Gender Reveal Parties?

FutureTeashock · 17-10-2019 2:38am

Quite literally revealing a c-unt.

Scarinae · 17-10-2019 4:49am

SusieBlue wrote: »

I was at a name reveal party a few months ago.

The same girl expected gifts at her gender reveal, and then text everyone the next day looking for receipts to returns the items in neutral colours (as guests obviously didn't know the gender prior to the big reveal, everyone just bought white stuff) so that she could swap them for pink/girly colours :pac:

A name reveal party?! That's a new one to me - is that literally having friends around after your baby is born and announcing their name?

And this girl had separate parties for the gender reveal and the name reveal, and expected gifts at both?

I think it is a lot to assume that everyone else cares as much as you do about what you're naming your child or what gender they are, apart from your immediate family perhaps.

Strumms · 17-10-2019 10:30am

topper75 wrote: »

Has social media played a part in creating this narcissism or was it always there hidden and social media merely revealed the extent of it?

Narcissism has always existed, social media simply enables it to a greater extent. Popularizes it too..

SusieBlue · 17-10-2019 10:34am

Scarinae wrote: »

A name reveal party?! That's a new one to me - is that literally having friends around after your baby is born and announcing their name?

And this girl had separate parties for the gender reveal and the name reveal, and expected gifts at both?

I think it is a lot to assume that everyone else cares as much as you do about what you're naming your child or what gender they are, apart from your immediate family perhaps.

No, it was held prior to the birth of the baby.
The mam-to-be held a party where she announced the name of her impending child via icing on a three tier cake :pac:

She had already held parties for the gender reveal and the baby shower, I couldn't afford to bring another gift (knowing she'd also be expecting one after the birth and for the Christening) so I just brought some homemade scones, which she wasn't remotely impressed by.
Most people brought nothing cause they didn't know what to gift someone for announcing the name of their unborn child.

Everyone just told her it was a nice name and left shortly after, nobody hung around for the food or "party" which she was extremely annoyed over...But she did it have it on Easter Sunday so people were busy with their own plans & their families.
It was just weird. Hope I'm never invited to one again.

is_that_so · 17-10-2019 10:37am

SusieBlue wrote: »

No, it was held prior to the birth of the baby.
The mam-to-be held a party where she announced the name of her impending child via icing on a three tier cake :pac:

She had already held parties for the gender reveal and the baby shower, I couldn't afford to bring another gift (knowing she'd also be expecting one after the birth and for the Christening) so I just brought some homemade scones, which she wasn't remotely impressed by.
Most people brought nothing cause they didn't know what to gift someone for announcing the name of their unborn child.

Everyone just told her it was a nice name and left shortly after, nobody hung around for the food or "party" which she was extremely annoyed over...But she did it have it on Easter Sunday so people were busy with their own plans & their families.
It was just weird. Hope I'm never invited to one again.

I'd love to but ... seems to me to be the right response here. If it's a good relationship it'll survive.

Neyite · 17-10-2019 10:54am

bluewolf wrote: »

Some american lark. Heard of a couple over here but hopefully not catching on

Unfortunately they are. Gender reveal parties are to me just a gift grabbing exercise. Same with bridal or baby showers. You get presents on the actual event, you shouldn't expect more from people before the event as well.

The only baby shower idea that I could ever remotely agree with was one that a boards user mentioned in parenting that she attended. Guests were not allowed bring any other presents except a copy of your favourite childhood book for the child. Expectant mother was a teacher I think. It's a lovely thing sharing your favourite book with someone and them loving it too but introducing a kid to a book that you loved when you were their age and they get that joy that you had is a really lovely feeling.

Bigbagofcans · 17-10-2019 11:38am

I don't see any difference between an engagement party and a baby shower. They're both parties before the main event - another excuse to get presents off people.

18-10-2019 7:45pm

Neyite wrote: »

Unfortunately they are. Gender reveal parties are to me just a gift grabbing exercise. Same with bridal or baby showers. You get presents on the actual event, you shouldn't expect more from people before the event as well.

The only baby shower idea that I could ever remotely agree with was one that a boards user mentioned in parenting that she attended. Guests were not allowed bring any other presents except a copy of your favourite childhood book for the child. Expectant mother was a teacher I think. It's a lovely thing sharing your favourite book with someone and them loving it too but introducing a kid to a book that you loved when you were their age and they get that joy that you had is a really lovely feeling.

yeah, they all sound like gift grabbing things.

a name party i would have understood as a sort of non christening alternative - but not prior to the main event!!!

branie2 · 19-10-2019 10:52am

Best time to reveal the gender is after the birth

Reviews and Books Galore · 19-10-2019 11:15am

If gender is a concept they can change the concept later on if it is a biologically driven imperitive.

buckwheat · 20-10-2019 2:44pm

https://www.clickhole.com/heartwarming-these-parents-had-the-most-adorable-girth-1831681481

ThunbergsAreGo · 20-10-2019 3:09pm

If **** like this is something that riles people up the world is in a great place..

Nothing important to worry about

Raconteuse · 20-10-2019 3:57pm

SusieBlue wrote: »

No, it was held prior to the birth of the baby.
The mam-to-be held a party where she announced the name of her impending child via icing on a three tier cake :pac:

She had already held parties for the gender reveal and the baby shower, I couldn't afford to bring another gift (knowing she'd also be expecting one after the birth and for the Christening) so I just brought some homemade scones, which she wasn't remotely impressed by.
Most people brought nothing cause they didn't know what to gift someone for announcing the name of their unborn child.

Everyone just told her it was a nice name and left shortly after, nobody hung around for the food or "party" which she was extremely annoyed over...But she did it have it on Easter Sunday so people were busy with their own plans & their families.
It was just weird. Hope I'm never invited to one again.

Jaysus that's grim.

One event marking the occasion (whether christening or before or after get together) is loads. And people visit independently of that, bringing gifts also.

Some people are astounding in their lack of shame.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 20-10-2019 5:12pm

Raconteuse wrote: »

Jaysus that's grim.

One event marking the occasion (whether christening or before or after get together) is loads. And people visit independently of that, bringing gifts also.

Some people are astounding in their lack of shame.

I think it's more ego than lack of shame

By all means have a party, either gender reveal, naming or christening as you prefer, but the screams of someone who just wants the attention.

Potential-Monke · 21-10-2019 1:48am

Do what I do and start sending cards like these, you won't get invited to anything!

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On topic, if someone invited me to one of these, I wouldn't even respond. Lucky if I go to the christening, not a hope I'd go to anything else. but most people who know me know I don't like kids, so wouldn't invite me anyway. Must be saving a fortune I must!

Eleysian · 21-10-2019 7:58am

The woman who started the gender reveal parties regrets doing so:
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/oct/20/why-the-mother-who-started-gender-reveal-parties-regrets-them?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

29-10-2019 8:29am

Homemade 'pipe bomb' caused accidental death at gender-reveal party

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2019/oct/29/homemade-pipe-bomb-caused-accidental-death-at-gender-reveal-party

Authorities say an Iowa family’s attempt at a gender reveal party went horribly wrong when a homemade device that was meant to discharge coloured powder instead exploded like a pipe bomb, killing a 56-year-old woman.

ldy4mxonucwsq6 · 09-11-2019 8:19pm

A plane that crashed in Texas in September was flying “too slow” as part of a gender reveal Stunt.

https://www.thejournal.ie/gender-reveal-plane-crash-4885540-Nov2019/

Paddy Cow · 09-11-2019 8:55pm

biko wrote: »

I don't know why the gender would be such a big deal. Is it so people know what clothes to get them?
They will be wearing hand-me-downs anyway.

#recycle/reuse/cheapbastard

It's not a big deal. It's entirely possible to tell people if you're having a girl or boy without having to have a big party. They do it for attention. I get that having a baby is exciting for the parents, especially if it's the first but it's really not a big deal to everyone else.

Paddy Cow · 09-11-2019 8:56pm

SusieBlue wrote: »

I was at a name reveal party a few months ago.

The same girl expected gifts at her gender reveal, and then text everyone the next day looking for receipts to returns the items in neutral colours (as guests obviously didn't know the gender prior to the big reveal, everyone just bought white stuff) so that she could swap them for pink/girly colours :pac:

I remember when you posted about that. The audacity of her is/was unbelievable :pac:

Paddy Cow · 09-11-2019 9:13pm

AllForIt wrote: »

Munroe Bergdorf : “If I had it my way then no one would have to come out,” she said. “But we do live in a society where cisgendered people are seen as the default."

Yes, in the same way we see the sky as blue, the sun as hot and grass as green. It's also handy for procreation that this is the case.

Whatever about gender reveal parties in themselves the idea they are damaging to transgender or non-binary folk is ludicrous. There is no prevailing damaging attitude that needs to be fixed. I've noticed transgender activists are good at making up issues where none exists.

I just happened across this last night worth a watch for the cringe. Why a gay person would take to the airwaves to defend the transgender cause is beyond me. Imagine if Martin Luther King was in fact white...you'd have to say...why would you get involved to that level. This is related to a controversy concerning Piers Morgan and a call for him to be sacked for insulting the transgender community.

The best and worst thing about that interview was that there was a trans person sitting beside the gay guy, who completely agreed with Piers and was trying to explain how the gay guy's opinions were hurting trans people but he wouldn't listen. This fool was acting like a martyr for trans rights, while completely ignoring everything the trans person had to say. It was glorious to see him being taken down but also sad to see how the struggles of trans people are being hijacked by "well intentioned" morons.

I don't want to drag this off topic so I'll bring it back to gender reveal parties. Most are grand, if attention seeking but there has been some that have caused serious consequences. One started a fire that caused millions in damages.

A car burst caught flames in Australia.

I know the above two examples aren't the norm but it's insane the lengths people will go for attention.

izzyflusky · 10-11-2019 1:06am

I don't mind it if other people want to have them but I find them very silly.

Friends were pressuring us to have one, because they had it for their second, but I've decided to keep the mystery until the baby is born much to their dismay.
In saying that, I think it's really catching on here. I've heard of quite a few people having them in the past year or so.

Hector Savage · 28-11-2019 12:49pm

Look at the spoiled bitch at 1.53 - like a rich kid that didn't get the right colour car at christmas ...

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 28-11-2019 2:45pm

To be honest, some of the ideas in the videos are kinda creative (although waaay over the top!) and the idea isn't as stupid as I thought.

I mean - strip it down - most people will have some sort of a celebration when pregnant, why not this? I think the ego problems start when you have a baby shower AND a gender reveal part AND something else and the whole thing becomes downright narcissistic.

Ultimately, it's just a party and people have parties. Birthday parties anniversary parties, weddings and so on. The only issue people have is when they overdo it, and I'd agree with the criticisms in this respect.

Hector Savage · 28-11-2019 2:55pm

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

To be honest, some of the ideas in the videos are kinda creative (although waaay over the top!) and the idea isn't as stupid as I thought.

I mean - strip it down - most people will have some sort of a celebration when pregnant, why not this? I think the ego problems start when you have a baby shower AND a gender reveal part AND something else and the whole thing becomes downright narcissistic.

Ultimately, it's just a party and people have parties. Birthday parties anniversary parties, weddings and so on. The only issue people have is when they overdo it, and I'd agree with the criticisms in this respect.

It's obscene and ultra ultra narcissistic, people that see themselves as this important must be horrible horrible people.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 28-11-2019 2:59pm

Hector Savage wrote: »

It's obscene and ultra ultra narcissistic, people that see themselves as this important must be horrible horrible people.

So.... how is this different from any other type of celebration party? I mean, at the end of the day you could say that about most family parties are about focus attention on someone.

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