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Dealing with noisy neighbours

  • 17-05-2019 8:35am
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭


    We recently bought a semi-d house in a very quiet estate. It struck us during the viewings how quiet it was and we were happy to buy as it fitted all our requirements.

    Everything great until we moved in and realized the adjoining neighbour is very noisy :( We can't hear a peep through the walls but their kids and sometimes the parents slam the bejaysus out of their front door on a regular basis. To top it off their kids (between 8 odd to early teens) like hammering a ball off the pavement outside the houses for at least an hour every evening without fail.

    After nearly having our window put through by their ball we asked the kids to play somewhere else only for their boorish father to try and lay the law down to me and tell me the kids are going to that and there's nothing I can do about it !! :rolleyes:

    Basically since then its been an evening of banging and banging week in week out. I have a feeling if we approach them about it it'll get worse. Any suggestions ??


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,560 ✭✭✭celt262


    I can understand why you are frustrated but that is all pretty minor compared to what I have had to put up with it the past.

    As long as its not going on late at night i would say nothing and just try and be polite with the kids and not make enemies because that will only make it worse.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭D3V!L


    celt262 wrote: »
    I can understand why you are frustrated but that is all pretty minor compared to what I have had to put up with it the past.

    As long as its not going on late at night i would say nothing and just try and be polite with the kids and not make enemies because that will only make it worse.

    The first and only time they were asked to play elsewhere after a basket ball nearly came through our living room window they went in and told lies to their parents. So off to a bad start from the get go.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,158 ✭✭✭frag420


    D3V!L wrote: »
    The first and only time they were asked to play elsewhere after a basket ball nearly came through our living room window they went in and told lies to their parents. So off to a bad start from the get go.

    Start playing classical music and underground Belgian jazz out your window every time they start bouncing that ball, they won’t be long leaving to find somewhere else to play...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,560 ✭✭✭celt262


    D3V!L wrote: »
    The first and only time they were asked to play elsewhere after a basket ball nearly came through our living room window they went in and told lies to their parents. So off to a bad start from the get go.

    Do you have kids yourself?

    I'm just after reading the original post again and this goes on for at least an hour every evening.

    You are lucky they are great neighbors.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,773 ✭✭✭C3PO


    You're living in a housing estate OP - is it realistic to expect that your neighbour's children are not going to play ball out on the road and slam the doors? That's what kids do!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭D3V!L


    celt262 wrote: »
    Do you have kids yourself?

    I'm just after reading the original post again and this goes on for at least an hour every evening.

    You are lucky they are great neighbors.

    Yes I understand kids play, strangely enough I was one once and have absolutely no problem with it.

    However ask someone to stand outside your living room window and repeatedly drum a basket ball and see how long it takes to annoy you . Then do that every single evening.

    Dum Dum Dum Dum dum dum dum dum dum dum dum dum ......


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,200 ✭✭✭hots


    I'd say you're being a bit silly with the ball noise, they're kids and if they're only messing with a ball you're grand. Also it would have to be some effort to put a window in with a basketball.

    Had you gone over nicely to begin with and mentioned the door slamming is noisy for you you'd have had half a chance.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,783 ✭✭✭GoneHome


    The joys of living in a semi-d in a housing estate, that's why I love the peace and solitude of rural living!


  • Registered Users Posts: 468 ✭✭jopax


    I can totally understand but where you are coming from, many years ago the same noises would have bothered me.
    However having kids now I would be much more easy going regarding this type of noise. It's not being done deliberately to annoy you, that is a big plus.
    I would thread very carefully there, however much it annoys you now, you could end up with a much bigger problem down the road if you stir things up the wrong way.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭D3V!L


    GoneHome wrote: »
    The joys of living in a semi-d in a housing estate, that's why I love the peace and solitude of rural living!

    I moved from a terrace house in a busy estate. Lets get some perspective here.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,084 ✭✭✭✭Mrs OBumble


    D3V!L wrote: »
    We can't hear a peep through the walls

    Build a bridge.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,107 ✭✭✭eviltimeban


    You should go out and play basketball with them!

    Better they are playing games rather than engaging in more anti-social activities.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,043 ✭✭✭Wabbit Ears


    My kids slam the front door all the time. Ive a pain in my neck telling to do it gently.

    they also play outside, Football, Rugby, You name it, During the day and often in the evenings they're out playing.

    This is normal and healthy.

    Id happily be that 'boorish father' if some randomer moved in and started compaining that the kids exist and are playing noisily.

    Seriously, sell up, move to the countryside and don't inflict your neighbours with your frankly ridiculous ideas of whats acceptable in a housing estate.


  • Hosted Moderators Posts: 23,146 ✭✭✭✭beertons


    Throw a bucket of water out the window next time they're outside being noisy. Hot/cold/with washing up liquid.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,303 ✭✭✭ionapaul


    beertons wrote: »
    Throw a bucket of water out the window next time they're outside being noisy. Hot/cold/with washing up liquid.
    Are you suggesting he throw the water at them?! For playing outside on the street?

    edit: actually, am guessing you must be just joking :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,567 ✭✭✭Markcheese


    Have they got somewhere else to play....
    If it's really getting you down Google mosquito device, it'll move them away from you're house...

    Slava ukraini 🇺🇦



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,913 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard


    You have to just suck this up, OP, it's part and parcel of estate living and as others have said, there are much worse shenanigans they could be up to.

    I don't particularly like kids but even I accept that them playing and making noise is just what kids do. My next door neighbours have two young boys who are out their back garden constantly when the weather is nice. They spend all day every day either playing football (and balls coming over the fence is a several-times-a-day occurrence) or trundling a skateboard up and down their deck. They also can't seem to play for more than 15 minutes at a time without one injuring the other and screams of pain/anger/"I'm telling Mooommmmmmm". The latter in particular drives me demented but, again, what can I do? Like I said, it's just part of suburban living.

    Is it a pain in the face when I'm trying to enjoy my garden during sunny weather? Bet your ass it is. But it's a perfectly natural part of their childhood and I'm sure I drove many of my own neighbours batty when I was growing up.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,750 ✭✭✭LillySV


    Absolutely no reason why you should accept it, the problem here is kids that weren’t raised right by their parents... the parents are clearly not great role models!!! If they want to belt the ball off a wall, beat it off their own house or go to a pitch ... and as regards the slamming of doors... can happen an odd time if kids energetic and excited... not the whole time though... sounds like you’ve moved in beside savages....again not the kids fault, the parents ....is it a council estate? Can you report it to council if so?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,913 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard


    LillySV wrote: »
    sounds like you’ve moved in beside savages....

    :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:


  • Registered Users Posts: 193 ✭✭setanta1000


    LillySV wrote: »
    Absolutely no reason why you should accept it, the problem here is kids that weren’t raised right by their parents... the parents are clearly not great role models!!! If they want to belt the ball off a wall, beat it off their own house or go to a pitch ... and as regards the slamming of doors... can happen an odd time if kids energetic and excited... not the whole time though... sounds like you’ve moved in beside savages....again not the kids fault, the parents ....is it a council estate? Can you report it to council if so?

    I think the general consensus on the thread is that there is every reason the OP should accept it because that's what happens when you live in an estate...as for calling them savages that's just ridiculous...they're kids and playing like all other kids do, including my own and my neighbors and all the other kids in estates all over the world.

    Some tolerance and patience would go a long way here...


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,596 ✭✭✭threein99


    LillySV wrote: »
    Absolutely no reason why you should accept it, the problem here is kids that weren’t raised right by their parents... the parents are clearly not great role models!!! If they want to belt the ball off a wall, beat it off their own house or go to a pitch ... and as regards the slamming of doors... can happen an odd time if kids energetic and excited... not the whole time though... sounds like you’ve moved in beside savages....again not the kids fault, the parents ....is it a council estate? Can you report it to council if so?

    Are you being sarcastic ?


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,750 ✭✭✭LillySV


    A lot here think their little Johnny can do what they want.... and that’s why lot of Irish kids getting out of control and going down a slippery slope...

    And another thing some of the parents here are forgetting.... they are your responsibility!

    Good few kids in my estate and they play in a grass area nearby and wouldn’t dare to think of kicking a ball off someone else’s house.... it is a nice estate though with good parents


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,042 ✭✭✭Gorgeousgeorge


    If thats all i had to deal with id be very happy. Your blessed imo


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭D3V!L


    Since I've clearly been tagged as a "grumpy old man" , I'm going to try and save face and elaborate.

    Our house was vacant for about a year so there was as far as we can tell they were football playing in front of it for a long time unchallenged and in our back garden.

    In the past month we're here we had a basketball hit the living room window (which is 2 meters from the path) 3 times in total. The same kids also decided that our driveway which runs along the side of our house is a great place to play football. It starts 3 meters from the road, so they had to walk up it. They were perplexed when they were told not to play there. One also fell in our driveway and hurt herself.

    I have zero problems with the noise of children playing. I love kids, we dont and can't have our own so I love to hear them around. I'm also not a stranger to noise having lived in a very busy estate beside a hospital previously in a very old house with no sound proofing or insulation.

    Thanks for all the comments.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,305 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    D3V!L wrote: »
    After nearly having our window put through by their ball we asked the kids to play somewhere else only for their boorish father to try and lay the law down to me and tell me the kids are going to that and there's nothing I can do about it !! :rolleyes:
    Is he bigger than you?
    D3V!L wrote: »
    In the past month we're here we had a basketball hit the living room window (which is 2 meters from the path) 3 times in total.
    If the ball hits your window again, consider deflating the ball.
    D3V!L wrote: »
    The same kids also decided that our driveway which runs along the side of our house is a great place to play football. It starts 3 meters from the road, so they had to walk up it. They were perplexed when they were told not to play there. One also fell in our driveway and hurt herself.
    Consider growing a few rose bushes in your property, and locking your gate (get a gate that isn't easy to climb over).


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭D3V!L


    the_syco wrote: »
    Is he bigger than you?

    Nope, considerably smaller.
    the_syco wrote: »


    Consider growing a few rose bushes in your property, and locking your gate (get a gate that isn't easy to climb over).


    I like the rose bush idea. We have a flower bed in front of the living room window in need of flowers.


  • Registered Users Posts: 554 ✭✭✭Fiftyfilthy


    LillySV wrote: »
    A lot here think their little Johnny can do what they want.... and that’s why lot of Irish kids getting out of control and going down a slippery slope...

    And another thing some of the parents here are forgetting.... they are your responsibility!

    Good few kids in my estate and they play in a grass area nearby and wouldn’t dare to think of kicking a ball off someone else’s house.... it is a nice estate though with good parents

    Exactly, not a chance I’d accept a basketball hitting my windows


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭D3V!L


    Exactly, not a chance I’d accept a basketball hitting my windows

    I was told to suck it in so many words by the father. No way I'm waiting for the window to come through. Imagine sitting the other side of it and being showered in glass as well as the damage to our TV and living room.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,395 ✭✭✭McGrath5


    There was a thread here recently were some lovely neighbor put a basketball ring outside someone’s house, the hard neck some people have!

    OP I do sympathize with you, I’m sure you saved long and hard for your new home, everyone is entitled to the peaceful enjoyment of their own home.

    I’m sure not what I’d do, but I would be facing it head on, irregardless if I become known as some crank.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 554 ✭✭✭Fiftyfilthy


    D3V!L wrote: »
    I was told to suck it in so many words by the father. No way I'm waiting for the window to come through. Imagine sitting the other side of it and being showered in glass as well as the damage to our TV and living room.


    Ask him how he would feel if a basket ball kept hitting his living room and hold him to whatever response he gives you


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,567 ✭✭✭Markcheese


    Be friendly, be subtle, but theres a reason why good fences make good neighbours... A couple of roses, and maybe a gate...
    But stay friendly...

    Slava ukraini 🇺🇦



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭D3V!L


    The ball hit my window for a 4th time yesterday evening. This time I caught it all on camera. I noticed the ball outside in my flower bed just afterwards and went out to get it , there wasn't a soul around.

    Two minutes later their father popped in and I gave it back being civil and told them I'm not going to ask again. Shortly afterwards their mother arrived at the door accusing me of harassing her kids and that they're bawling inside !! I had only actually spoken to her kids all of once weeks ago when we moved in.

    I think the crux of the issue is with the kids lying to their parents and the parents believing every little word they say. Its a sad state of affairs.

    Anyway, I have the entire thing recorded on my CCTV and I'm going to the Gardai with it. Going to your neighbours door and accusing them of harassing little girls is a serious accusation.

    Isn't technology great :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 664 ✭✭✭starbaby2003


    D3V!L wrote: »
    The ball hit my window for a 4th time yesterday evening. This time I caught it all on camera. I noticed the ball outside in my flower bed just afterwards and went out to get it , there wasn't a soul around.

    Two minutes later their father popped in and I gave it back being civil and told them I'm not going to ask again. Shortly afterwards their mother arrived at the door accusing me of harassing her kids and that they're bawling inside !! I had only actually spoken to her kids all of once weeks ago when we moved in.

    I think the crux of the issue is with the kids lying to their parents and the parents believing every little word they say. Its a sad state of affairs.

    Anyway, I have the entire thing recorded on my CCTV and I'm going to the Gardai with it. Going to your neighbours door and accusing them of harassing little girls is a serious accusation.

    Isn't technology great :D

    I think you need to ask the parents if you, your partner, them and their kids can all have a discussion on what is happening. If the kids are relaying stories of harassment and every time you speak to the parents you are a bit worked up, the wrong message is getting across. You are attached to each other, so getting along is paramount. You have just moved in, you are entitled to peace and quiet. They are also entitled to play though. The hitting the ball off the window is completely wrong but I wonder if they are doing it for a reaction ? Do you talk to any other neighbours ?

    Just to add, going to the guards is an appalling idea, guaranteed to escalate the issue.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭D3V!L


    I think you need to ask the parents if you, your partner, them and their kids can all have a discussion on what is happening. If the kids are relaying stories of harassment and every time you speak to the parents you are a bit worked up, the wrong message is getting across. You are attached to each other, so getting along is paramount. You have just moved in, you are entitled to peace and quiet. They are also entitled to play though. The hitting the ball off the window is completely wrong but I wonder if they are doing it for a reaction ? Do you talk to any other neighbours ?

    Just to add, going to the guards is an appalling idea, guaranteed to escalate the issue.

    I wasn't worked up. There is no talking to these people, we've just worked that out.

    We're on good terms with the other neighbours on the other side and no issues with anyone else.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,219 ✭✭✭pablo128


    I think you need to ask the parents if you, your partner, them and their kids can all have a discussion on what is happening. If the kids are relaying stories of harassment and every time you speak to the parents you are a bit worked up, the wrong message is getting across. You are attached to each other, so getting along is paramount. You have just moved in, you are entitled to peace and quiet. They are also entitled to play though. The hitting the ball off the window is completely wrong but I wonder if they are doing it for a reaction ? Do you talk to any other neighbours ?

    Just to add, going to the guards is an appalling idea, guaranteed to escalate the issue.

    Some neighbours are just cnuts. The OP has already spoken to them and got nowhere.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,426 ✭✭✭wirelessdude01


    What does your CCTV recording show?


  • Posts: 24,714 [Deleted User]


    Keep or burst every ball that comes in, tell the kids to clear off and tell the parents to f*ck off anytime they come bothering you.

    Why anyone wants to live in an estate is beyond me.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,426 ✭✭✭wirelessdude01


    Why anyone wants to live in an estate is beyond me.


    Most people don't have a choice now but to live in an estate


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,219 ✭✭✭pablo128


    Keep or burst every ball that comes in, tell the kids to clear off and tell the parents to f*ck off anytime they come bothering you.

    Why anyone wants to live in an estate is beyond me.

    No we're being told now it's a luxury to live in a 3 bed house, and should be thankful for an apartment in Dublin. There are more than a few people on boards spouting that rubbish.

    Anyway you should expect a certain amount of respect from your neighbours the same as you would give them.

    Genuinely if it was me I'd try the civil route. If that didn't work I'd be picking the ball out of my flower bed and hopping it off their front window. You cannot beat a taste of your own medicine.


  • Registered Users Posts: 34 Wexforllion


    Keep or burst every ball that comes in, tell the kids to clear off and tell the parents to f*ck off anytime they come bothering you.

    Why anyone wants to live in an estate is beyond me.

    Maybe everyone doesnt want to live in an estate but is not rich.

    Maybe using words is a better route then bursting balls. Who knows.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,305 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    D3V!L wrote: »
    We're on good terms with the other neighbours on the other side and no issues with anyone else.
    Ask them if they know why the previous people in your house sold it.
    Why anyone wants to live in an estate is beyond me.
    Local Needs laws prevents most people building elsewhere.
    Maybe using words is a better route then bursting balls. Who knows.
    Thus far, using words hasn't worked.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,268 ✭✭✭✭uck51js9zml2yt


    GoneHome wrote: »
    The joys of living in a semi-d in a housing estate, that's why I love the peace and solitude of rural living!

    Yup. I have to put up with hundreds of birds singling outside my house all the time.
    They just won't shut up :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,268 ✭✭✭✭uck51js9zml2yt


    Maybe everyone doesnt want to live in an estate but is not rich.

    Maybe using words is a better route then bursting balls. Who knows.

    Being rich or not has nothing to do with living in an estate or not.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,018 ✭✭✭knipex


    LillySV wrote: »
    ! If they want to belt the ball off a wall, beat it off their own house or go to a pitch ...

    Who is belting a ball off the OP's wall ???


  • Registered Users Posts: 34 Wexforllion


    Being rich or not has nothing to do with living in an estate or not.

    Obviously it has something to do with it.


  • Registered Users Posts: 350 ✭✭Taiga


    I suppose if your house was empty for the past year the kids have been used to that and just simply not thinking and are continuing to play as they normally would. It will take a little time to get used to the fact that your property isn't fair game. I'd play this clever if I were you, make nice. Nothing like a grouchy neighbour (in the kids minds) to attract their negative attention. Be friendly with them. Subtly fence around or a wall or whatever you have to do.

    It is the usual in estates, often it isn't personal. I have a fab back garden, but no one would know it from the front as any plant I've tried to keep has been trampled, flattened by a ball etc but they don't mean it. I stay friendly with them and everyone gets on well.

    You have to live there and the last thing you need is hassle. Once they're quiet at night I'd be happy enough tbh.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,190 ✭✭✭SonOfGoat


    Mod note @SonOfGoat

    Do not advocate violence.
    Next post like this and it’s a ban.


  • Posts: 24,714 [Deleted User]


    Obviously it has something to do with it.

    Not really, a very good house in the county will be a similar price to a run of the mill house in a (nice) estate. Building or buying in the county is not necessarily cheaper than in a nice estate but you get vastly more for your money.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,892 ✭✭✭Charles Babbage


    Get one of those high pitched yokes that adults cannot hear. It won't do any harm, it won't reach very far, but will make the area near your house slightly less preferable as a playground.
    Not really, a very good house in the county will be a similar price to a run of the mill house in a (nice) estate. Building or buying in the county is not necessarily cheaper than in a nice estate but you get vastly more for your money.

    Having slurry spread outside your window is not much fun either.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,305 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    Having slurry spread outside your window is not much fun either.
    It's bad for the 1st 20 minutes, and then you just get used to it.


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