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spottybananas · 12-11-2014 11:35pm

Im not expecting to feel anything for another month but this was weird! I get pulls and cramps every day when I do different things so have gotten used to them but this was new...

Woshy · 13-11-2014 10:53am

spottybananas wrote: »

Felt a very odd little vibration earlier, I actually checked if my phone was in my hoody pocket...it was on the table. It was in from my hip bone, where the scan would suggest some feet are residing, could it be movement, or just yet another odd muscle I didn't know I had?? I'm just over 16 weeks, and am intrigued

I felt proper kicks from 16 weeks last time I was pregnant. It's early but not super early. If you are slim or have lost a lot of weight from being sick in the first trimester (like I did) then you are more likely to feel movement earlier too. So it could be a movement, easily,

spottybananas · 13-11-2014 11:23am

Woshy wrote: »

I felt proper kicks from 16 weeks last time I was pregnant. It's early but not super early. If you are slim or have lost a lot of weight from being sick in the first trimester (like I did) then you are more likely to feel movement earlier too. So it could be a movement, easily,

I'm relatively slim but always have the tiniest bit of a rounded belly no matter how thin I am (I'm a size 12, ans quite tall), so of all irritating places to have some extra weight right now is on my little round belly

That's why I think I'm not showing at all either, because I always have that tiny round bit. It's slightly more obvious to me now when I can see the curve of my hip bones and muscles at either side and a little round in the middle, but to anyone else when I'm in clothes you wouldn't notice at all.

I think that vibration was kinda a one off for now, I have definitely had nothing like a flutter or a kick...other than the charming gas/indigestion :rolleyes:

Woshy · 13-11-2014 1:01pm

spottybananas wrote: »

I'm relatively slim but always have the tiniest bit of a rounded belly no matter how thin I am (I'm a size 12, ans quite tall), so of all irritating places to have some extra weight right now is on my little round belly That's why I think I'm not showing at all either, because I always have that tiny round bit. It's slightly more obvious to me now when I can see the curve of my hip bones and muscles at either side and a little round in the middle, but to anyone else when I'm in clothes you wouldn't notice at all.

I think that vibration was kinda a one off for now, I have definitely had nothing like a flutter or a kick...other than the charming gas/indigestion :rolleyes:

You'll be getting kicks soon and then they'll be keeping you up all night!

I'm just 12 weeks and I can feel the odd flutter every now and then. That's very, very early to feel anything but this is my second baby and I've lost over 10% of my body weight in the last 6 weeks or so so there's no padding to cushion anything :

spottybananas · 13-11-2014 1:07pm

I've just had two nights of unbroken sleep which has been bliss, I was waking 2-3 times a night and just lying there wide awake for hours so this is lovely, I am happy to leave the sleepless nights being kicked to bits for quite a while!

autumnbelle · 14-11-2014 11:27pm

Just wondering when during pregnancy did you visit the doctors? I have been for my first scan in the hospital and told I don't have to go back until 24 weeks, rang my doctors clinic today as I have only been in at the beginning to get the letter for the hospital. She told me I don't visit them until24 weeks. When I said my hospital appointment is for 24 weeks she said I don't need to visit them until after as there is no point going for both. My hospital only does the one scan which I had at 14 weeks and now I don't get seen anywhere for ten more weeks? Is this the norm?

Ms2011 · 14-11-2014 11:59pm

I saw my GP last weeks at 18 weeks. When I saw my consultant at 16 weeks she told me to make an appointment with my GP in 2 weeks time (18 weeks) & then two weeks after that (20 weeks) I'd have my anomaly scan, 2 weeks after that again (22 weeks) I'd get an appointment for my midwife.
That's how it's gone for me thus far.

angeldelight · 15-11-2014 12:05am

Children In Need and pregnancy hormones don't mix

Merkin · 15-11-2014 12:18am

angeldelight wrote: »

Children In Need and pregnancy hormones don't mix

It's an emotional roller coaster at the best of times! I invariably bawl through some of it while laughing at the funny bits. Any innocent bystander would think me highly unstable!

fro9etb8j5qsl2 · 15-11-2014 12:45am

autumnbelle wrote: »

Just wondering when during pregnancy did you visit the doctors? I have been for my first scan in the hospital and told I don't have to go back until 24 weeks, rang my doctors clinic today as I have only been in at the beginning to get the letter for the hospital. She told me I don't visit them until24 weeks. When I said my hospital appointment is for 24 weeks she said I don't need to visit them until after as there is no point going for both. My hospital only does the one scan which I had at 14 weeks and now I don't get seen anywhere for ten more weeks? Is this the norm?

My GP does a checkup between 16-18 weeks. Then hospital at 20 weeks, doctor at 24, hospital at 28 and after 32 weeks, I'll see the doctor every week unless I have a hospital appointment. This is the standard combined care schedule that my gp/hospital do but I have had an extra few in between due to a recurrent uti. If I were you I would definitely push for a doctors checkup before 24 weeks, it's reassuring just to get your urine dipped, bp checked and to bring up any little concerns you have.

Six of One · 16-11-2014 12:58pm

autumnbelle wrote: »

Just wondering when during pregnancy did you visit the doctors? I have been for my first scan in the hospital and told I don't have to go back until 24 weeks, rang my doctors clinic today as I have only been in at the beginning to get the letter for the hospital. She told me I don't visit them until24 weeks. When I said my hospital appointment is for 24 weeks she said I don't need to visit them until after as there is no point going for both. My hospital only does the one scan which I had at 14 weeks and now I don't get seen anywhere for ten more weeks? Is this the norm?

I was the same. GP when I found out. 12 week scan, 21 week scan, then midwife clinic at 24 weeks. Since then its every fortnight between midwife and GP. It felt very strange though to go so long with no appointments. There's so much information in the pregnancy apps though and from others in the pregnancy yoga class I've been going to that I never really felt worried about anything so didn't make any extra appointments.

angeldelight · 16-11-2014 1:21pm

I had a very odd experience yesterday - an old traveller lady came into my work, and straightaway said to me that I'd have a very healthy pregnancy and baby and did I want to know whether I'm having a girl or a boy... I've never seen her before, I'm not showing at all yet and all I had said to her was "hi"! It was so bizarre

fro9etb8j5qsl2 · 16-11-2014 2:20pm

angeldelight wrote: »

did I want to know whether I'm having a girl or a boy...

Did you find out????

angeldelight · 16-11-2014 2:25pm

Eva Proud Voyage wrote: »

Did you find out????

Haha no I sort of stumbled over my words and said something along the lines of umm thanks errr no surprise eh ok thanks!

spottybananas · 16-11-2014 8:45pm

angeldelight wrote: »

Haha no I sort of stumbled over my words and said something along the lines of umm thanks errr no surprise eh ok thanks!

If you're not showing yet I would've said I wasn't pregnant just to see what she said back

I take back everything I've been saying about it being great not showing yet and hoping it continues. Turns out everything is rapidly running out of space inside my poor abdominal cavity, my muscles are rock hard, bloating is killing me, and it's like I'm wearing a corset or something when I'm trying to sleep, it's all so bound up and tight feeling. Oh to have more space in there, like an external bump shaped space!! 17 weeks and not a bit of expansion in sight, that seemed great a few days ago :P

Dolbert · 23-11-2014 2:34pm

If anyone wants to feel less crazy, go visit some other parenting sites which will remain nameless. One woman is terribly upset because a stranger thousands of miles away has 'stolen' her unborn baby's name. Er, don't post it up then love! I love how normal you all are

spottybananas · 23-11-2014 3:39pm

Dolbert wrote: »

If anyone wants to feel less crazy, go visit some other parenting sites which will remain nameless. One woman is terribly upset because a stranger thousands of miles away has 'stolen' her unborn baby's name. Er, don't post it up then love! I love how normal you all are

Dolbert that is so weird, I was just about to come here to ask if anyone looks at American pregnancy websites, they are brilliant. A lot of them seem to just make up names, and they all have very specific fb announcement plans, some announcing on fb as early as 3 (yes 3) to 6 weeks pregnant. It's crazy. And as for the baby showers drama and "is it safe to photocopy when pregnant? " style questions, it's endlessly entertaining

I'm having my first day of proper pregnancy first world problems. I feel fine, still look exactly the same (much to family and friends annoyance apparently!), it's too early to feel movement, I need something to change or happen, this bit is dull and drawn out...!

mirrorwall14 · 23-11-2014 3:51pm

spottybananas wrote: »

Dolbert that is so weird, I was just about to come here to ask if anyone looks at American pregnancy websites, they are brilliant. A lot of them seem to just make up names, and they all have very specific fb announcement plans, some announcing on fb as early as 3 (yes 3) to 6 weeks pregnant. It's crazy. And as for the baby showers drama and "is it safe to photocopy when pregnant? " style questions, it's endlessly entertaining

I'm having my first day of proper pregnancy first world problems. I feel fine, still look exactly the same (much to family and friends annoyance apparently!), it's too early to feel movement, I need something to change or happen, this bit is dull and drawn out...!

They are all mental. I have here and one subforum on reddit. Everything else I've read has a pretty substantial lunatic group of posters. Judgemental, crazy, hormonal you name it!

On my own rant at 30 (almost 31) weeks I'm getting pissed with people telling me either
a) I don't look pregnant (thanks?! I guess I look fat then)

or

b) I'm glowing (no I'm not??! I have black bags under my eyes from rhinitis and I'm red because I'm sweating)

Whispered · 23-11-2014 4:19pm

Is it mean to be getting fed up with "How are you today" texts. Like literally just "How are you today?". Only so many times you can say "Fine thanks" without feeling rude.

mirrorwall14 · 23-11-2014 4:21pm

Whispered wrote: »

Is it mean to be getting fed up with "How are you today" texts. Like literally just "How are you today?". Only so many times you can say "Fine thanks" without feeling rude.

I don't think so. I've had two bleeds in the last few weeks and I've had everyone texting me daily. Its calmed down again now thank god. I don't mind my husband texting, like he's the one who would be running me to hospital again but I can't hack having to reply to everyone else!

Whispered · 23-11-2014 4:26pm

Oh yeah my husband texting is great, and I appreciate texts that start a conversation too. But the open ended "how are you", silly as it sounds, puts pressure on me to find something to talk about. I'm absolutely fine, but replying with that feels like I'm being short with people so I end up sitting here racking my brain for something else to say. Specific questions about baby or better still a text which is not baby related are always appreciated. I sound so ungrateful!

Glad your texters have calmed down and everything is going well!

mirrorwall14 · 23-11-2014 4:31pm

Those are awkward alright. When I'm busy they literally get a "grand" and I forget about it

I may be a bit mean though! All good now, maternity leave started so relaxing a bit

Lashes28 · 23-11-2014 5:05pm

I need to know the names of these sites to have a laugh

My mini rant for the day is being compared, my sil is due the same day, so everything is being compared by the families,buggy, birth plan,everything
The comments about appearance really grind my gears tho, she's a big girl so her shape hasn't changed, I look like ive a beach ball up my top type bump, and I get the oh Ur massive, big as a house comments.

angeldelight · 24-11-2014 12:53am

Just wondering how you all decided when to finish up work? Do most people stop working 2 weeks before? How are we supposed to know how we'll feel??

spottybananas · 24-11-2014 1:01am

I'm no good to you on that because I'm self employed but I think most people try to work as long as possible to have more time off afterwards, so most work up the 38 weeks, even if the last few weeks are a (bearable) struggle. There's no way of knowing how you'll feel, many just struggle on for the last few weeks, but then there are others who go at 38 weeks and are bored stiff doing nothing for 2-4 weeks! Some women begin maternity leave earlier then if their doctor decides they need to be signed off if continuing is too much.

Haven't you just started a new job? I suppose you'd want to be working as long as possible with them when you're so new.

fro9etb8j5qsl2 · 24-11-2014 1:39am

spottybananas wrote: »

Some women begin maternity leave earlier then if their doctor decides they need to be signed off if continuing is too much.

Your employer cannot force you to take your maternity leave early due to illness/inability to continue and most doctors would recommend taking sick leave instead. Of course, this would depend on whether your employer pays you while out sick and if not, whether you can afford to be off. With my first pregnancy, I had my maternity leave booked for a month before my due date. I worked up until 8 months which was a bit silly of me because I was crippled with my back. In the end, it was high blood pressure that I got signed off for. I have been signed off sick for the whole of this pregnancy.

spottybananas · 24-11-2014 9:38am

Sorry that was what I meant, being signed off sick beforehand if required. I didn't say anything about an employerforcing someone, I said/meant if the woman or her doctor felt it was necessary.

Lashes28 · 24-11-2014 9:44am

Depends on what line of work you do too? I work in retail, and it's crippling me now, so I'll be taking some holidays and having a chat with my doc next week

fro9etb8j5qsl2 · 24-11-2014 10:47am

spottybananas wrote: »

Sorry that was what I meant, being signed off sick beforehand if required. I didn't say anything about an employerforcing someone, I said/meant if the woman or her doctor felt it was necessary.

Sorry spotty I didn't mean to sound like I was giving out to you

I was just pointing it out because I had terrible trouble with my (ex) local manager with stuff like this during my last pregnancy and also there was a thread in the work forum recently where a sick pregnant woman was told by her employer that she would have to take her mat leave early instead of sick leave. I was asking my occupational nurse at work and she was telling me that unfortunately, she experiences women with these kind of problems regularly

Neyite · 24-11-2014 12:00pm

angeldelight wrote: »

Just wondering how you all decided when to finish up work? Do most people stop working 2 weeks before? How are we supposed to know how we'll feel??

You dont need to book it with them until you are much further along. I think the minimum you need to give is 4 weeks notice, so theoretically you dont need to decide your date until 4 weeks before you intend to leave, though to maintain good relations you could give them more.

I left at 38 weeks, but then, my pregnancy was an easy one, and I'd no back pain or complications by then, plus my job isnt physically demanding - its office and desk based. I discussed my leaving date informally with them so we could schedule projects / train up other staff, and confirmed it in writing about 6 weeks before I left.

Dolbert · 24-11-2014 3:04pm

Yeah 38 weeks is the standard time to start maternity leave, in my workplace it's against policy to let you work longer than that. I'd have a contingency plan in place however, in my case I had an sudden spike in blood pressure last week at 36 weeks and was signed off for the remainder. I was able to sort out some things via email and text from home but there was still a bit left unfinished as I wasn't expecting to go right there and then.

angeldelight · 24-11-2014 3:37pm

I had a very last minute about the new job and turned it down. The more I thought of it the less sense it made. In my current role I can work 2 days a week and earn more than I would working 5 days a week in the new job. So I could have baby in a crèche 60 hours a week or be home with him/her 5 days a week. Also would have been a high pressure trainee role which would have been challenging enough if it was my sole focus which of course it won't be!

Reason I'm thinking about maternity leave now is I'm more of a contractor than an employee - don't get paid holiday pay or sick pay and work on my feet so trying to plan.

spottybananas · 24-11-2014 3:47pm

Yeah Im the same,being self employed I dont get sick pay or maternity pay so just state maternity and I work on my feet and it can be a bit physical sometimes, luckily it works out best to finish up so early so I dont have to worry about jeopardising work if I had to stop abruptly.

Mommababe · 24-11-2014 9:22pm

Hi ladies, one pf ypu moght be able to help me, I was diagnosed last week woth gestational diabetes and im 29 weeks. Not impressed as i feel unwell since i started the diet and felt perfectly fine before! Anyhow the hospital never told me how to get more strips for testing? Do they supply them? Or do we have to buy them? Money tight with xmas coming etc so what kind if cost am i looking at? Do u need a prescription to get them? Any info greatly welcommed as i havent a clue! Thanks

spottybananas · 26-11-2014 12:17pm

Went out for dinner with friends last night, I somehow managed to have an absolute brain fart and completely forget that pregnancy means there are a list of don't/maybe food guidelines. Well, I think I ate pretty much most of that list! I had a runny egg, paté, shellfish (cooked perfectly though), medium steak, raw egg, alcohol, peanuts..! I literally only remembered as we were on our way home, I'm impressed and horrified at the same time lol. Really I don't think any of them would do any harm, one runny egg in 5 months, one serving of paté in the same time (hardly enough to overdo iron levels), and I don't think eating peanuts/shellfish give babies allergies, but it's just amazing how I completely blanked on it. Great night though

January · 26-11-2014 12:26pm

Peanuts aren't to be avoided and the shellfish thing is in case it's undercooked and gives you food poisoning. Same for the eggs and medium steak. Alcohol obviously for the baby but if it's cooked into something then it's ok. Liver pate should be avoided or eaten in small portions.

Pure liver should be avoided altogether though.

Blingy · 26-11-2014 12:29pm

Sounds like it was a great night spottybananas!!

Anyone been to the endo or diabetes clinic in Holles St. Have an appointment on Friday and just wondering about waiting times etc. haven't told work yet so wondering if I'll be waiting hours or not!!!

spottybananas · 26-11-2014 12:37pm

January wrote: »

Peanuts aren't to be avoided and the shellfish thing is in case it's undercooked and gives you food poisoning. Same for the eggs and medium steak. Alcohol obviously for the baby but if it's cooked into something then it's ok. Liver pate should be avoided or eaten in small portions.

Pure liver should be avoided altogether though.

I know peanuts and shellfish aren't to be avoided, I am aware that it and the other foods mentioned are risks because of food poisoning, I thought that was obvious when I said the shellfish was well cooked. But I don't think the chances of food poisoning are very high eating these things once in 5 months, so I'm not concerned, if I ate them every day there'd be more of risk... But I have one particular friend who is adamant they are not allowed in case the baby gets an allergy to it, so I can't wait to see her face when I tell her I ate both in one night. I also know pure liver should be avoided, I didn't say I ate that, again one serving of paté (more butter than liver tbh) is not going to shove my levels of iron that high.

I'm not concerned, I was just sharing what I thought was a funny-ish story. Never mind.

Neyite · 26-11-2014 4:24pm

The list of no-foods for pregnant women varies massively from country to country.

I think as long as you are reasonably sensible, avoid unpasteurised stuff, have good kitchen safety habits it should be fine.

I was gagging for all the forbidden stuff during my pregnancy, and sometimes ate a little of what I wasnt supposed to eat.

There is research now indicating that exposure to common allergen foods like nuts, dairy, eggs etc. in the womb actually decrease the chances of the baby developing those allergies in later life. Tell your mate that too Spotty!

Dolbert · 26-11-2014 4:41pm

I kept forgetting about the runny egg/rare steak/shellfish thing. Mmmmmmm, delicious forbidden food

angeldelight · 26-11-2014 6:19pm

I've already told hubby I want a medium rare steak and a runny fried egg within a day of coming home from hospital or else!

Whispered · 26-11-2014 6:23pm

I'm most looking forward to soft poached eggs, every type of cheese I can get my hands on and a glass of red wine.

I've been super careful all through my pregnancy not to eat certain things and I haven't been able to stomach full sized meals for a few weeks now, so I am really looking forward to dropping my guard and pigging out.

spottybananas · 26-11-2014 8:33pm

Neyite wrote: »

The list of no-foods for pregnant women varies massively from country to country.

I think as long as you are reasonably sensible, avoid unpasteurised stuff, have good kitchen safety habits it should be fine. I was gagging for all the forbidden stuff during my pregnancy, and sometimes ate a little of what I wasnt supposed to eat.

There is research now indicating that exposure to common allergen foods like nuts, dairy, eggs etc. in the womb actually decrease the chances of the baby developing those allergies in later life. Tell your mate that too Spotty!

Yep, I'm sensible

I read up on things and make informed decisions, unlike my friend who is one of those with a little bit of knowledge and it's a dangerous thing. Honestly, I said I had a Snickers and herself and her fiance literally did this :eek: They have latched onto this notion that if you eat peanuts and shellfish your child WILL have an allergy to them. I wouldn't even be concerned if it was true about the shellfish one, a relative has a shellfish allergy and all they do is....not eat them. It's much easier to live with than a nut allergy, it's just like a preference rather than a danger.

*dives into prawn satay*

Whispered · 26-11-2014 9:24pm

I've never heard of the peanut thing but speaking to my mam she said it used to be common advice. I went by the handout my doc gave me on my first appointment. Unfortunately a lot of my fave things were on it like the cheese and undercooked eggs. I've had people have issues with me being vegetarian "you're a mother now you need to put your babies needs first" despite my blood tests coming back perfect. It seems to be another of those things people seem to feel they are entitled to an opinion on as soon as you get pregnant.

greenorchard · 26-11-2014 9:49pm

I've eaten two Snickers bars in the last 24 hours!

mirrorwall14 · 26-11-2014 10:19pm

Not quite snickers but I've developed a mad craving for Mars bars the last week or so. Of all chocolate bars I've always disliked them?! It's frigging wierd!

spottybananas · 26-11-2014 10:22pm

I'm gone off my normally beloved chocolate and can't get enough of salt and vinegar things, something I never eat normally because they are so disgusting. I love apples now too, never really an apple fan.

Neyite · 27-11-2014 12:35am

My mother was fed practically nothing but liver when hospitalised on one pregnancy nearly 40 years ago. Because they thought liver was good for anemia.

I had a hamper of smelly cheeses, booze, pate, and all the other stuff that was verboten waiting for me when I came home from the hospital. And the first thing that I ate was a runny fried egg double decker sammich. Heaven!!

Roesy · 27-11-2014 8:57am

My husband sent the inlaws on a raid to the English market and they brought me in the most delicious picnic of blue cheese, pate and other delights that I had been avoiding the day after she was born. Glad I wasn't sharing a room

For breakfast the morning after I came home I had the nicest, runniest eggs Benedict ever!

Ms2011 · 27-11-2014 9:54am

Think my palate must have been praticing for pregnancy all my life, I couldn't eat a runny egg, soft cheese, half cooked steak or liver if I was paid. I am a bit of a nut for a nut though:)

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