Monthly Godchild savings Yay or nay

pgj2015 · 09-05-2019 1:39pm

JayZeus wrote: »

Then why be a godparent?

why go to a funeral if you don't believe in a god? im sure this woman in question will be as good if not better than someone who believes in a god will do. religion shouldn't come into it.

Grayson · 09-05-2019 2:02pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

why go to a funeral if you don't believe in a god? im sure this woman in question will be as good if not better than someone who believes in a god will do. religion shouldn't come into it.

I'm an atheist and a godparent. I did point that out and looked up what was needed from me in the ceremony since I didn't want to lie. the only thing a godparent has to do is say they reject satan. I'm ok with saying that.

As for the religion side, my sister pointed out that I have multiple degrees in philosophy in which I specialised in ethics. I have studied the philosophy of religion and because of my secondary education in a diocesan school, I know more about catholicism than most catholics.

In many ways I'm more qualified than most catholics.

banie01 · 09-05-2019 2:12pm

Agent Smith wrote: »

for 25 Euro a month i'll be your friend....

I've just realized that Agent Smith and Agent Coulson are in fact different posters!
Always read the name and check the Avatar folks

zell12 · 09-05-2019 2:14pm

aaaaaaaahhhhhh wrote: »

Anyway she opened a bank account for the child and is putting 25 quid a month into it.

How can you open a bank account for someone else?
My friend, friendly nigerian prince wants to know

el Fenomeno · 09-05-2019 2:19pm

Call me cynical, but while your friend may have no issue putting 25 quid a month into a bank account for now, I'm not so sure she'll be as indifferent when it comes to handing over the bones of €6000 to an 18 year old she likely has little-to-no interaction or dealings with.

Feisar · 09-05-2019 2:19pm

Grayson wrote: »

I'm an atheist and a godparent. I did point that out and looked up what was needed from me in the ceremony since I didn't want to lie. the only thing a godparent has to do is say they reject satan. I'm ok with saying that.

As for the religion side, my sister pointed out that I have multiple degrees in philosophy in which I specialised in ethics. I have studied the philosophy of religion and because of my secondary education in a diocesan school, I know more about catholicism than most catholics.

In many ways I'm more qualified than most catholics.

I'm not arguing with you, I see yer point. However the crux of being a Catholic is believing the stuff, I don't think knowing whatever was said in John 3:7 matters as much.

El_Duderino 09 · 09-05-2019 2:23pm

The idea of what a godparent is really annoys me sometimes. I take being a godparent quite seriously. It's an opportunity to have an influence on a child's development. If I ever have children I would ask godparents if they would like to fulfil a particular role for the child.

That role is to be involved in the child's life. be a safe person that the child can talk to about anything. They don't have to tell me what they talk about if the child doesn't want them to tell me (unless there's a serious danger like causing harm to them selves or someone else, suicide or something similar). So the child always has an adult to talk to and get advice and offer a sound role model apart from their own parents.

I would explicitly say I don't expect them to but gifts for the child. They would only need to take time to get to know the child and build rapport.

It's completely possible that the child wouldn't like the godparent and vice versa. But I would be asking the godparent to make the effort to fulfil that role.

So in short I think money is completely unnecessary. Time with the child would be much more valuable

josip · 09-05-2019 2:39pm

Feisar wrote: »

I'm not arguing with you, I see yer point. However the crux of being a Catholic is believing the stuff, I don't think knowing whatever was said in John 3:7 matters as much.

(No no no, the crux of being a Catholic is feeling guilty about the stuff other people believe in.)

€25 a month is very subjective and whether it's excessive depends on income, your gf's own experience as a godchild etc.
I think it's at the high end of the scale.
It might become a talking point in the future if your gf and you are pooling incomes, or saving for something together and you don't have any similar outgoings.
For the record I give my god child €50 at birthday and christmas along with a small pressie.
I'll stop the money when she's 21.

Monthly Godchild savings Yay or nay

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