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20-07-2019, 19:08   #31
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The problem with good listeners is they are usually not talkative. You need to add something to the mix, I’m a good listener but have nothing to say, I’m opinionated but just don’t have fresh thoughts
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20-07-2019, 19:09   #32
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The problem with good listeners is they are usually not talkative. You need to add something to the mix, I’m a good listener but have nothing to say, I’m opinionated but just don’t have fresh thoughts
That's exactly like myself

Do you struggle with Holding conversation or creating conversation with people

My biggest struggle is creating convo with new people
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That's exactly like myself

Do you struggle with Holding conversation or creating conversation with people

My biggest struggle is creating convo with new people
I’m really good with new people but terrible the more I know people. Run out of convos.
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I don't really find many people interesting. My sister feels the same way.

But I like intelligent, intellectual people who aren't PR machines. Individuality and intellect is the key. For example, Jim Cornette and Germaine Greer are interesting.

Although I like sports, I find sports stars are bores generally. Most aren't very intelligent and they have nothing original to say.

I'm incredibly introverted myself and I suspect some people find me boring in real-life, but the feeling's mutual, so it doesn't bother me in the slightest.
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I'd be more put off someone telling me they're a member of MENSA than I would someone telling me they watch Love Island. I don't watch LI but I'd put money on it being less boring than intellectual snobbery.
Fun fact: Jimmy Savile was a member of MENSA. I thought Jimmy was an interesting character too, pity about the...well you know.

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20-07-2019, 19:35   #35
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Interesting: you don’t have to be the funniest, most intelligent or best looking but people who are able to hold a conversation and have something about them. People who don’t only listen to what you’re saying but bring it back to themselves and offer anecdotes, are witty and don’t need to command the room to be charming. People who can balance the juxtaposition of having a filthy sense of humour and intelligent and critical debate, without being overpowering and obnoxious.

Boring: people who are waiting for you to finish talking so they can either tell you how wrong you are or tell a better version of the thing you just told. Those people who are always “on”. It’s okay to be off and be miserable and have a moan. Mad bastarditis people who are actually painfully boring beneath it all

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20-07-2019, 21:13   #37
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It does boil down to whether you gel with someone or not. If they aren't your cup of tea, you aren't really going to care about their opinion or what they have to say. I personally like the outsiders, the "weirdos" as some others call them, people who don't conform to the expectations of others, someone who in some way has a kind of strange life or has odd hobbies. People like that are rare and can be very interesting. There are a huge amount of people out there who are in no way memorable and just do the things everyone else does or watch the shows their FB Account tells them to.

Its the off kilter people who have something different about them I like very much.
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20-07-2019, 22:01   #38
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I don’t think it’s as easy as suggesting people are either one or the other all the time. It’s kind of like suggesting people are either introverted or extroverted. Most people are either/or at any given time given the circumstances. Oddballs can be interesting/uninteresting, average people can be interesting/uninteresting. Depends upon a number of factors and circumstances IMO.
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20-07-2019, 22:12   #39
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People who keep on about the good old days can be very boring.
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People who keep on about the good old days can be very boring.
Agreed. There were no people like that when I was a youngster.
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People I find interesting: People who have a talent for expressing themselves and who can tell a story without you glazing over.

This.


Being a good story teller is an amazing trait. I'm often amazed by people who can captivate myself and others with detailed stories that manage to recreate the moment perfectly.


I fail in this department unfortunately despite having loads of hilarious stories in my head!
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21-07-2019, 00:57   #42
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Worked with a lad, he wouldn't describe himself as interesting or boring he actually is to modest to afford himself a description. The thing is even without making an effort his company is sought, simple explanation he's of that rare quality a 'character'. The stories about him in my place of work are endless, I have worked for this company for 23 years, the worst day I ever put in was the day he retired . Even after 3 years he is still spoken of with fondness. Probably off topic but it's nice to post something which may be of no relevance but honouring a decent soul.
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Worked with a lad, he wouldn't describe himself as interesting or boring he actually is to modest to afford himself a description. The thing is even without making an effort his company is sought, simple explanation he's of that rare quality a 'character'. The stories about him in my place of work are endless, I have worked for this company for 23 years, the worst day I ever put in was the day he retired . Even after 3 years he is still spoken of with fondness. Probably off topic but it's nice to post something which may be of no relevance but honouring a decent soul.
Genuinely interested

What was he like ?
Outgoing ?
Funny ?
A Messer ?
Or just
Great serious stories
Intelligent

??
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Genuinely interested

It's hard to describe him but out of a workforce of 250 he was and is loved universally. It probably hurts his character but he came into work one morning wearing a slipper on one foot and a safety shoe on the other. When it was pointed out to him his reaction was' that's great I thought the clutch was going soft'.
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21-07-2019, 01:35   #45
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To me someone boring would be somebody who never wants to do anything or only wants to do things that are specifically related to their own interests and wont try anything new or anything outside their own idea of 'fun'.

People who are self indulgent.

Extremely introspective types who try too hard to sound like they're intelligent and deep thinkers. Conversations are usually focused on themselves and their holier than thou opinions. - These people are usually the self indulgent types.

Negative people who look for the bad and criticize everybody and everything.

People who are condescending.

People who dont listen to what others are saying and are only interested in talking about themselves and their own interests.

People who make every conversation or interaction about themselves.

Extremely loud and energetic people - I just cant be around them, they drain me.

I find positive people interesting, especially if theyve been through hard times and have turned themselves around or turned bad life events into something positive.

Open minded people that dont judge or look down on others.

People who are passionate about their work, interests or hobbies.

People who are secure in themselves and have a quiet confidence are usually the most interesting people imo.

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