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What'll we do with our dead?

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    #92
    Gravelly
    Registered Users Posts: 4,119 ✭✭✭Gravelly


    ....... wrote: »

    Heaven truly is a place on Earth.

    Ooooh baby, do you know what that's worth?


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    Graces7
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    eviltwin wrote: »
    some people take it a bit far. I've seen bottles of beer, a Christmas tree and even a soggy selection box on graves over the last week. It's obviously a comfort thing but I don't get it and it can get a bit ridiculous.

    Personally I'm planning on being cremated and having my ashes scattered in a place close to my heart.

    Grief does these things. I met a young woman at one graveyard who had lost
    her child at a year old. The grave was covered in toys, flowers photos. She was still adding to it on what would have been the child's 8th birthday. It is their way of grieving. Not ridiculous to them and i do not see it as such. If it brings them comfort? Grief is a lonely place and few get any help with it. It is how they keep teir loved ones close to them


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    #94
    Graces7
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    Bigbagofcans wrote: »
    Even if some people can't understand it, I don't think we should judge people on how they grieve.

    Agree agree agree.. healthier than bottling it up, being brave as we were taught to do. Comes back and bites you then.


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    #95
    Graces7
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    AndrewJRenko wrote: »
    While I understand the tradition, this can be taken to an unhealthy extent.


    I know of two cases of parents who visit the graves of their adult child daily. While I can't bear to even contemplate the unimaginable pain of of losing a child, I'm not sure that this level of devotion is healthy and compatible with getting on with life.


    Maybe she'd be better off visiting her favourite beach or mountain top or forest walk to stay close?

    That is their way and not for us to judge or criticise. \as you say you cannot imagine the pain. I know widowers who do the same; visit their dead wives daily. It helps them and that is what matters


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    #96
    Graces7
    Registered Users Posts: 32,634 ✭✭✭✭Graces7


    AndrewJRenko wrote: »
    Have you seen the junk in Palmerstown?

    I see no junk in any ornate and decorated grave anywhere... bad word to use frankly.


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    #97
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    I used to have a GF that had lost a brother some years before we met, I could see it had taken a shocking toll on the family, as far as i know the Mum and Dad visited the grave every day. I'll never judge someone elses coping mechanisms.

    First they came for the socialists...



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