We need a new "ism" ?

Mods please move if this is the wrong place.

This is an opinion I've formed over the last several years.

In today's world there are lots of "isms" - racism, sexism, feminism, most religions etc (can't think of others off the top of my head) which started out with the goal of getting equal rights for a disadvantaged group, and were sorely needed at the time, and still do to some extent (except religions, they were never about equal rights). Now however it seems that the main role of all of these, or at least as portrayed in the mainstream media, is to elevate the group in question above the other groups, and to label and stigmatise anyone who dare question anything the appointed gurus of the ism say.

Often this takes the form of picking a problem that is not unique to one group - may be more prevalent in one group than another, then try to make out it is only an issue to that group, and look for government funding, positive discrimination (a ridiculous concept), while simultaneously ignoring or minimising other groups with the same problem. This just breeds antagonism, especially if you are not in the group in question, but being accused of being "the cause" of the problem when you are a victim of the problem because of a member of the group saying your "group" is the cause of the problem is the one doing it to you ! Literally it is just the same as racism or sexism back in the day !!!!

For example, saying that domestic abuse is a "women's issue" or poverty is a "black issue". This also has the effect of victims saying "ah well I'm a woman or black or whatever, that's just how it is, all men / whites etc are like that." while simultaneously doing nothing to address the problem. It also makes a poor white person or a man being domestically abused actually not want to support the campaign in question as they are ignored and marginalised. I realise these are not great examples, but can't think of more off the top of my head.

I think we need some form of modern humanism, where people who don't want to be labelled like this can have some sort of lobby for them, where humans of all sorts treat each other with respect, and equally important are willing to call out others who are clearly just playing fast and loose with the truth and trying to grab headlines - i.e. a movement of decent human beings.

Am I completely off here? Interested to hear people's views.