exes woz exes

Wulfie · 11-03-2016 01:14AM #1

I had a motto since my first girlfriend 2yrs, exes iz exes.
My ex ,18yrs together. 3 sons,never married . 8 or 9yrs ago We parted ways. We were encouraged to spend 28days or 3 months the bruree route, apart.

She rented her house, close to suburbia. I rented my house near the sea.. That was 8yrs or so ago.

We,I thought were still together, but living apart because she could get so much more . Social welfare payments and benefits were too much to give up,if there was any hint of me ever being there. I got too used to living frugally on the dole. Scraping to try and pay the rent and feed myself ..... . and keep a 4x4 legal and on the road on €188.
I've been back full time working a few years now.
She spent 5 or 6 years in college . I can't recall what my role was, on the occasions when I was allowed to sleep under the same roof as my 3 sons. My house is bigger and could be perfect if I could clear out a ton of useful stuff. And didn't live in the middle of nowhere, but close to a nice beach.

Anyway ... I had been trying to find the path I was on before I ever met my ex. /someone else's girlfriend . It must be a year since she really made her point that it was over. I did beg for months to give me another chance. I'd never smoke weed ever again. Fugk it. It's over.

I saw her on Sunday. I had quickly grabbed a few things in a big grocery shop nearest to me. Less than five minutes in the shop and stood at the checkout isle with some stuff and 2 bunches of flowers ,for my mother.

There was a holdup at the checkout . Then she appeared at the end of an aisle with her boyfriend on his tiptoes inches behind her. I don't know if she even saw or recognised me.

It doesn't matter.

We haven't talked in months. I think we should eventually talk. She is a fox I'm more wolf or pit bull terrier. Black Labrador .

I will be 45 in June,she's 7yrs younger. Her boyfriend looked, from what I saw ,looked like me. Except in basket ball boots grey tight denim jeans . She looked drained,she had spent the night with him,I had picked up my eldest son from hers just before,to go see grandparents.

The advice on here is usually cut all contact. Get legal representation and counciling . I don't know how to reach out and ask her if we can talk.

I haven't spoken to a woman since September.
We need to talk. Should I text her ?

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Ursus Horribilis · 11-03-2016 08:40AM

No offence but I've read this three times and can't quite figure out what you're trying to say. In a nutshell is it the following? You broke up with your ex and haven't accepted that it's over. Now she appears to have met someone else and your nose is out of joint.

On this forum we advocate cutting contact when it's an ex who the person who posts has no ties to. In other words, no children, no mortgage, no business interests. In this case, she's the mother of your three children. I assume they're all teenagers? Is there not an ongoing relationship between you and her as you co-parent. Am I missing something here? It seems bizarre that you've not spoken to her in months.

LegacyUser · 11-03-2016 09:15AM

I too found your post confusing but I think that's a reflection of how confused and lost you feel.

Go and see a therapist and figure it all out from there.

Lisacatlover · 11-03-2016 12:04PM

You broke up with a girl?
That's ****. Time to get over it man.

Merkin · 11-03-2016 12:21PM

Please clean up and reformulate your post OP, it makes very little sense.

Lisacatlover wrote: »

You broke up with a girl?
That's ****. Time to get over it man.

If you've nothing constructive to post then kindly don't bother.

Wulfie · 12-03-2016 02:57AM

My eldest son phoned me on Saturday evening. He wanted me to take him to his grandparents on Sunday. I collected him early. He's 17 . his two younger brothers were still in bed.
Mother had spent the night with her new man. I had to stop into aldi on the way from sons to grandparents.

I was getting on ok, until I saw her on Sunday afternoon.. With her boyfriend inches behind her as she came around the aisle in my local Aldi. I was at the checkout near the alcohol aisle.
I'm not sure if she saw me.

She is under tremendous pressure. I think we need to sit down with a mutually trusted person / social worker.

I think we need to talk

I don't know if she would ever speak to me without hatred.

Apologies for my scatty op. Typing this on a tough phone. I kept losing the cursor as I scrolled and typed. Too much coffee.

Merkin · 12-03-2016 08:57AM

I've decided to close this thread. There is an inference that you were on the make with social welfare, you didn't edit your post as requested and your posts are simply too difficult to decipher/seem quite rambling in nature. You seem to be in denial about the end of this relationship so I suggest you go and speak with a counsellor to get your thoughts in order before beginning to discuss your issues with her. Best of luck.

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