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'Hey Buddy'

  • 09-08-2019 11:06pm
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    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    So there's this guy that I met up with a few times since I've been in college with him years ago. One of the things I've noticed about him is that he calls me buddy a bit too often. He puts it in writing too! Does anyone find this annoying?

    The thing about it, is that he usual calls me this when saying hello or goodbye, or maybe on the phone. These are all circumstances when it's hard to call someone out about it. For example if we haven't seen each other in two months and he says "hey buddy" when greeting me, in amongst a bunch of other words, well wouldn't it be unusual to just say "don't call me buddy" at that point in time!? Also, if there's a quick phone call to verify a where we're meeting or something, he'll sneak in his 'buddy' remark. Again, I wouldn't want to call him out on this over the phone. Likewise, when saying goodbye - can you imagine turning you're back as you say goodbye and then as you're turning to leave and turning back around to say "don't call me buddy"? It would really end things on a bad note. If he said it to me mid conversation, I'd say it to him.

    It's kind of weird, because with the way he says it, it's almost as if we were best friends back in the day or something but we really weren't. I feel like saying to him "hang on, we don't know each other that well". In short, I find it patronising.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,408 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    So there's this guy that I met up with a few times since I've been in college with him years ago.

    One of the things I've noticed about him is that he calls me buddy a bit too often. He puts it in writing too! The thing about it, is that he usual calls me this when saying hello or goodbye, or maybe on the phone. These are all circumstances when it's hard to call someone out about it. For example if we haven't seen each other in two months and he says "hey buddy" when greeting me, in amongst a bunch of other words, well wouldn't it be unusual to just say "don't call me buddy" at that point in time!? Also, if there's a quick phone call to verify a where we're meeting or something, he'll sneak in his 'buddy' remark. Again, I wouldn't want to call him out on this over the phone. Likewise, when saying goodbye - can you imagine turning you're back as you say goodbye and then as you're turning to leave and turning back around to say "don't call me buddy"? It would really end things on a bad note. If he said it to me mid conversation, I'd say it to him.

    It's kind of weird, because with the way he says it, it's almost as if we were best friends back in the day or something but we really weren't. I feel like saying to him "hang on, we don't know each other that well". In short, I find it patronising.

    Is he the bloke who eats toilet roll ?


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,098 ✭✭✭Poorside


    Keith calls everyone that, you’re really not that special to him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,559 ✭✭✭refusetolose


    I'm not your buddy mate


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 12,812 Mod ✭✭✭✭riffmongous


    He's nuthin but a snake Hun


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 73,477 ✭✭✭✭colm_mcm


    I'm not your buddy mate

    I’m not your mate pal


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  • Posts: 5,311 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.
    I knew it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 949 ✭✭✭Woodsie1


    You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.

    Online maybe,but in the real world it pretty harmless,bud.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,275 ✭✭✭Your Face


    Half squat down in a crouching position and with an explosive upward movement, uppercut him in the balls.
    Then say something really cool whilst lighting up a cigarette.
    Or do what you like, I don't care, stop talking to me, I don't even know you.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 40,061 ✭✭✭✭Harry Palmr


    Chummy chums are such a drag.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 673 ✭✭✭Sharp MZ700


    Your Face wrote: »
    Half squat down in a crouching position and with an explosive upward movement, uppercut him in the balls.
    Then say something really cool whilst lighting up a cigarette.
    Or do what you like, I don't care, stop talking to me, I don't even know you.

    Great advice there pal.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,408 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    colm_mcm wrote: »
    I’m not your mate pal
    I'm not your pal, chum.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,189 ✭✭✭✭RobbingBandit


    colm_mcm wrote: »
    I’m not your mate pal

    He's not your pal, fweind


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,531 ✭✭✭✭Leg End Reject


    Don't call me baby when she is waiting in the car


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 83,416 ✭✭✭✭Atlantic Dawn
    M


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    "Don't call me buddy, buddy."


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,408 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    Don't call me baby when she is waiting in the car

    We"re old enough to remember Strawberry Switchblade, no one's going to call us baby anymore, except maybe BP Fallon or Grandmaster Flash


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,531 ✭✭✭✭Leg End Reject


    Sardonicat wrote: »
    We"re old enough to remember Strawberry Switchblade, no one's going to call us baby anymore, except maybe BP Fallon or Grandmaster Flash

    Speak for yourself! :pac:

    It was Voice of the Beehive.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,408 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    Speak for yourself! :pac:

    It was Voice of the Beehive.

    Ah, so it was ! See, the old memory's going....
    First, they stop calling you 'baby, next, you get the all female pop acts of the early 90s mixed up. Before you know it you start referring to young fellas as 'sonny'....


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,298 ✭✭✭Snotty


    Are you female/homosexual and your "buddy" male? Yeah it's weird and he might be letting you know that the relationship is always going to be platonic


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,294 ✭✭✭rainbowdrop


    Did you go to college with that fella on the TV show about Dublin Airport, think it was called 'Customs'?

    Memorable only because he was an absolute dick to the passengers...


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,405 ✭✭✭Airyfairy12


    I kind of feel like youre reading into this way too much, he likely calls everybody buddy and doesnt actually think youre best buds, he's probably just being friendly. Does he give you any other reason to think that he thinks you are currently or where previously best mates? Like does he message you all the time or keep asking you to meet up? If he's not behaving oddly then I really think its more your problem than his.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 73,477 ✭✭✭✭colm_mcm


    I kind of feel like youre reading into this way too much

    You should see the other threads.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,405 ✭✭✭Airyfairy12


    colm_mcm wrote: »
    You should see the other threads.

    Why?


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,022 ✭✭✭bfa1509


    There is a very easy solution to this. People who say "buddy" think they are the only person in the world who says "buddy". They also fancy themselves as being "cool". Next time you see him, get in there quick and say "HEY BUDDY!". No person in the world would respond to "Hey buddy" with "Hey buddy".

    The one caveat to this technique is that you then become "that guy".


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,312 ✭✭✭Ninthlife


    Burn his house down. That will take the spring out of his step and next time you see him he'll be too sad and will probably just let out a miserable half ar$ed 'Hi'


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,786 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    Ninthlife wrote: »
    Burn his house down. That will take the spring out of his step and next time you see him he'll be too sad and will probably just let out a miserable half ar$ed 'Hi'

    This.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,426 ✭✭✭KaneToad


    Sardonicat wrote: »
    I'm not your pal, chum.

    I'm not your chum, horse.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,312 ✭✭✭Ninthlife


    This.

    2 people cant be wrong


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,408 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    KaneToad wrote: »
    I'm not your chum, horse.

    I'm not your horse, pilgrim.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 3,786 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    Ninthlife wrote: »
    2 people cant be wrong

    I am NEVER wrong.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,235 ✭✭✭✭Cee-Jay-Cee


    Sardonicat wrote: »
    I'm not your horse, pilgrim.

    Don’t call me pilgrim, man.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,408 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    Don’t call me pilgrim, man.

    Did you just assume my gender, buddy?


  • Posts: 13,712 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.

    Ah here.

    I call people buddy or dude all the time. Buddy is for someone you vaguely know, but seems sound; dude is for someone around your age who you might or might not know well.

    "Pal" is definitely passive aggressive, as is "chief", "big man" or "youssir".

    I don't make the rules, I just follow them, youssir.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,176 ✭✭✭✭sammyjo90


    He doesnt remember your name. Simples


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,737 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    In short, I find it patronising.

    Aw, that's a big word. Well done, buddy. :)


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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Yeah, generally, if someone calls me 'buddy' or 'pal' I'd be inclined to stick them a headbutt.. I wouldn't like..but I'd be that way inclined..It'd cross my mind like..


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,098 ✭✭✭Poorside


    Ah here.

    I call people buddy or dude all the time. Buddy is for someone you vaguely know, but seems sound; dude is for someone around your age who you might or might not know well.

    "Pal" is definitely passive aggressive, as is "chief", "big man" or "youssir".

    I don't make the rules, I just follow them, youssir.

    Dude is horrible, please stop using it, not for you but for the people around you that are too embarrassed to tell you how cringeworthy calling someone dude is.

    You’re welcome.


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    I call people 'dude' the whole time..


  • Posts: 13,712 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Poorside wrote: »
    Dude is horrible, please stop using it, not for you but for the people around you that are too embarrassed to tell you how cringeworthy calling someone dude is.

    You’re welcome.
    But they call me dude back. It is an Americanism, of course, you can't say dude in your best Midlands accent, and not be aware of that. It's a bit like people who call their other half Bae. You're being affectionate but slightly ironic

    No?

    Well I tried. Whatever dude :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 452 ✭✭mcgragger


    Is he Canadian?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 452 ✭✭mcgragger


    Blame Canada


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,909 ✭✭✭Gwynplaine


    Is he from Doobalin?


  • Registered Users Posts: 7,055 ✭✭✭JohnnyFlash


    I wouldn’t read too much into it, lad. Be like how that Wibbs dude takes your username and uses its initials when quoting you. No malice meant or implied. I use buddy, dude, and pal all the time, and I’m a dead sound sort of skin.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,261 ✭✭✭Baron Kurtz


    Love a POM thread. Just to see what he'll come out with next.


  • Registered Users Posts: 439 ✭✭Salthillprom


    Hmmm... Have you been watching The Cable Guy?!


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    I kind of feel like youre reading into this way too much, he likely calls everybody buddy and doesnt actually think youre best buds, he's probably just being friendly. Does he give you any other reason to think that he thinks you are currently or where previously best mates? Like does he message you all the time or keep asking you to meet up? If he's not behaving oddly then I really think its more your problem than his.
    I don't think he think we're best buds. The issue is that it's condescending.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    Poorside wrote: »
    Dude is horrible, please stop using it, not for you but for the people around you that are too embarrassed to tell you how cringeworthy calling someone dude is.

    You’re welcome.
    That's why I called the guy who made remarks about my sparkling water, dude.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,398 ✭✭✭Franz Von Peppercorn II


    You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.

    Buddy isn’t. It’s perfectly normal.


  • Posts: 13,712 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    That's why I called the guy who made remarks about my sparkling water, dude.
    Genuine question: between the radio issue in work, being annoyed about telling someone the time, HR issues, the 'dude' thing, and so on and so on, would you say you have a lot of conflict and/or confrontation in your life?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    I wouldn’t read too much into it, lad. Be like how that Wibbs dude takes your username and uses its initials when quoting you.
    That is a terrible comparison!


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