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Theft of Items from our Baby’s Grave

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  • #102
    Obvious Desperate Breakfasts
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    Raconteuse wrote: »
    What little kids would be in a graveyard though? Other than those accompanied by an adult.

    Visiting family graves with their parents. I was in graveyards plenty as a child. And kids from houses nearby might wander through them a bit.


  • #103
    Obvious Desperate Breakfasts
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    Up Donegal wrote: »
    One would hope that if an adults who are in a graveyard with their children would tell the children to return anything they lifted back to where they got it.
    spurious wrote: »
    That would involve parenting, a skill absent in many people who have children.

    If a small child picks up something from a grave and walks away from it, not even far, there’s a good chance they won’t remember which grave they took it from. The toys could be discarded elsewhere in the graveyard. It’s very easy for children to wander in graveyards.


  • #104
    branie2
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    Despicable! :mad:


  • #105
    rainbowtrout
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    A lot of people seem to think that it's children stealing from the grave. Adults have been stealing flowers, lamps, ornaments, potted plants from graves since the dawn of time. An adult who would steal an item such as those wouldn't have any problem taking a child's toy to bring home with them.

    I think you are fighting a losing battle OP. Stealing items from graves is a very common occurrence. As much as you want to leave toys at the grave, it might be easier not to.

    I don't think setting up a camera is the answer either, anything that can film longterm and be hidden is going to cost money. If by some miracle the hours of film happen to catch someone stealing from the grave, how are you going to identify them?


  • #106
    antix80
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,419 ✭✭✭antix80


    rainbowtrout wrote: »
    A lot of people seem to think that it's children stealing from the grave. Adults have been stealing flowers, lamps, ornaments, potted plants from graves since the dawn of time. An adult who would steal an item such as those wouldn't have any problem taking a child's toy to bring home with them.

    I think you are fighting a losing battle OP. Stealing items from graves is a very common occurrence. As much as you want to leave toys at the grave, it might be easier not to.

    I don't think setting up a camera is the answer either, anything that can film longterm and be hidden is going to cost money. If by some miracle the hours of film happen to catch someone stealing from the grave, how are you going to identify them?

    Chances are they'll have a pale skinny face, crooked nose, and a jacket with a hood up.
    Despite the poor image the guards will know who they are but do anything about it. They're not going to get a search warrant and Cctv evidence alone doesn't hold up in court without an eye witness.


  • #107
    Dr. Colossus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 98 ✭✭Dr. Colossus


    My sincere condolences for your loss.
    Could you contact a newspaper or radio station and tell them what has happened?

    It might shame the thieves to stop.


  • #108
    antix80
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,419 ✭✭✭antix80


    Dr. Colossus wrote: »
    Could you contact a newspaper or radio station and tell them what has happened?

    Op, don't do this. They're called sad face stories because the rags want a sad face photo to go with the article. Daily mail run stories like this the whole time.

    No need for your name or child's name to be sensationalised like this.


  • #109
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    antix80 wrote: »
    Op, don't do this. They're called sad face stories because the rags want a sad face photo to go with the article. Daily mail run stories like this the whole time.

    No need for your name or child's name to be sensationalised like this.


    The op can make the right decision about this for their family. Whether they decide to go for privacy or to share it is their decision.


  • #110
    Obvious Desperate Breakfasts
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,474 ✭✭✭Obvious Desperate Breakfasts


    rainbowtrout wrote: »
    A lot of people seem to think that it's children stealing from the grave. Adults have been stealing flowers, lamps, ornaments, potted plants from graves since the dawn of time. An adult who would steal an item such as those wouldn't have any problem taking a child's toy to bring home with them.

    I think you are fighting a losing battle OP. Stealing items from graves is a very common occurrence. As much as you want to leave toys at the grave, it might be easier not to.

    I don't think setting up a camera is the answer either, anything that can film longterm and be hidden is going to cost money. If by some miracle the hours of film happen to catch someone stealing from the grave, how are you going to identify them?

    Nobody thinks that for sure. It’s just a fairly likely scenario.


  • #111
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Op who does the upkeep of the cemetery fall to?

    All childrens graves usually have toys or windspinners etc are there other families who have noticed the same thing?

    You could make a complaint to those responsible for the cemetery upkeep.


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  • #112
    Shady Grady
    Closed Accounts Posts: 234 ✭✭Shady Grady


    Very sorry for your loss as others have said before. My suggestion is could you set up a place to honor her at home? To me that's where the memories of life and love are. And you can still keep her memory and joys safe if that makes sense. I truly don't mean to cause you more pain by saying this, but she lives in your hearts and in the home you provided her, not in a patch of field with a marker.

    Again I am truly sorry for your loss and the addition pain caused by scums. I can only pray the good Lord helps ease your pain.


  • #113
    368100
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    That really is the lowest of the low whoever is the culprit. Sorry for your loss


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