Yet Another Label to Add to the Ever Increasing List of Sexual Orientations

huddledDuke12 · 20-09-2019 10:37pm #1

I saw this article in the past week about Mark Ronson identifying as Sapiosexual! :rolleyes:

Mark Ronson Courageously Comes Out of the Closet as … Sapiosexual

Don't get me wrong. He is an amazing musician and seems like good craic.

However, I can't be the only one who thinks that we are scraping the bottom of the barrel.

Whatever about LGBTQ, we now have people identifying as different animals, non-binary and gender fluid to name a few.

At what point do we draw the line between genuine sexual orientation and dare I say, mental illness?

Seriously, there are times when I wonder if people are inventing these words as a means of seeking attention.

Wayne Jarvis · 20-09-2019 10:41pm

Called it.

Guy Person wrote: »

Ah yes. After the women cycling thread comes the traveller bashing one. What's next, trans people or immigrants?

20-09-2019 10:43pm

huddledDuke12 wrote: »

I saw this article in the past week about Mark Ronson identifying as Sapiosexual! :rolleyes:

Mark Ronson Courageously Comes Out of the Closet as … Sapiosexual

Don't get me wrong. He is an amazing musician and seems like good craic.

However, I can't be the only one who thinks that we are scraping the bottom of the barrel.

Whatever about LGBTQ, we now have people identifying as different animals, non-binary and gender fluid to name a few.

At what point do we draw the line between genuine sexual orientation and dare I say, mental illness?

Seriously, there are times when I wonder if people are inventing these words as a means of seeking attention.

It's clearly a joke.

In fact it reads to me like Ronson is pulling the leg of the trend towards ever-more diverse ways of labelling oneself, ie grumbling about the same reductive dialogue as you are.

Oink · 20-09-2019 10:45pm

huddledDuke12 wrote: »

... :rolleyes: ....

....scraping the bottom of the barrel...

...animals...

...mental illness...

...seeking attention...

Yikes.

Wayne Jarvis · 20-09-2019 10:47pm

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

It's clearly a joke.

In fact it reads to me like Ronson is pulling the leg of the trend towards ever-more diverse ways of labelling oneself, ie grumbling about the same reductive dialogue as you are.

I'm referring to the predictability of a thread like this appearing on the same day as the other 2. This thread will be a shítshow like the others.

Silentcorner · 20-09-2019 10:49pm

It's rampant narcissism....I'm sexually attracted to intellect...because I am an intellect!

He's into men...he's probably been sucked into a world of excess where anything goes and everyone around him is behaving the exact same way and he is trying to sell it to himself!

20-09-2019 10:51pm

Guy Person wrote: »

I'm referring to the predictability of a thread like this appearing on the same day as the other 2. This thread will be a shítshow like the others.

Oh, no, I just quoted the wrong post. Apologies, had meant to quote the OP. Corrected it now.

Wayne Jarvis · 20-09-2019 10:52pm

Silentcorner wrote: »

It's rampant narcissism....I'm sexually attracted to intellect...because I am an intellect!

He's into men...he's probably been sucked into a world of excess where anything goes and everyone around him is behaving the exact same way and he is trying to sell it to himself!

Good for him!

RWCNT · 20-09-2019 10:52pm

**** on dating websites have been saying Sapiosexual for years.

Always read it as essentially a way of showing off that you think you're super smart and wouldn't consider dating anyone you perceive to be beneath yourself in that regard. Usually a hefty dose of the Dunning Kruger with these types.

This has nothing to do with non binary or anything OP was going on about towards the end there. As someone quite involved in activist circles, I don't think you'll see them added to the LGBTQ acronym any time soon.

cherryghost · 20-09-2019 10:55pm

If you know how Mark Ronson deals with media in the slightest, it's standard Ronson sattire

Quantum Erasure · 20-09-2019 10:59pm

I'm sapiosexual, I see a smart woman, i want to **** her brains out

20Wheel · 20-09-2019 11:01pm

RWCNT wrote: »

**** on dating websites have been saying Sapiosexual for years.

Always read it as essentially a way of showing off that you think you're super smart and wouldn't consider dating anyone you perceive to be beneath yourself in that regard. Usually a hefty dose of the Dunning Kruger with these types.

This has nothing to do with non binary or anything OP was going on about towards the end there. As someone quite involved in activist circles, I don't think you'll see them added to the LGBTQ acronym any time soon.

i honestly thought it was to do with trees.

Ten of Swords · 20-09-2019 11:02pm

It is not a new concept, it's been used on the internet since the early 2000s

Yer Da sells Avon · 20-09-2019 11:06pm

huddledDuke12 wrote: »

Seriously, there are times when I wonder if people are inventing these words as a means of seeking attention.

If only people who disapprove would stop giving them attention.

Ten of Swords wrote: »

It is not a new concept, it's been used on the internet since the early 2000s

Absolute melts on OkCupid have been calling themselves 'sapiosexual' for years.

Ten of Swords · 20-09-2019 11:09pm

The OK Cupid thing is 5/6 years old max, but they did not come up with the term. It's been around since at least 2002 in blogs and chatrooms

20-09-2019 11:17pm

It's up there with people telling you they're members of Mensa or how well read they are and how all their friends think they're the most intelligent person they've ever met. At least it warns people in advance what you're about and that's a good thing.

Quantum Erasure · 20-09-2019 11:47pm

I'd like to be sapiosexual, but I prefer someone on my own level...

Rjd2 · 21-09-2019 12:07am

RWCNT wrote: »

**** on dating websites have been saying Sapiosexual for years.

Always read it as essentially a way of showing off that you think you're super smart and wouldn't consider dating anyone you perceive to be beneath yourself in that regard. Usually a hefty dose of the Dunning Kruger with these types.

This has nothing to do with non binary or anything OP was going on about towards the end there. As someone quite involved in activist circles, I don't think you'll see them added to the LGBTQ acronym any time soon.

Yeah I'd hope people don't try and lump this with the incredibly tedious debates about pronouns and more complex sexual choices.

This is the type of thing that someone with serious arrogance rather than someone struggling with their identity believes

"unlike you stupid plebs who shag anything with a pulse, I only share my time with mortals who have the same high intellect that I have"

Shockingly enough a quick google search of Mark Ronsons girlfriends on google (its a friday night) and all are stunners who look under 40.

Mark would obviously not do a one night stand as you would not have time to grill the lady on how she would solve the Israel/Palestine issue before the crude you know what afterwards.

dd973 · 21-09-2019 1:01am

Silentcorner wrote: »

It's rampant narcissism....I'm sexually attracted to intellect...because I am an intellect!

He's into men...he's probably been sucked into a world of excess where anything goes and everyone around him is behaving the exact same way and he is trying to sell it to himself!

Know him personally do you?... :rolleyes:

Silentcorner · 21-09-2019 1:06am

dd973 wrote: »

Know him personally do you?... :rolleyes:

I'm not sure if he is a him...he/she could be a them/they...who knows!

dd973 · 21-09-2019 1:59am

Silentcorner wrote: »

I'm not sure if he is a him...he/she could be a them/they...who knows!

It's a bit of a weird thing but if somebody is rumoured to be gay then people for some reason, are desperate for it to be true, it's almost like they're praying for it to be the case.

Paradoxically how many people do you meet in life who are? Not that many offset against people who aren't, of course in the regular run of things you don't meet or see people and think 'Oh, that persons straight' you just take it for granted.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 21-09-2019 4:02am

Candie wrote: »

It's up there with people telling you they're members of Mensa or how well read they are and how all their friends think they're the most intelligent person they've ever met. At least it warns people in advance what you're about and that's a good thing.

Mensa seems to exist solely for members to tell people that they are in Mensa.

I know a couple of bona fide genii. They’re not in Mensa. How come?

s7ryf3925pivug · 21-09-2019 4:32am

I'm assexual. I'm attracted to women with nice asses. sometimes I think I might be thighsexual.

Zorya · 21-09-2019 9:02am

Opposites attract. Teehee

Edgware · 21-09-2019 9:09am

Silentcorner wrote: »

It's rampant narcissism....I'm sexually attracted to intellect...because I am an intellect!

He's into men...he's probably been sucked into a world of excess where anything goes and everyone around him is behaving the exact same way and he is trying to sell it to himself!

"he's probably been sucked" Oooooh Vicar!

JohnnyFlash · 21-09-2019 9:14am

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Mensa seems to exist solely for members to tell people that they are in Mensa. I know a couple of bona fide genii. They’re not in Mensa. How come?

Paying 80 quid a year for a couple of magazines and an annual conference never seemed particularly smart to me. I’d say a lot of Mensa members would be autistic.

Earthhorse · 21-09-2019 10:16am

Ah, I always kinda liked the term as it’s just a shortcut to saying you’re attracted to brainy people.

Doesn’t really belong with other orientations though, in my opinion.

21-09-2019 10:48am

Earthhorse wrote: »

Ah, I always kinda liked the term as it’s just a shortcut to saying you’re attracted to brainy people.

Doesn’t really belong with other orientations though, in my opinion.

Why?

Don't you think we're now bordering on the point of making holy sacraments of the various pronouns and orientations?

We're almost as bad as the bible-thumping Holy Joes drawling on about Adam and Eve in a thick Lisburn accent, except it's Adam and Steve (more luck them, lovely guys). But why should sexual orientation look down on the poorer human projects from its elevated platform anyway?

Who put it there only the popes? Maybe people will finally chill out about other people's sexual lives when we stop anointing sex as a spiritual mystery.

Ruraldweller56 · 21-09-2019 10:53am

Can't even have a thread about common degeneracy now without bringing religion into it.

Earthhorse · 21-09-2019 10:55am

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

Why?

I just think, like many words, it’s a handy shortcut.

Don't you think we're now bordering on the point of making holy sacraments of the various pronouns and orientations?

Absolutely. But I don’t think that has anything to do with the word itself but rather the precious and highly politicised times we live in.

suicide_circus · 21-09-2019 11:04am

bleedin sap(iosexual)

dirtyden · 21-09-2019 11:06am

Candie wrote: »

It's up there with people telling you they're members of Mensa or how well read they are and how all their friends think they're the most intelligent person they've ever met. At least it warns people in advance what you're about and that's a good thing.

You are dead right Candie, and I should know, I read a book a week.

21-09-2019 12:57pm

dirtyden wrote: »

You are dead right Candie, and I should know, I read a book a week.

Is it fiction? It only counts if it's non-fiction!

B.A._Baracus · 21-09-2019 1:01pm

Never heard of it till now. But I can see why a*sholes would use it as it makes them sound like their educated.
People do like to blow themselves out.

Gwynplaine · 21-09-2019 1:05pm

What's courageous about it? I identify as a wardrobe.

Wayne Jarvis · 21-09-2019 1:22pm

Gwynplaine wrote: »

I identify as a wardrobe.

So you've had a lion and a witch inside you at the same time?

Wayne Jarvis · 21-09-2019 1:23pm

Gwynplaine wrote: »

What's courageous about it? I identify as a wardrobe.

Also do you want to know what I identify as? Well I won't say because it's Narnia your business.

eviltwin · 21-09-2019 1:24pm

Gwynplaine wrote: »

What's courageous about it? I identify as a wardrobe.

Aslan as you're happy who cares

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 21-09-2019 3:37pm

Earthhorse wrote: »

I just think, like many words, it’s a handy shortcut.

Absolutely. But I don’t think that has anything to do with the word itself but rather the precious and highly politicised times we live in.

Handier than “Intelligence is attractive”?

“I’m sapiosexual” - probably needs explaining.

“Intelligence is attractive to me.” - doesn’t need explaining.

21-09-2019 4:08pm

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Handier than “Intelligence is attractive”?

“I’m sapiosexual” - probably needs explaining.

“Intelligence is attractive to me.” - doesn’t need explaining.

I think anyone putting it down on a dating profile is likely to put off a lot of the people they want to attract. Lots of interesting and engaging people might find it hard to respond to a suggestion, however slight, that they have to be especially intelligent or capable of lots of high-brow discussion.

Luckily my nicer half has low standards and poor eyesight.

Glass fused light · 21-09-2019 8:23pm

Candie wrote: »

I think anyone putting it down on a dating profile is likely to put off a lot of the people they want to attract. Lots of interesting and engaging people might find it hard to respond to a suggestion, however slight, that they have to be especially intelligent or capable of lots of high-brow discussion.

Luckily my nicer half has low standards and poor eyesight.

I suspect your other half wanted a person to share their life with not, just be in the same book club with

I think most normal people would look as it as a kink.

( Its not a sexual orientation) And lets face facts it would be as beneficial as putting "bodybuilder" or "me, me, me" down when trying to encourage interest with a dating profile. But there is always someone out there for everyone, so I am sure that it would meet the aspirations of a special type of snowflake

Bejubby · 21-09-2019 8:34pm

How about who gives a damn about who or what your called.

touts · 21-09-2019 10:11pm

Most of them are a "Look at me! Look at me! LOOK AT MEEEEE! Sexual"

beejee · 21-09-2019 10:14pm

Popeye knows the score

Earthhorse · 22-09-2019 12:05am

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Handier than “Intelligence is attractive”?

“I’m sapiosexual” - probably needs explaining.

“Intelligence is attractive to me.” - doesn’t need explaining.

Until the word enters common parlance, I agree.

Don’t see what the fuss is over really, it’s just a word. I don’t use it myself but I have seen people on OKCupid! using it.

I wouldn’t rule them out because of it. Some of us can’t afford to be that picky.

Yet Another Label to Add to the Ever Increasing List of Sexual Orientations

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