I’m 28 and not out but most people have a fair idea now. Over the past year I’ve started chatting to old friends, got a job where I’m meeting people, trying to chat more, etc basically trying to get out of my shy farm bubble.
I joined Grindr a few weeks ago. I was looking for friends, chats, relationships if things worked out and wasn’t looking for hook ups. I’m not totally naive and I knew lots were just looking for these and that’s cool.
I started to chat to various people and had a bit of fun and a bit of banter with people and then I came across this lad in the midlands and we had a bit in common and I messaged him.
We got on and exchanged phone numbers.
However he baffles me with certain things.
He says he’s not officially out. He has a picture up on his Grindr profile and he’ll openly send me voice messages when his relatives are around on what’s app.
Then he said we won’t be able to met until you get a haircut because of how it looks. I’ll give him that it does look brutal.
We live over 100km apart and we said we’d met in late July when we can do it properly.
Then he asks the same question the next night about meeting up and what I want was I going to do for him. If I suggest something it’s either over the top or not enough.
Then he says he wants to met sooner than later. He’s meant to be looking after his elderly father so I did think he’d want to obey restrictions.
I’d be relying on public transport at the moment to met people but it will be do able when things get back to normal.( I do intend to learn to drive).
Then he’ll repeat the same question night after night about meeting up and how he’s serious and not there to be used.
I do my best to explain things to him and he seems fine but it all starts up again.
Originally I was mad to met him but now I’m unsure.
I was continuing to log into my Grindr profile and chat to a few guys about TV, local stuff with some, etc and I saw he was online also.
He said tonight that he didn’t want me talking to other lads(even if it was just fun) and he was only logging into check messages and not reply to them.
I’m embarrassed about the whole thing to be honest. I feel like a foolish teenager again.
Ask anything ye want.
He did say he hadn’t much look on the site and wasn’t looking for time waters.