'Hey Buddy'

Problem Of Motivation · 09-08-2019 11:06pm #1

So there's this guy that I met up with a few times since I've been in college with him years ago. One of the things I've noticed about him is that he calls me buddy a bit too often. He puts it in writing too! Does anyone find this annoying?

The thing about it, is that he usual calls me this when saying hello or goodbye, or maybe on the phone. These are all circumstances when it's hard to call someone out about it. For example if we haven't seen each other in two months and he says "hey buddy" when greeting me, in amongst a bunch of other words, well wouldn't it be unusual to just say "don't call me buddy" at that point in time!? Also, if there's a quick phone call to verify a where we're meeting or something, he'll sneak in his 'buddy' remark. Again, I wouldn't want to call him out on this over the phone. Likewise, when saying goodbye - can you imagine turning you're back as you say goodbye and then as you're turning to leave and turning back around to say "don't call me buddy"? It would really end things on a bad note. If he said it to me mid conversation, I'd say it to him.

It's kind of weird, because with the way he says it, it's almost as if we were best friends back in the day or something but we really weren't. I feel like saying to him "hang on, we don't know each other that well". In short, I find it patronising.

corner of hells · 09-08-2019 11:07pm

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

So there's this guy that I met up with a few times since I've been in college with him years ago.

One of the things I've noticed about him is that he calls me buddy a bit too often. He puts it in writing too! The thing about it, is that he usual calls me this when saying hello or goodbye, or maybe on the phone. These are all circumstances when it's hard to call someone out about it. For example if we haven't seen each other in two months and he says "hey buddy" when greeting me, in amongst a bunch of other words, well wouldn't it be unusual to just say "don't call me buddy" at that point in time!? Also, if there's a quick phone call to verify a where we're meeting or something, he'll sneak in his 'buddy' remark. Again, I wouldn't want to call him out on this over the phone. Likewise, when saying goodbye - can you imagine turning you're back as you say goodbye and then as you're turning to leave and turning back around to say "don't call me buddy"? It would really end things on a bad note. If he said it to me mid conversation, I'd say it to him.

It's kind of weird, because with the way he says it, it's almost as if we were best friends back in the day or something but we really weren't. I feel like saying to him "hang on, we don't know each other that well". In short, I find it patronising.

Is he the bloke who eats toilet roll ?

Poorside · 09-08-2019 11:08pm

Keith calls everyone that, you’re really not that special to him.

refusetolose · 09-08-2019 11:08pm

I'm not your buddy mate

riffmongous · 09-08-2019 11:09pm

He's nuthin but a snake Hun

colm_mcm · 09-08-2019 11:09pm

refusetolose wrote: »

I'm not your buddy mate

I’m not your mate pal

09-08-2019 11:10pm

You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.

Problem Of Motivation · 09-08-2019 11:11pm

Deleted User wrote: »

You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.

I knew it.

Woodsie1 · 09-08-2019 11:11pm

Deleted User wrote: »

You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.

Online maybe,but in the real world it pretty harmless,bud.

Your Face · 09-08-2019 11:13pm

Half squat down in a crouching position and with an explosive upward movement, uppercut him in the balls.
Then say something really cool whilst lighting up a cigarette.
Or do what you like, I don't care, stop talking to me, I don't even know you.

Harry Palmr · 09-08-2019 11:13pm

Chummy chums are such a drag.

Sharp MZ700 · 09-08-2019 11:13pm

Your Face wrote: »

Half squat down in a crouching position and with an explosive upward movement, uppercut him in the balls.
Then say something really cool whilst lighting up a cigarette.
Or do what you like, I don't care, stop talking to me, I don't even know you.

Great advice there pal.

Sardonicat · 09-08-2019 11:14pm

colm_mcm wrote: »

I’m not your mate pal

I'm not your pal, chum.

RobbingBandit · 09-08-2019 11:14pm

colm_mcm wrote: »

I’m not your mate pal

He's not your pal, fweind

Leg End Reject · 09-08-2019 11:16pm

Don't call me baby when she is waiting in the car

Atlantic Dawn · 09-08-2019 11:17pm

"Don't call me buddy, buddy."

Sardonicat · 09-08-2019 11:19pm

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Don't call me baby when she is waiting in the car

We"re old enough to remember Strawberry Switchblade, no one's going to call us baby anymore, except maybe BP Fallon or Grandmaster Flash

Leg End Reject · 09-08-2019 11:25pm

Sardonicat wrote: »

We"re old enough to remember Strawberry Switchblade, no one's going to call us baby anymore, except maybe BP Fallon or Grandmaster Flash

Speak for yourself! :pac:

It was Voice of the Beehive.

Sardonicat · 09-08-2019 11:29pm

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Speak for yourself! :pac:

It was Voice of the Beehive.

Ah, so it was ! See, the old memory's going....
First, they stop calling you 'baby, next, you get the all female pop acts of the early 90s mixed up. Before you know it you start referring to young fellas as 'sonny'....

Snotty · 09-08-2019 11:31pm

Are you female/homosexual and your "buddy" male? Yeah it's weird and he might be letting you know that the relationship is always going to be platonic

rainbowdrop · 09-08-2019 11:34pm

Did you go to college with that fella on the TV show about Dublin Airport, think it was called 'Customs'?

Memorable only because he was an absolute dick to the passengers...

Airyfairy12 · 09-08-2019 11:41pm

I kind of feel like youre reading into this way too much, he likely calls everybody buddy and doesnt actually think youre best buds, he's probably just being friendly. Does he give you any other reason to think that he thinks you are currently or where previously best mates? Like does he message you all the time or keep asking you to meet up? If he's not behaving oddly then I really think its more your problem than his.

colm_mcm · 09-08-2019 11:51pm

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

I kind of feel like youre reading into this way too much

You should see the other threads.

Airyfairy12 · 09-08-2019 11:53pm

colm_mcm wrote: »

You should see the other threads.

Why?

bfa1509 · 10-08-2019 12:09am

There is a very easy solution to this. People who say "buddy" think they are the only person in the world who says "buddy". They also fancy themselves as being "cool". Next time you see him, get in there quick and say "HEY BUDDY!". No person in the world would respond to "Hey buddy" with "Hey buddy".

The one caveat to this technique is that you then become "that guy".

Ninthlife · 10-08-2019 12:12am

Burn his house down. That will take the spring out of his step and next time you see him he'll be too sad and will probably just let out a miserable half ar$ed 'Hi'

KathleenGrant · 10-08-2019 12:13am

Ninthlife wrote: »

Burn his house down. That will take the spring out of his step and next time you see him he'll be too sad and will probably just let out a miserable half ar$ed 'Hi'

This.

KaneToad · 10-08-2019 12:14am

Sardonicat wrote: »

I'm not your pal, chum.

I'm not your chum, horse.

Ninthlife · 10-08-2019 12:19am

KathleenGrant wrote: »

This.

2 people cant be wrong

Sardonicat · 10-08-2019 12:21am

KaneToad wrote: »

I'm not your chum, horse.

I'm not your horse, pilgrim.

KathleenGrant · 10-08-2019 12:31am

Ninthlife wrote: »

2 people cant be wrong

I am NEVER wrong.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 10-08-2019 12:34am

Sardonicat wrote: »

I'm not your horse, pilgrim.

Don’t call me pilgrim, man.

Sardonicat · 10-08-2019 12:50am

Cee-Jay-Cee wrote: »

Don’t call me pilgrim, man.

Did you just assume my gender, buddy?

10-08-2019 1:10am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.

Ah here.

I call people buddy or dude all the time. Buddy is for someone you vaguely know, but seems sound; dude is for someone around your age who you might or might not know well.

"Pal" is definitely passive aggressive, as is "chief", "big man" or "youssir".

I don't make the rules, I just follow them, youssir.

sammyjo90 · 10-08-2019 1:26am

He doesnt remember your name. Simples

Yer Da sells Avon · 10-08-2019 1:38am

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

In short, I find it patronising.

Aw, that's a big word. Well done, buddy.

10-08-2019 1:53am

Yeah, generally, if someone calls me 'buddy' or 'pal' I'd be inclined to stick them a headbutt.. I wouldn't like..but I'd be that way inclined..It'd cross my mind like..

Poorside · 10-08-2019 1:54am

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

Ah here.

I call people buddy or dude all the time. Buddy is for someone you vaguely know, but seems sound; dude is for someone around your age who you might or might not know well.

"Pal" is definitely passive aggressive, as is "chief", "big man" or "youssir".

I don't make the rules, I just follow them, youssir.

Dude is horrible, please stop using it, not for you but for the people around you that are too embarrassed to tell you how cringeworthy calling someone dude is.

You’re welcome.

10-08-2019 1:56am

I call people 'dude' the whole time..

10-08-2019 8:27am

Poorside wrote: »

Dude is horrible, please stop using it, not for you but for the people around you that are too embarrassed to tell you how cringeworthy calling someone dude is.

You’re welcome.

But they call me dude back. It is an Americanism, of course, you can't say dude in your best Midlands accent, and not be aware of that. It's a bit like people who call their other half Bae. You're being affectionate but slightly ironic

No?

Well I tried. Whatever dude

mcgragger · 10-08-2019 8:32am

Is he Canadian?

mcgragger · 10-08-2019 8:34am

Blame Canada

Gwynplaine · 10-08-2019 9:23am

Is he from Doobalin?

JohnnyFlash · 10-08-2019 9:47am

I wouldn’t read too much into it, lad. Be like how that Wibbs dude takes your username and uses its initials when quoting you. No malice meant or implied. I use buddy, dude, and pal all the time, and I’m a dead sound sort of skin.

Baron Kurtz · 10-08-2019 9:52am

Love a POM thread. Just to see what he'll come out with next.

Salthillprom · 10-08-2019 10:09am

Hmmm... Have you been watching The Cable Guy?!

Problem Of Motivation · 10-08-2019 10:52am

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

I kind of feel like youre reading into this way too much, he likely calls everybody buddy and doesnt actually think youre best buds, he's probably just being friendly. Does he give you any other reason to think that he thinks you are currently or where previously best mates? Like does he message you all the time or keep asking you to meet up? If he's not behaving oddly then I really think its more your problem than his.

I don't think he think we're best buds. The issue is that it's condescending.

Problem Of Motivation · 10-08-2019 10:58am

Poorside wrote: »

Dude is horrible, please stop using it, not for you but for the people around you that are too embarrassed to tell you how cringeworthy calling someone dude is.

You’re welcome.

That's why I called the guy who made remarks about my sparkling water, dude.

Franz Von Peppercorn II · 10-08-2019 10:58am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.

Buddy isn’t. It’s perfectly normal.

10-08-2019 11:00am

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

That's why I called the guy who made remarks about my sparkling water, dude.

Genuine question: between the radio issue in work, being annoyed about telling someone the time, HR issues, the 'dude' thing, and so on and so on, would you say you have a lot of conflict and/or confrontation in your life?

Problem Of Motivation · 10-08-2019 11:01am

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

I wouldn’t read too much into it, lad. Be like how that Wibbs dude takes your username and uses its initials when quoting you.

That is a terrible comparison!

'Hey Buddy'

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