Best ways to get a date offline?

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 5:54pm #1

Might be better off in PI with this one but I’m interested in what AH can come up with.

Any other singles totally sick of the apps?

Most of my friends are quite settled or live far away so not a huge scope for going out... any ideas on how to meet someone offline?

biko · 16-03-2019 5:55pm

Interactions with other humans IRL usually will do the trick.

OldMrBrennan83 · 16-03-2019 5:56pm

biko wrote: »

Interactions with other humans IRL usually will do the trick.

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

Avatar MIA · 16-03-2019 5:57pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Might be better off in PI with this one but I’m interested in what AH can come up with.

Any other singles totally sick of the apps?

Most of my friends are quite settled or live far away so not a huge scope for going out... any ideas on how to meet someone offline?

You're not exactly making it easy.

What's work like?

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 5:57pm

biko wrote: »

Interactions with other humans IRL usually will do the trick.

Do they though? Like in the US I believe it’s quite normal for a guy to approach a woman he likes in a cafe and ask her out, does that happen here?

biko · 16-03-2019 5:59pm

Here I made a video for you, but generally just converse with people surrounding you with no flirting.
After a while in conversation introduce flirting.
Converse with people that are standing alone. They are more inclined to humour you that someone in a group.
Keep it short and simple.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4PpWoYVbP4

Avatar MIA · 16-03-2019 5:59pm

OldMrBrennan83 wrote: »

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

I think you're the one that is more in need of posting in PI.

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 5:59pm

Avatar MIA wrote: »

You're not exactly making it easy.

What's work like?

I work from home mostly, but even when I do go into the office the only time I’ve ever come close to flirting/ romance is the Christmas party.

OldMrBrennan83 · 16-03-2019 6:00pm

Avatar MIA wrote: »

I think you're the one that is more in need of posting in PI.

True, because things definitely aren't gone down that road at all these days. I forgot you can't mention it either.

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 6:07pm

Avatar MIA wrote: »

You're not exactly making it easy.

What's work like?

I do go out - just get clarify - but usually for one or two and not on mad sessions that end in coppers.

16-03-2019 6:08pm

Join an activity group, say hill-walking or dancing. Strike up a conversation. It's not rocket surgery.

Avatar MIA · 16-03-2019 6:08pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

I work from home mostly, but even when I do go into the office the only time I’ve ever come close to flirting/ romance is the Christmas party.

You're limited in your options for going out, you've no work interactions, and past college I presume, and online dating is not happening. Have you considered the priesthood? Some women love a challenge/uniform :pac:

What do you think you need to change to put yourself in a situation to meet people you fancy?

Avatar MIA · 16-03-2019 6:10pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

I do go out - just get clarify - but usually for one or two and not on mad sessions that end in coppers.

Ah, okay, and mad sessions rarely end in relationship forming opportunities anyway.

sk8erboii · 16-03-2019 6:11pm

OldMrBrennan83 wrote: »

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

That only happens if you’re unpresentable and creepy.

o1s1n · 16-03-2019 6:13pm

OldMrBrennan83 wrote: »

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

Jaysus, did you strike out recently?

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 6:14pm

Avatar MIA wrote: »

You're limited in your options for going out, you've no work interactions, and past college I presume, and online dating is not happening. Have you considered the priesthood? Some women love a challenge/uniform :pac:

What do you think you need to change to put yourself in a situation to meet people you fancy?

While I can understand why you’d assume Kiki is masculine (?) just to confirm I am female.

I think I do need to get out and about more - any more ideas on hobbies or activities that are likely to involve meeting other youngish people?

I’m not very sporty or musical or arty, just to be totally awkward about this - but I am open to ideas.

I’d like to start going to a book club but I think I’d mostly meet other women at that. Maybe toastmasters.

Infonovice · 16-03-2019 6:18pm

Does Boards ever do meet up's?
Like individual people arranging meet up's
I'm sure they had been mentioned before but i'm not sure what happened with them

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 6:18pm

Take The Wheel Jesus wrote: »

If you can, go to a trad pub full of tourists. Chatting up foreign women is like playing the game of life on God mode. You can literally seduce foreign women by talking about turf. In fact I would encourage you to paddy it up (but don't get too drunk and for the love of God don't ask an American girl her opinion on Trump or gun rights).

That would be helpful if problematic advice if I were a lesbian, but I’m actually a woman looking to meet a guy.

Seriously lads, I know we can’t assume gender these days, but I thought Kiki was meant obvious enough?!

Yer Da sells Avon · 16-03-2019 6:22pm

OldMrBrennan83 wrote: »

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

True. I know someone who said hello to a woman once and now he's on the sex offenders' register.

I knew a woman once, but she died soon afterwards.

Avatar MIA · 16-03-2019 6:22pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Seriously lads, I know we can’t assume gender these days, but I thought Kiki was meant obvious enough?!

I pretty much assume everyone on Boards is a male unless proven otherwise, so we're gonna need pics :pac:

The more perceptible Biko actually posted a good vid in that case. :cool:

Avatar MIA · 16-03-2019 6:24pm

Infonovice wrote: »

Does Boards ever do meet up's?
Like individual people arranging meet up's
I'm sure they had been mentioned before but i'm not sure what happened with them

Do weddings count

Grayson · 16-03-2019 6:32pm

o1s1n wrote: »

Jaysus, did you strike out recently?

I'm assuming someone say him try and put the roofie in the drink

Infonovice · 16-03-2019 6:38pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

I’d like to start going to a book club but I think I’d mostly meet other women at that. Maybe toastmasters.

other woman as friends might be a start.

my friend went to a christening of another friend of hers years ago.
She met someone there, who was a friend of the baby's father.
they are now married themselves.
(I meant my friend married the man she met at that christening. not that the christening couple married)

so maybe try expand your circle of friends, be it women or men, and see what happens:)

Infonovice · 16-03-2019 6:39pm

Avatar MIA wrote: »

Do weddings count

?

Avatar MIA · 16-03-2019 6:40pm

Infonovice wrote: »

?

People have met through boards, and have got married.

Infonovice · 16-03-2019 6:44pm

oh ok sorry I wasn't sure what you meant.

That's lovely that some people have met here and went on to live happily ever after.

Maybe Kiki might find her romeo here so:)

JayRoc · 16-03-2019 6:48pm

Avatar MIA wrote: »

People have met through boards, and have got married.

I was laughing at that idea if I'm being totally honest.

Then about 90 seconds later I realised I'm fairly sure I met my wife through boards

freshpopcorn · 16-03-2019 6:49pm

Lisdoonvarna!

corner of hells · 16-03-2019 6:55pm

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Lisdoonvarna!

We havin' a singsong ?

Ohhhh Lisdoonvarna !

Go for it , Kiki..

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 6:58pm

corner of hells wrote: »

We havin' a singsong ?

Ohhhh Lisdoonvarna !

Go for it , Kiki..

How we doin’, everybody? From Cork, New York, Gortahurk and Glenamaddy?

Blitzkrieger · 16-03-2019 7:11pm

I think it's been said already OP - get out and do stuff. Join a gym, take a class, find a hobby and meet people IRL. Doesn't matter if it's men or women, you'll gradually expand your circle and meet more friends of friends, etc. I've been rejected by countless women using this method....

Always like this routine which fits here (sort of) :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bts28rz0lJ0

Best ways to get a date offline?

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