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  • #152
    hubba
    Registered Users Posts: 376 ✭✭hubba


    I met up with some old drinking buddies this weekend and they were 'delighted' to see me as I've been lying low for a few months, and they knew I was off it.

    However, it took 5 full minutes to insist I didn't want an alcoholic drink, an orange would be nicer thanks. Then one of them asked how did I find being off it to which I answered truthfully, great, I feel good thanks, without being smug. To which my 'friend' replied, without missing a beat, 'you just keep telling yourself that'.

    FFS. I always live in hope that people will be supportive but they rarely genuinely are. It never ceases to disappoint me.

    So I'm glad I can count on you guys for support and company. :)

    PS: yes, I know drinking buddies aren't 'real' friends but you can't help missing some of the old characters you have spent years looking at across the counter at. Time to move on ...


  • #153
    finnigan
    Registered Users Posts: 58 ✭✭finnigan


    hubba wrote: »
    I met up with some old drinking buddies this weekend and they were 'delighted' to see me as I've been lying low for a few months, and they knew I was off it.

    However, it took 5 full minutes to insist I didn't want an alcoholic drink, an orange would be nicer thanks. Then one of them asked how did I find being off it to which I answered truthfully, great, I feel good thanks, without being smug. To which my 'friend' replied, without missing a beat, 'you just keep telling yourself that'.

    FFS. I always live in hope that people will be supportive but they rarely genuinely are. It never ceases to disappoint me.

    So I'm glad I can count on you guys for support and company. :)

    PS: yes, I know drinking buddies aren't 'real' friends but you can't help missing some of the old characters you have spent years looking at across the counter at. Time to move on ...
    I had to get help to stop drinking, I was in treatment for 3 months.
    just 3 of my buddies come visit and when I got home it felt I had a disease and the rest were afraid it was contagious, lucky me lol.
    Real friends will accept you have a problem and be there if you need them and through the last few years I'm very lucky to have had them around :-)


  • #154
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    hubba wrote: »
    I met up with some old drinking buddies this weekend and they were 'delighted' to see me as I've been lying low for a few months, and they knew I was off it.

    However, it took 5 full minutes to insist I didn't want an alcoholic drink, an orange would be nicer thanks. Then one of them asked how did I find being off it to which I answered truthfully, great, I feel good thanks, without being smug. To which my 'friend' replied, without missing a beat, 'you just keep telling yourself that'.

    FFS. I always live in hope that people will be supportive but they rarely genuinely are. It never ceases to disappoint me.

    So I'm glad I can count on you guys for support and company. :)

    PS: yes, I know drinking buddies aren't 'real' friends but you can't help missing some of the old characters you have spent years looking at across the counter at. Time to move on ...

    If they know how serious you are about giving it up & they start putting even the slightest bit of pressure on you to have a drink **** them to be honest. I'm off it a mere 7 weeks but my real mates know how serious I am about giving it up so there is none of that. Anyone that has said stop being boring just have a drink I've told them where to go, don't need people like that around you making it harder.


  • #155
    horsemeat
    Closed Accounts Posts: 237 ✭✭horsemeat


    People are just completely uneducated on the issue, alcohol is a serious narcotic, if it was discovered in the morning it would be illegal. It's much more dangerous than most class A drugs.

    Some people seem to think that just cause it's legal it means it's a gift from the Gods. But my goodness, it's so toxic to your body. It's a fucking poison destroying Irish society and destroying lives. It's disgraceful. The Irish government aren't much better, they couldn't give two ****s, all they care about is the fat taxes it brings them in rather than educating people on the matter. Our nation is a disgraceful pack of alcoholics, there's about five percent of people in this country who are actually aware of the dangers alcohol poses. I don't understand it at all. Some people need their heads examined. I commend each and every one of you on this forum for making the decision not to drink, and as I start off on my long journey again (relapsed twice) I look forward to the view from your coat tails.


  • #156
    buachaillban
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭buachaillban


    Ever since I became a father my alcohol consumption has gone down about 90%, don't get me wrong, I wasn't a serious drinker, maybe an odd ''crazy'' night every few months, but I would generally drink 2-3 times a week, with about 4-6 pints each time.

    Now I will go weeks without touching a sup, and may have a can of guinness on a Thursday or Friday night.

    Years spent working behind a bar and seeing the devasting effect alcohol can have on people plus the horrible feeling you have the morning after a heavy night were all reason enough for me to curb the drinking.

    PLUS and this is a rule in our house; if we have people over(party or whatever)and the kids are in the house, one of us stays off the drink.


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  • #157
    dippyduck42
    Registered Users Posts: 6 ✭dippyduck42


    7 weeks today. I feel on top of the world, and I'm saving an absolute fortune!


  • #158
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    2 months, unlike you I keep spending money on ****e lol. New tv has been bought among other things!


  • #159
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    No drink in 17 days cravings are hard at times.:(


  • #160
    hubba
    Registered Users Posts: 376 ✭✭hubba


    dippyduck42 wrote: »
    7 weeks today. I feel on top of the world, and I'm saving an absolute fortune!

    Feels great, doesn't it? Well done!


  • #161
    Cushtie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 736 ✭✭✭Cushtie


    318 days today,

    Tis hard at times but have been going out a bit more lately and not minding not having a drink.

    Christmas could be a different story though!!! but would like to make it to 365 days!!


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  • #162
    Sunnyisland
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,562 ✭✭✭✭Sunnyisland


    Well done cushtie. Keep it up and use the same plan and goal you have been using for the last year to get you through christmas,Remember why you stopped in the first place.


  • #163
    horsemeat
    Closed Accounts Posts: 237 ✭✭horsemeat


    47 days :)


  • #164
    paddyandy
    Site Banned Posts: 2,037 ✭✭✭paddyandy


    I had trouble from every direction possible so staying off it is easy .All my bills are paid on time and i don't wake in the morning wond'rin what new problem i've caused for myself. Xmases were always shaky times in fact most of the year was shaky...people don't laugh when they see me anymore . There's no attraction there at all .And i really mean it too.


  • #165
    anto77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 178 ✭✭anto77


    horsemeat wrote: »
    47 days :)

    either you're not a great counter or I smell a troll - going by the below i'd go for the latter but I just wonder why bother?

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=75730710
    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=75686819


  • #166
    emmabrighton
    Registered Users Posts: 582 ✭✭✭emmabrighton


    tenchi-fan wrote: »
    ... 10 days :D

    Me too!!!!! Yay! Just have no idea what to do for NYE is all :pac:


  • #167
    Westwood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 535 ✭✭✭Westwood


    21 days, fell off the wagon xmas eve & xmas day, was salivating for a drink just couldn't resist watching everyone in the lounge and on tv drinking so dived on the Irish coffee's for the nite.:o


  • #168
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Got through Xmas and today, 3 months on the 5th of January!


  • #169
    Wingman2010
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 416 ✭✭Wingman2010


    2 years today. I'm having the time of my life. A very happy 27 year old ;-)


  • #170
    Sunnyisland
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,562 ✭✭✭✭Sunnyisland


    Wingman2010 wrote: »
    2 years today. I'm having the time of my life. A very happy 27 year old ;-)

    Well done wingman good for you :);)


  • #171
    Sunnyisland
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,562 ✭✭✭✭Sunnyisland


    Haven't touched a drop of alcohol in 3 years today. For me the best decision I ever made in my life :-)


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  • #172
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    3 months & a bit accomplished! Feeling great


  • #173
    migozarad
    Registered Users Posts: 127 ✭✭migozarad


    13 months since last drink and 9yrs since since drinking on consecutive weekends;I find there is sweet fa as an alternative means in rural Ireland (if you're not sporty) to meeting new people/nice women.Chronically lonely in Tipp


  • #174
    ronan45
    Registered Users Posts: 1,584 ✭✭✭ronan45


    I have not drank since the start of the year. I have literally spent the last 15 years binge drinking at least 3 times per week. My body is wrecked I am very over weight and bloated. Deffo gonna keep it up. Its just not worth it in the long run


  • #175
    Temptamperu
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,303 ✭✭✭Temptamperu


    I quit September 4th of last year, I still enjoy being around drunks as I seem to come off less crazy. But its tough, I had one shakey moment over christmas when I was holding a a bottle of wine thinking "no-one will know" followed swiftly with me telling myself "I will".


  • #176
    Cushtie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 736 ✭✭✭Cushtie


    1 year today....can't believe I actually lasted the whole year....and the good thing is it's getting easier all the time. :):)


  • #177
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    4 months yesterday. Flying it.


  • #178
    Raditub
    Registered Users Posts: 116 ✭✭Raditub


    no alcohol in 2 years! ;) Damn proud...now i dont even miss it anymore ;)


  • #179
    Sunnyisland
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,562 ✭✭✭✭Sunnyisland


    Deleted User wrote: »
    3 months & a bit accomplished! Feeling great
    migozarad wrote: »
    13 months since last drink and 9yrs since since drinking on consecutive weekends;I find there is sweet fa as an alternative means in rural Ireland (if you're not sporty) to meeting new people/nice women.Chronically lonely in Tipp
    ronan45 wrote: »
    I have not drank since the start of the year. I have literally spent the last 15 years binge drinking at least 3 times per week. My body is wrecked I am very over weight and bloated. Deffo gonna keep it up. Its just not worth it in the long run
    Temptamperu wrote: »
    I quit September 4th of last year, I still enjoy being around drunks as I seem to come off less crazy. But its tough, I had one shakey moment over christmas when I was holding a a bottle of wine thinking "no-one will know" followed swiftly with me telling myself "I will".
    Cushtie wrote: »
    1 year today....can't believe I actually lasted the whole year....and the good thing is it's getting easier all the time. :):)
    Deleted User wrote: »
    4 months yesterday. Flying it.
    Raditub wrote: »
    no alcohol in 2 years! ;) Damn proud...now i dont even miss it anymore ;)



    Great work every one :)


  • #180
    hubba
    Registered Users Posts: 376 ✭✭hubba


    I just want to agree that it gets easier, much easier. I hardly think about it anymore when I'm just doing my own thing. Of course if you watch TV etc there is no getting away from it. Some might ask why I still check in here if it's not on my mind but to be honest I come here to remind myself that I'm sane, am doing the right thing and there are a few other (strong and wise) people like me around because some times I begin to wonder! :)


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  • #181
    ronan45
    Registered Users Posts: 1,584 ✭✭✭ronan45


    We should have a boardsies night out to celebrate our new Pioneer Status!!!! ;)

    Say Next friday @ Porterhouse???? :D


  • #182
    Sunnyisland
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,562 ✭✭✭✭Sunnyisland


    Just sayin to Everyone who has and is stopping drinking, My alcoholism (Not saying anybody else here is or was an alcoholic,that's just me) progressed over a 30+ year stretch until I didn't know how to keep drinking and I didn't know how to stop. Death was looking like a good option at that time. I am horrified now when I think back to that!!! Life can and will get so much better for you.Hang on and believe that you CAN crawl out of that dark place, creating a lifestyle that allows no room for alcohol is really important, I did it - Lot's of people here have done it - you can do it too.:)


  • #183
    Wendy2000
    Registered Users Posts: 8 ✭Wendy2000


    For all the non drinkers, i think it be great to organise a lunch or a meet or somehting to see how much fun we can all actually have wihtout haveing drink in us!

    bet ya we would be louder than the drinking groupies!! xx


  • #184
    JonBon27
    Registered Users Posts: 95 ✭✭JonBon27


    Hi all,

    Trying to give it up. Absolutely sick of it, destroying everything meaningfull in my life. Feel so depressed and down all the time.

    So Saturday the 3rd was the last time I had a drink, although I dont drink often when I do i dunno when to stop. Anyway going to AA tonight for the first time. Must say I have been reading some of the quotes on the various forums and it gives me great strenght that I am not alone in my troubles. Fingers crossed I can stay off it.


  • #185
    am i bovvered
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,102 ✭✭✭am i bovvered


    JonBon... I wish you the best of luck


  • #186
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    5 months off the drink yesterday.
    JonBon27 wrote: »
    Hi all,

    Trying to give it up. Absolutely sick of it, destroying everything meaningfull in my life. Feel so depressed and down all the time.

    So Saturday the 3rd was the last time I had a drink, although I dont drink often when I do i dunno when to stop. Anyway going to AA tonight for the first time. Must say I have been reading some of the quotes on the various forums and it gives me great strenght that I am not alone in my troubles. Fingers crossed I can stay off it.

    Best of luck.


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  • #187
    JonBon27
    Registered Users Posts: 95 ✭✭JonBon27


    Thanks Kag and am I bovvered,

    Just comes to a stage when enough is enough. my OH hates me when Im drunk, my mates are all piss heads so dunno what Im gonna do around the social aspect of things but to be honest im not that worried as im doing this for me and my OH.


  • #188
    ronan45
    Registered Users Posts: 1,584 ✭✭✭ronan45


    JonBon27 wrote: »
    Thanks Kag and am I bovvered,

    Just comes to a stage when enough is enough. my OH hates me when Im drunk, my mates are all piss heads so dunno what Im gonna do around the social aspect of things but to be honest im not that worried as im doing this for me and my OH.


    let us know how it goes jonbon best of luck. I was there blackouts the works. not nice waking the next day not knowing what you were up too!


  • #189
    hubba
    Registered Users Posts: 376 ✭✭hubba


    Good luck JonBon27,

    Make sure you keep yourself really busy, especially in the first few weeks. Schedule stuff in so there are no yawning gaps and maybe stay clear of the pisshead mates, at least for now. This IS do-able and you deserve to live a life free of the depressant effects of the booze. And think of all the money you'll save!

    I'm 9 months off it, last week and wouldn't go back to that life if you paid me.


  • #190
    JonBon27
    Registered Users Posts: 95 ✭✭JonBon27


    cheers for the words of encouragement guys, i'll post again tomorrow and let you know how i get on. Really quite nervous about going, part of me keeps saying your not that bad that you need to go to AA but I really just wanna give it up once and for all so i'll try my best to take the plunge.

    Thanks again


  • #191
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    hubba wrote: »
    Good luck JonBon27,

    Make sure you keep yourself really busy, especially in the first few weeks. Schedule stuff in so there are no yawning gaps and maybe stay clear of the pisshead mates, at least for now. This IS do-able and you deserve to live a life free of the depressant effects of the booze. And think of all the money you'll save!

    I'm 9 months off it, last week and wouldn't go back to that life if you paid me.

    +1 to this advice & I feel the same about going back to the way I was living before I gave up 5 months ago. The one main thing you will realise is you'll need to make huge changes. Giving up drinking is only the start learning how to live without it is the main thing which you pick up one day at a time.


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  • #192
    hubba
    Registered Users Posts: 376 ✭✭hubba


    Just a gentle word of caution, JonBon27, not to pin all your hopes on one type of 'treatment' or therapy. AA mightn't suit you, but that's ok, there are many ways to skin a cat. The mods rightly ban discussions on various treatments so I'll say no more but just keep an open mind and inform yourself by reading (plenty of stuff in the library). Well done on making the decision.


  • #193
    JonBon27
    Registered Users Posts: 95 ✭✭JonBon27


    Cheers again guys, appreciate the advise. I gues i'm more scared than anything else at the moment of taking this steo and the repocussions it will have i.e. i will basically not have any friends left. Just wanna know i'm not alone and that there are other people out there too that are the same. I know that might sound selfish and apologise if it comes across that way.

    I've already started putting a plan together and have registered for the Dublin marathin in october and have pencilled in the gym for 4 times a week to get the health and fitness back in shape.

    Hopefully i can staythe course really cant face blacking out and not having a clue where i am or what im doing. TBH people have told me im luck not to have hurt myself so its time to really give this packing in the booze for good a go.

    Thanks again


  • #194
    cynder
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭cynder


    JonBon27 wrote: »
    Hi all,

    Trying to give it up. Absolutely sick of it, destroying everything meaningfull in my life. Feel so depressed and down all the time.

    So Saturday the 3rd was the last time I had a drink, although I dont drink often when I do i dunno when to stop. Anyway going to AA tonight for the first time. Must say I have been reading some of the quotes on the various forums and it gives me great strenght that I am not alone in my troubles. Fingers crossed I can stay off it.

    You have made the first step. Keep it up.


  • #195
    JonBon27
    Registered Users Posts: 95 ✭✭JonBon27


    Went to my first AA meeting last night and really enjoyed it and found it helpful. Was a bit nervous before and nearly made a dash for the bus instead of heading in but just got myself together and took the plunge.

    Must say i feel a whole lot better and am really looking forward to the next one. Everyone really put me at ease and understood exactly where I was coming from and how I felt, hopefully I can keep it up and tbh I feel that I really have a good chance in kicking it this time.


  • #196
    hubba
    Registered Users Posts: 376 ✭✭hubba


    Well done, that took guts for you and you found the strength. It's a good sign for the journey ahead.


  • #197
    JonBon27
    Registered Users Posts: 95 ✭✭JonBon27


    5 days and have a work thing tonight with a free bar and determined not to drink!!


  • #198
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    JonBon27 wrote: »
    5 days and have a work thing tonight with a free bar and determined not to drink!!

    Don't go to it if you can get out of it. Far too early to do something like that. I went to my work Christmas party because I felt I ''had'' to and it was very hard.


  • #199
    JonBon27
    Registered Users Posts: 95 ✭✭JonBon27


    Hi Kag,

    Thanks for the advice but unfortunately it was a due that I had to go to.

    Anyway went along everyone boozeing away and I just stook to the cokes and water. Was tough at the start but as the night progressed got easier. A few people missing today and the boss not too please.

    This is a big step for me and gives me the confidence that I can keep it going.


  • #200
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    JonBon27 wrote: »
    Hi Kag,

    Thanks for the advice but unfortunately it was a due that I had to go to.

    Anyway went along everyone boozeing away and I just stook to the cokes and water. Was tough at the start but as the night progressed got easier. A few people missing today and the boss not too please.

    This is a big step for me and gives me the confidence that I can keep it going.

    Well done, try to avoid doing things that make it harder for you. No advantage to yourself whatsoever. Keep doing what you're doing if it works anyway. As I said not drinking is just the start. Best of luck.


  • #201
    hubba
    Registered Users Posts: 376 ✭✭hubba


    When I first quit I wanted to be able to see achievement and progress as the days/weeks went on so I made a simple list with 'challenges' on the left, and an empty column on the right and every time I got through a 'first' I'd fill in DONE. Seems a bit simplistic but 9 months later I still look at it for a boost. Example:

    Lunch with colleagues DONE
    Night out with colleagues DONE
    A hen night DONE
    A wedding DONE
    holiday abroad DONE
    Company Christmas Party DONE
    Night out with X (old drinking buddy) DONE
    Night out with Y (alco family member) DONE
    Dinner with someone new DONE

    Each of the above was nerve racking, some more than others, but I had various survival strategies for each one like arriving late and/or, leaving early, escaping to hotel room during long wedding for a breather etc. And now that I've done them all once (some more than) I know I can do them again, but with more confidence.

    Anyhow, I just thought I'd share!


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