I'll try to explain this as simply as I can. I was suffering from stress/depression last year and missed a lot of time between Jan 2019 and April 2019. Every day off was covered by a sick cert, and I got back and I worked all of May 2019. I worked very, very hard all over the summer to get myself healthy. I worked on my med's and getting them right. I did a lot of counselling and mindfulness. I tried my best to get better.
I wasn't looking forward to going back at the end of Aug, but I did and (amazingly!) I was really enjoying the first 2 weeks back. Then something very serious happened to a family member. I was missing on the Friday this happened, and ended up with stress/depression the following week where my doctor told me to DEFINITELY not go to work that week, as if I did he though there would be a good chance of a relapse of my conditions and I might end up missing a lot of time.
I informed my principle of this and he was not happy. I sent him the sick cert which covered all of last week. He has been texting me (we don't have email systems) and phoning me while I've been certified off sick. He has now told me he wants me to come in early on Monday morning for a meeting. He has already said one of my exam classes have expressed their their unhappiness with missing my classes.
I have spoken to the union and friends about this and I have received advice that this is not my fault (entirely at least) and that the S+S system should kick in when I'm certified sick. A number of people also expressed surprise when I told them I'm being texted/called when I'm officially certified as sick.
I'm not sure what to do. I know all the blame for this is being shifted on to me, but I don't feel like I deserve it. I definitely don't want to be suffering and off sick ... but that is not my choice nor my fault. Any school related issues should be dealt with by the school systems, S+S, right? If I'm off longer they should get a replacement ... "their problem, not mine" is what I've been told.
I know I'm simplifying this, but I'm really upset and feeling like a confrontation on Monday morning might tip me over the edge again and I'll end up very sick and off for a long time. I've already told the principle about my health issues but he doesn't seem to care much either way. He was drafted into this job which was seen as a "problem" school a few years ago. The general impression is that he's ruling with an iron fist in order to clean us all up and get career progression (one of the most ambitions people I've met).
Any advice/opinions very welcome.