2019 Brides/Grooms

laoch na mona · 10-08-2018 9:01am

exactly a year away today so I'll be treating herself to a meal tonight, nothing fancy as we've the deposit on suits to pay next week (groomsmen are warned not to get fat or skinny between now and next year, exact fittings will be in March or April just getting some of it paid for now)

love_love · 10-08-2018 10:05am

laoch na mona, my OH bought his suit the other week and the shop gave us the impression we were looking very far in advance (we're end of March). Did you get any advice on the groomsmen suits? I'm a bit worried as well that our groomsmen will change in size but my OH plans on getting the suits bought in the next couple of weeks! Are you matching your suit to theirs?

laoch na mona · 10-08-2018 12:39pm

love_love wrote: »

laoch na mona, my OH bought his suit the other week and the shop gave us the impression we were looking very far in advance (we're end of March). Did you get any advice on the groomsmen suits? I'm a bit worried as well that our groomsmen will change in size but my OH plans on getting the suits bought in the next couple of weeks! Are you matching your suit to theirs?

yeah we matched the suits, grooms men will have a slightly different tie and handkerchief.

The shop just noted what sizes (40R, 38L, ect) and will take a deposit and get the sizes in. the exact fitting and alterations will be done next year

Col_30 · 10-08-2018 2:57pm

laoch na mona wrote: »

exactly a year away today so I'll be treating herself to a meal tonight, nothing fancy as we've the deposit on suits to pay next week (groomsmen are warned not to get fat or skinny between now and next year, exact fittings will be in March or April just getting some of it paid for now)

Any recommendations for a good place to get suits?

kelfy · 13-08-2018 5:08pm

Hi all,

We got engaged in April 2017 and decided then to aim for April 2019 as the 'ding dong day' as it were!

Unfortunately in the interim time, one of my partner's close relatives fell ill and passed away. It was a sudden and unexpected illness and it never felt right to be planning the wedding during that time.

We are in a better headspace now and considering what to do.
Are we mad to try pull it off for April 2019?
We were hoping to do it on a Friday or Saturday as some people would be travelling and this would be more convenient.
I see on these threads people having booked things years in advance so I am a little worried!

We are thinking of doing the legal part separately and then having a ceremony where a friend takes us through some vows and we exchange rings. This would not be legally binding, just nice!
We have a list of about 60 people for the ceremony and would like to have maybe 100 to the afters. We are loathe to spend thousands on the day however so am not sure how feasible this is. That said, we are not too fixed on any one idea for the day (asides from who we meet at the altar!) so perhaps we have inadvertently cut down on the amount of decisions we will need to make!
I saw a dress I like on asos today and it go me thinking!

SozBbz · 13-08-2018 5:20pm

Lol, I love it that it was a dress on Asos that started this.
I saw one there last night that would be amazing for a civil ceremony and now that makes me want 2 dresses. its less than €100 so I feel it would be justified. We've had similar delays so planning ourselves now for 2019 and yet to confirm a date. You've actually described one of my ideal scenarios, ie small legal wedding and then more of a party wedding another day. The idea of doing a simple ceremony with friends is lovely and I might steal it! My concern with doing the 2 seperately was actually what to do about keeping the party day weddingy enough if all the legals are already taken care of.
FWIW a friend of mine got engaged and married in 5 months, on a Saturday. Once you're not absolutely dead set on one venue and are openminded, then I'd say it would be very doable.

love_love · 14-08-2018 12:59pm

kelfy, depending on what you want, it's completely doable. I originally (thought I) wanted something more akin to a family reunion/birthday party type jobby, and they don't take long to plan and can be done for a few grand. What wedding elements would you like to have vs what would you definitely be happy to forgo?

LirW · 17-08-2018 1:33pm

I'm currently so not feeling it.
Getting all my legal documents together is a massive pain in the hole because the embassy is horrible to deal with.
But even worse, I'm going through a few health exams at the moment for some issues that could probably affect me for the rest of my life.

Just not in the mood for anything wedding-related right now.

aquinn · 17-08-2018 2:11pm

LirW wrote: »

I'm currently so not feeling it.
Getting all my legal documents together is a massive pain in the hole because the embassy is horrible to deal with.
But even worse, I'm going through a few health exams at the moment for some issues that could probably affect me for the rest of my life.

Just not in the mood for anything wedding-related right now.

Take it easy, take a break.

When are you due to get married?

Health is obviously the most important thing and the support from your partner and those in your life.

LirW · 17-08-2018 2:16pm

Early May!

Thanks so much, I couldn't focus on it anyway right now.

aquinn · 17-08-2018 2:22pm

LirW wrote: »

Early May!

Thanks so much, I couldn't focus on it anyway right now.

That's much more like it. Sure what else should you be doing. I'm sure you have all the bookings done so forget about it for a while.

I'm 7 weeks today and I'm sure you have more done than I do. Let there be no panic. You can't focus everthing on the Wedding anyway.

Mrsm2be19 · 24-08-2018 9:55am

Hi everyone! We have just booked our wedding for next year. Only have the hotel book as yet but kinda leaving it now til end of sept as I have so much on this month money will be so tight , we have a wedding kids starting back in school and our babys christening &#55357;&#56878;

Scarinae · 29-08-2018 8:07pm

I've just booked my first venue viewing - exciting!

I'm sure the novelty will wear off once we get into the nitty gritty details, but for the moment it still feels fun

love_love · 30-08-2018 10:25am

Scarinae wrote: »

I've just booked my first venue viewing - exciting!

I'm sure the novelty will wear off once we get into the nitty gritty details, but for the moment it still feels fun

Though I'm not stressed about much to do with the wedding, I have to say the venue is one of the things that is least stress at my end! Something I didn't account for but proved to be a deciding factor for us was our interactions with the staff and how we could see ourselves being well looked after by them on the day. Not that you're asking for advice, but the best thing we did was to go with our gut on the staff. There was one venue which was cheaper and was closer to the aesthetic we thought we wanted, but I felt very dismissed and belitted by the person showing us around. Though my partner and my parents didn't agree with me and were taken aback by the beauty of the place, they completely understood what I meant once we were looked after by the venue we actually went with. It's weird to say, but the manager started talking (unprompted) about how they kept the kitchen nut free for a month before a wedding where a kid had a nut allergy, and I went "this is my venue" :P:P:P

Basically, find somewhere you love and don't underestimate how the staff can make a big difference to your experience. I should say we're 2019 as well, so I can't report back on the day yet, but we're having great fun so far planning everything with the venue's support

Huzzah! · 30-08-2018 5:21pm

love_love wrote: »

Though I'm not stressed about much to do with the wedding, I have to say the venue is one of the things that is least stress at my end! Something I didn't account for but proved to be a deciding factor for us was our interactions with the staff and how we could see ourselves being well looked after by them on the day. Not that you're asking for advice, but the best thing we did was to go with our gut on the staff. There was one venue which was cheaper and was closer to the aesthetic we thought we wanted, but I felt very dismissed and belitted by the person showing us around. Though my partner and my parents didn't agree with me and were taken aback by the beauty of the place, they completely understood what I meant once we were looked after by the venue we actually went with. It's weird to say, but the manager started talking (unprompted) about how they kept the kitchen nut free for a month before a wedding where a kid had a nut allergy, and I went "this is my venue" :P:P:P

Basically, find somewhere you love and don't underestimate how the staff can make a big difference to your experience. I should say we're 2019 as well, so I can't report back on the day yet, but we're having great fun so far planning everything with the venue's support

In the whole planning of the wedding, choosing the venue was the only time I had that "this-is-it" moment. I thought I'd have it with the dress but unfortunately not. When we visited our venue, we both left giddy with excitement.

hanaimai · 13-09-2018 6:07pm

Hi all! I think I'm going for a 2020 wedding but hopefully it's okay to jump in here with a quick question! If a package for a venue has a minimum number, say 100, and I invite 110 but end up with only 90 people on the day, what happens? Would I have to pay for the 100 anyway?

Faith · 13-09-2018 7:15pm

hanaimai wrote: »

Hi all! I think I'm going for a 2020 wedding but hopefully it's okay to jump in here with a quick question! If a package for a venue has a minimum number, say 100, and I invite 110 but end up with only 90 people on the day, what happens? Would I have to pay for the 100 anyway?

Yeah, generally. If there are minimum numbers of your venue, I’d suggest aiming to invite at least 20% more people than the minimum number, as you will get declines.

tiredblondie · 14-09-2018 11:07am

hanaimai wrote: »

Hi all! I think I'm going for a 2020 wedding but hopefully it's okay to jump in here with a quick question! If a package for a venue has a minimum number, say 100, and I invite 110 but end up with only 90 people on the day, what happens? Would I have to pay for the 100 anyway?

It depends on the hotel - first one i went to see said i'd pay for 100 even if only 50 showed up - second hotel (and the one i booked) said that i'd pay only for the final numbers i give 5 days beforehand, the package i booked was for 80....

GingerLily · 14-09-2018 11:25am

If heard of hotels charging for the full amount of guests in the contract but allowing you to use that money elsewhere e.g. If it is 100e per guest and you're 10 short they'd let you use that extra 1k you paid for behind the bar or to pay off families rooms etc.

hanaimai · 17-09-2018 8:25am

love_love wrote: »

Something I didn't account for but proved to be a deciding factor for us was our interactions with the staff and how we could see ourselves being well looked after by them on the day.

After doing out first venue viewings this weekend, I totally agree with this. We viewed one venue where the coordinator basically ignored my fiance until nearly the end of the viewing! Just left a terrible impression.

love_love · 21-09-2018 11:22am

Paid a big chunk of our venue bill today, and then promptly got a reminder text that our house insurance is due! All fun and games!

hanaimai · 15-10-2018 7:28pm

Did anyone else hear from their venue about price increases following the hospitality VAT increase announced in the budget? Our venue is raising the price of the wedding packages and accommodation by 4.5% from 1 January. I presume all venues are affected by the VAT increase but just wondering what other venues are doing?

Scarinae · 15-10-2018 7:49pm

hanaimai wrote: »

Hi all! I think I'm going for a 2020 wedding but hopefully it's okay to jump in here with a quick question!

I'm a 2020 wedding too, I'm just using this thread for now until the 2020 one goes up!

I'm no use on the VAT increase question I'm afraid as our wedding will be abroad, hopefully someone else here will know though.

We've provisionally booked our venue - held the date and paying the deposit this month - so we have our wedding date now! That'll make it much easier when organising everything else.

I've found a photographer I really like too and he's free on that date, and he's suggested a videographer and a DJ that we're going to check out too. If we can get all those things set then that's some of the biggest things out of the way!

(I still haven't lost my optimism...)

love_love · 15-10-2018 8:36pm

hanaimai wrote: »

Did anyone else hear from their venue about price increases following the hospitality VAT increase announced in the budget? Our venue is raising the price of the wedding packages and accommodation by 4.5% from 1 January. I presume all venues are affected by the VAT increase but just wondering what other venues are doing?

Do they stipulate in your contract that they will pass on any VAT increases? Ours doesn't and we haven't heard from them so I am assuming we are unaffected. I have a friend who is affected by it, and it's in their contract.

Faith · 15-10-2018 8:51pm

Scarinae wrote: »

I'm a 2020 wedding too, I'm just using this thread for now until the 2020 one goes up!

The 2020 thread will only go up when someone starts it - the mods don’t make a point of starting them

Meauldsegosha · 15-10-2018 9:05pm

love_love wrote: »

Do they stipulate in your contract that they will pass on any VAT increases? Ours doesn't and we haven't heard from them so I am assuming we are unaffected. I have a friend who is affected by it, and it's in their contract.

Our contract is the same no mention of VAT increases and we haven’t heard from them.

hanaimai · 15-10-2018 9:40pm

Our contract doesn't say anything about VAT specifically, but it does say the venue can alter the prices. It's not too much extra fortunately, just never really thought about it as something that might happen! I feel worse for people getting married early next year though, I imagine they are at a tighter budgeting stage. At least we have time to factor in the increase anyway! Who knows, maybe it'll come back down in the next budget!!

love_love · 16-10-2018 9:43am

I'm glad I negotiated so much before entering into the contract, coz although it looks like no increases will be passed on to us, I doubt there's any room now for them to throw in some extra bits.

Something I would say to anyone is that room rates which have not been specifically agreed as part of your package may have gone up. If they haven't already, you might want to encourage guests to book now before any potential increase. It's something I'll be looking into in the next week.

tiredblondie · 16-10-2018 10:51am

My contract does state it and i contacted them before the budget - they said that "most likely" they would pass it on but i haven't heard from them since - it worked out around 2.20/head on the food.
I booked our rooms in the hotel the day before the budget so i presume once they are booked then any increases shouldn't affect it if they do increase the hotel room rates too.

Sir_Name · 16-10-2018 1:43pm

Scarinae wrote: »

hanaimai wrote: »

Hi all! I think I'm going for a 2020 wedding but hopefully it's okay to jump in here with a quick question!

I'm a 2020 wedding too, I'm just using this thread for now until the 2020 one goes up!

I'm no use on the VAT increase question I'm afraid as our wedding will be abroad, hopefully someone else here will know though.

We've provisionally booked our venue - held the date and paying the deposit this month - so we have our wedding date now! That'll make it much easier when organising everything else.

I've found a photographer I really like too and he's free on that date, and he's suggested a videographer and a DJ that we're going to check out too. If we can get all those things set then that's some of the biggest things out of the way!

(I still haven't lost my optimism...)

Do you mind me asking where you are getting married as ours is abroad too and always eager to compare notes!

tiredblondie · 16-10-2018 2:24pm

DRINKS RECEPTION IDEAS REQUIRED!

What are people doing for the drinks reception? There will be approx 2hr gap between the ceremony and the dinner, all taking place in the hotel. The ceremony singer will be singing during this time too and the hotel provides tea/coffee and mini scones - i will be asking about what additions i can make to this but what are other people providing? We obviously will be off having pictures etc done but don't want people feeling "bored" waiting!

Its not until October 2019!

love_love · 16-10-2018 6:11pm

tiredblondie wrote: »

DRINKS RECEPTION IDEAS REQUIRED!

What are people doing for the drinks reception? There will be approx 2hr gap between the ceremony and the dinner, all taking place in the hotel. The ceremony singer will be singing during this time too and the hotel provides tea/coffee and mini scones - i will be asking about what additions i can make to this but what are other people providing? We obviously will be off having pictures etc done but don't want people feeling "bored" waiting!

Its not until October 2019!

Absolutely nowt :P I don't remember being at any weddings that had any activities or entertainment between the ceremony and dinner, and I've never missed them. As a guest before the ceremony, you usually just have a quick natter with whoever you're sitting with, and then properly catch up with people at the drinks reception, as well as getting yourself fully checked in or having a quick breather and touch up in the room, or whatever. The 2 hours will fly by

My reply may be entirely unhelpful if you've already decided that you definitely want to have more on offer at your drinks reception

tiredblondie · 16-10-2018 6:46pm

love_love wrote: »

Absolutely nowt :P I don't remember being at any weddings that had any activities or entertainment between the ceremony and dinner, and I've never missed them. As a guest before the ceremony, you usually just have a quick natter with whoever you're sitting with, and then properly catch up with people at the drinks reception, as well as getting yourself fully checked in or having a quick breather and touch up in the room, or whatever. The 2 hours will fly by

My reply may be entirely unhelpful if you've already decided that you definitely want to have more on offer at your drinks reception

Thanks ðŸ˜€, no, I've not definitely decided on anything, I just have no idea on what is "expected" to be honest....it's not activities I'm thinking of, more finger foods and drinks and wondering what extras I should be supplying other than what the hotel is offering in the package which is mini scones tea and cofee

love_love · 17-10-2018 10:29am

We're having some finger foods but again I wouldn't automatically expect that - the only thing I would anticipate as a guest would be a glass of something bubbly (which I have no interest in!). Something my friend did last year, which I think was so clever, was that they cut their cake directly after the ceremony so people could get pictures etc in the beautiful room and everyone knew it was happening (I always end up missing the cake cutting!) - then afterwards, they had slices of cake for people to chomp on at the drinks reception

I thought that was a fab way of making sure the cake got eaten, and the couple aren't forking out even more money for more finger food.

Meauldsegosha · 17-10-2018 10:45am

I like the idea of cutting the cake early. Might steal that.

Scarinae · 17-10-2018 7:57pm

Deanov wrote: »

Do you mind me asking where you are getting married as ours is abroad too and always eager to compare notes!

Ours will be in Canada, so I'm doing the initial arranging from abroad and am moving there in the spring. In some ways I would have loved to have the wedding at home in Ireland since I'll be living so far away, but my boyfriend's Dad is too frail to travel and it's more important to us that he can attend.

Where is yours going to be?

LirW · 18-10-2018 12:04pm

I posted a while ago that I'm not feeling the whole wedding thing and I struggle to get enthusiastic about the planning.
After talking to my partner we realized that it's a mutual thing and we decided to cancel the whole affair and elope instead. We are now going abroad in March and planned a nice trip and we're both beyond excited, it already feels like the best decision ever.
2 weeks away so it's an all in one thing but we see it more as an amazing holiday with some marriage side effect, we haven't been away in a very long time.

I'm really excited and it shows that there's no one size fits all - recipe!

hanaimai · 18-10-2018 12:14pm

LirW wrote: »

I posted a while ago that I'm not feeling the whole wedding thing and I struggle to get enthusiastic about the planning.
After talking to my partner we realized that it's a mutual thing and we decided to cancel the whole affair and elope instead. We are now going abroad in March and planned a nice trip and we're both beyond excited, it already feels like the best decision ever.
2 weeks away so it's an all in one thing but we see it more as an amazing holiday with some marriage side effect, we haven't been away in a very long time.

I'm really excited and it shows that there's no one size fits all - recipe!

That's brilliant and sounds like the right decision for you. I can totally understand where you're coming from - I was very tempted by a teeny tiny wedding with just immediate family, but decided to go for the full affair in the end. It's going okay so far but I'm really hoping I don't regret my choice! I'm just wondering if you lost any money by cancelling, like deposits etc.?

LirW · 18-10-2018 2:44pm

hanaimai wrote: »

That's brilliant and sounds like the right decision for you. I can totally understand where you're coming from - I was very tempted by a teeny tiny wedding with just immediate family, but decided to go for the full affair in the end. It's going okay so far but I'm really hoping I don't regret my choice! I'm just wondering if you lost any money by cancelling, like deposits etc.?

We lost the venue deposit, which wasn't that much and I have to get in touch with the photographer and see if she can change what we already paid to a small shooting. A small price to pay though compared to the other costs when you aren't even happy with what you've planned

fonpokno · 18-10-2018 6:25pm

LirW wrote: »

We lost the venue deposit, which wasn't that much and I have to get in touch with the photographer and see if she can change what we already paid to a small shooting. A small price to pay though compared to the other costs when you aren't even happy with what you've planned

Sounds like a lovely idea to elope! Great that you guys are feeling happier now.

This day next year I'm getting married! Hooray!!!

love_love · 15-11-2018 11:36am

Any advice for song length for walking down the aisle? I need to get the measurement of our aisle coz it's very short...

aquinn · 15-11-2018 5:08pm

love_love wrote: »

Any advice for song length for walking down the aisle? I need to get the measurement of our aisle coz it's very short...

We got married last month and for my entrance we were guided in when the music had kicked in. We didn't have live music so let the song kick off and my Sister went, waited and then we walked in.

I also had picked the song a few days earlier whist out in the car. We had a Niece on music and a playlist.

love_love · 11-12-2018 1:33pm

Designing our invitations at the moment... Can anyone suggest how they left space for writing people's names on the invites? We're going with vistaprint but none of their templates seem to have an area for actually addressing the invite. We're not including RSVP cards, we'll be asking people to RSVP by text or email.

CK2019 · 11-12-2018 1:41pm

love_love wrote: »

Designing our invitations at the moment... Can anyone suggest how they left space for writing people's names on the invites? We're going with vistaprint but none of their templates seem to have an area for actually addressing the invite. We're not including RSVP cards, we'll be asking people to RSVP by text or email.

We are going with Optimal Print so have the same thing - hold down the shift key along with the underscore/hyphen key (ususally beside the zero) and it will draw a line for you and you can write peoples names on it

love_love · 11-12-2018 6:51pm

I'm wondering more about design-wise where it fits on the invitation? I feel like our design would look skewed with that in the corner

We probably just have to go back to the drawing board, but wondering if anyone has any outside the box suggestions!

geez · 19-12-2018 10:28pm

Hi getting married September 19 and struggling to find nice bridesmaid dresses the thing is I am having four bit three of them are living away either travelling til next year or living abroad how have people come around this in terms of getting them to suit and fit? Thanks

Sparky85 · 19-12-2018 10:44pm

geez wrote: »

Hi getting married September 19 and struggling to find nice bridesmaid dresses the thing is I am having four bit three of them are living away either travelling til next year or living abroad how have people come around this in terms of getting them to suit and fit? Thanks

I just got my bridesmaid dresses from ps frocks. It’s an Aussie website, delivered within 2 weeks, great quality and they have wrap maxi dresses that can fit most. The ones I got are not traditional bridesmaid dresses but they’re fab on, very nice cut and fall beautifully, the sizing is correct but because they wrap they can be tied tighter or looser to fit. They have a standard length, my sister is 5’6” and they suit her with a 3” heel.

They also have the multi way dresses that are very popular right now.

https://www.psfrocks.com.au/dresses-online/bridesmaids-dresses.html?sort=newest

love_love · 20-12-2018 1:01pm

I got my bridesmaid dresses from ASOS, I was lucky enough to have all my bridesmaids together to try things on but the only thing that was important for me was to ensure a colour match. As it turns out, they all chose the same dress but yous could easily look together on ASOS and then they can order what they want to try on?

The other thing is, you mention that they're travelling until next year or living abroad - Sept 19 is a fair distance away, is there any time between now and then where you will all be together? Unless you're going traditional, you shouldn't need too long of a lead time for them.

Meauldsegosha · 04-01-2019 9:57am

Very productive day yesterday, booked our honeymoon, bought our wedding rings and pick out the bridesmaid dressess.

Just the flowers, cake and my dress to get sorted. Roll on September

love_love · 13-01-2019 9:56am

Help! I'm supposed to have a dress fitting tomorrow morning but I forgot to buy the Confetti Cups I was asked to have for this fitting! Peaches and Cream is closed today and I have no idea where else in Dublin would stock them. Any suggestions? I've already moved the fitting once so I really want to keep the appointment tomorrow if I can.

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