sunday evening. Nothing beats it.

.

No better way on this earth to spend a weekend! Have one coming up in a few weeks and my mouth is watering already thinking about it!! from around 5:30 on Friday until Sunday evening sleeping is about the only time there won’t be a pint in hand (well cans sometimes instead of a pint as there will be cans beside the bed for having a cure first thing on sat/Sunday morning before heading down for the hotel brekkie :pac::D).

Millicently · 17-02-2020 11:22am

whisky_galore wrote: »

Jaysus it's like it's impossible to do both.
You sound like great craic.

It's impossible to sustain a great relationship if you are an immature person who'd rather spend their time in the pub getting wasted with a bunch of other immature people who want to live their lives like teenagers, not that I'm saying that applies to you. Life means getting older, that means people mature and want to spend less time in the pub. When someone finds a partner they love and they settle down, maybe have some kids, then they want to spend their time with their loved ones not on a bar stool talking crap with 'the lads having pints'. Your argument of basically if someone doesn't agree with you must be boring is quite telling.

17-02-2020 11:26am

Millicently wrote: »

It's impossible to sustain a great relationship if you are an immature person who'd rather spend their time in the pub getting wasted with a bunch of other immature people who want to live their lives like teenagers, not that I'm saying that applies to you. Life means getting older, that means people mature and want to spend less time in the pub. When someone finds a partner they love and they settle down, maybe have some kids, then they want to spend their time with their loved ones not on a bar stool talking crap with 'the lads having pints'. Your argument of basically if someone doesn't agree with you must be boring is quite telling.

There is plenty of time in the week for people to spend with their partner/kids etc that still allows going for pints once or twice a week and an odd weekend away with the lads. It's an unhealthy relationship that isolates people from their friends imo.

You know that women like to go out and meet their friends also for nights out too? It's not just a lads thing.

JohnnyFlash · 17-02-2020 11:27am

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

No better way on this earth to spend a weekend! Have one coming up in a few weeks and my mouth is watering already thinking about it!! from around 5:30 on Friday until Sunday evening sleeping is about the only time there won’t be a pint in hand (well cans sometimes instead of a pint as there will be cans beside the bed for having a cure first thing on sat/Sunday morning before heading down for the hotel brekkie :pac::D).

Good man, Nox. Keep her lit. Do you get hangovers at all? I went on a session that started on Thursday afternoon and finished up early Sunday morning. Drank at least half a barrel of porter if I drank a drop. Feeling a bit emotionally vulnerable today if I’m being honest.

17-02-2020 11:31am

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

Good man, Nox. Keep her lit. Do you get hangovers at all? I went on a session that started on Thursday afternoon and finished up early Sunday morning. Drank at least half a barrel of porter if I drank a drop. Feeling a bit emotionally vulnerable today if I’m being honest.

Ah yeah if I drink enough I'd be feeling it alright but I'd just get on with the day. Very heavy weekends like the above the morning cure is a god send, can or two and then you are fit for the biggest breakfast a man could eat. Back on the sauce then for the day after! Bliss!

Millicently · 17-02-2020 4:01pm

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

There is plenty of time in the week for people to spend with their partner/kids etc that still allows going for pints once or twice a week and an odd weekend away with the lads. It's an unhealthy relationship that isolates people from their friends imo.

You know that women like to go out and meet their friends also for nights out too? It's not just a lads thing.

You clearly haven't got a clue about long term relationships. You equate someone who wants to spend their free time with their partner and kids as being 'isolated and in an unhealthy relationship, it genuinely seems beyond your comprehension that people grow up and grow out of the binge drinking crap. Normal people don't leave their partner/kids for a weekend to go on the piss with the lads/lasses. You are seriously missing the point that your friends who don't want to do that anymore possibly think you're a bit of a tosser and they'd like you to just stop nagging them to go out drinking with you.

Casey78 · 17-02-2020 4:13pm

Nowt wrong with the odd drink bender, we all need a blow out now and again. I love it myself.
But the lads with families who do it every weekend and basically spend the majority of the weekend in a pub or in bed hungover are sub human arseholes imo.
But of course each to their own and all that, some lads will just never grow up, it's their kids I feel sorry for,for having a waster for a father.
I know of one fella who does it regular, he has a great wife at home who is basically left to mind the kids all weekend,she makes excuses for him and tries to laugh it off but you can tell its hurting her.

Things you just "don't get"?

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