People referring to you as 'him' or 'her' while present

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:31am #1

Does it annoy you when people refer to you this way when you're are present? Sometimes it can seem more rude than others. I came across this a few times recently and it's kind of annoying.

You can see Russell Brand calling someone out about this from 5:04 onwards. I know it's Russell Brand, but just watch that part. He later corrects her on this at 6:07.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynUjo99Gzbk

punisher5112 · 16-06-2019 1:35am

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

Does it annoy you when people refer to you this way when you're are present? Sometimes it can seem more rude than others. I came across this a few times recently and it's kind of annoying.

You can see Russell Brand calling someone out about this from 5:04 onwards. I know it's Russell Brand, but just watch that part. He later corrects her on this at 6:07.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynUjo99Gzbk

Are you him or her?

Wailin · 16-06-2019 1:41am

Ffs

ToddyDoody · 16-06-2019 1:41am

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

Does it annoy you when people refer to you this way when you're are present? Sometimes it can seem more rude than others. I came across this a few times recently and it's kind of annoying.

You can see Russell Brand calling someone out about this from 5:04 onwards. I know it's Russell Brand, but just watch that part. He later corrects her on this at 6:07.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynUjo99Gzbk

When human relations gets like this its time to withdraw in spirit and head on to your happy place.

BeerWolf · 16-06-2019 3:58am

"I helped him"

"Rude fecker..."

"Wut?!"

Mrcaramelchoc · 16-06-2019 6:30am

Russell brand........HIM HES a cu nt.

Wibbs · 16-06-2019 7:17am

up for anything · 16-06-2019 7:59am

It was drummed into us as children that it's very rude not to use someone's name when they are present. If I heard, "Who is she/he? The cat's mother?" once, I heard it a million times.

_Brian · 16-06-2019 8:01am

People need to relax, if I wanted to be rude about you, saying “him or her” wouldn’t be my approach.

RWCNT · 16-06-2019 8:37am

I like that thing blokey English blokes do when their friend turns up somewhere and they say "Here he is!".

16-06-2019 9:06am

You're too delicate for this world, it might be time to inhabit another one. Godspeed.

wetlandsboy · 16-06-2019 9:16am

I’ve noticed a lot of Americans tend to have this habit. Very rude and disrespectful.

budgie412 · 16-06-2019 9:27am

Ah, it's yourself

Sonny noggs · 16-06-2019 10:51am

More workplace problems, OP? Did yer one who smokes or yer man that drinks Pepsi or yer one who talked about the radio do this? Or an entirely new person?

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 12:37pm

_Brian wrote: »

if I wanted to be rude about you, saying “him or her” wouldn’t be my approach.

I never said it was deliberate rudeness.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 12:39pm

Sonny noggs wrote: »

More workplace problems, OP? Did yer one who smokes or yer man that drinks Pepsi or yer one who talked about the radio do this? Or an entirely new person?

An entirely new person.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 12:42pm

_Brian wrote: »

People need to relax

Then how come no one acted as if Russell Brand was over-reacting?? In fact, she completely backed down.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 12:44pm

Wibbs wrote: »

Troll and a bully you are.

Can we expect a long winded rant about your testosterone levels now.

corner of hells · 16-06-2019 12:50pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

Troll and a bully you are.

Can we expect a long winded rant about your testosterone levels now.

What do you work at ?

Dravokivich · 16-06-2019 12:54pm

It seems a trivial thing to get worked up about. Just as long as they've stopped pushing that ze bolloxs.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 12:55pm

Dravokivich wrote: »

ze bolloxs.

What?

TheChizler · 16-06-2019 12:58pm

How did I guess that you were the person who started the thread on the canteen comments...

biko · 16-06-2019 12:58pm

Misplaced accusations are like antibiotics.
Eventually they stop working and whose fault was it?
The person using it when it wasn't necessary.

Dravokivich · 16-06-2019 1:05pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

What?

A non gender specific pronoun, ze.

Franz Von Peppercorn II · 16-06-2019 1:06pm

They/Them

Sonny noggs · 16-06-2019 1:06pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

An entirely new person.

At work?

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:08pm

Sonny noggs wrote: »

At work?

No

Garibaldi? · 16-06-2019 1:08pm

The kids who were repeatedly corrected for this are now grandparents. Old habits die hard. They instantly notice when another breaches this old and strange taboo, whatever its origin. There is no inherent offence in the practice.

Wibbs · 16-06-2019 1:29pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

Troll and a bully you are.

Can we expect a long winded rant about your testosterone levels now.

Ohhh nerve touched and yet another rereg with it. BTW calling "troll" and "bully" just because someone reckons you come across as odd as two left feet hardly cuts it, but it's a handy little victim call, if stupendously clunky. Both show even less normal social calibration.

I'd have once called "troll" myself, but you just come across as an unsocialised adult, with seemingly no idea about how social interactions work and get angry about it rather than y'know getting out of your solipsistic headspace and letting these non events go. Then again that seems to be your problem, discerning the difference between non events and real.

Opening posts like yours just come across as odd and WTF? when read by Relatively normal people™ and because of that Relatively normal people™ aren't going to be able to give you much useful advice. It's a different more developed social language they work with and they'll likely respond with the lulz. At best you might get sympathy from others who are similar to you, but that tends to lead to reinforcing the existing worldview. Neither types of reply are much use in navigating this into the future.

Therapy might be an option?

There you go, long winded rant. And I can hear my beard growing. Happy?

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:42pm

Garibaldi? wrote: »

The kids who were repeatedly corrected for this are now grandparents. Old habits die hard. They instantly notice when another breaches this old and strange taboo, whatever its origin. There is no inherent offence in the practice.

Russell Brand is not from that generation.

His reaction at 5:07 is quite extreme. And it's quite extreme for a reason. Would he have come across as charismatic if he just sat there and nothing while she started talking about him as if he wasn't there? Unless of course you're saying Russell Brand has poor social skills?

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 16-06-2019 1:43pm

Oh sweet....

Here we go again.

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ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 16-06-2019 1:45pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

Russell Brand is not from that generation.

His reaction at 5:07 is quite extreme. And it's quite extreme for a reason. Would he have come across as charismatic if he just sat there and nothing while she started talking about him as if he wasn't there? Unless of course you're saying Russell Brand has poor social skills?

He's a prize loo laa. Hardly a shining example of any kind of a role model.

Bobblehats · 16-06-2019 1:45pm

..I honestly don’t mind as long as it’s followed by majesty.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:45pm

Wibbs wrote: »

Ohhh nerve touched and yet another rereg with it. BTW calling "troll" and "bully" just because someone reckons you come across as odd as two left feet hardly cuts it, but it's a handy little victim call, if stupendously clunky. Both show even less normal social calibration.

I'd have once called "troll" myself, but you just come across as an unsocialised adult, with seemingly no idea about how social interactions work and get angry about it rather than y'know getting out of your solipsistic headspace and letting these non events go. Then again that seems to be your problem, discerning the difference between non events and real.

Opening posts like yours just come across as odd and WTF? when read by Relatively normal people™ and because of that Relatively normal people™ aren't going to be able to give you much useful advice. It's a different more developed social language they work with and they'll likely respond with the lulz. At best you might get sympathy from others who are similar to you, but that tends to lead to reinforcing the existing worldview. Neither types of reply are much use in navigating this into the future.

Therapy might be an option?

There you go, long winded rant. And I can hear my beard growing. Happy?

Drop your high minded talk. You only use it as a way of avoiding the question of the thread... just like everyone else. If you've nothing to say, then don't post.

Or maybe I should give you a badge of honour for being 'normal'. Maybe Russell Brand should just cop on and just be more normal. Maybe he shouldn't have called out the host and ignored the very thought that crossed his mind.

Sonny noggs · 16-06-2019 1:46pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

Russell Brand is not from that generation.

His reaction at 5:07 is quite extreme. And it's quite extreme for a reason. Would he have come across as charismatic if he just sat there and nothing while she started talking about him as if he wasn't there? Unless of course you're saying Russell Brand has poor social skills?

He is a dickhead. Using him as a role model is not recommended for anyone, particularly for people who already have issues with social interactions and can’t recognise him for what he is.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:47pm

Serenity Odd Sometimes wrote: »

Oh sweet....

Here we go again.

Oh sweet...

My biggest fan is back.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 16-06-2019 1:47pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

My biggest fan is back.

Your irony isn't even good.

1/10.

Edit:And shouting is frowned upon.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:49pm

Serenity Odd Sometimes wrote: »

He's a prize loo laa. Hardly a shining example of any kind of a role model.

Yes, but there's a lot more to be learned from him then say (someone like you). Who's gonna get invited to more parties? Russell Brand, or a normal person?!

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:50pm

Serenity Odd Sometimes wrote: »

Your irony isn't even good.

1/10.

Oh come on, you show up in my every thread of mine. It makes your day to throw in your biting one liners as you get distracted from your newspaper.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 16-06-2019 1:51pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

Yes, but there's a lot more to be learned from him then say (someone like you). Who's gonna get invited to more parties? Russell Brand, or a normal person?!

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:52pm

Serenity Odd Sometimes wrote: »

Your irony isn't even good.

1/10.

Edit:And shouting is frowned upon.

Still barely noticeable in comparison to the big move image above it.

Game of Thrones Fan · 16-06-2019 1:53pm

Serenity Odd Sometimes wrote: »

You lost that one.

Tazzimus · 16-06-2019 1:56pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

Does it annoy you when people refer to you this way when you're are present? Sometimes it can seem more rude than others. I came across this a few times recently and it's kind of annoying.

You can see Russell Brand calling someone out about this from 5:04 onwards. I know it's Russell Brand, but just watch that part. He later corrects her on this at 6:07.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynUjo99Gzbk

No

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:57pm

Tazzimus wrote: »

No

So you've watched that part of the video and think Russell Brand comes across as an idiot?

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 1:58pm

Serenity Odd Sometimes wrote: »

Oh sweet....

Here we go again.

And just like me, he's miles better looking than any of them.

Wibbs · 16-06-2019 2:01pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

Drop your high minded talk. You only use it as a way of avoiding the question of the thread... just like everyone else. If you've nothing to say, then don't post.

I am directly addressing the question of the thread, which is your lack of understanding of the difference between things in social situations you should react to and things in social situations you shouldn't. In each of your threads on the matter, you seem to have real difficulties with this. Therapy was good advice. Or at least seeking a professional opinion.

Or maybe I should give you a badge of honour for being 'normal'. Maybe Russell Brand just cop on and just be more normal.

I did say relatively normal people for a start. Brand would be the first to admit and has that he suffers from addiction issues, ADHD, bipolar disorder, eating disorders and periods of self harm. He's quite open that he's not "normal" as a way to help spread mental health awareness. He's also an entertainer and an over the top one. That's his act and handily his personal demons feed into it in negative and positive ways. His social calibration can be quite off too outside the context of being "on show". Things he has also discussed. He has also sought out treatment when he realised some of his screws that were loose needed tightening for his sake and for those around him. Indeed Brand should be a good inspiration for you. If you follow his journey back from the brink.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 2:01pm

Wibbs wrote: »

and yet another rereg with it.

That is slander, and if I wasn't only a little fish I'd be taking this further.

Wibbs · 16-06-2019 2:04pm

You don't understand what slander means.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 2:06pm

Wibbs wrote: »

I am directly addressing the question of the thread, which is your lack of understanding of the difference between things in social situations you should react to and things in social situations you shouldn't.

So you're saying Russell B also showed a lack of understanding by reacting to this?

Wibbs wrote: »

He's also an entertainer and an over the top one.

And I can't be an entertainer? Or even take 10% of what he does?

Tazzimus · 16-06-2019 2:06pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

So you've watched that part of the video and think Russell Brand comes across as an idiot?

I think Russel Brand in general is an idiot.
I've better things to be getting annoyed about than stuff like this, I wouldn't even class it as a minor annoyance.

Problem Of Motivation · 16-06-2019 2:09pm

Tazzimus wrote: »

I think Russel Brand in general is an idiot.
I've better things to be getting annoyed about than stuff like this, I wouldn't even class it as a minor annoyance.

As expected, you avoided my question.

People referring to you as 'him' or 'her' while present

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