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Work crush and Christmas party.

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    #32
    engiweirdo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 593 ✭✭✭engiweirdo


    Noveight wrote: »
    I truly hope you're being sarcastic.

    ????


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    #33
    corner of hells
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    Start a punch up , she'll definitely be interested.


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    #34
    Noveight
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,813 ✭✭✭Noveight


    Red Lightning wrote: »
    We have our Christmas party tomorrow evening and am wondering should I try and turn things a little flirtier than things have been or make any moves?

    I'll be back on Saturday morning at 7am for an update btw.


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    #35
    posturingpat
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    Ask her to shift your ugly friend.
    When she hopefully says no ask will she shift you then.


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    #36
    JohnnyFlash
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    Ara, it's the Christmas season. Plenty of people are just looking to head out and have a heap of pints, before hooking up with someone for a good ride. No need to be overthinking these sort of situations. I know you don't drink, but that doesn't mean you can't get into the randy Christmas spirit. Make sure you give the old twig and berries a bit of a trim before you head out just in case you do get lucky.

    Best of luck.


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    #37
    Dammo
    Registered Users Posts: 320 ✭✭Dammo


    You’re 24 and talking about your “crush”?

    Have a pint and chat to the other lads there.


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    #38
    irishguitarlad
    Registered Users Posts: 2,751 ✭✭✭irishguitarlad


    Shrek is love, Shrek is life.


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    #39
    XsApollo
    Registered Users Posts: 2,401 ✭✭✭XsApollo


    Seriously?
    Why do these threads always come up, more so in PI.
    Get on with it.
    Your gone soon, ask her, what have you got to loose, it will probably bug you for months after.

    Then when you’re stalking her Facebook in a few years time and you see she is married with kids it will only get worse and you will be thinking if only.....
    As her, you will either get a yes or a no.


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    #40
    Red Lightning
    Closed Accounts Posts: 378 ✭✭Red Lightning


    Thanks for the advice everyone.

    I didn't mean that i was looking for anything too forward tomorrow evening.
    ATM we're just chatting and having a laugh but can't say anything has been overly flirty.

    This will be the first social situation that we are out together. Do I try and act a little more flirty etc or ask her to dance etc etc.


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    #41
    Icsics
    Registered Users Posts: 2,043 ✭✭✭Icsics


    Red Lightning wrote: »
    Thanks for the advice everyone.

    I didn't mean that i was looking for anything too forward tomorrow evening.
    ATM we're just chatting and having a laugh but can't say anything has been overly flirty.

    This will be the first social situation that we are out together. Do I try and act a little more flirty etc or ask her to dance etc etc.
    OP a work night out is not a normal social situation, in my experience they are mostly awkward affairs. Bide ur time, I certainly wouldn't make any moves, ur nervous as it, relax & enjoy ur evening. Friend her on FB & go from there, when u are in a different school.


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    #42
    brinty
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    Red Lightning wrote:
    This will be the first social situation that we are out together. Do I try and act a little more flirty etc or ask her to dance etc etc.

    Sure ask her out for a dance and once she sees your moves you'll be in like Flynn then


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    #43
    JohnnyFlash
    Registered Users Posts: 7,055 ✭✭✭JohnnyFlash


    Wait until Don't Stop Believin' by Journey comes on. It's a real dance floor filler. Then break out your best moves and shuffle over towards her during the guitar solo part.


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    #44
    punisher5112
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    Drop both hands....


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    #45
    fuerte1976
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    JohnnyFlash wrote: »
    Ara, it's the Christmas season. Plenty of people are just looking to head out and have a heap of pints, before hooking up with someone for a good ride. No need to be overthinking these sort of situations. I know you don't drink, but that doesn't mean you can't get into the randy Christmas spirit. Make sure you give the old twig and berries a bit of a trim before you head out just in case you do get lucky.

    Best of luck.


    Johnnys got you covered 😉


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    #46
    Arghus
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    I say go for it.


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    #47
    [Deleted User]
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    OP, I will apologise in advance if I've gotten this completely wrong, but have you created many threads in PI and other places related to meeting women?

    If so then you need to take a step back from the preoccupation you have. You are young with all of life and its experiences ahead of you. Constantly searching for "what to do" on an internet forum really isn't healthy. Learn to trust your own intuition and decisions.

    If you like the girl then ask her out. It really is as simple as that. If she declines then you move on knowing that you tried. Don't internalise her response as a reflection on you. We can't win them all :)


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    #48
    punisher5112
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    Chat them all up ...


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    #49
    nullzero
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    ****


    OP, in this sociopolitical climate you may want to bring a solicitor along with you and have some sort of a consent form ready to be consigned and witnessed by aforementioned solicitor.

    Glazers Out!



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    #50
    punisher5112
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    Just bring papers declare your intentions and get her to sign....

    Win win....


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    #51
    KevinCavan
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    Don’t go to the party with a loaded gun.
    ‪https://youtu.be/9p3j294sqM8‬


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    #52
    KevinCavan
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    Somebody once made a blunt and insightful statement to me, I’m paraphrasing a little: “what is asking out? Either you shift her or you don’t. If your not at a level where she would shift you, what would you be doing asking her on a date?” I think in an Irish context that is true.


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    #53
    1800_Ladladlad
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    Ask for a w*nk in the disabled toilets?


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    #54
    RabbleRouser2k
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    OP, I will apologise in advance if I've gotten this completely wrong, but have you created many threads in PI and other places related to meeting women?

    If so then you need to take a step back from the preoccupation you have. You are young with all of life and its experiences ahead of you. Constantly searching for "what to do" on an internet forum really isn't healthy. Learn to trust your own intuition and decisions.

    If you like the girl then ask her out. It really is as simple as that. If she declines then you move on knowing that you tried. Don't internalise her response as a reflection on you. We can't win them all :)

    As Persepoly said.

    On the other, if you genuinely want a relationship with her-just be more flirty. Be the 'make plans' kinda guy-even if it's 'I won't know anyone at the new job-you wanna meet up for drinks or a meal while I pick your brain for advice'.

    Build a relationship over time, don't just treat her like something throwaway.


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    #55
    Ash.J.Williams
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    One cannot trust a sober person


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    #56
    Sephiroth_dude
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    Lob the gob off her!


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    #57
    Edgware
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    Tell her.
    you need some help with your Tuiseal Ginedach


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    #58
    professore
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    Fancying a work colleague? You are contributing to rape culture. For shame.


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    #59
    [Deleted User]
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    Just to clarify my post, I'm not implying the OP is only interested in chasing a bunch of different women. I do believe he is looking for love. My point is that he may be consumed by this.


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    #60
    Edgware
    Registered Users Posts: 5,875 ✭✭✭Edgware


    professore wrote: »
    Fancying a work colleague? You are contributing to rape culture. For shame.
    The way it's going it's hardly worth the effort anymore


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    #61
    mr_edge_to_you
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    Make sure you get consent!


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