Asking a girl out in a mad way

Desoh · 07-03-2017 12:22am #1

Hi - So basically I go to work on the Luas every morning and there is this fine looking woman who I think keeps giving me the eye. And I want to ask her out!

But on the Luas (Red line outbound) there are loads of people and I can't ask he out face to face in front of everyone. And she always has earphones in.

So I decided to write out a note on a post it and give it to her either tomorrow morning or the morning after. Not wait for a response but drop it in her lap. This is what I wrote, is it a mad idea? Opinions welcome thanks! Me 33 her about 26. Both Irish. I know after hours is humorous interested in some creative opinions!

Hi,
I wanted to ask you out since the first time I saw you, but it's difficult on the Luas where everyone can listen!ðŸ™‚ Not to mention a bit embarrassing lol. ðŸ™‚
My number is 08xxxxxxxx so TXT me!ðŸ™‚

My name

Katgurl · 07-03-2017 12:26am

Do it.

I have been asked out by randomers quite a few times over the years and it always made my day.

eeguy · 07-03-2017 12:26am

Desoh wrote: »

Hi,
I wanted to ask you out since the first time I saw you, but it's difficult on the Luas where everyone can listen!ðŸ™‚ Not to mention a bit embarrassing lol. ðŸ™‚
My number is 08xxxxxxxx so TXT me!ðŸ™‚

My name

Lol? TXT? Are you really 33? More like 16. Is that meant to be an emojI?

Hey,
My name is X. I think you're beautiful. Would you like to go for a drink sometime this week?
My number is 08whatever.
Say hi.

RedXIV · 07-03-2017 12:28am

Give her a "voucher" for a free coffee, and put your number on the back.

Got that idea here years ago, still love it to this day

07-03-2017 12:28am

"I want your torso in my freezer".

You did say a mad way...

Rackstar · 07-03-2017 12:30am

Do some sexy dancing, on the luas, in front of her. See how it goes down.

07-03-2017 12:34am

Don't throw a post-it at her ffs.

Just speak to the girl like a person of 33 should be able to, don't slip her a note like you're in a 3rd year geography class.

Junkyard Tom · 07-03-2017 12:34am

Rackstar wrote: »

Do some sexy dancing, on the luas, in front of her. See how it goes down.

Jack the Stripper · 07-03-2017 12:35am

2/10 op

AMKC · 07-03-2017 12:36am

Oh go for it. You only live once. Maybe you should flirt back a little see what she does.

I don,t see why you can,t ask her out do. Its not like everyone else will hear must probably also have earphones in or are reading etc and even if they do its none of there business really is it.

You could try chatting to her first do before you decide to do the note. Maybe say Hi I have noticed you looking at me would you be interested in chatting. Whats the worst she can say except no and well then at least you tried.

Another way is you could get creative and do a dance maybe or some exercise or sometime to get her attention and then hand her your note its up to you really. I think you need to write more in the note do maybe a short poem about how she brightens up your morning everytime you see her on the Luas something like that.

Good luck whatever you decide to do hope it works out and sure if not then there are plenty more fish in the sea.

Parachutes · 07-03-2017 12:39am

Get a guitar and serenade her. I find Yellow by Coldplay usually does the trick and with any luck you'll go viral.

johnnyskeleton · 07-03-2017 12:40am

Desoh wrote: »

Hi - So basically I go to work on the Luas every morning and there is this fine looking woman who I think keeps giving me the eye. And I want to ask her out!

But on the Luas (Red line outbound) there are loads of people and I can't ask he out face to face in front of everyone. And she always has earphones in.

So I decided to write out a note on a post it and give it to her either tomorrow morning or the morning after.

Do you get the exact same luas with her from the exact same stop at the exact same time every morning? If so why not go up to her and say hello. If she has been noticing you it will seem natural and obvious that you came up to her. If she looks confused as though you were looking for someone, pull her hair, run away screaming and never turn up to work ever again

milehip · 07-03-2017 12:41am

Candie wrote: »

Don't throw a post-it at her ffs.

Just speak to the girl like a person of 33 should be able to, don't slip her a note like you're in a 3rd geography class.

Use some nice stationary if you're gonna go down that route.
Resist the urge to mark it with your post-workout manly odour.

07-03-2017 12:43am

Here's a practical guide to what to say to her.

Junkyard Tom · 07-03-2017 12:50am

Candie wrote: »

Here's a practical guide to what to say to her.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=izBbP2kro-c

And he must bring a trumpet to honk out that chorus bit. She'll be incapable of resisting having some random dude approach her singing 'will you go to bed with me' followed by blasting a trumpet at her.

Richard Hillman · 07-03-2017 12:51am

If it ends badly you will have to get a new route in the morning. Totally not worth it if you have to wake up 15 minutes earlier every day.

She might be one of those types that will accuse you of misogyny and the likes too. You'll end up being the subject of a blog or a skewed Facebook post

Richard Hillman · 07-03-2017 12:54am

Parachutes wrote: »

Get a guitar and serenade her. I find Yellow by Coldplay usually does the trick and with any luck you'll go viral.

I'm not gonna lie, if somebody did that in my presence, I would beat them up.

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly · 07-03-2017 12:57am

"Beauty will not make the pot boil". Always date a lady you find repulsive.

fartyarse · 07-03-2017 12:58am

29 yo female here (Yes i know. Misleading username), but for what my opinion is worth, I LOVE THIS! Man, that sort of act would make my day!

DO IT, and report back to us about how it goes!

(Imagine if the chick you're digging is actually me. LOL!)

oneilla · 07-03-2017 1:03am

Seriously. Do not approach a woman you don't know on public transport. It is a dreadful idea.

"Giving the eye" in public transport is not the same as "giving the eye" in a pub/club at night.

riffmongous · 07-03-2017 1:04am

Desoh wrote: »

Hi - So basically I go to work on the Luas every morning and there is this fine looking woman who I think keeps giving me the eye. And I want to ask her out!

But on the Luas (Red line outbound) there are loads of people and I can't ask he out face to face in front of everyone. And she always has earphones in.

So I decided to write out a note on a post it and give it to her either tomorrow morning or the morning after. Not wait for a response but drop it in her lap. This is what I wrote, is it a mad idea? Opinions welcome thanks! Me 33 her about 26. Both Irish. I know after hours is humorous interested in some creative opinions!

Hi,
I wanted to ask you out since the first time I saw you, but it's difficult on the Luas where everyone can listen!ðŸ™‚ Not to mention a bit embarrassing lol. ðŸ™‚
My number is 08xxxxxxxx so TXT me!ðŸ™‚

My name

fartyarse wrote: »

29 yo female here (Yes i know. Misleading username), but for what my opinion is worth, I LOVE THIS! Man, that sort of act would make my day!

DO IT, and report back to us about how it goes!

(Imagine if the chick you're digging is actually me. LOL!)

Have you ever got a smell of fart off her OP?

worded · 07-03-2017 1:05am

Could you buy her a bunch of flowers and put your name / number in the little card ?

Hi my name is ***** please accept this bunch of 1000s of sexual organs from the plant kingdom

My number is there if you fancy meeting for a drink ...

Then run away doing a double back flip

That's what I usually do

the_pen_turner · 07-03-2017 1:06am

oneilla wrote: »

Seriously. Do not approach a woman you don't know on public transport. It is a dreadful idea.

"Giving the eye" in public transport is not the same as "giving the eye" in a pub/club at night.

why , what is the difference.

OP why cant you sit beside her or get on/ off at the same stop etc. basically engineer it so you can get closer.
then make small talk and see where it goes.

jcon1913 · 07-03-2017 1:06am

Desoh wrote: »

Hi - So basically I go to work on the Luas every morning and there is this fine looking woman who I think keeps giving me the eye. And I want to ask her out!

But on the Luas (Red line outbound) there are loads of people and I can't ask he out face to face in front of everyone. And she always has earphones in.

So I decided to write out a note on a post it and give it to her either tomorrow morning or the morning after. Not wait for a response but drop it in her lap. This is what I wrote, is it a mad idea? Opinions welcome thanks! Me 33 her about 26. Both Irish. I know after hours is humorous interested in some creative opinions!

Hi,
I wanted to ask you out since the first time I saw you, but it's difficult on the Luas where everyone can listen!ðŸ™‚ Not to mention a bit embarrassing lol. ðŸ™‚
My number is 08xxxxxxxx so TXT me!ðŸ™‚

My name

Buy 2 coffees 1 americano 1 latte in the coffee shop beside the stop at the back of the Jervis - if thats where you get on. Ask if she'd like the latte or americano. Simple.

Who doesnt love a coffee in the morning?

ArnoldJRimmer · 07-03-2017 1:09am

Life is short, go for it, although I;d say maybe try to strike up a conversation rather than a note.

If the Luas wasn't so packed all the time, I'd give this a go

https://youtu.be/B7u6bMBlCXw

best of luck!

BOHtox · 07-03-2017 1:09am

Desoh wrote: »

Hi - So basically I go to work on the Luas every morning and there is this fine looking woman who I think keeps giving me the eye. And I want to ask her out!

But on the Luas (Red line outbound) there are loads of people and I can't ask he out face to face in front of everyone. And she always has earphones in.

So I decided to write out a note on a post it and give it to her either tomorrow morning or the morning after. Not wait for a response but drop it in her lap. This is what I wrote, is it a mad idea? Opinions welcome thanks! Me 33 her about 26. Both Irish. I know after hours is humorous interested in some creative opinions!

Hi,
I wanted to ask you out since the first time I saw you, but it's difficult on the Luas where everyone can listen!ðŸ™‚ Not to mention a bit embarrassing lol. ðŸ™‚
My number is 08xxxxxxxx so TXT me!ðŸ™‚

My name

HAHAHAHAHA Yes op! Do it! Now there's a wrong way to do it though. Don't just drop on her lap as you're legging it off at your stop.

fartyarse · 07-03-2017 1:11am

jcon1913 wrote: »

Buy 2 coffees 1 americano 1 latte in the coffee shop beside the stop at the back of the Jervis - if thats where you get on. Ask if she'd like the latte or americano. Simple.

Who doesnt love a coffee in the morning?

I EFFING DETEST COFFEE!

07-03-2017 1:13am

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

And he must bring a trumpet to honk out that chorus bit. She'll be incapable of resisting having some random dude approach her singing 'will you go to bed with me' followed by blasting a trumpet at her.

He could have it on his phone, volume up full, and lip-sync it to her while lapdancing his way up the Luas to where she's sitting. I don't know if Luaseseseses have poles, but he could swing around one for effect if they do.

Bound to win her over.

FortySeven · 07-03-2017 1:13am

oneilla wrote: »

Seriously. Do not approach a woman you don't know on public transport. It is a dreadful idea.

"Giving the eye" in public transport is not the same as "giving the eye" in a pub/club at night.

I got the eye on a bus 2 weeks ago. Waited till she got off and then walked right up and asked for her number. Got a date next week.

Do whatever you think is right op. She will either like what you do or not. You're selling yourself, no point in pretense. Be what you are.

jcon1913 · 07-03-2017 1:13am

fartyarse wrote: »

I EFFING DETEST COFFEE!

Ha ha ha. Anyway if you were her fartyarse and you liked the OP you'd pretend you liked coffee. ðŸ˜„ðŸ˜„ðŸ˜„

Great handle BTW

07-03-2017 1:13am

fartyarse wrote: »

I EFFING DETEST COFFEE!

Weirdo.

Johngoose · 07-03-2017 1:15am

Maybe tone it down a little,the message that is.Your name and number might do the trick.

fartyarse · 07-03-2017 1:15am

jcon1913 wrote: »

Ha ha ha. Anyway if you were her and you liked the OP you'd pre-bloody-tend you liked coffee. ðŸ˜„ðŸ˜„ðŸ˜„

Yeah fair point, I probably would stomach it if I fancied him tbh.

EEK I can't wait to hear how this goes!:)

fartyarse · 07-03-2017 1:16am

Johngoose wrote: »

Maybe tone it down a little,the message that is.Your name and number might do the trick.

Yeah this struck me too, perhaps leave out the "not to mention embarrassing LOL" bit. That would strike me as meaning "I'm not willing to embarrass myself for you".

BorneTobyWilde · 07-03-2017 1:17am

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rfr_jWZzy9k

Do this

pilly · 07-03-2017 1:18am

AMKC wrote:

You could try chatting to her first do before you decide to do the note. Maybe say Hi I have noticed you looking at me would you be interested in chatting. Whats the worst she can say except no and well then at least you tried.

Do not say this whatever you do! I noticed you looking at me sounds so big headed!

I think the note is a great idea but leave out the LOL.

Best of look. Faint heart and all that.

the_pen_turner · 07-03-2017 1:18am

fartyarse wrote: »

Yeah fair point, I probably would stomach it if I fancied him tbh.

EEK I can't wait to hear how this goes!:)

you would be better off saying you hate coffee but spin it round and say why dont we go get some tea (or whatever) .

magentis · 07-03-2017 1:19am

I'm eating my breakfast Kate.

fartyarse · 07-03-2017 1:20am

the_pen_turner wrote: »

you would be better off saying you hate coffee but spin it round and say why dont we go get some tea (or whatever) .

Or "jaysus coffee makes me FIERCE gassy but let's go grab a pint!"?

pilly · 07-03-2017 1:20am

RedXIV wrote:

Give her a "voucher" for a free coffee, and put your number on the back.

Brilliant idea!

the_pen_turner · 07-03-2017 1:23am

fartyarse wrote: »

Or "jaysus coffee makes me FIERCE gassy but let's go grab a pint!"?

as someone who suffers coffee in a simalar way i was trying to be diplomatic but if he is willing to accept that im sure hes a keeper

twowheelsonly · 07-03-2017 1:23am

I'd go with the note as well but short and simple - name and number.

First though get one of those 'The Man - The Legend' t-shirts , put your two hands on your hips and slooooowly wink at her. They love that :cool:

Trust me..... I know these things....

oneilla · 07-03-2017 1:28am

fartyarse wrote: »

29 yo female here (Yes i know. Misleading username), but for what my opinion is worth, I LOVE THIS! Man, that sort of act would make my day!

DO IT, and report back to us about how it goes!

(Imagine if the chick you're digging is actually me. LOL!)

It may make your day but assuming that you're not the woman in question, it could make someone feel incredibly uncomfortable and perhaps unsafe.

The only people I see speaking to strangers on public transport are older people closer to senior citizen pass age.

worded · 07-03-2017 1:32am

What's the worst that's going to happen? She hits the emergency stop button ?

07-03-2017 1:34am

oneilla wrote: »

It may make your day but assuming that you're not the woman in question, it could make someone feel incredibly uncomfortable and perhaps unsafe.

The only people I see speaking to strangers on public transport are older people closer to senior citizen pass age.

How can a person feel unsafe on public transport, surrounded by other people? Maybe it'd make her a little uncomfortable at most but that's easily remedied by saying 'not interested'. Shes making regular eye-contact with the guy, so she probably likes him back.

You don't have to be a pensioner to have nice chats with strangers either, some of the best chats I've ever had have been on transport or in queues with total strangers.

masculinist · 07-03-2017 1:44am

OP, If youre conservative about the outcome and want to win more than you want to pat yourself on the back for trying then you need a proper plan.

Do you know which stop she gets off at or where she works , lunches etc ?

fartyarse · 07-03-2017 1:45am

oneilla wrote: »

It may make your day but assuming that you're not the woman in question, it could make someone feel incredibly uncomfortable and perhaps unsafe.

The only people I see speaking to strangers on public transport are older people closer to senior citizen pass age.

Jesus Christ have we become that bad in this day and age that two strangers can't communicate?! I talk to strangers every single day and I never feel unsafe as it's always somewhere public like on public transport/in a supermarket/in the gym etc.

07-03-2017 1:46am

masculinist wrote: »

OP, If youre conservative about the outcome and want to win more than you want to pat yourself on the back for trying then you need a proper plan.

Do you know which stop she gets off at or where she works , lunches etc ?

The last thing he should do is stalk her to her work or where she eats.

That would ring alarm bells all over the place with her, if she has any sense. He approaches her where he usually encounters her or he doesn't at all.

BsBox · 07-03-2017 1:53am

So here's my perspective as a gay guy who has heard every story under the sun from girls getting approached by guys:

Some people would be kind of uncomfortable being approached on public transport. I know personally, I wouldn't want people coming up to me most of the time on the bus/Luas, and I can't even count the number of times I've heard my friends landing in the door with a story about some 'weird' guy on the bus/Luas talking to them. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, but you need to be fairly mindful of how the other person might feel about the whole thing.

The post it note will either be considered cute, or absolutely freaky. You may think she's eyeing you up, but she could be listening to her headphones and “staring“ at you without actually looking at you. I know I do this a lot accidentally when I'm on public transport.

Your best bet is to wait until you're sitting/standing fairly close to her, and smile at her. If it's a large smile back, maybe point at your ears and then hers to highlight the headphones and then ask her what she's listening to. Maybe mention you're always looking for new music to find. Introduce yourself. Go from there. There's no easy way to break the ice like this, and confidence is absolutely key. How you hold yourself will make or break the introduction.

tl;dr - Whatever you do, be extra mindful about how she might feel. Don't throw a note at her. Don't assume she likes you or is actually eyeing you up. Don't be weird.

AMKC wrote: »

Maybe say Hi I have noticed you looking at me would you be interested in chatting. Whats the worst she can say except no and well then at least you tried.

This is a terrible idea. Please don't say this, and definitely don't phrase anything you do say like that.

Edit: Also note, she might be looking at you because she's thinking in her head, “why does this guy keep looking over at me?“.

Richard Hillman · 07-03-2017 1:57am

Candie wrote: »

How can a person feel unsafe on public transport, surrounded by other people? Maybe it'd make her a little uncomfortable at most but that's easily remedied by saying 'not interested'. Shes making regular eye-contact with the guy, so she probably likes him back.

You don't have to be a pensioner to have nice chats with strangers either, some of the best chats I've ever had have been on transport or in queues with total strangers.

She could think that he is a nutter and may start to follow her home and stuff.

masculinist · 07-03-2017 2:07am

Candie wrote: »

The last thing he should do is stalk her to her work or where she eats.

That would ring alarm bells all over the place with her, if she has any sense. He approaches her where he usually encounters her or he doesn't at all.

Not if hes discreet. Its not stalking either. In business terms its chasing a lead to make a sale and close a deal. It always involves consent. If you like someone you try to find a way to get to know them. The LUAS could be full of junkies. She could be a cranky non morning person. She may be a wallflower who doesnt like the whole world listening into an awkward cold approach. Theres so many variables and different ways to warm up the approach. OP doesnt have to rule anything out. Its all about which ball he feels most confident about running with.

Asking a girl out in a mad way

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