Do you think if you told that you had a terminal disease that you try enjoy life?

AMKC · 26-09-2020 1:31pm #1

So if you were told you had a terminal disease and say only 6 month to a year left that you could enjoy life still. Say you had plenty of money and the doctor said you should enjoy the time you have left. Would you and could you?
I am not sure I could. I would be more concerned with been comfortable and relaxing at home. Maybe go swimming if I could and for nice walks in forests and along the beach.

26-09-2020 1:33pm

100%

Not entirely sure exactly what I'd do but I'd be a lot less sedentary.

Tom Mann Centuria · 26-09-2020 1:41pm

My dad was told he was terminally ill, that he probably had a year to live (he actually lasted nearly two and a bit). He wallowed for a few (about 6) months and completely acted ill, and did nothing but feel sorry for himself (which is feckin understandable), even though he was actually quite well in himself and pain well controlled.

Then he just thought feck it, and for another year he went off on holidays by himself, and started to restore an old car and filled his days, it was only the last 3 or 4 months did he really become unwell and couldn't really do much. He really did enjoy that year before the end.

He kicked himself for those "wasted" six months, and I'd hope if I am unfortunate enough to end up in his position id follow his lesson learnt.

MrMusician18 · 26-09-2020 1:45pm

Shouldn't you try and enjoy life anyway?

peasant · 26-09-2020 1:50pm

MrMusician18 wrote: »

Shouldn't you try and enjoy life anyway?

Exactly
Not to be glib about it, but we're all terminally ill.

Putting a more or less exactly determined length on the time you have left surely puts things into focus, but for general outlook on life it does no harm to remind yourself that you will not live forever and perhaps focus on the moment a bit more and get more out of it.

jaxxx · 26-09-2020 1:52pm

peasant wrote: »

Exactly
Not to be glib about it, but we're all terminally ill.

Putting a more or less exactly determined length on the time you have left surely puts things into focus, but for general outlook on life it does no harm to remind yourself that you will not live forever and perhaps focus on the moment a bit more and get more out of it.

Excuse me, I prefer to be called permanently banjaxed thank you very much.. ..

Nonetheless, good point!

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 26-09-2020 1:56pm

AMKC wrote: »

So if you were told you had a terminal disease and say only 6 month to a year left that you could enjoy life still. Say you had plenty of money and the doctor said you should enjoy the time you have left. Would you and could you?
I am not sure I could. I would be more concerned with been comfortable and relaxing at home. Maybe go swimming if I could and for nice walks in forests and along the beach.

Absolutely, I would.

That said, it would depend on how I was going to die. Slow and painful and, or quick and piped up on morphine.

Knowing mny luck, thoough, I'd be told two days before the start of a pandemic and a mandatory six-month lockdown quarantine.

jaxxx · 26-09-2020 1:59pm

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

Absolutely, I would.

That said, it would depend on how I was going to die. Slow and painful and, or quick and piped up on morphine.

Knowing mny luck, thoough, I'd be told two days before the start of a pandemic and a mandatory six-month lockdown quarantine.

Exactly why assisted suicide needs to be made legal. I'll be f*cked if I'm gonna waste away slowly as my body degrades over time, losing my dignity, independence and my soul in the process. Either kill me legally, or I'll go sky diving and cut the parashoot before I jump - living like never before and instantly dying on impact.

corner of hells · 26-09-2020 2:23pm

jaxxx wrote: »

Exactly why assisted suicide needs to be made legal. I'll be f*cked if I'm gonna waste away slowly as my body degrades over time, losing my dignity, independence and my soul in the process. Either kill me legally, or I'll go sky diving and cut the parashoot before I jump - living like never before and instantly dying on impact.

Who gets to clean up what's left of you ? Asking for a friend.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 26-09-2020 2:30pm

corner of hells wrote: »

Who gets to clean up what's left of you ? Asking for a friend.

I don't think he means literally, but that's another argument in favour of assisted suicide!

hellsing101 · 26-09-2020 2:30pm

Its hard to know because i dont have family but I think it would be best to spend time with loved one and maybe do things with your kids, make a really intricate Lego set or scaletritrix or something.
Sorry to be a buzz killington.

banie01 · 26-09-2020 2:33pm

There's not much I'd do differently to what I'm doing right now tbh.
I've got good family(the ones I talk to) good friends and I've gotten many of my bucket list items already ticked off.

As long as I go out without too much regret, I'll go happy.

corner of hells · 26-09-2020 2:47pm

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

I don't think he means literally, but that's another argument in favour of assisted suicide!

No , I'd like to think he does.

Graces7 · 26-09-2020 3:09pm

peasant wrote: »

Exactly
Not to be glib about it, but we're all terminally ill.

Not in the sense the OP and others mean it. Not by any means.

There is a huge difference between being alive, limited as we are by time, and being actually terminally ill. Knowing the date and time is a hard thing that we can use IF we stay well enough to do that.

26-09-2020 3:12pm

jaxxx wrote: »

Exactly why assisted suicide needs to be made legal. I'll be f*cked if I'm gonna waste away slowly as my body degrades over time, losing my dignity, independence and my soul in the process. Either kill me legally, or I'll go sky diving and cut the parashoot before I jump - living like never before and instantly dying on impact.

Assisted suicide should be 100% legalised.

Errashareesh · 26-09-2020 3:57pm

peasant wrote: »

Exactly
Not to be glib about it, but we're all terminally ill.

I think that's an unfair way of putting it, on those who have a terminal illness.

I don't know what I'd do. Nobody does unless they're in the situation. It's one of those things that's too horrific to be able to know. I might be so frozen with fear and devastation that I might not have the energy to do anything. I might succumb to deep depression. Or maybe the illness itself might impair the patient from doing all those bucket list things.

I think anyone would make the most of their remaining time if they could though. It would only be natural to think that way.

Airbus507 · 26-09-2020 4:34pm

We're all dying of a terminal illness, it's called life. The only sensible way to approach life is to focus on enjoying the experience of life. If you're not enjoying the experience of life then what's the point.

Learn to stop being so serious all the time and have fun.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kwMeuYFfyWk

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! · 26-09-2020 5:13pm

I enjoy life, and I also look forward to death... (It's inevitable and for all we know, it could be something great - so why not embrace death and see it as a positive thing at the end of a happy life?)

So it wouldn't really impact me all that much. It would be more the people around me that I would feel bad for, as most people don't handle death and dying very well.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 26-09-2020 5:26pm

corner of hells wrote: »

No , I'd like to think he does.

What about him makes you think he does? Do you know him? For me, it's just an unnesecarily legnthy way to go about it and very few suicides do.

Anyway, if you're right and he does - then it makes other arugment in favour of assisted suicide.

corner of hells · 26-09-2020 6:31pm

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

What about him makes you think he does? Do you know him? For me, it's just an unnesecarily legnthy way to go about it and very few suicides do.

Anyway, if you're right and he does - then it makes other arugment in favour of assisted suicide.

Its AH , dont take yourself so serious.

kowloon · 26-09-2020 7:05pm

corner of hells wrote: »

Who gets to clean up what's left of you ? Asking for a friend.

I'd make sure to land in the back garden of someone I don't like.

Errashareesh · 26-09-2020 7:14pm

Those who have a terminal illness definitely need people who don't have a terminal illness telling folk how to think about death.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 26-09-2020 7:15pm

corner of hells wrote: »

Its AH , dont take yourself so serious.

Said the guy who's worried where the parachute jumper's gonna land!!

corner of hells · 26-09-2020 7:16pm

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

Said the guy who's worried where the parachute jumper's gonna land!!

From the princess who believes what I posted.

Jimmy Twotimes · 26-09-2020 7:19pm

I'd go full vigilante and start killing pedos and drug dealers.

Kylta · 26-09-2020 7:25pm

I think I would go on a massive bender, drugs, sex the whole shebang and fu¢k whatever ever diseases I get (I'd fu¢k my way through Thailand in a massive drugged up haze). But for the dictors sake he better hope his prognosis was right (i know of a man who was given 6 months to live, and he overcame his illness leaving him with a massive death). After my bender was over for the last few weeks I start talking to god ( my soul is already indebted to old Nick) just in case he does exist so he might give me a free pardon.

Quantum Erasure · 26-09-2020 7:28pm

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

Said the guy who's worried where the parachute jumper's gonna land!!

I don't think he meant literally...

lucalux · 26-09-2020 7:35pm

Can't say how I'd react in reality, obviously, but I'd like to think it would stop a lot of anxieties from running my life. Like none of that would matter anymore. I've been dealing with suicidal thinking for the majority of my life, so it would simplify things for me I think.

I'd probably get braver than I've ever been, and do the things that scared me. If i had the money OP proposes in their scenario I'd travel as much as possible by myself, and spend it on experiences. Drugs too:)

That'd probably be the height of it. No hospitals or hospices if I could help it. Once my quality of life was gone, I'd be goneski too.
Dignitas all the way, if we haven't legislated for the right to die by then.
Failing Dignitas taking me... the parachute option above may interest me

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! · 26-09-2020 7:36pm

Quantum Erasure wrote: »

I don't think he meant literally...

No he meant liberally... as in all over the place! :pac:

26-09-2020 7:44pm

My body would eventually be found in a cheap hotel room, under a pile of hookers and coke.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 27-09-2020 12:01pm

Quantum Erasure wrote: »

I don't think he meant literally...

I dont' think you mean that literally, either.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 27-09-2020 4:49pm

Deleted User wrote: »

100%

Not entirely sure exactly what I'd do but I'd be a lot less sedentary.

Eh, not necessarily. The cruel part of being terminally ill is that you are generally a lot less able than you once were when you want to do all the things.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 27-09-2020 4:52pm

peasant wrote: »

Exactly
Not to be glib about it, but we're all terminally ill.

Putting a more or less exactly determined length on the time you have left surely puts things into focus, but for general outlook on life it does no harm to remind yourself that you will not live forever and perhaps focus on the moment a bit more and get more out of it.

Please please please don't ever say that to a terminally ill person. I'm not saying you have ever said it to a terminally ill person but please please don't. It is such a kick in the teeth. I once had a hospital consultant say something similar to me days after I received a diagnosis that cut my life expectancy in half. It's in the top five worst things anyone has ever said to me.

Graces7 · 27-09-2020 4:53pm

Airbus507 wrote: »

We're all dying of a terminal illness, it's called life.

If you were really seriously ill … Rather glib and dismissive insulting to those of us who are

bobbyy gee · 27-09-2020 4:53pm

Life is a
terminal disease

Graces7 · 27-09-2020 4:55pm

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Eh, not necessarily. The cruel part of being terminally ill is that you are generally a lot less able than you once were when you want to do all the things.

For this wisdom, thank you! I am chronically and incurably but not terminally ill and increasingly limited. Something I am sure you understand.

An Ri rua · 27-09-2020 4:56pm

We all have one. It's called Death and it's only a few years away. But people act like it's forever or that they'll make it that far.

As Lemmy said, "Killed by Death"....

Graces7 · 27-09-2020 5:00pm

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Eh, not necessarily. The cruel part of being terminally ill is that you are generally a lot less able than you once were when you want to do all the things.

As it is with any chronic serious illness. As I know only too well..

27-09-2020 5:02pm

Errashareesh wrote: »

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I don't know what I'd do. Nobody does unless they're in the situation. It's one of those things that's too horrific to be able to know. I might be so frozen with fear and devastation that I might not have the energy to do anything. I might succumb to deep depression. Or maybe the illness itself might impair the patient from doing all those bucket list things.

I think anyone would make the most of their remaining time if they could though. It would only be natural to think that way.

This pretty much sums it up for me. It's all well and good to say "I would go out and live life to the full" when you're in a hypothetical situation and not actually facing terminal illness. Until you actually find yourself in the position, it's very hard to know how you'll react.

I imagine the nature of the illness would also dictate it in part. I reckon my reaction would be different if faced with terminal cancer vs something like motor neurone disease. Again though, it's hard to tell as I am fortunately not currently in such a situation. Everyone's reaction to it will be different.

I am 100% in favour of legalising assisted dying. It is exceptionally cruel to deny that option to any person who has the mental capability to make the decision for themselves.

Graces7 · 27-09-2020 5:03pm

bobbyy gee wrote: »

Life is a
terminal disease

My vocabulary is too polite and limited to reply to that ******** as is needful LIFE is wonderful. A gift.

Kylta · 27-09-2020 5:11pm

You all a shower of boring fu¢kers, if I'd 6 months left I'd stay away from you lot

bb1234567 · 27-09-2020 8:04pm

The altnerative is you waste your final time on earth doing nothing but being miserable ,so yes. Horrible position but you have to be strong for those around you. Obviously your loved ones will be devastated but you shouldn't make them suffer ongoing emotional misery for your last few months/years. Try to make the last of your time together as impactful. Moping around is certainly not impactful for any of the right reasons. Easier said than done but feeling sorry for yourself until your pass will just clouds your loved one's last memories with them.

Nobody wants to be remembered for that. I'd try to be as positive as I could, I'd say yes to anything and everything and say **** it to say any hesitation because who cares about consequences if you're not going to be around for them

bb1234567 · 27-09-2020 8:07pm

peasant wrote: »

Exactly
Not to be glib about it, but we're all terminally ill.

Putting a more or less exactly determined length on the time you have left surely puts things into focus, but for general outlook on life it does no harm to remind yourself that you will not live forever and perhaps focus on the moment a bit more and get more out of it.

Jaysus that's some tone deafness there if I ever heard it!
We are all poor compared to Jeff Bezzos..it's of no reassurance to those starving in the third world

PsychoPete · 27-09-2020 8:10pm

I would do so many drugs and hookers

Deebles McBeebles · 27-09-2020 8:18pm

PsychoPete wrote: »

I would do so many drugs and hookers

PsychoPete · 27-09-2020 8:22pm

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

Preferably not go down the route of Patrick Bateman...

Graces7 · 27-09-2020 8:25pm

I am in the process of sorting " end of life" matters so that it will be easier for friends and family. Making a will etc, filling forms in. I really think we should all do that. Details of how and where I will be buried.

And my next task is to sort out all my small possessions; give things away. Make it easier for others.

Wanderer78 · 27-09-2020 8:27pm

AMKC wrote:

So if you were told you had a terminal disease and say only 6 month to a year left that you could enjoy life still. Say you had plenty of money and the doctor said you should enjoy the time you have left. Would you and could you? I am not sure I could. I would be more concerned with been comfortable and relaxing at home. Maybe go swimming if I could and for nice walks in forests and along the beach.

In reality I'd probably become severally depressed

Danny552 · 27-09-2020 8:37pm

I would take a big loan out and just travel and do anything I feel like doing, wont have to pay it back as you will be dead .

I wouldn't wait to be told I only have a year or so left to live I have ticked off a good bit of my bucket list already and I'm only 29. Some people wait till they retire and use there pension but sure you why wait till your 66, 70 if you make it to that age to start enjoying your life .

Better off having health on your side then wait till you get your pension to start doing what you want .

McGinniesta · 27-09-2020 8:39pm

I'd be up to my neck in fanny and beer.

Spanish Eyes · 27-09-2020 8:43pm

Just be with your family and friends more than you have been. All the travelling in the world doesn't mean anything if you have no one who cares for you.

Anyway it's looking like we are in the Departure Lounge and trying to dodge Covid anyway. That has stopped the bucket lists for many.

BTW I lost my sister at 48 and my Dad at 66, so I know the score. Many don't and speak without experience of end of life.

Do you think if you told that you had a terminal disease that you try enjoy life?

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