What are your no-no's with dating?

Grayson · 28-04-2018 3:08pm #1

I was just on bumble (for those that have never heard of it, it's kinda like tinder) and I've kinda developed an internal list of things that just make me swipe left.

Duck face. One is bad enough but when you have nothing but duckface photo's, that's just wrong.

Photo's with snapchat filters. If all you have is photo's of yourself with snapchat filters, then I just think you're a child masquerading as a grown up.

Photo's of your Dad. If you have a photo of yourself with your dad then a load of photo's of your dad, that's just going to give me the creeps.

No description on a dating site. This is more relevant for other dating sites. If you can't be bothered putting up a description then why would I be bothered asking for more information.

Girls who call themselves a princess or say they like to be spoiled. I don't think I even need to explain that.

So, guys and gals, what are your no-no's. (And it doesn't have to be from a dating site/app)

Kermit.de.frog · 28-04-2018 3:13pm

Me paying for the food.

Never.

Donald Trump · 28-04-2018 3:17pm

Kermit.de.frog wrote: »

Me paying for the food.

Never.

Ah, I see where you're going wrong

Just stop trying to date hippos

Chancer3001 · 28-04-2018 3:18pm

Ugly

taserfrank · 28-04-2018 3:19pm

Kermit.de.frog wrote: »

Me paying for the food.

Never.

I've always paid (or offered to pay) for the meal when I am in the company of a lady- I think its the chivalrous thing to do.

Arrival · 28-04-2018 3:22pm

Only selfies - means they've more than likely no personality and hobbies and high potential to be a narcissist. Nothing better than someone having a laugh in their pictures and looking like they'd be worth meeting up with. Bonus points for having at least something with a bit of thought put into it as a bio

steddyeddy · 28-04-2018 3:24pm

Height or weight requirements. I'm not short and I'm in decent shape, but I don't want to date someone who is that shallow.

JohnnyFlash · 28-04-2018 3:25pm

If they have a cock, or once had a cock.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 28-04-2018 3:25pm

Arrival wrote: »

Only selfies - means they've more than likely no personality and hobbies and highly potential to be a narcissist. Nothing better than someone having a laugh in their pictures and looking like they'd be worth meeting up with. Bonus points for having at least something with a bit of thought put into it as a bio

Selfies, while holding a struggling cat in the other hand.

Grayson · 28-04-2018 3:28pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

Height or weight requirements. I'm not short and I'm in decent shape, but I don't want to date someone who is that shallow.

I get that. I see profiles of girls who say only guys with beards or only guys who are over 6ft. Although I might have my own reasons for swiping left I wouldn't dream of putting them up there.

BTW: I currently have a beard and wouldn't dream of dating a girl who had that on her profile.

steddyeddy · 28-04-2018 3:52pm

Grayson wrote: »

I get that. I see profiles of girls who say only guys with beards or only guys who are over 6ft. Although I might have my own reasons for swiping left I wouldn't dream of putting them up there.

BTW: I currently have a beard and wouldn't dream of dating a girl who had that on her profile.

Of course. I mean I like girls who I can have a intelligent chat with, but I wouldn't dream of putting IQ limits on a dating ap.

hairyslug · 28-04-2018 3:54pm

Thank god I was using internet dating when the best cameras around was absolutely shocking by today's standards.

Parachutes · 28-04-2018 4:00pm

“Buy me food. I’ll probably like your dog more than you”

28-04-2018 4:02pm

When she describes self as "curvy" I run a mile. Don't even have to run so fast either :pac:

judeboy101 · 28-04-2018 4:03pm

No tattoos. Tattoos are for sailors and chinamen.

Donald Trump · 28-04-2018 4:04pm

Grayson wrote: »

I get that. I see profiles of girls who say only guys with beards or only guys who are over 6ft. Although I might have my own reasons for swiping left I wouldn't dream of putting them up there.

BTW: I currently have a beard and wouldn't dream of dating a girl who had that on her profile.

I won't date a girl with a beard either

_Dara_ · 28-04-2018 4:12pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

Height or weight requirements. I'm not short and I'm in decent shape, but I don't want to date someone who is that shallow.

Well, people are allowed to want to date attractive people but I agree that restrictive parameters are a bit weird. I’ve found a wide range of menfolk attractive. As an example, generally in my singleton days, I preferred them not to be overweight but it wasn’t a hard and fast rule. I recall having a massive crush on a chubby guy.

Tell me how · 28-04-2018 4:16pm

????? or "Ask me" in the About Me section.

If you can't offer anything with respect to your interests, hobbies, personality, I'm not going to even try to get to know you.

donegaLroad · 28-04-2018 4:18pm

Sanity, its funny how I used to over-look this issue, back in my days of dating.

Grayson · 28-04-2018 4:19pm

_Dara_ wrote: »

Well, people are allowed to want to date attractive people but I agree that restrictive parameters are a bit weird. I’ve found a wide range of menfolk attractive. As an example, generally in my singleton days, I preferred them not to be overweight but it wasn’t a hard and fast rule. I recall having a massive crush on a chubby guy.

I think what they meant was putting it into your profile. It's fine finding beards attractive but it's weird to state it explicitly in a profile.

MarkY91 · 28-04-2018 4:19pm

Women who's photos are only selfies. Ones that are almost identical.

Learning nothing from their profile.

Text talk and having **** all in their profile to read about them.... "Duno wat 2 rite txt us an ask xxxxxxx"...**** off.

It's obvious that most women I'd converse with when I was using dating sites would not read my profile and would be messaging multiple men at once. So it ends up being a generic conversation that leads to nothing.

28-04-2018 4:22pm

Donald Trump wrote: »

I won't date a girl with a beard either

Yep. Suggests one too many face lifts

Grayson · 28-04-2018 4:22pm

MarkY91 wrote: »

Women who's photos are only selfies. Ones that are almost identical.

Learning nothing from their profile.

Text talk and having **** all in their profile to read about them.... "Duno wat 2 rite txt us an ask xxxxxxx"...**** off.

It's obvious that most women I'd converse with when I was using dating sites would not read my profile and would be messaging multiple men at once. So it ends up being a generic conversation that leads to nothing.

You see that a lot on sites like POF. I wonder if guys put the same crap up.

Avatar MIA · 28-04-2018 4:22pm

People that used Tinder or derivatives.

steddyeddy · 28-04-2018 4:23pm

_Dara_ wrote: »

Well, people are allowed to want to date attractive people but I agree that restrictive parameters are a bit weird. I’ve found a wide range of menfolk attractive. As an example, generally in my singleton days, I preferred them not to be overweight but it wasn’t a hard and fast rule. I recall having a massive crush on a chubby guy.

It's perfectly OK to find short guys or overweight girls repellent. I'm just saying I find it repellent when either gender reminds the opposite gender of that.

Sam Quentin · 28-04-2018 4:24pm

Has to be a pic of at least head to hips..
So many women put pics up of just their face..... And there's too many 'pretty' women out there with emmmm well!? lets just say bigger bodies that their 'pretty' face would suggest!?!?

captain caveman · 28-04-2018 4:26pm

donegaLroad wrote: »

Sanity, its funny how I used to over-look this issue, back in my days of dating.

ya can’t date Santy :pac:

28-04-2018 4:27pm

Picking their nose.
& eating it.

I'm right in front of you!!!

PirateShampoo · 28-04-2018 4:27pm

Only posts group photos, said group photos all contain the same people. I'm just going to assume your the fat one.

When on a actual date, I don't mind paying for a dinner but at least buy the first round.

_Dara_ · 28-04-2018 4:31pm

Grayson wrote: »

I think what they meant was putting it into your profile. It's fine finding beards attractive but it's weird to state it explicitly in a profile.

Is it?

28-04-2018 4:31pm

Third wave feminists

Avatar MIA · 28-04-2018 4:33pm

Am I showing my age that I'm a little surprised that this thread is mostly online related.

I'm 93.

padd b1975 · 28-04-2018 4:34pm

Smoking when on an actual date.

Trilby hats in photos, especially when worn to some sort of outdoor music festival.

steddyeddy · 28-04-2018 4:39pm

_Dara_ wrote: »

Is it?

Well the thing is having or not having a beard isn't the equivalent of height or weight in terms of how people align it to personal worth. If I put a profile up saying I prefer slim girls I'd expect plenty of backlash and rightly so.

28-04-2018 4:42pm

Photos where the majority are of her drinking/partying wildly. While it's good that someone has a social life, promoting yourself around drinking isn't the best sign. Especially for dating at my age group; late 30s/40s.

Lingerie shots. Don't get me wrong, it's nice to see a beautiful woman in lingerie, but on your dating profile? Um, no. I'm thinking escorts at this stage.

Tell me how · 28-04-2018 4:49pm

First date with friends either along or in the same venue at the same time.

Seriously, we're not 15!

Silentcorner · 28-04-2018 4:49pm

Women who describe themselves as down to earth...why the fook wouldn't you be...I thought only famous or successful people could be described as down to earth, and even then by others...

steddyeddy · 28-04-2018 4:52pm

I just realised I've very little red lines.

28-04-2018 4:53pm

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Has to be a pic of at least head to hips..
So many women put pics up of just their face..... And there's too many 'pretty' women out there with emmmm well!? lets just say bigger bodies that their 'pretty' face would suggest!?!?

yes, women with only headshots - they usually turn out to be icebergs.

The Princess Bride · 28-04-2018 4:55pm

Grayson wrote: »

Girls who call themselves a princess

That's me told.

Pics of their children and/or their parents.

Pics of their pets and none of themselves.
I'm hoping that the 48yr old isn't actually a labrador who has logged on and wants to date me.

People who lie about their age.
Just makes no sense.

thebull85 · 28-04-2018 4:56pm

The ones that text you on dating websites saying "hey wats up x"

BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK

28-04-2018 4:58pm

Women who have "love to be wined and dined" on their profile!

28-04-2018 5:09pm

Ahhhhh memories

I remember my time on the dating sites with fondness and horror. They definitely can bring people together and create lasting relationships, I really do believe that. One of my best friends is in my life because we met thanks to an Okcupid date. I've also experienced awful heart ache from it all but sure that's part of living and will happen regardless.

The excitement though

When you are chatting with someone you think might be nice and you've spoken on the phone and next comes the date. I remember one time I was jumping out of my skin with the whole damn thing. We'd had phone conversations and skyped and well I'd broken all of my rules.

Life has knocked the romantic notions out of me but the minute I saw him sitting there and it was like I imagined it all would be. Of course after not very long at all it didn't work out, "I'm not sure....don't know what I want...where I'll be...blaa blaa". I drove home in a haze of irrational and angry tears.

Take it handy all of you daters out there. You never know who might be around the next corner.

Yer Da sells Avon · 28-04-2018 5:09pm

Any kind of non-ironic 'duck face' pictures
Any positive mention of rugby or 'the' gym
Sedated tiger photo

28-04-2018 5:11pm

Hapax Legomenon wrote: »

Any kind of non-ironic 'duck face' pictures
Any positive mention of rugby or 'the' gym
Sedated tiger photo

God. The gym. I hate the place. Says she with her pint and crisps

28-04-2018 5:25pm

A wan who is either a ‘social influencer’ or works in a gym - instantly annoying

Yer Da sells Avon · 28-04-2018 5:30pm

"I'm a personal trainer"

"Oh, sorry to hear that. I was unemployed for a while too"

notsoyoungwan · 28-04-2018 5:32pm

When I was doing online dating I was instantly put off by guys who had pics of themselves topless and/or flexing their biceps.

Also:
Tattoos
Smokers
Guys who had kids
‘Just ask me’ instead of a description
‘Looking for my queen/princess’

Mackerel and Avocado Sandwich · 28-04-2018 5:39pm

I was online dating for the last 3 years pretty much, it's hard work but I met someone recently and it seems to be working out well, so hang in there.

Anyway. Some women say things like "Looks aren't important but I love beards and tattoos". How stupid.
Only head shots means they are fat.
Any mention of rugby, no thanks.
Yoga pics. Christ.
Brazilians don't do it for me for some reason, and there seems to be 1000s of them in Dublin.
Arty pictures are a turn off.
Any picture where they're playing a guitar or singing on stage.

Also, how come every single girl in their 30s seems to live in Goatstown or Dundrum?

MarkY91 · 28-04-2018 5:41pm

Grayson wrote: »

You see that a lot on sites like POF. I wonder if guys put the same crap up.

Yeah POF was the site I used. I found tinder to be crap and tagged was ok for a bit of chatting.

Also women using generic "witty" tagline they copy and pasted from Google thinking they're unique

Grayson · 28-04-2018 5:46pm

The Princess Bride wrote: »

That's me told.

Pics of their children and/or their parents.

Pics of their pets and none of themselves.
I'm hoping that the 48yr old isn't actually a labrador who has logged on and wants to date me.

People who lie about their age.
Just makes no sense.

To be fair, if they add the word bride after princess I'm fine with that. It's my favourite film

What are your no-no's with dating?

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