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is 43 /44 too old to have a child?

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  • 27-01-2020 12:17am
    #1
    thebourke
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    is 43 /44 too old to have a child?


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    khalessi
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    As long as doctor says you're healthy enough, go for it if you're happy to.

    My sil gave birth at 48 and has a lovely 6 year old and no bother to her health


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    Neyite
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    If health wise and fertility wise you have no issues, and your doctor has no concerns, then it's entirely up to you. :)


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    galwayllm
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    YES!!!!!


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    vandriver
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    The chances of having a Downs syndrome baby skyrocket in your 40's.


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    Neyite
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    galwayllm wrote: »
    YES!!!!!
    vandriver wrote: »
    The chances of having a Downs syndrome baby skyrocket in your 40's.


    Not if the OP is male...;)


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    golfball37
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    If you're male I don't see any issue at all OP.


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    fits
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    Id seriously look at using a donor egg/embryo at that age. But I do know of women who have had healthy children at that age and older. Might be best to talk to an expert about it.


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    Neyite
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    Everyone - the OP is MALE.



    I checked his previous posts.


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    Neyite
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    Mod:


    The Boy Conor, do NOT post on this thread again.

    Posts and responses deleted.


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    PhoenixParker
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    Historically it was very common (for both women and men). What's unusual these days is people having their first or second at that age vs historically parenthood at age 43 was for baby 10 or thereabouts.

    Do a search of the 1911 census for women in their early 50s. Look at the age of their youngest child and do the maths.


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    Raconteuse
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    Neyite wrote: »
    Everyone - the OP is MALE.



    I checked his previous posts.
    Up to him to clarify. What a threadbare post. And he might be referring to his partner rather than himself.

    If female, it's risky if she conceives at all. And could be tough. People will give examples of exceptions but of course you'd have less energy than if you had the baby ten years before. Also you'll be mid 60s with a 21-year-old. Then again, it could all work out fine, but it's not without considerations.

    If male, no health issues and less likelihood of fertility issues, but see the rest of the above.

    Strange to ask this though - they know all those answers themselves.


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    skallywag
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    Not at all, nothing at all wrong with the age itself.

    The biggest challenge though (assuming the woman in question is the same age) will very likely be getting pregnant and carrying successfully to term.

    I would not be put off by the increased chance of Down Syndrome side of it. Yes, the chances definitely increase as you get older, but it's not like every other baby born to a parent that age will be effected, I think it's probably 2-3%.


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    Neyite
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    Closing a pointless thread as it's opening up too much conjecture and too much cyber-diagnosis going on

    OP, you /your partner need to talk to a doctor rather than listen to people online about something as permanent as having a child.


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