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Have you ever met an actual Psychopath?

  • 23-09-2020 12:02am
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    Registered Users Posts: 2,921 ✭✭✭John Doe1


    I dont mean narcissists or egotists but a fully-fledged Psychopath.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,717 ✭✭✭Midnight_EG


    I'm married to ones daughter


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    I have met two people diagnosed as one.

    One i didn't know too well.

    The other was perfectly nice. Lovely girl.

    She had pushed another girl through a window. Would do hard drugs. Sell hard drugs. Lots of other stuff.

    But she would do anything for anyone.

    But after I met her she just explained to me ' I have no conscience' ...but she understood consequence. Which is rare for sociopaths. She did care about certain people ..like her mom ...but others meant nothing.

    She didn't care about things. She would crash her new car into a wall if she needed to get through the wall.

    If she wanted something ..none of her own possessions or her own safety mattered to her ....

    She was quite a cheerful light soul! She wasn't very emotional. She was actually lovely to be around. Light. No heaviness.

    She never caused me any drama ...but you would hear things ...like last week she broke into her boss's office but managed to get away with explaining it and keep her job.

    Everything she did ...i got the impression there was no emotion behind it. Even if she was 'angry' or acting out..it didn't seem real. And sure enough when she was around her friends ..and people had nothing they could give her ...she wasn't dramatic or emotional at all.

    She loved her mom. But at the same time ..she moved country ..and never spoke to her mom for years ..not because they had a row ...but ....she just didn't.

    One of my fav people. Normal people are FAR more problematic.

    One thing ..she didnt like violence. AT ALL. Not into it. But if it had to be done ..that was another matter.

    She wasn't into blood and guts etc.

    But she had no issue putting herself into dangerous situations if she needed to. No fear.

    Not very narcissitic though ..or egotistical.

    But i wonder if the diagnosis ...can be something that changes ..like you can NOT be one after a while.

    People would say she would use people partic men for money ..but she didnt see it like that. Shrug.

    I never really saw her hurt people. And she was only ever nice to me and people I know.

    I liked her and thought she was nice :)


  • Posts: 5,311 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I met one last Christmas, he insisted Ronan Keating's version of Fairytale of New York surpassed Shane MacGowan.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    A lot of 'heroes' ....are sociopaths.

    Like superman. Crazy.

    Its just not all sociopaths are nasty. They had enough good people around them to put them on the right track.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,205 ✭✭✭✭B.A._Baracus


    I reckon we've all probably known a couple without knowing...


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    I reckon we've all probably known a couple without knowing...
    I think i have always known....but i am only telling about the people i for sure know were officially diagnosed.

    But yes ..you are correct.

    But normal people ...are far worse than sociopaths.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,503 ✭✭✭✭Mad_maxx


    What's the difference a psychopath and a sociopath?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 686 ✭✭✭steamsey


    Mad_maxx wrote: »
    What's the difference a psychopath and a sociopath?

    Sociopaths understand good v bad a bit more than psychopaths. But difference is marginal


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 686 ✭✭✭steamsey


    I reckon we've all probably known a couple without knowing...

    1% of population are psychopaths. So you've certainly come across a few.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    By the way ...the girl I was talking about ...her sister was one too ..only way way way worse.

    She had to have her kids taken away from her.

    She ended up becoming brain damaged from drug use .....really sad story.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 381 ✭✭ToddDameron


    I met one last Christmas, he insisted Ronan Keating's version of Fairytale of New York surpassed Shane MacGowan.

    Jesus Christ. That has to be the worst music opinion I've ever heard.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    Yes, my former Biology teacher.

    Woman had serious issues.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,306 ✭✭✭bobbyy gee




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,740 ✭✭✭kingtiger


    Yes, I worked on the door with Levi Bellfield in London, just seemed like one of the lads but always thought he was too eager to please when around the lads that he used to work with,

    Then I saw his face plastered all over the papers years later, may the fcker burn in hell


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭s1ippy


    Yeah, my boss.

    They intentionally mispronounce and misspell names. They see them as a just a label for an individual and a deviation from the ones they've learned is too much distinction to be bothered with.

    One time they had a concussion and phoned me... the stuff they said to me was absolutely mindblowing.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    steamsey wrote: »
    Sociopaths understand good v bad a bit more than psychopaths. But difference is marginal

    The girls i knew was just diagnosed APSD ..it was her mom that told me...then she told me herself.

    BTW ..

    I also knew a girl who shot the uncle of a friend of mine when she was 15.

    When she was about 7 ....(we went to the same primary) i always thought she would be the one to ever kill anyone ...if i was ever going to know someone.

    Not because she was a sociopath...but because she was way too emotional and passionate for a 7 yr old. It was odd. Not a lot of self control. Overly empathetic in some ways. Misbehaving ...but in a naive heartfelt way ....she wanted to run away with her best friend ..etc. She couldn't keep her head down. Always had these crazy intense relationships. I felt smothered just being in the same class as her.

    I would say she was bi polar ...judging solely by the other bi polar people I have met ( i apologize to anyone reading this who is bi polar tho...)


    I know a lot of other people who have done bad or extreme things ....but they are always very empathetic ....emotional and feeling they need other people. They are sometimes more exhausting to be around than sociopaths ..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    s1ippy wrote: »
    Yeah, my boss.

    They intentionally mispronounce and misspell names. They see them as a just a label for an individual and a deviation from the ones they've learned is too much distinction to be bothered with.

    One time they had a concussion and phoned me... the stuff they said to me was absolutely mindblowing.
    A concussion will do that.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,520 ✭✭✭An Ri rua


    Only casually, in passing, we nod to one another and stare. 1st thing every morning. Which is disconcerting.

    Then I finish washing my face and embrace the day (when I can stop obsessing how to kill that b*stard).


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    An Ri rua wrote: »
    (when I can stop obsessing how to kill that b*stard).


    Don't make the world less colorful! ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Actually once ...i had to go into a place that did medical research with a friend ..i didn't see this but she SAYS she did ..

    This guy ....he wanted to show her animals meant nothing here ..so he just picked up a rabbit and injected into its eye ..for no reason ...just to show off and upset her..

    I have no idea if she is exaggerating ...or what ..but that is what she said ..she did seem every shaken.

    I met him a few times ...he did seem weird.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,520 ✭✭✭An Ri rua


    A lot of 'heroes' ....are sociopaths.

    Like superman. Crazy.

    Its just not all sociopaths are nasty. They had enough good people around them to put them on the right track.


    Superman is a sap. A goody two shoes. A Jesus figure on his Cross.

    Now Batman, there's Gothic rage. He validates being a psychopath as a life choice or path. Pure unreconstructed primal 'F*ck you'.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    An Ri rua wrote: »
    Superman is a sap. A goody two shoes. A Jesus figure on his Cross.

    Now Batman, there's Gothic rage. He validates being a psychopath as a life choice or path. Pure unreconstructed primal 'F*ck you'.
    He's no psycho ...he's too miserable and guilt ridden.

    Psychos are happy.

    Remember the peter pan quote ..'i forget them after i kill them'.

    Psychos are happy people.:)

    They enjoy life.

    I have always thought cu chulainn was the ultimate psycho

    Animal violence as a kid ..check (killed dog)

    Epic violence.

    Also killed his own son.

    Big ego.

    Risky sexual behaviors! (man hoe!) :P


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166 ✭✭blueskys


    I worked with someone who turned out to be a violent psychopath in the uk years ago. One day we were out for lunch and a loose pitbull crossbreed came around the corner barking and ran full pelt at us. While we all **** ourselves the psychopath turned square to the dog and let out a low guttural growl. The dog stopped in its tracks and did an quick uturn back down the street. The psychopath then acted like it had never happened. He was later done for serious crimes. You would never suspect him from his appearance. Strange how the dog knew though.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,306 ✭✭✭bobbyy gee




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    bobbyy gee wrote: »
    YUP WE DO!

    I've always thought so.


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    I hate cycle paths, they're the worst.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,306 ✭✭✭bobbyy gee


    I hate cycle paths, they're the worst.

    That's why I stick to the road


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,306 ✭✭✭bobbyy gee




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    s1ippy wrote: »
    Yeah, my boss.

    They intentionally mispronounce and misspell names. .

    A guy i know calls me a diff name .....its because he can't remember my actual name and i can't be arsed to tell him. We have an unspoken agreement not to mention it.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 7,055 ✭✭✭JohnnyFlash


    A guy i know calls me a diff name .....its because he can't remember my actual name and i can't be arsed to tell him. We have an unspoken agreement not to mention it.

    Do you have an off switch?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,612 ✭✭✭Gervais08


    I met one last Christmas, he insisted Ronan Keating's version of Fairytale of New York surpassed Shane MacGowan.

    And he’s on the streets?? Bastard!!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,224 ✭✭✭zerosugarbuzz


    John Doe1 wrote: »
    I dont mean narcissists or egotists but a fully-fledged Psychopath.

    We currently have several politicians that are fully fledged psychopaths. The more inclined they are to doing interviews the More obvious it becomes as their manipulation tactics can’t be permanently hidden.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,409 ✭✭✭✭gimli2112


    When she was about 7 ....(we went to the same primary) i always thought she would be the one to ever kill anyone ...if i was ever going to know someone.

    where the hell did you go to primary school? I don't remember but I'm pretty sure when I was seven I never thought "that lad is more likely to murder someone than anyone else I know"


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,010 ✭✭✭PsychoPete


    No, never


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Do you have an off switch?

    What like a stepford wife deal?

    No. That would be weird.

    Originally Posted by gimli2112 View Post
    where the hell did you go to primary school? I don't remember but I'm pretty sure when I was seven I never thought "that lad is more likely to murder someone than anyone else I know"

    Not all of us have the best starts in life. Its not my fault.

    Shrug.
    Maybe she's the psychopath!

    Undoubtedly!....(nah im blonde!)


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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Haha..burn..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    You're not blonde, you're brunette.
    Only in your incel dreams. In fact get me out of there! :mad:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,420 ✭✭✭Lollipops23


    I met Graham Dwyer a handful of times. Does he count?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Calm down Niamh, I'm taken, look elsewhere.
    taken by your hand! ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,932 ✭✭✭✭banie01


    I met Graham Dwyer a handful of times. Does he count?

    Didn't meet him but he made my old job a lot harder, both at his original trial and with the subsequent phone location data appeal and it's concurrent and subsequent effects.(Still ongoing for my old colleagues)

    As for meeting a psychopath?
    How would you ever really know?

    I do remember thinking for a long, long time that I may be one.
    Or at least quite sociopathic and it was a belief that all those online tests supported ;)
    But then I realized I didn't care what the tests said.
    I shape my reality and my will imposes that reality upon others ;)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,996 ✭✭✭✭gozunda


    Someone I knew employed in a position training young people. Funny thing had no qualifications or experience - got the job mainly through manipulating others.

    A truely scarey individual. Seemed lovely at first, charming, always like to come across as caring . But completely controlling, cunning and manipulative and would switch from being nice to vicious and nasty instantly. Had a massive ego to feed, and believed truely they were god's gift to everyone. Ultimately cold as stone, no conscience at all and would destroy anyone who stood up to them.


  • Registered Users Posts: 65 ✭✭Dognapper


    John Doe1 wrote: »
    I dont mean narcissists or egotists but a fully-fledged Psychopath.

    My step father is one , when I was 3 years old he would smoother me in my bed with his hand over my nose and mouth , put me in to a bath full of scolding water , beat me for crying and leave me in the house on my own then beat me more for eating food when he was gone.

    I am only going by what I’ve read so there could be more he apparently admitted it all with not a hint of remorse , I have ptsd and a lot of problems now myself.

    I met him years ago and now I’m not a big guy I’m 5’6 but I’ve always been able to handle myself so I Grabbed him by the scruff and was ready to just lay into him I was full on ready to kill this p...k he didn’t even flinch just dead behind the eyes.

    So in conclusion yes , yes I do


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,543 ✭✭✭✭cj maxx


    John Doe1 wrote: »
    I dont mean narcissists or egotists but a fully-fledged Psychopath.

    I married one. And I’m not overreacting like she’s a fcucking psycho. It’s the only thing in my ‘ uneducated ‘ mind that ticks all the boxes.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,457 ✭✭✭✭Kylta


    I met one last Christmas, he insisted Ronan Keating's version of Fairytale of New York surpassed Shane MacGowan.

    I hope thar nutball is in a mental institution for the ridiculous tsste in music. Actually anybody that bought that version should be incarcerated in a home for people with no taste in music


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,457 ✭✭✭✭Kylta


    Define what is a psychopath? And I wager you're meeting at least two to three a day?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,447 ✭✭✭BrianD3


    I think I've come across a few. One is a medical consultant in a lucrative specialty. Very intelligent but not genius material. From a young age this person was manipulative, selfish, pushy and highly money oriented. Many people didn't even see this but I did, hopefully it's not a case of takes one to know one.

    in general, when I hear someone described as "very shrewd" or "a serious operator", there is a strong possibility that they have sociopathic and other Dark Triad tendencies.

    The f*ckers are hiding in plain sight in workplaces. They are not a physical danger to anyone. They're not cooped up in their apartment with a freezer full of severed heads and cocks ala Jeffrey Dahmer.


  • Registered Users Posts: 65 ✭✭Dognapper


    I believe it's definition is related to a lack of empathy for other people.

    There is a lot more to it than that
    glib and superficial charm grandiose (exaggeratedly high) estimation of self need for stimulation pathological lying cunning and manipulativeness lack of remorse or guilt superficial expression of emotion callousness and lack of empathy parasitic lifestyle poor behavioural controls sexual promiscuity early behaviour problems lack of realistic long-term goals impulsive irresponsibility failure to accept responsibility for own actions many short-term marital relationships juvenile delinquency revocation of conditional release criminal versatility


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,374 ✭✭✭aido79


    I'm married to ones daughter

    Mother in law = Woman Hitler ðŸ˜


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,281 ✭✭✭CrankyHaus


    The term Psychopath is used far too freely, on this thread or elsewhere. Pics of them dancing in the skin of their victims or GTFO*.

    * - A professional diagnosis may also be valid. Your mean boss who made you work late won't cut it.


  • Registered Users Posts: 65 ✭✭Dognapper


    I also hear that a lack of commas and full stops is a key indicator.

    I copied and pasted that Mein Fuhrer sorry I was too lazy to write it all down.


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