Engagement Ring

witchgirl26 wrote: »

If you're letting her pick out the ring, let her pick the ring. The only thing you should maybe limit is the price you're willing to pay.

This!

I mean I'm sure you'll discuss it together anyway. You can let her know what you've researched, that you think platinum is the best metal and that you're happy to pay for that - IF it's what she wants.

witchgirl26 wrote: »

Em maybe don't limit her to just platinum. Yes it's probably the "best" metal of ring to get but it doesn't mean she'll like it. I always wore silver jewellery & was convinced I'd get either a platinum or white gold ring. I ended up falling in love with yellow gold rings & turns out yellow gold really suits me.

If you're letting her pick out the ring, let her pick the ring. The only thing you should maybe limit is the price you're willing to pay.

Beware pools chlorine can damage platinum and 'white' gold engagement rings!

Luca G wrote: »

Sorry I should of said, she has said in the past that platinum would be her favourite but are expensive so that was planted in my head haha

She can look at any other rings aswell I'm just sure she would go for platinum but never know until she puts other ones on.

Ah right. Yeah don't ever assume. I was convinced I wanted white gold & a cushion shaped diamond cluster. Nope I ended up falling in love with a yellow gold solitare with baguette diamonds on either side. I still love the look of the other type but when I tried them on, they weren't making my heart sing.

I'd recommend going into a good jewellers and asking to see a selection of different types and also for their opinion. I found the ones we went to were good at suggesting what would look nice on my hand without it being the most expensive one in our budget.

Danny552 wrote: »

Is it just me or is it not better to get a ring for around 1k or 2k instead of a token ring then get a ring she wants for around 5k you never see people put a picture up after getting engaged with a token ring on there mostly nice looking rings.

If you propose on hoilday she wouldn't put a picture up of a token ring would have to wait to get home then go pick out what she likes .

I don’t know anyone who would spend 1-2k on a ring so they’ll get a few extra likes on Instagram. It took my now husband a few months to get over the shock of the price of one ring, Wed have needed a defibrillator on stand by if someone told him he had to buy two.

Danny552 wrote: »

Is it just me or is it not better to get a ring for around 1k or 2k instead of a token ring then get a ring she wants for around 5k you never see people put a picture up after getting engaged with a token ring on there mostly nice looking rings.

If you propose on hoilday she wouldn't put a picture up of a token ring would have to wait to get home then go pick out what she likes .

My actual engagement ring cost 2k. So no, personally I think it's madness to spend that much on a token ring or whatever you choose to call it!

We didn't go public with an announcement at first. We wanted to tell a lot of people ourselves and we didn't want them finding out from social media. By the time I shared the news on Facebook, I actually had my engagement ring, but it was my engagement puffin photo that I shared! That's what he proposed with and had the story to go with it. I didn't feel the need to go flashing a rock online.

Danny552 wrote: »

Is it just me or is it not better to get a ring for around 1k or 2k instead of a token ring then get a ring she wants for around 5k you never see people put a picture up after getting engaged with a token ring on there mostly nice looking rings.

If you propose on hoilday she wouldn't put a picture up of a token ring would have to wait to get home then go pick out what she likes .

I happily took pictures of my token ring & while I didn't put them on social media that was because we wanted to tell people in person. I happily showed off the ring to everyone. In fact it was 4 months before I got my "proper" ring so I was very happy with wearing it all that time. I now even wear it on my right hand. I think it cost about €300. And just coz it's a token ring, doesn't mean it can't be nice looking.

Luca G wrote: »

If propose with token ring and then go out looking for what she likes how long would it take to get do they have to go off and make it for the size or would you be able to get it there and then.

It depends on what you get. So mine had to get sized and valued and checked because it was an antique (needed to make sure that everything was ok with it). That took about a week from when it was purchased to when it was on my finger. I know with some jewellers we looked at, I would have possibly been able to walk out with it there & then as they keep some sizes in stock in the rings so had them ready to go.

castletownman wrote: »

Planning on taking the plunge in the next couple of months.

One thing: is there mark on a ring to tell you the size of it? I would borrow one of her rings on the sly so I know it fits if there were jewelers open, but since it'll have to be done online, I am in a bit of pickle. Afraid she will catch me in the act as well

Another thing: I plan to spend between 1-1.5K on a ring (we have previously discussed not having an expensive wedding), but am I better buying a generic ring for the proposal, and letting her chose her ring thereafter? I don't think what I pick will suffice

You could buy a measurement tool on Amazon but if she finds it be hard to explain. Meowoo Ring Sizer UK Measurement Scales Kit Tools for Measuring Rings Diameters https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07798HG23/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabc_QOJ9FbTRJDVMY

I bought a cheap ring to propose from Claire’s accessories I think. We then went and picked a ring together. I never would have picked the ring she ended up with as it was nothing like the rings she had ever said she liked.

I know my wife still has the cheap ring in the jewellery box upstairs.