Fathers day

judeboy101 · 16-06-2019 8:47am #1

How is it fathers day doesn't have the same gravitas as mothers day. Women have it easy, sitting round the house all day, us men folk have to work twice as hard but don't get the same recognition.

gifted · 16-06-2019 8:50am

judeboy101 wrote: »

How is it fathers day doesn't have the same gravitas as mothers day. Women have it easy, sitting round the house all day, us men folk have to work twice as hard but don't get the same recognition.

Keep up that thinking and you'll never experience fathers day..

16-06-2019 8:51am

judeboy101 wrote: »

How is it fathers day doesn't have the same gravitas as mothers day. Women have it easy, sitting round the house all day, us men folk have to work twice as hard but don't get the same recognition.

Welcome to 2019 and congrats on the time travel from 1950.

mad muffin · 16-06-2019 8:53am

The day you pop out a sprog out of your moot and have it suckle on your titties for months. Then you too will have the recognition you deserve.

SuperSean11 · 16-06-2019 8:54am

The real unsung heroes

Trigger Happy · 16-06-2019 8:56am

If your kids are celebrating their mother more than you...you probably need to look in the mirror before blaming society.

judeboy101 · 16-06-2019 9:09am

Trigger Happy wrote: »

If your kids are celebrating their mother more than you...you probably need to look in the mirror before blaming society.

Society have placed women on this pedestal, when the reality is they are increasingly opting for easy c sections , couldn't be arsed making bottles, taking way too much time off thus causing chaos for the civil and public service. It's no wonder the HSE is the way it is with the amount of maternity, parental leaves going on. God bless the marriage ban when it was in place.

16-06-2019 9:11am

judeboy101 wrote: »

Society have placed women on this pedestal, when the reality is they are increasingly opting for easy c sections , couldn't be arsed making bottles, taking way too much time off thus causing chaos for the civil and public service. It's no wonder the HSE is the way it is with the amount of maternity, parental leaves going on. God bless the marriage ban when it was in place.

1/10.

8-10 · 16-06-2019 9:11am

judeboy101 wrote: »

couldn't be arsed making bottles,

Breastfeeding rates are increasing. Don't see the men helping much with that

Happy4all · 16-06-2019 9:14am

Jokes and windups aside, I ignore all these Hallmark Days.

bear1 · 16-06-2019 9:16am

judeboy101 wrote: »

Society have placed women on this pedestal, when the reality is they are increasingly opting for easy c sections , couldn't be arsed making bottles, taking way too much time off thus causing chaos for the civil and public service. It's no wonder the HSE is the way it is with the amount of maternity, parental leaves going on. God bless the marriage ban when it was in place.

Your post screams I need attention and at the same time screams moronic.
Father's and mother's should be treated equally.
Mothers have a much tougher task at hand and the fathers unfortunately are sort of left behind.
We get nearly no time off to help, our rights in case of a divorce are far lower and in general we are in charge of comforting the mother and the new born.
I couldn't give less than a **** of fathers day and if my kids want to wish me then that's nice but don't go around thinking it's all a piece of piss

meeeeh · 16-06-2019 9:19am

It's funny how all this troll posts still offer the insight into op's frustrations.

16-06-2019 9:23am

It’s a load of sheite. Mothers and Fathers day. If your parents don’t know always that you love them and appreciate what they’ve done for you over the years, they only have themselves to blame for raising an ungrateful little get. And if they do, these days should be seen for what they are, a way to get people to spend more. Only fools buy in to it.

8-10 · 16-06-2019 9:25am

JayZeus wrote: »

It’s a load of sheite. Mothers and Fathers day. If your parents don’t know always that you love them and appreciate what they’ve done for you over the years, they only have themselves to blame for raising an ungrateful little get. And if they do, these days should be seen for what they are, a way to get people to spend more. Only fools buy in to it.

Agree with that, throw Valentine's Day in there too

Holidays for people who don't make the effort any other day of the year and need a reminder

ILoveYourVibes · 16-06-2019 9:51am

I was talking to a guy whose parents divorced when he was young and he decided never to see his dad again. He explained his dad went very odd and had a lot of issues with women and started posting men's rights stuff on social media.

My mate said he was embarrassed by his dad. And he found him aggressive to be around and kind of bitter and intimidating.

His mom was always telling him to spend more time with him even though his Dad was saying horrible things about her and about other women in general.

My mate said he saw his dad be abusive to his mother. His dad denies it and said his mother manipulated him.

My mate thinks his mother is an angel and it was him as a kid that encouraged her to leave his father. I am not sure that is entirely the truth.

His mom always said though 'Your dad won't be here forever you will regret it if he dies and you never make up ...even if you think he is a prick he is your dad'.

And then he did die ...and my mate DID regret it. He still thinks his dad was a prick though. Its just he was HIS prick.

LUCKILY MY DAD IS A GENTLE GENEROUS SOUL. AND I AM VERY LUCKY.

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

If your mom is the uber feminist i bet you just wish she would be your mom. Same as if your dad is the uber mens rights activist i bet you wish he would just shut up and be your dad.

16-06-2019 9:56am

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

And then he did die ...and my mate DID regret it. He still thinks his dad was a prick though. Its just he was HIS prick.

You might want to suggest that to Hallmark for next year's cards.

Sonics2k · 16-06-2019 9:57am

I'm a father.

I really couldn't give a toss about Father's Day. It's just some Hallmark ****e designed to make money

Hannibal_Smith · 16-06-2019 9:57am

The kids made mothers day cards in school for me. They were really sweet and I still have them. Funnily enough they didn't make fathers day cards though.

I had bought one for my husband anyhow, but as it turns out, the kids twigged the difference already and made cards yesterday at home in secret. I thought that was nice.

ILoveYourVibes · 16-06-2019 9:58am

I want my Daddy to have a lovely father's day. I have his present ready beside me and i am waiting for him to wake up!

16-06-2019 9:59am

Hannibal_Smith wrote: »

Funnily enough they didn't make fathers day cards though.

Likely some kid in class didn't have a dad in their life. Schools are very sensitive to that.

ILoveYourVibes · 16-06-2019 10:02am

Deleted User wrote: »

Likely some kid in class didn't have a dad in their life. Schools are very sensitive to that.

That is so sad.

8-10 · 16-06-2019 10:07am

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

If your mom is the uber feminist i bet you just wish she would be your mom. Same as if your dad is the uber mens rights activist i bet you wish he would just shut up and be your dad.

blinding · 16-06-2019 10:10am

My kids can’t find me ....thankfully

I use Fathers day as a reminder to be extra vigilant .

Only kidding .

mattser · 16-06-2019 10:13am

Sonics2k wrote: »

I'm a father.

I really couldn't give a toss about Father's Day. It's just some Hallmark ****e designed to make money

Same as. My family have adhered to my wish. No cards. No presents or any other BS. Call around to the house for lunch and a chat.....no problem.

Hannibal_Smith · 16-06-2019 10:15am

Deleted User wrote: »

Likely some kid in class didn't have a dad in their life. Schools are very sensitive to that.

Yeah, maybe

Roger Hassenforder · 16-06-2019 10:23am

blinding · 16-06-2019 10:24am

More Work for Dad

banie01 · 16-06-2019 10:47am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Likely some kid in class didn't have a dad in their life. Schools are very sensitive to that.

Still made mothers day cards in classes that had kids with deceased mother's.
I'd say the lack of Fr's day cards has more to do with Primary schools winding down for the summer and being on a literal doss for the last 2 weeks of term

Than any inherent sympathy or sensitivity.

Pero_Bueno · 16-06-2019 10:50am

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I was talking to a guy whose parents divorced when he was young and he decided never to see his dad again. He explained his dad went very odd and had a lot of issues with women and started posting men's rights stuff on social media.

My mate said he was embarrassed by his dad. And he found him aggressive to be around and kind of bitter and intimidating.

His mom was always telling him to spend more time with him even though his Dad was saying horrible things about her and about other women in general.

My mate said he saw his dad be abusive to his mother. His dad denies it and said his mother manipulated him.

My mate thinks his mother is an angel and it was him as a kid that encouraged her to leave his father. I am not sure that is entirely the truth.

His mom always said though 'Your dad won't be here forever you will regret it if he dies and you never make up ...even if you think he is a prick he is your dad'.

And then he did die ...and my mate DID regret it. He still thinks his dad was a prick though. Its just he was HIS prick.

LUCKILY MY DAD IS A GENTLE GENEROUS SOUL. AND I AM VERY LUCKY.

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

If your mom is the uber feminist i bet you just wish she would be your mom. Same as if your dad is the uber mens rights activist i bet you wish he would just shut up and be your dad.

WHAT THE F*CK IS THAT SHIT ???

Timberrrrrrrr · 16-06-2019 10:52am

judeboy101 wrote: »

Society have placed women on this pedestal, when the reality is they are increasingly opting for easy c sections , couldn't be arsed making bottles, taking way too much time off thus causing chaos for the civil and public service. It's no wonder the HSE is the way it is with the amount of maternity, parental leaves going on. God bless the marriage ban when it was in place.

When was the last time you had a C-Section?

lawred2 · 16-06-2019 10:58am

As a father, couldn't care less about such crap. Meaningless crap. I don't need it. Certainly don't need my wife spending twenty quid buying cliched Hallmark cards on their behalf.

Having said that it was nice to get handmade cards home from the kids' schools. But I like when they come home with handmade stuff every day of the year.

If as a parent you're waiting about for empty annual Hallmark sentiments as evidence that your kids appreciate you then you've probably not worked hard enough to create a real relationship with them

ThunbergsAreGo · 16-06-2019 11:02am

8-10 wrote: »

judeboy101 wrote: »

couldn't be arsed making bottles,

Breastfeeding rates are increasing. Don't see the men helping much with that

To be fair while definitely more of a drain on the woman support is generally needed from both sides to make breastfeeding a success.

It's a really really hard thing for a woman to do and a good father supporting them, and staying up with the baby when they won't feed, or burping the baby after they have fed makes a massive difference.

The OP is such a troll

Masala · 16-06-2019 11:03am

My kids all grown up and now earning a few quid!!! So I like to see some 'payback' and happily put in my 'spake' for Father's Day!! Hope there is a Dashcam present coming as well as a TK Max voucher for something I am watching!!! I drop hints for past few weeks.......

My time to be pampered!!

Angliru · 16-06-2019 11:05am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Likely some kid in class didn't have a dad in their life. Schools are very sensitive to that.

Correct although we usually suggest to the kids that they make a card for their grandfather or even an uncle. I had two in my class that did that this year and the other kids were as jealous as could be that some children got to make one for their grandad... Very happy and lucky reaction from all the children, in my head I'd pictured everything up to a Jeremy Kyle episode.

Obviously if their dad has recently died or there's been a recent separation the whole thing would be avoided.

This is it · 16-06-2019 11:12am

Just got a card from my 4 year old which he made in playschool, accompanied by a bar of Galaxy caramel. Delighted.

I'm informed that because we're both boys we have to share the chocolate. Fair enough

16-06-2019 11:13am

8-10 wrote: »

Breastfeeding rates are increasing. Don't see the men helping much with that

Ah, After Hours.

A thread about fathers day and people still make it about how women have it harder.

At least nobody has tried it on with the ‘what about si gle mothers’ yet.

Yet.

ILoveYourVibes · 16-06-2019 11:15am

Pero_Bueno wrote: »

WHAT THE F*CK IS THAT SHIT ???

It's true.

It's kind sadly Ironic.

His Dad was so certain he got a rough ride and went full on MRA and wanted his son to be raised that way.

He ended making his kid scared ****less of him. He was also kind of embarrassed.

He was only in his early twenties when his dad died. I don't think he was mature enough to see past his Dad's behavior and just love him unconditionally.

I don't think the father understood HOW he was coming across to his son.

I have heard other people telling similar stories.

This other guy made a video about his dad. Its sadly similar.

Well worth watching.

I have heard lots of stories like this.

Like my mate he also regretted not patching things up with his father before he died.

I am sure there are mom versions of the story too.

RocketRaccoon · 16-06-2019 11:19am

As the son of a ****ing useless father I make sure my kids will never have that same feeling.

I got a lie in this morning(after being woken with hugs and kisses from my youngest daughter), some handmade cards and a lovely breakfast. That'll do for me.

ILoveYourVibes · 16-06-2019 11:20am

Don't put Daddy in the box!

8-10 · 16-06-2019 12:00pm

JayZeus wrote: »

Ah, After Hours.

A thread about fathers day and people still make it about how women have it harder.

The OP explicitly mentioned how women have it easier, I was disagreeing

You are making it out like I'm completely off topic and being the first to mention how women have it. It's literally the point of the OP

suicide_circus · 16-06-2019 12:03pm

judeboy101 wrote: »

Society have placed women on this pedestal

if you need proof of this, look at the maria bailey case. "Woman and Mother".

BarryD2 · 16-06-2019 12:26pm

The funny thing is that in the over exaggerated sentiments of the OP's views - there is a wee kernel of truth there. But it is has been thus for many years now. Do fathers / men care? I don't really think so.

How Soon Is Now · 16-06-2019 12:36pm

There's less made about fathers day then mothers day cause most men don't want the fuss in general!

Love me ma and da more then anything and I've a very good yet slightly different relationship with both of them the mother is clearly ahead in the fussy stakes when it comes to these types of days though!!

Usually always pay for me das ticket to whatever Dublin match is on around the time as we always go threw out the year so he's delighted with that!

I got a bottle of whisky and matching pj's for meself and the kids so I'm happy with that!!

Dravokivich · 16-06-2019 12:52pm

Apparently I'm a fintastic dad. Need to work on his spelling.

blinding · 16-06-2019 1:15pm

Dravokivich wrote: »

Apparently I'm a fintastic dad. Need to work on his spelling.

Are you a shark ?

purplepanda · 16-06-2019 1:20pm

My old Dad always said Fathers Day was made up by the greetings card manufacturers in America. Also mentioning Mothers Day was an old traditional religious day.

I still tell my kids don't bother with me but make sure you get Mum a card for Mothers Day.

circadian · 16-06-2019 1:25pm

judeboy101 wrote: »

Society have placed women on this pedestal, when the reality is they are increasingly opting for easy c sections , couldn't be arsed making bottles, taking way too much time off thus causing chaos for the civil and public service. It's no wonder the HSE is the way it is with the amount of maternity, parental leaves going on. God bless the marriage ban when it was in place.

Easy c-sections? Get the **** outta here with that.

circadian · 16-06-2019 1:25pm

Dravokivich wrote: »

Apparently I'm a fintastic dad. Need to work on his spelling.

Are you a shark?

Bobblehats · 16-06-2019 1:29pm

Papa was a rolling stone. Bit of an asshat; never came home

TheValeyard · 16-06-2019 1:38pm

blinding wrote: »

Are you a shark ?

Daddy shark, doo doo doo doo doo doo
Daddy shark, doo doo doo doo doo doo
Daddy shark, doo doo doo doo doo doo
Daddy shark!

Alf Veedersane · 16-06-2019 1:43pm

Masala wrote: »

My kids all grown up and now earning a few quid!!! So I like to see some 'payback' and happily put in my 'spake' for Father's Day!! Hope there is a Dashcam present coming as well as a TK Max voucher for something I am watching!!! I drop hints for past few weeks.......

My time to be pampered!!

You should just charge them by the hour for the time they spend with you because nothing says "I love you kids" like "show me the money".

Fathers day

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